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Introductions

bullName

bullChurch

bullWhat Alpha means

to me

bull Icebreaker

Be succinct ndash or wersquoll be here till next week

Welcome to Alpha Leader Training

What is the Purpose of Alpha

Ultimate Purpose

Everyone come to know

Jesus

GoalGently

persuasively

caringly sensitively

respectfully to listen

and to love them

What is the Purpose of Alpha

What is the vision of Alpha To make

disciples of Jesus from all walks of

life to transform

society one life one

church one community at a time

What is the mission of Alpha

To support

the local church

in its call

to make disciples

of Jesus and

deepen relationships with Jesus and other Christians by providing the tool of the Alpha course

Alpha History

Began in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 2: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

What is the Purpose of Alpha

Ultimate Purpose

Everyone come to know

Jesus

GoalGently

persuasively

caringly sensitively

respectfully to listen

and to love them

What is the Purpose of Alpha

What is the vision of Alpha To make

disciples of Jesus from all walks of

life to transform

society one life one

church one community at a time

What is the mission of Alpha

To support

the local church

in its call

to make disciples

of Jesus and

deepen relationships with Jesus and other Christians by providing the tool of the Alpha course

Alpha History

Began in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 3: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

GoalGently

persuasively

caringly sensitively

respectfully to listen

and to love them

What is the Purpose of Alpha

What is the vision of Alpha To make

disciples of Jesus from all walks of

life to transform

society one life one

church one community at a time

What is the mission of Alpha

To support

the local church

in its call

to make disciples

of Jesus and

deepen relationships with Jesus and other Christians by providing the tool of the Alpha course

Alpha History

Began in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 4: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

What is the vision of Alpha To make

disciples of Jesus from all walks of

life to transform

society one life one

church one community at a time

What is the mission of Alpha

To support

the local church

in its call

to make disciples

of Jesus and

deepen relationships with Jesus and other Christians by providing the tool of the Alpha course

Alpha History

Began in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 5: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

What is the mission of Alpha

To support

the local church

in its call

to make disciples

of Jesus and

deepen relationships with Jesus and other Christians by providing the tool of the Alpha course

Alpha History

Began in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 6: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha History

Began in England in 1976 in the living room of a clergyman of the Anglican Church

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 7: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Historybull Most of its

current form was developed by Nicky Gumbel an Anglican priest at Holy Trinity Brompton in England

bull At HTB more than 500 people participate in each of three courses held during the year

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 8: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha History

The Alpha course is worldwidebull 44365 coursesbull 163 Countriesbull Over 13 Million Attendeesbull 72 languages ndash 5 major translationsbull 127 denominations

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 9: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha stands forhellip

Anyone can come

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 10: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha stands forhellip

Learning and laughter

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 11: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha stands forhellip

Pasta

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 12: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha stands forhellip

Helping one another

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 13: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha stands forhellip

Ask anything

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 14: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Trust the Alpha recipe

There is a reason for everything

Alpha

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 15: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Schedule

Introductory Dinner - ldquoChristianity Boring Untrue amp Irrelevantrdquo ndash soon to be - rdquoIs There More to Life than Thisrdquo

Alpha 1 ldquoWho is Jesusrdquo

Alpha 2 ldquoWhy Did Jesus Dierdquo

Alpha 3 ldquoHow Can I Be Sure of My Faithrdquo

Alpha 4 ldquoWhy and How Do I Prayrdquo

Alpha 5 ldquoWhy and How Should I Read the Biblerdquo

Alpha 6 ldquoHow Does God Guide Usrdquo

WeekendDay Away

Alpha 7 ldquoHow Can I Resist Evilrdquo

Alpha 8 ldquoWhy and How Should We Tell Othersrdquo

Alpha 9 ldquoDoes God Heal Todayrdquo

Alpha 10 ldquoWhat About the Churchrdquo

Celebration Supper

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 16: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Small Groups

Table leaders are servant leaders

- not self-serving leadersndash not teachers

Those attending are guests

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 17: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Small Groups

The small groups are seen as a fundamental part of Alpharsquos success across the world

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 18: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Small Groups

Friendships are developed and this is the primary reason people come back (especially the skeptics)

The small group may stay together after the conclusion of the course

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 19: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Principles

When I came to you brothers I did not come with eloquence or superior wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God For I resolved to know nothing while I was with you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified I came to you in weakness and fear and with much trembling My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words but with a demonstration of the Spiritrsquos power so that your faith might not rest on menrsquos wisdom but on Godrsquos power

1 Corinthians 21-5

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 20: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Expectations for Team

bull Continue to develop personal faith

bull Focus on Guestsbull Communicate with prayer partners and leaders

bull Prayer

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 21: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Remember

Itrsquos not about usItrsquos about Him

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 22: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Team Training

Be fully present for Guestsbull Develop a community of

trust and honest sharingbull Create an atmosphere of

comfort and confidentially

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 23: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Table Leaders

Heart of Alpha

Should have1 Faith in Christ ndash

committed Christians2 Strong relational

skills

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 24: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Table Helpers

bull Potential leaders

bull Perhaps

returning guests

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 25: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up

2 Leaders

2 Helpers8 Guests

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 26: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group Leaders

DiscussionYou are the host They are

your guests Treat them as such

bull Non-judgmental bull Respectfulbull Honest bull Authenticbull Genuine

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 27: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group

Leadersbull Practical detailsbull Common errors

ndash weak leadershipndash too dominate leadership

bull Ask simple questionsndash What do you thinkndash What do you feel

bull Be prepared for common questions

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 28: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Leader is a referee and does not take sides in discussions

There to ensure fair play

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 29: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Important to set up group expectations

1 No question or subject

is off-limits

2 Respect everyone

3 One person talks

at a time

4 Be honest

5 What is said at table stays at table

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 30: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group Leaders

There to draw out thoughts feelings and ideas

Get Searching Issues and read it

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 31: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Model Bible study1 Only when the most reluctant person

is ready2 Start with questions3 Prepare carefully4 Have group read Bible

passage5 Give short introduction6 Get people talking7 Encourage everyone8 DONrsquoT be like school9 Pitch low

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 32: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Develop lasting friendships with the Body of Christ

Get to know each person well

Key ndash 5 or 6 significant Christian friendships

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 33: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Learn to minister to one another

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 34: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group Leaders

Train others to lead

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 35: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aims of Small Group

Leaders

Show skit

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 36: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Pastoral Care

Summary of Alpha LOVE

1God loves you ndash message of the Bible

2We love God ndash 1st commandment

3Love others ndash 2nd commandment

Heart of Christianity

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 37: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aim of Pastoral Care

bull Love who God sends usbull Lifelong process to personal

spiritual maturitybull Donrsquot hurry the processbull Small groups and relationships

are KEY

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 38: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aim of Pastoral Care

Be patient Lots is going on

bull Hearing the gospelbull Seeing Jesus Christ in

your livesbull Experience Jesus

Christbull Experiencing Christian

communitybull Not just one

relationship

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 39: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Methods of Pastoral CareGive Guests

opportunitiesbull Encourage growth

inbull To studybull To praybull Personal relationship with Christ

bull Relationships within the Body of Christ

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 40: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha General AttitudesBe an encouragerbull 1 Thessalonians 511

bull Therefore encourage one another and build each other up just as in fact you are doing

UnderstandingAffirmationValidation

AppreciationAcceptance

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 41: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull James 119

bull My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

No religious conversation during meals

Draw them out

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 42: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a listenerbull Listening empowers

peoplebull Opinions are valuedbull Gives dignity

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 43: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha General Attitudes

Be a peacemakerbull Matthew 59

bull Blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called sons of God

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 44: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha General Attitudes

Donrsquot argueDiffuse

arguments between guests Validate points made by each

No arguing allows people to change with greater comfort

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 45: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Commitment

Colossians 129To this end I labor struggling with all his energy which so powerfully works in me

Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
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Alpha CommitmentOur Responsibility

PrayerOvercoming tirednessHard workLoving everyoneEffortOvercoming disappointment Late nightsConcentrating on guests

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 47: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Commitment

bullGodrsquos GracebullAllow the Spirit of God to speak to you during the talks and fill you during worship and ministry moments

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 48: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Commitment

Ask for the Holy Spirit to be present

Be ready to serve

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 49: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Some Listening FactsbullWe can effectively hear 125-250 words per min

bullWe can effectively think 1000-3000 words per min

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 50: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Some Listening Facts

bull85 of what we learn is by listening

bull45 of our day is spent listening

bull75 amount of time preoccupied distracted or forgetful

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 51: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 1813

He who answers before listeningmdash that is his folly and his shame

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 52: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

What does the Bible say about listening

James 119

My dear brothers take note of this Everyone should be quick to listen slow to speak and slow to become angry

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 53: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

What does the Bible say about listening

Proverbs 182

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 54: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or CausesbullShuts down communication

bullTell someone their motive

bullMake judgment about their

relationship with Jesus

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 55: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

Jumping to Conclusions or Causesbull Judging can make guest frustrated and decide to not return

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 56: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

Impatience

bullFidgeting

bull Interrupting

bullFinishing sentences

bullGuests donrsquot feel valued

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 57: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullCause emotional responses

bull If they hit a hot button for me and I respond it becomes about me

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 58: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

Hot ButtonsbullFocus should be on guests

bullThink soccer ball

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 59: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible BarriersAnxietybullAllows focus to shift to us again

bullWe worry aboutbull Questions we donrsquot know the answer to

bull Asking good questions

bull Domination

bull Dead air

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 60: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible BarriersDefensivenessbullWe become preachy and argumentative

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 61: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

DefensivenessbullKey

bullBreath slow long and deep

bullTalk to self ndash NOT ABOUT ME

bullNeed to know what to say to them

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 62: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Invisible Barriers

InsensitivitybullMust be aware of the feelings of others

bullMust not ignore any sharing

bullPay attention to the message we are sending

bullFocus on us or guest

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 63: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Oswald Chambers said

We often represent Jesus in a spirit that is not his We harm Him by our advocacy for Him

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 64: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Guest on First NightHow do they feel

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 65: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Alpha Guest on First Night

What are they looking for

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 66: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Greatest GiftbullListening ear eye contact and good body language

bull It gives them value

bullAllows for sharing

bullGives a place for Jesus Christ to touch them

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 67: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Communication Pie

What you say

7

Tone of voice

38

Body Language

55

>

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 68: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitudeS

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 69: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Keys to Communicating

ye contactE

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 70: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Keys to Communicating

elaxed postureR

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 71: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Keys to Communicating

aluing differencesV

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 72: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Keys to Communicating

mbody Jesusrsquos love

ndash Love them thru me

E

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 73: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Keys to Communicating

ervant attitude

ye contact

elaxed posture

aluing differences

mbody Jesusrsquos love ndash Love them thru me

S

E

R

V

E

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 74: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

If We Listen Effectively

bullRealize that the first thing out of our mouth isnrsquot want they want to talk about

bullMust make them feel safe

bullValidate their feelings

bullUnderstand

bullAllow them to share at the deepest level

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 75: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Feeling Chart

Remember

S ndash Sensitive Seating

O ndash Openness

L ndash Leaning

A ndash Appropriate eye contact

R - Relax

Nonverbal Warmth

Also Consider

T ndash Touch

E ndash Environment

A ndash Accommodating Attitude

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 76: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Questions

bullNot a sales pitch

bullNot memorized set of questions

bullPutting caring for them into words

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 77: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Basic Reflective Listening Formula

Tentative Opening + Feeling + AboutBecauseWhen + ThoughtIt sounds like you feel mad about

I hear you saying that you feel sad because of

If I hear you correctly you feel glad when

You seem to be saying you feel afraid about

I think I hear you saying you feel confused because of

Irsquom not sure I am follow you feel ashamed about

Am I hearing you say you feel lonely when

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 78: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Basic Reflective Listening

bull Careful not to give advice

bull Practice with others figuring out what they are really saying

bull Not being manipulative ndash just trying to understand

bull Hearing and understanding leads to compassion

bull Compassion keeps us from trying to be right and lets us sit with them

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 79: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

1 Non-threatening

bull No right or wrong

bull Only opinions

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 80: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

2 Communicates humility

3 Allows people to discover

the truth for themselves

bull Caring for someone with no ulterior motive

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 81: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull We are all seekers

bull Must listen first ndash but discern what people are wondering about

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 82: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Characteristics of Wondering Questions

4 Causes people to ask questions

bull Initiate a wondering dialogue ndash be curious about them

bull Search for underlying questions

bull Think Columbo

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 83: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they ask the hard question

bullTry to find out the underlying question

bullDonrsquot debate ndash that comes from emotional base

bullStay away from theology

bullldquoI was wondering why that question amp why that question right nowrdquo

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 84: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they ask the hard question

bull Important to decide when amp if to send the question back to the table

bullEnd with ldquoI wonder if you can continue to participate in the course and if you donrsquot find the answers you seek wersquoll talkrdquo

bullWrite the question down so they know you wonrsquot forget to get back to it

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 85: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they ask the hard question

You have the privilege of meeting people where they are worried

That is the place where they long to meet Jesus

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 86: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Itrsquos a Process

bull Conversion Process (Vision New England)

bull 86 of new converts came to faith in Christ over a period of time

bull 32 over several months to a yearbull 54 journey to salvation took

place over several yearsbull 14 one point conversion

ldquoVision New England Recent Convert Studyrdquo Jan 2007 Vision New England Acton Main

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 87: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Makes a difference in how we

approach

Where are they on the path

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 88: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

The better we listen the better we can

serve

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 89: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Knowing where someone is on their path can help us

minister to them

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 90: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Self-righteous

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 91: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to TrustJudgmental

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 92: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Believe in fairy tales

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 93: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Narrow minded

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 94: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Naive

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 95: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Think they are better than me

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 96: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Have an agenda

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 97: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Watch out

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 98: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Evangelists

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 99: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to TrustStarting

not on even

playing field

but in a hole

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 100: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Trust is a gift of the heart and one of the

most precious gifts of

life

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 101: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Coming to faith gains

traction when

trust is establishe

d

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 102: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Distrust to Trust

Relationships genuine friendships are

currency

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 103: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Without trustLostness can feel

like wise skepticism

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 104: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Without trustNo trust ndash no belief

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 105: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Happened to Paul tooActs 1718A group of Epicurean and Stoic philosophers

began todebate with him Some of them asked ldquoWhat is

thisbabbler trying to sayrdquo Others remarked ldquoHe

seems to beadvocating foreign godsrdquo They said this

because Paul waspreaching the good news about Jesus and the

resurrection

Philippians 26Who being in very nature God did not consider

equalitywith God something to be used to his own

advantage

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 106: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Jesus Built Trust Too

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

but to work along side us

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 107: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Jesus didnrsquot come and preach from on high

to become friends and build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 108: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 109: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

1 Pray

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 110: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Intercede

for them

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 111: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Help me to see them as You do God

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 112: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Feeling defensive ndash pray

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 113: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

2 Learn

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 114: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they donrsquot trust

us we must choose to

learn about them

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 115: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Understand world

from their perspecti

ve

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 116: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Sympathize with them

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 117: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Learn about their distrust

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 118: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Mark 5 ndash story

of bleedi

ng woma

n

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 119: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Listen to their whole story

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 120: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

3 Bond

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 121: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they donrsquot trust us we must choose

to bond with them

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 122: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Jesus came to

live among us and share

our lives

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 123: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Share

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 124: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Best tool ndash

time

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 125: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

4 Affirm

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 126: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they donrsquot trust us we must find something to

affirm

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 127: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Not blind and

indiscriminate

affirmation of

everything

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 128: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Look for real good

and affirm it

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 129: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Acts 17 ndash to

Athenians practicing

idol worship

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 130: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

AffirmHow does Paul reactActs 1722Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said ldquoPeople of Athens I see that in every way you are very religious

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 131: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

We fear affirming

sin so we say nothing

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 132: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Find the positive aspect

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 133: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Aloofness can

come across as judgment

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 134: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Build trust

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 135: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Five Kingdom Habits

to Build Trust

5 Welcome

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 136: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

When they donrsquot trust us we must assure them they are

welcome

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 137: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

John 1 ldquoCome and

seerdquo

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 138: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Open the armsof

hospitality

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 139: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Be Authentic

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 140: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

People can smell a fake a mile

away

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 141: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Become astudent

of people

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 142: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Practice giving your heart away

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 143: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 144: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Pray

bull Not tell people you are praying for them

bull Be like Nike ndash

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 145: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Listen moreTalk less

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 146: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Stop trying to fix everything

bull I love WD-40 and duct tape too But

bull Listenbull Just be

present while they wrestle grieve and reflect

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 147: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo

bull Remember the Greatest Commandment was not to convert people but to love them

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 148: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Quality over quantity

bull Invest time in people

bull Not drive-by evangelism

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 149: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Share generously of yourself

bull Be willing to be vulnerablebull Share your story when

appropriate

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 150: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong

bull Everyonersquos faith is evolving

bull The disciples who lived with Jesus changed what they believed

bull Be open Your guest could teach you something

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 151: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Apologize

bull A simple apology for the hurt caused by other Christians

bull Name the wrong-doing and validate the hurt

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 152: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Own your love

bull Saying ldquoGod loves yourdquo or ldquoJesus loves yourdquo can feel impersonal

bull Why not ldquoI love yourdquo

bull But only if truebull ldquoYou are lovedrdquo

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 153: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Make sure your life reflects your faith

bull Donrsquot validate belief that Christians are hypocrites

bull Donrsquot write a check with your mouth that your life canrsquot cash

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 154: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Provoke CuriosityEncourage Questions

bull Jesus asked 183 questions in the Gospels

bull Answered only 3bull Answered 307 questions with another question

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 155: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Jesus didnrsquot have

Q amp A sessions

He has Q amp Q

sessions

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 156: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Think about the box

that the world puts

ldquonice Christiansrdquo in

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 157: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Be a catalyst of curiosity

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 158: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Point the way

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 159: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Choosing to

change scary and

difficult

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 160: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Mark 10

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 161: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Need to see the world in a whole new way

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 162: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

May have to deal

with issues

that have been

ignored for years

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 163: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Can open a beautiful door but can feel horrific

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 164: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Be Patient as the Journey

Unfolds

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 165: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Need to know you are their

friend

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 166: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Patience gives the

gift of space and permissio

n to explore

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 167: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

Letrsquos review

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 168: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

1 Unprepared Leaders To prepare for discussion times TL and ATL can use

A Their BibleB Searching IssuesC Prayer and the Holy SpiritD Jay Lenorsquos monologuesE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 169: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

2 Allowing a Guest to Dominate To prevent a guest from talking too much

A Gently redirect conversationB Offer to talk or pray with them laterC Privately thank them for sharing and ask them to help you draw others outD Use plenty of duct tapeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 170: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

3 Letting discussion get off track To prevent digressions

A Ask helpers to refocus the talk with brief comments or questions

B Refer back to the talkrsquos topic C Offer to talk more about a guestrsquos

concerns later on - during the break if necessary

D Bring a podium and pound on it loudly whenever necessary

E ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 171: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

4 Forgetting the Basics Donrsquot forget to begin small group discussions with

A ldquoWhat do you thinkrdquoB ldquoWhat do you feelrdquoC Allowing the Spirit to moveD Sumo wrestlingE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 172: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

5 Allowing ldquobashingrdquo or hurtful comments If guests begin bashing other denominations lifestyles beliefs etc

A Speak privately to them if you need toB Rely on ALT to steer the group back to productive talkC Be peacemakers and pray for the ldquodividersrdquoD Send them to the principalrsquos officeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 173: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

6 PREACHING amp TEACHING This one is huge Leaders should

A Let the speakers clergy and the Holy Spirit do the teachingB Guard the small group time so all Guests can share and participateC Lay down their pride and be willing to look ldquostupidrdquo if necessaryD Keep your sermons to the first 45 minutes of group timeE ALL OF THE ABOVE EXCEPT D

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 174: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

I Corinthians 1 26-31

Brothers think of what you were when you were called Not many of you were wise by human standards not many were influential not many were of noble birth But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things that are not ndash to nullify the things that are so that no one may boast before him It is because of him that you are in Christ Jesus who has become for us wisdom from God ndash that is our righteousness holiness redemption Therefore as it is written ldquoLet him who boasts boast in the Lordrdquo

1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
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1 Peter 48-11

Above all love each other deeply because love covers over a multitude of sins Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others faithfully administering Gods grace in its various forms If anyone speaks he should do it as one speaking the very words of God If anyone serves he should do it with the strength God provides so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever Amen

Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
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Handouts Available

bull Prayer suggestionsbull Reminders for Leaders and Helpersbull Common Small Group problems and

possible solutionsbull Tips for overcoming challenging

situationsbull Reflective Listening tipsbull Listening Skills tips practice amp self-

evaluationbull Training reviews

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 177: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12

To get access to Lisarsquos training

materials

Send Lisa an email requesting the materials She will share a folder of Alpha training materials electronically Feel free to download them and modify to meet the Alpha needs at your church

lisa_mcculloch53hotmailcom

  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181
Page 178: Alpha   tt - alpha power point leader training lisa 1.16.12
  • Slide 1
  • Slide 2
  • What is the Purpose of Alpha
  • Goal Gently persuasively caringly sensitively respectfully
  • Slide 5
  • What is the mission of Alpha
  • Alpha History
  • Alpha History (2)
  • Alpha History (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip
  • Alpha stands forhellip (2)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (3)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (4)
  • Alpha stands forhellip (5)
  • Alpha
  • Alpha Schedule
  • Alpha Small Groups
  • Alpha Small Groups (2)
  • Alpha Small Groups (3)
  • Alpha Principles
  • Expectations for Team
  • Remember
  • Team Training
  • Table Leaders
  • Table Helpers
  • Ideal Alpha Table Make-Up
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Important to set up group expectations
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (3)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (4)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (5)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (6)
  • Aims of Small Group Leaders (2)
  • Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care
  • Aim of Pastoral Care (2)
  • Methods of Pastoral Care
  • Alpha General Attitudes
  • Alpha General Attitudes (2)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (3)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (4)
  • Alpha General Attitudes (5)
  • Alpha Commitment
  • Alpha Commitment (2)
  • Alpha Commitment (3)
  • Alpha Commitment (4)
  • Some Listening Facts
  • Some Listening Facts (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening
  • What does the Bible say about listening (2)
  • What does the Bible say about listening (3)
  • Invisible Barriers
  • Invisible Barriers (2)
  • Invisible Barriers (3)
  • Invisible Barriers (4)
  • Invisible Barriers (5)
  • Invisible Barriers (6)
  • Invisible Barriers (7)
  • Invisible Barriers (8)
  • Invisible Barriers (9)
  • Oswald Chambers said
  • Alpha Guest on First Night
  • Alpha Guest on First Night (2)
  • Greatest Gift
  • Communication Pie
  • 5 Keys to Communicating
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (2)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (3)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (4)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (5)
  • 5 Keys to Communicating (6)
  • If We Listen Effectively
  • Feeling Chart
  • Questions
  • Basic Reflective Listening Formula
  • Basic Reflective Listening
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (2)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (3)
  • Characteristics of Wondering Questions (4)
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question
  • When they ask the hard question (2)
  • Itrsquos a Process
  • Where are they on the path
  • Slide 89
  • Slide 90
  • Distrust to Trust
  • Distrust to Trust (2)
  • Distrust to Trust (3)
  • Distrust to Trust (4)
  • Distrust to Trust (5)
  • Distrust to Trust (6)
  • Distrust to Trust (7)
  • Distrust to Trust (8)
  • Distrust to Trust (9)
  • Distrust to Trust (10)
  • Distrust to Trust (11)
  • Distrust to Trust (12)
  • Distrust to Trust (13)
  • Without trust
  • Without trust (2)
  • Slide 106
  • Jesus Built Trust Too
  • Slide 108
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust
  • Slide 110
  • Slide 111
  • Slide 112
  • Slide 113
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 2 Learn
  • Slide 115
  • Slide 116
  • Slide 117
  • Slide 118
  • Slide 119
  • Slide 120
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 3 Bond
  • Slide 122
  • Slide 123
  • Slide 124
  • Slide 125
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 4 Affirm
  • Slide 127
  • Slide 128
  • Slide 129
  • Slide 130
  • Affirm
  • Slide 132
  • Slide 133
  • Slide 134
  • Slide 135
  • Five Kingdom Habits to Build Trust 5 Welcome
  • Slide 137
  • Slide 138
  • Slide 139
  • Slide 140
  • Slide 141
  • Slide 142
  • Antidotes to Christian Clicheacutes
  • Pray
  • Listen more Talk less
  • Stop trying to fix everything
  • See yourself in the ldquoOtherrdquo
  • Quality over quantity
  • Share generously of yourself
  • Be open to the possibility that yoursquore wrong
  • Apologize
  • Own your love
  • Make sure your life reflects your faith
  • Provoke Curiosity Encourage Questions
  • Slide 156
  • Slide 157
  • Slide 158
  • Slide 159
  • Slide 160
  • Slide 161
  • Slide 162
  • Slide 163
  • Slide 164
  • Slide 165
  • Slide 166
  • Slide 167
  • Slide 168
  • Slide 169
  • Slide 170
  • Slide 171
  • Slide 172
  • Slide 173
  • Slide 174
  • I Corinthians 1 26-31
  • 1 Peter 48-11
  • Handouts Available
  • To get access to Lisarsquos training materials
  • Slide 181