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How to build up confidenceWhat I am going to share with you is: A basic understanding of how confidence works An example of how I gained more confidence in a specific area A few techniques you can use to build up your confidence in any area you’d
like to.Understanding Confidence (Basic)First of all, confidence is nothing you can take as a general thing, because it always applies to a specific area. For example dating or speaking publicly. Everyone has areas where he/she is 100% confident in! If you are at home and you go into your kitchen to grab a drink notice that you do it with confidence. Notice how natural it feels to you just taking this simple action. You feel like you can do it over 1000 times without failing once.Well… that’s all confidence is. It is a state of mind. You don’t have any negative thoughts about how you could fail when you grab a drink in your own kitchen, do you o_0? If you lack confidence in a specific area it all comes down to your self-perception. If you perceive yourself as someone who is not good at public speaking or article writing or approaching the opposite sex because of (…please add your factor…), then that is literally what you will become.Even though all those skills are 1004274% possible for you to achieve, you just have a lack of experience and that fact makes all the difference. If you take the action physically and mentally to redesign your self-image, those skills will feel like a natural part of you.
My Personel ExperienceI personally had a really big issue with a lack of confidence in all kinds of social situations in the past. I was always the type of guy who held his opinions back, who didn’t express what he was thinking because I didn’t want to make a wrong impression or offend others. Always looking for their approval and opinions to determine if I can be certain about my ideas and actions.I found the solutions to fix that by accident on the internet. I wasn’t really looking to change that state because that’s how I was confrontable with and I held this stupid belief that this was just how I was born and that there is nothing to do about it. Well…this woke me up.First I started to change my perception of all those people around me who already are extremely confident in socializing with new people they meet or in defending their own point of view and so on. Instead of being envious about their great ability I started to analyze their behavior in certain situations and saw them as some kind of “Mentors“ even though I rarely got in contact with them.I implemented the techniques I’m going to share with you in a minute and started to break out of my ordinary behavior every time I had the opportunity to. I also began to create these opportunities for myself even if it felt uncomfortable at first. Every time I had the chance to act differently in a situation I told myself “what would one of those confident guys do” and translated their behavior i picked up into my own actions.It sure took me some time to break out of my comfort-zone and really get into the flow, but as soon as that happened I saw the results coming flying at me. I never felt so powerful before. Creating results by yourself makes you feel like there is no challenge in the world you wouldn’t be able to handle. At least that’s what I experienced.
Simple TechniquesNow there are two techniques I want to tell you something about. If you manage to make those a habit for ~the next 2-3 months your confidence levels will EXPLODE. They are just as simple as powerful. You first want to create a list of areas you are already confident in and areas you are lacking in confidence.1 Daily Visualization: All you have to do is to “Daydream” for 5 minutes. First pick one of the things you listed where you feel super confident in. Now be aware of that feeling and capture it in your memory. Next put yourself into a situation you would be extremely unconfident in and project this feeling of confidence you saved for earlier onto that situation and imagine how you solve it with ease. Make sure you vision is as detailed as possible regarding the things you see, hear, taste, feel and so on. Do this for 5 Minutes straight every day over the next 2-3 months. This will help you to easily take positive action when facing a real situation that gives you an opportunity to break thru your old behavior patterns.2 Daily Affirmations: You are going to tell the following sentences to yourself every day for 5 Minutes straight. The first one is: “I love being confident.” the second one is: “I am independent of the good and bad opinions of others.” This will help you to reframe your self-image.
Whatever it is you want in life…If you have a burning desire and determination to get it, there is no way you are going to fail.
That was my first Blogpost In the new section “Inner Growth” and on this blog in general . I hope the information I provided can get you one step closer to your desired life.
Please leave a comment and share some of your experiences I would love to read them. Also if you have any questions or just want to get in contact with me you can find my E-Mail adress and Facebook Profile below. Have a nice day! <3
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