Agenda – Day 3

• Recap & link with current events

• Controversy with Civility

• Discussion

• Activity

• Consciousness of Self

• Lunch

• Activity

• Group Work

• Recap

• Open Q&A

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Recap of Day 1 & 2

• Questions & reflections on concepts

discussed:

– Leadership & Change

– Transformational Leadership

– Technical & Adaptive challenges

– Good & Active Citizenship

– Root cause analysis

– Collaboration

– Common Purpose 2

Activity

Examples of Technical solutions

to address Adaptive Problems

(brown bread, permis à points, 5)

The Model

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COLLABORATION

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OBJECTIVES OF this SESSION

By the end of this session participants will be able to demonstrate a clear understanding of the following concepts as they apply to leadership in the Social Change Model (SCM)

– Collaboration

– Competition, Cooperation, Compromise

– Effectiveness of Diversity

– Pre-requisites for effective collaboration

– Link with other C’s 6

The Model

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CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

OBJECTIVES OF THE SESSION

• By the end of this session,

participants will be able to:

– Understand the differences between

conflict and controversy.

– Engage in meaningful dialogue and

include it in the process of controversy.

– Feel comfortable voicing one’s opinion

and take into consideration the opinions of

others.

WHAT IS CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY?

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Controversy with civility challenges

group participants to discuss diverse

opinions and perspectives, while

maintaining respect for those sharing

other views

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

• Controversy – involves differing opinions,

but positions are not staked out.

Controversy draws everyone together to

discuss differing perspectives.

• Civility – voicing disagreement and

responding to disagreement from others in a

way that respects others’ points of view.

Civility can be a value, an attitude, or a

behavior.

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Key concepts: Conflict v/s Controversy

• Conflict – opposition in nature, conflict draws a line with people taking one side or another.

• Conflict builds opposing sides and seeks to convert members to one side. It is oppositional in nature.

• Controversy allows for sharing and considering multiple points of view before coming to a group decision.

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Key concepts: Dialogue v/s Debate

• Dialogue – coming to a shared meaning or

new understanding, engaging for everyone to

understand an issue better.

• Debate – opposing sides trying to show the

other side as wrong with the goal of winning

the argument.

Defense of position and challenging of other

viewpoints are evidenced.

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Key concepts: Worldview

• Worldview – perspectives (or frames of

reference) that impact an individual’s

approach to any situation..

• It depends on one’s

– gender view

– racial or ethnic view

– religion, and other cultural contexts or heritages,

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Worldview

• A person’s worldview, or frame of

reference, determines what perspectives

they bring to the group.

• Members of a group must be aware of and

respect each other’s worldviews in order

to pursue their common purpose.

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Worldview

• What other factors influence an

individual’s worldview?

• Is it possible to change one’s worldview?

• Can 2 persons have the same worldview?

• Are disagreements ‘normal’?

>> It is all about how disagreements are

dealt with

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Positive and Negative Controversy

• Positive controversy comes from group

members’ differences in values and ideas.

• Negative controversy comes from such

group flaws as a lack of decision-making

processes or unresolved prior

disagreements.

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

When absent, we see that

• Those who disagree are treated as:

– Disloyal

– Less intelligent

– Negative

• People avoid disagreeing openly

• Less Collaboration, Common Purpose?

• Less Commitment

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Working towards it : Trust

• Group members must trust that the other members of the group will respect their opinion, whether or not they agree.

• Group members must trust that the process of controversy with civility, although it calls for vulnerability, will help the group arrive at a better decision.

CONTROVERSY

WITH CIVILITY

Working towards it : Dialogue

• Dialogue engages each differing point of view

• Dialogue seeks to bring everyone to a shared understanding of the issue.

• Dialogue encourages individuals to examine what underlies their assumptions

• .

• “No one is born hating another person

because of the color of his skin, or his

background, or his religion. People must

learn to hate, and if they can learn to

hate, they can be taught to love, for love

comes more naturally to the human heart

than its opposite.”

Nelson Mandela

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ACTIVITY

Facebook Incivility

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Q & A

FEEDBACK

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CONSCIOUSNESS OF

SELF

REFLECTION

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Things I always want to do

1. .

2. .

3. .

Things I never want to do

1. .

2. .

3. .

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Things I always want to be

1. .

2. .

3. .

Things I never want to be

1. .

2. .

3. .

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Things that are entirely

indispensable in my life

1. .

2. .

3. .

Things that are entirely

dispensable in my life

1. .

2. .

3. .

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COMMENTS ON ACTIVITY

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HOMEWORK

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Defining Your Ideal Life The year is 20_ _, You are 90 years old today. You have known over the

last few weeks that your remaining days on earth are now a countable few,

and on this one evening, your mind drifts into a journey across the decades

of your life…the 2010’s, 2020’s and beyond...time has flown by faster than

you could ever have imagined, but you have reason to be proud and

contented with how you lived out each day and each year and each

decade, to end up where you are now.

There have been challenges and there have been triumphs, you cannot

help but smile with satisfaction and gratitude for a life well lived.

Put yourself in that moment…in the twilight years of your life…and write

down what you think would be the kind of life you must have led to allow

you to conclude that it was, in fact, a life well lived. Try to be as concrete

and specific as you can about the kinds of things that would have needed

to happen to make it this ideal life for you, as you look back at life on the

day you have turned 90 years of age.

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The year is 20_ _, I am 90 years old today. I have

known over the last few weeks that my remaining

days on earth are now a countable few. And yet

when I reflect on the years gone by, I realise that

time has flown by faster than I could ever have

imagined, but I have reason to be proud and

contented with how I lived out each day and each

year and each decade, to end up where I am

now…

OBJECTIVES OF THE SESSION

• By the end of this session, participants

will be able to:

– demonstrate a clearer understanding of

‘consciousness self’

– demonstrate a better consciousness of

themselves

– understand the link between consciousness

of self and leadership

WHAT IS CONSCIOUSNESS

OF SELF?

What is leadership?

• Leadership is motivating, mobilizing,

directing people to collaboratively

pursue a shared vision that

produces positive sustainable

transformation or change

• Leadership is an ethical process, an

activity

The Goal of Leadership

• The goal of leadership is to mobilise

oneself and/or others to change in a

positive and sustainable manner

• Sustainability will depend on our ability

to grow other leaders

• REAL leaders continue to influence

even in their absence

• Effective self-leadership is the

foundation of great leadership

• People follow you because of who you

are

• “If leaders are to be successful, they

must first lead themselves.” (John Maxwell)

Self-Leadership

Self-leadership

• Leadership has to do with

–Doing (‘savoir faire’)

–Learning

–Becoming

–Being (‘savoir être’)

• We need to be prepared to embark

on an inner journey

Kolb Model

Go one step further

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• At 29, Buddha left family and friends,

and went to the forest to meditate for 6

years

• At 30, Jesus went into in the

Wilderness for 40 days to meditate

• At 40, Prophet Mohammad meditated in

a cave on Mount Hira for 6 months

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• Gandhi - frequent jail sentences lasting

months and years

• Martin Luther King – frequent jail

sentences

• Nelson Mandela - 17 years in prison at

Robben Island

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• In any nonviolent campaign there are

four basic steps: collection of the facts

to determine whether injustices exist;

negotiation; self purification; and direct

action.

– Martin Luther King, Letter from Birmingham Jail, 1963

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What is consciousness

of self?

• Consciousness of Self refers to a process

of achieving self-awareness.

• It is not an end point that can be reached;

instead, it is adopting a way of life that

promotes constant learning about what is

most important… it is an inner journey.

Aspects of Individual

Identity

• Our identity can by influenced by

1. our values and principles, culture, faith,

family, generational peers

2. our personal style – timid aggressive,

organized, optimistic, patient, easy-going

3. our talents, skills and specialized knowledge

4. our aspirations and dreams – how do we

define success

5. others’ perceptions of us.

Importance of introspection

• Constant ‘busyness’ does not let itself to

consciousness of self

– need to retreat from doing

– introspection - not what should I do next BUT

• Who am I?

• How would I describe myself?

• What are my values?

• Why am I here?

• How would I measure my life?

• Just making a career or ALSO making a difference?

Becoming Conscious of

Self

• Developing consciousness of self requires

intentional actions including

1. a practice of reflection

2. openness to feedback

– strength and weaknesses - non defensive, listen

without interrupting, ask clarifying questions –

does not imply accepting everything, integrating

advice of others

3. learning about the self through assessment.

Mindfulness

• Mindfulness focuses on more than simply

understanding our personality.

• It is the ability to simultaneously act and

observe our actions in the present

moment.

• Being mindful allows us to choose how to

respond in situations (Covey).

Food for thought

• To live is to choose. But to choose well,

you must know who you are and what

you stand for, where you want to go

and why you want to get there

Kofi Annan

LINKS WITH OTHER C’S

Consciousness of Self & 7 Cs

• Becoming conscious of self lets us assess our readiness to engage in social change.

• It helps us be better aware of how issues affect us and others and enhances our citizenship

• It allows us to better collaborate.

• It helps us clarify our values and agree on common purpose

• Encourage seeing things from others perspective – empathy – and engage in controversy with civility

The Model

Questions

LUNCH

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Activity

Group Work

Activity

Links between News and Group

Work

Group Work

• Main problems identified

• Work on Root Causes

• Do you have enough info?

• Work on Solutions

• Did you find THE solution to the

problem?

• Action Plan 62

Activity

Group Work - Debrief

Group Work

• How to keep working between Saturdays

• Facebook, email

• 1 Note-taker / Presenter : findings

• Powerpoint - laptop

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