I Might As Well Have No Parents

I Might As Well Have No Parents

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Question: • My mother was 15 when I was

born • My dad was abusive and left her • We lived with my grandmother • When my gran died my mom and

her boyfriend started to argue


• My mom was already drinking heavily

• I had to live with my dad and his wife

• We lived in 15 countries over 17 years


• My dad beat me • His wife molested me • They are both alcoholics


• My dad threatened me with the welfare if I complained

• I moved back with my mom when I was 11


• My mom is anorexic and self-mutilates

• She wants to kill herself all the time

• My dad is of no help


• I tried to get help from the courts

• They don’t believe me • I left home at age 13 • My mum jumped out of a

window


• When my relationship ended I stayed with friends for a few days

• My mom took an overdose • I have tried everything • None of my parents will or can

help me


• I want to move out when I turn 18

• What if my mom kills herself?


Answer: • You are not responsible for your

mother’s well-being • Your mother is responsible for

her own choices • If your mother wants to commit

suicide, all you can do is delay it


• Drinking is a choice with physical consequences

• Your mother is a manipulative alcoholic

• You only owe your mother love


• You are at a cross-roads • You have to choose survival or

death • Decide how you want to create

your future


• Your mother has a soul contract with you

• You cannot change her • She can change herself


• You are highly intelligent • You have much to offer to the

world • What have you learnt from all

your experiences?


• Find the balance in all your experiences

• This is not about positive thinking – that will make you feel more helpless


• For every bad experience there is wisdom

• For every good experience there is a downside


• Find a job and start building your future

• As you find balance, you find inner peace

• Your mother will realize this and eventually also find her peace


• Take one step at a time • You will become less torn and

more whole • Keep a diary


Thank You

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I Might As Well Have No Parents