Art of Well Being – Accept & Change

Accept Realities

Accept yourself

• Do you have any choice regarding

your birth? • How about your

physical appearance?

• Does the color of your skin bother

you?• If you are a cat you can never be a lion. • You are a unique creation of God –

So accept yourself.

Self Acceptance Allows Change

Self Acceptance is to love and be

happy with who you are.

• It’s an agreement with yourself to appreciate, validate, accept & support who you are NOW. • Even those parts you’d eventually like to change. • We’ve been trained to believe that in order to change, we need to first feel bad about it.

Acceptance is actually the very first step in a process of CHANGE.

Change Cycle

• Stage 1 - Loss - In Stage 1 you admit to yourself that regardless of whether or not you perceive the change to be good or 'bad," there will be a sense of loss of what "was."

• Stage 2- Doubt -In this stage, you doubt the facts, doubt your doubts and struggle to find information about the change that you believe is valid.

• Stage 3 - Discomfort - You will recognize Stage 3 by the discomfort it brings. The change and all it means has now become clear and you learn to assimilate this new information in a meaningful way. The Danger Zone The Danger Zone represents the pivotal place where you make the choice either to move on to Stage 4 and discover the opportunities the change has presented or to choose fear and return to Stage 1.

• Stage 4 - Discovery- Stage 4 represents the "light at the end of the tunnel." You now can see the options you have and the possibilities this change has presented. You are optimistic about a good outcome because you have choices.

• Stage 5- Understanding - In Stage 5, you understand the change and are involved in it. You can identify its benefits and acknowledge its usefulness.

• Stage 6 - Integration - By the time you reach Stage 6 you have stopped looking at "the change" as something different because you have integrated it's challenges and victories into your life.

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Stage 1 - Loss – there will be a sense of loss of what ‘was’ regardless of whether or not you perceive the change to be ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Stage 2- Doubt – you believe that the change is valid & look for as much information about it … in the process you doubt the facts, doubts the doubts. Stage 3 - Discomfort – Change brings discomfort. Now it becomes clear and you learn to assimilate this new information in a meaningful way. * The Danger Zone – you

choose here to either move on to Stage 4 or to return to Stage 1.

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Stage 4 - Discovery- Stage 4 represents the "light at the end of the tunnel." You now can see the options you have and the possibilities this change has presented. You are optimistic about a good outcome because you have choices. Stage 5- Understanding - You understand the change and are involved in it. You can identify its benefits and acknowledge its usefulness. Stage 6 - Integration - By the time you reach Stage 6 you have stopped looking at "the change" as something different because you have integrated it's challenges and victories into your life.

Change is Good• Remember, Acceptance is

actually the very first step in a

process of CHANGE.

• Most Changes are for good.

• Some changes are not good.

• Accepting your NOW. Accepting the

Change and its outcome is vital for

good health.

Accept RealitiesAccept others

as they are

• If we expect or hope that others will accept us as we are, then we must accept them as

they are.

• WHY?

• It’s a sign of respect and maturity.

• It’s a form of giving unconditional love • Acknowledges the

goodness of diversity.

Bill and the Elderly Deacon •

• Bill was a poor, brilliant college student who was known for his worn out T-

shirts and jeans. • Opposite to the College

was a well dressed conservative Church

• One day Bill walked into it ... Didn’t find a seat. So he went close to the pulpit

and sat on the floor. • All the eyes were upon

him. Even the preacher felt uncomfortable.

• From the back of the Church an elderly deacon

got up and walked towards him ... He sat beside him all

through the service.

Accept Others as they Are

• We do not look down upon them.

• Although they may look ... Speak ... Dress ... Smell ... Think different

• It means we do not judge them

Handicapped - Emotionally

Someone has said “We are all souls in a

process of evolution ... unwilling

to accept others shortcomings.”

•When we see a physically challenged person our

expectations are limited.• What about those that are emotionally unstable - those insecure & low self-

esteem? • We judge them as lazy,

irresponsible, immoral• Accepting others is to

embrace them with their disabilities –

helping each other to evolve into a better

person.

Be Tolerant ...• Do not be concerned about the

speck in your brothers eyes, deal with the

plank that is in yours. Math. 7

: 3, 4.

“Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall

not be condemned.” Lk. 6 : 37.

Accept Realities

Accept the circumstances• Life isn’t going to be Perfect ... We lost it in Eden.

• Circumstances can get dreadful• People around us can become mean

• The World seems unfair ... U are barely surviving.

Behind the Scene Causes of

Circumstances

• Some are created by us.

• Voted by a Committee

• Caused by Nature

• Some Circumstances are good, others are

bad.• Some are good for one

& bad for another.

• Fortunately, God is in Control.

• No Circumstances is beyond Him.

Resilience Two Key Words

• Resilience is the process of

adapting well in the face of adversity.

• Elasticity – the ability of matter to spring back quickly

into shape after being bent, stretched, or

deformed.

• It is a learned skill that can carry us through crisis -

relationships, work problems, accidents,

etc.

Resilience DoughnutSeven Resilience

Factors

• Parent Factor •Skill Factor• The Family Identity Factor

• Education Factor• Peer Factor• Community Factor • Money Factor

Serenity PrayerAttempt to

change things that are

changeable

“God grant me the

SerenityTo accept the

things I cannot Change

Courage to Change the things I canAnd Wisdom to know the difference”

Remember – Some Changes requires a Person, others a Team.

Some might need the entire nation.

Change always begins

with you.

“be the change you wish to see in the world.” Gandhi

Core of a Healthy Life

• Refusal to accept Self, Others &

Circumstances combined with lack of self esteem make us

alienated.• We become lonely coz

we avoid socializing and are less attractive

for others to be our friend.

• Refusal to accept… you become envious,

jealous, imitators, ultra competitive &

destructive

• Being at one with ourselves is the core

of a healthy life

You R God’s Masterpiece

Accept & Love yourself• 2nd Great

Commandment“You shall love your

neighbor as Yourself.” Mt. 22 : 39

• Make Friends with yourself – like self.

• Forgive Self – we all make mistakes.

• Be happy with who you are. You don’t need to

be like the other person.

You R God’s Masterpiece

God has made you

• Fearfully & Wonderfully

• You are 1 in 6 million possibilities

• There might be few areas for improvement

• Give them to God ... They got

in coz of our enemy.

God of Possibilities ...• Are you struggling

with habits that have enslaved you?

• Is there a problem with your attitude?

• Maybe everything is OK, but not as perfect as you

desire?

“But Jesus looked at them and said ... With men this

is impossible, but with God all

things are possible.”

Math. 19 : 26

When God is at Work …

• He cleans you – makes you suitable clay.

• He shapes you according to His purposes.

• He tests you until

perfection. • He

decorates your life –

making it a beautiful

reflection of Himself.

Jesus the Author & Finisher

“Being confident of this very

thing, that He who has begun a good work in

you will complete it

until the day of Jesus Christ.”

Philippians 1 : 6