Ed Batista, The Art of Self-Coaching @StanfordBiz, Class 5: HAPPINESS

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The art of

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self-coaching

Ed Batista

CLASS 5: HAPPINESS

Fall 2017

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Happiness 20 mins

Strategies 30 mins

Strengths 20 mins

A conversation 20 mins

For next time… 5 mins

Agenda

Positive

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psychology

Positive

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psychologyEudaimonia

The highest human aim

Flourishing or fulfillment

Distinct from mere pleasure

Positive

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psychologyEudaimonia

Happiness does not lie in amusement…

…but in virtuous activities.

~Nicomachean Ethics, Book X Ch 6

Eudaimonia?

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Flourishing?

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Happiness

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Happiness

It matters

But more isn’t always better

Happiness

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Happiness

Can it be pursued?

Or must it ensue?

Happiness

Viktor Frankl

Happiness must happen

Martin Seligman et al

Happiness = Genetic Set Point

+ Life Circumstances

+ Intentional Activities

Genetic

Set Point

(50%)

Intentional

Activities

(40%)

(10%)

Life Circumstances

Happiness

Beware!

(50%)

(40%)

(10%)

Facts & myths

Facts & myths

Fact: Variance among individuals in the sample

Myth: Sources of each individual’s happiness

Facts & myths

Fact: Our genes influence our happiness

Myth: Your genes = 50% of your happiness

Facts & myths

Fact: Circumstances matter less than we think

Myth: Circumstances = 10% of your happiness

Facts & myths

Fact: Hedonic adaptation diminishes impact

Myth: Circumstances don’t matter

Facts & myths

Fact: Money ≠ Happiness

Myth: It’s irrelevant

Facts & myths

Myth: Intentional activities = 40% of happiness

Fact: They can have a significant impact

Why does this matter?

Change

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Change

Large goals Break into components

Celebrate small victories

Experiment

Agency

Happiness

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strategies

Happinessstrategies

Sonja Lyubomirsky, UC Riverside

What activities have a demonstrable impact?

Happinessstrategies

Gratitude Savoring

Optimism Commitment

Overthinking Coping

Kindness Forgiveness

Relationships Spirituality

Engagement (Flow) Your Body

Happinessstrategies

Gratitude Savoring

Optimism Commitment

Overthinking Coping

Kindness Forgiveness

Relationships Spirituality

Engagement (Flow) Your Body

Flow

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Claremont

(Cheek-sent-me-high)

Skill

BOREDOM

ANXIETY

Challenge

Happinessstrategies

Gratitude Savoring

Optimism Commitment

Overthinking Coping

Kindness Forgiveness

Relationships Spirituality

Engagement (Flow) Your Body

Taking care

Meditation

Exercise & rest

Smiling & laughing

Grouped for convenience?

Treat them as distinct strategies?

of your body

Happinessstrategies

Gratitude Savoring

Optimism Commitment

Overthinking Coping

Kindness Forgiveness

Relationships Spirituality

Engagement (Flow) Your Body

Happiness

No optimal mix

Highly personalized

strategies

Happiness

Contingent on…

Naturalness

Enjoyment

Values

Absence of guilt or pressure

strategies

Character

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strengths

Character

Martin Seligman, Christopher Peterson, et al

How do we achieve eudaimonia?

How do we live the good life?

strengths

Character

Values in Action (VIA) Institute

Studied cultures, philosophies, religions

Identify universal* values Eudaimonia

strengths

Character

“Manual of the Sanities”

DSM for positive psychology

Classification scheme: 6 virtues 24 strengths

strengths

6 universal*virtues

Wisdom

Courage

Humanity

Justice

Temperance

Transcendance

Wisdom

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Cognitive

Acquisition & use of knowledge

Wisdom

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Creativity

Curiosity

Judgment

Love of learning

Perspective

Courage

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Emotional

Accomplish goals in the face of resistance

Courage

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Bravery

Honesty

Persistence

Zest

Humanity

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Interpersonal

Tending & befriending others

Humanity

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Kindness

Love

Social intelligence

Justice

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Civic

Healthy community life

Justice

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Fairness

Leadership

Teamwork

Temperance

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Intra-personal

Auspicious self-restraint

Temperance

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Forgiveness

Humility

Prudence

Self-regulation

Transcendence

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Connection to something beyond ourselves

Transcendence

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Appreciation of beauty & excellence

Gratitude

Hope

Humor

Spirituality

6 universal*

*Valued in almost all cultures & traditions

Too abstract to test reliably

(Because, social scientists)

virtues

24 strengths

Items in your VIA report

Distinct path to a virtue or

Process that defines a virtue or

Means by which a virtue is enacted

VIA report

Not talents (innate abilities)

Or skills (abilities we develop)

Or aptitude, proficiency or potential

VIA report

Ownership, celebration & frequency of use

Remember…

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Remember…

A map is not the territory it represents.

~Alford Korzybski

Signaturestrengths

Signature

Martin Seligman

The good life is “Using your signature strengths

every day in the main realms of your life

to bring abundant gratification and

authentic happiness.”

strengths

Signature

Characterized by…

Sense of ownership & authenticity

Interest in continuous learning

Feeling of excitement

Desire to use it

Invigoration

strengths

Consider your

Which items evoke for you…

Sense of ownership & authenticity?

Interest in continuous learning?

Feeling of excitement?

Desire to use it?

Invigoration?

results

Complete a

Step 1: Your signature strengths

(Influenced but not dictated by VIA results)

Step 2: Associated life experiences

(Be brief; professional & personal realms)

worksheet

To sum up

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Happiness (eudaimonia) matters

Intentional activities do, too

Intrinsic motivation is key

Signature strengths point the way

For next time…

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Resilience

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Two exercises…

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ResilienceQuotient

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Resilience

56 questions

Same as in Reivich & Shatté

Go with your gut & don’t deliberate

Quotient

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Resilience

Do it before the Reivich & Shatté reading

Complete the assessment (10 mins)

Then score it (10 mins)

Quotient

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ResilienceStories Worksheet

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Resilience

Complete after the Reivich & Shatté reading

Prep for a small-group discussion

Brief notes & focused reflection

Stories Worksheet

Other items…

Sharpies & stretchies, please

Slides will be posted on my site

Weekly assignment due Tuesday 9pm

1:1 meetings today in B206 (the usual room)