You Weren’t Born Negative. So What Happened?

You Weren’t Born Negative. So What Happened?

By:By:Sarita PattnayakSarita Pattnayak

Negative patterns are drilled into us by people and circumstances throughout our lives.

Let’s take a second to think about that critical negative voice inside your head..

You know, the one that says:

Have you ever considered the possibility that it is not your voice saying these things?

Have you ever considered the possibility that it is not your voice saying these things?

That it could be someone else’s? A parent’s, or maybe a teacher’s, friend’s perhaps?

Children are little balls of inquisitive energy.

They skip or run everywhere, they try to climb every tree, they’ll find a

rock and make it a pet, they’ll play games with the most battered of toys.

No question is too silly, no outfit is too outrageous.

There’s no voice in their heads telling them ‘I can’t’. They don’t think ‘I

can’t jump over that puddle’ or ‘I’ll look stupid in that dress’.

No one is born negative.

Have you ever seen a negative young child?

So, you’re not innately negative

You’re not an innately negative person, you just ‘caught’ someone else’s negativity somewhere along the line. 

And this means you can break your poor thinking habits and reveal the real you. 

The ‘you’ - you were as a young child, when anything was possible.

How different would your life be if you’d How different would your life be if you’d

always tried instead of always thinking the always tried instead of always thinking the

worst?worst? If you’d gone for everything within your reach and taken those opportunities, instead of imagining what could have gone wrong?

10 Steps 10 Steps to to

Overcome NegativityOvercome Negativity

1) Stop Negative Thinking Now.1) Stop Negative Thinking Now.

Learn to stop negative thoughts before they start.

You may not know, how your negative thoughts flow you away, without taking any notice

2) Beat the Everyday Blues2) Beat the Everyday Blues

Learn to let go of pervasive worry and relax into better everyday mood.

3) Self Sabotage3) Self Sabotage

Stop listening to your own negative 'hype'.

This will stop your hurtful thoughts about yourself

4) Stop Complaining4) Stop Complaining

Break the complaining habit and learn to relax with imperfections and irritations.

This will turn off your ‘auto-complaint’ switch, letting you consciously choose your battles and to relax with the imperfections of life at other times.

5) Dealing with Disappointment5) Dealing with Disappointment

Build in flexibility to your expectations and manage disappointment and set-back gracefully.

If your expectations better , they are much more realistic, you won’t constantly be feeling let down.

6) Dealing with Guilt6) Dealing with Guilt

Break the pattern of feeling guilty or ashamed, and take a new view.

Move from viewing others with suspicion and distrust to a more realistic and sympathetic understanding.

7) See the best in others7) See the best in others

8) No Regrets8) No Regrets

Stop wallowing in your past and start learning from your experiences and move on.

Stop from getting caught up in focusing on the losses and errors of your past, so you can concentrate on the present and the future.

9) Improve Your Mood9) Improve Your Mood

Relax deeply and cast off black moods.

This will enable your unconscious mind to bring forth a new, more relaxed, more upbeat emotion. You’ll also gain outlook on whatever was making you feel bad.

10) No Excuses10) No Excuses

Develop a deeper honesty and truthfulness with yourself and take full responsibility for what you do.

This will help you understand your own and others' motivations more clearly.