HOW TO BECOMECONFIDENT?

Your heart starts RACING

Do you know this feeling…

Your hands start SWEATING

Your knees get WEAK

You get BUTTERFLIES in stomach

Have you ever wanted to DO something

but COULDN’T because you got nervous and anxious?

Have you ever done something you were initially NERVOUS about?

Did you then feel that it was not as SCARY as you

thought?

Is your answer to these questions YES?

Do you want to become more CONFIDENT?Overcome social ANXIETIES?

Not be held back by FEAR?

But,HOW to do it??

Of course you do!!

Simple. Just lay down on a street for 30 seconds

You think it is WEIRD?

Let me tell you a small story…

Once there was a boy who was

CONFIDENT &

OUTGOING

However, some situations made

him reallyNERVOUS

&INSECURE

He felt shy in front of people superior to himHe was afraid of REJECTION and being exposed

This invoked 2 types of

BEHAVIOURin him

1. AVOIDANCEHe wouldn’t go to a party where he knew none

2. He looked for APPROVAL from those superior to him

He behaved in a way they approved of

He started attending psychotherapy coachingout of

INTEREST

There he heard about Comfort

Zone Challenges

These challenges require you to put

yourself in an Uncomfortable

Situation

Get yourself rejected 10 times as fast as possible…

So, if you are afraid of being rejected, go out…

The idea behind it is…

…to do it over & over again

And then at one point of time,

you would just stop caring what other people might think!!

This is called EXPOSURE THERAPY

Why does it WORK?

Over the years, your Nervous System has learnt to respond to a particular situation with FEAR

When faced with this situation, your nervous system sends

FEAR responses

Even if the situation is

NOT dangerous

So, how to get over it?

It’s simple…

Over and over AGAIN.

EXPOSE yourself to that situation

As your anxiety REDUCES,

your nervous system eventually LEARNS

that situation isnot scary

And you become more CONFIDENT

Now, the boy found this thought INTERESTING…

He decided to take up the challenge the NEXT day…

Then the THOUGHT came to his mind…

WHY SHOULDN’T I

DO IT TODAY??

BOOM BOOM BOOM

Two things happened simultaneously…

His hands started getting

SWEATY

His heart started to RACE

His knees felt WEAK

All those really good excuses popped up

Floor is dirty

Mom is waiting

What might people think

Wanting to DO

He was torn between

Fear & Excuses

It was then he had this AHA

Moment

These fears and excuses will ALWAYS be there…

He realized –

And this was what he thought...

He LAID DOWN on the busy street bursting with people

His heart was racing. MADLY.

He was NERVOUS as hell…

But as time went by, he noticed 3 things…

He got weird looks. A lot. But, these were NOT as SCARY as he thought!!

Many people were really CONFUSED

They didn’t know what he was doing

Majority of people DIDN’T

even CARE

They walked right past without looking at him

The boy was Till H. Gross……founder of Comfort Zone Crusher

LESSONS LEARNED…

Learn to go through discomfort

You’ll learn to ignore the irrational excuses

1. HABIT Practice comfort zone challenges over & over again

It would still be present, but it won’t HOLD you back anymore

2. FEAR

3. HAPPINESS

You stop COMPARING yourself to others

You stop CARING what other people might think of you

“DO ONE THING EVERYDAY THAT SCARES YOU”

- Eleanor Roosevelt

LET’S RECAP

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtDkg3Xwn7U

DISCLAIMER: These slides were created by Ashok Kumar Meena, IIM Lucknow, as part of a MBA course “Personal Branding” (www.MBASkills.IN) taught by Prof. Sameer Mathur

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CREDITS

Prof. Sameer Mathur Indian Institute of Management, Lucknow Marketing Professor (August 2013 – Present) Marketing Professor (2009 –  2013)

Ph.D. and M.S. - Marketing (2003 – 2009)

Indian Institute of Management Lucknow

MBA Student (2014 – 2016)

Ashok Kumar Meena