Giving birth is an exercise in plumbing

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Timeline • We think skills just arrive• Skills lead the way• Skills to grow during pregnancy• Birth is the transition• Birth is a lot like plumbing




We think skills just arrive

• Learning skills can come so easily to some people. Some people don’t recognize how much time they practiced or repeated doing something over and over again in order to become skilled.

• Skills can be difficult but birth skills are not. • Now you’re pregnant … yes, men get pregnant too.• Once your baby’s mother gets pregnant you get dragged

into all her changes whether physical, emotional or mental.

• Unfortunately, no one is guiding you as you move through ‘becoming’ a father during pregnancy to ‘being’ one immediately after the birth of your baby.

• No one is telling you or your baby’s mother how important it is to develop skills




Skills lead the way• To ‘be’ a father, you must

learn fatherhood qualities and skills to help your baby come out of its mother’s body.

• Without skills the pregnant woman will give birth one way or another

• How you and your pregnant partner ‘do’ the activity of giving birth leaves life long memories.




Skills to grow during pregnancy

• Kindness• Patience• Awareness• Attention to detail• Being able to see what needs to be done• Growing a second set of arms • Growing two more sets of eyes • Humor• Delight• Clarity




Birth is the transition• Birth is the pivotal activity that must be started,

done and completed in order to move from ‘becoming’ a father or mother to ‘being’ one.

• Birth is never something that should ‘just happen’ to you.

• Birth is an activity that must be prepared for in the right manner from 24 weeks of pregnancy.

• During the activity there are skills to be used so that the process occurs with as little trauma or stress to either your baby or its mother.




• From 24 weeks onward, you must focus on:o Preparing the pregnant body to let out a big objecto Learn and practicw the skills you will need to work with your baby’s

efforts to be born during the process of giving birth.




Birth is a lot like plumbing

• Process that takes place inside her body to open (the cervix, pelvis and birth canal) is often accompanied by natural occurring pain. Without coping or pain management skills, its easy for a woman to tense up in reaction to pain.

• Big object has to open up diaphragm (cervix), come down through a tube (bony pelvis) and then down through a soft tube (vagina) and open an aperture (vaginal opening).

• Learn to create space and openness to let big object out.




These are the skills that will help the pregnant woman learn to open up during pregnancy:

• Map the pelvis so you know what plumbing shape your baby has to navigate through.

• Hip Lift … create space in the pelvis side to side.• Kate’s Cat … keep the sacrum mobile to help ease

any back pain caused by pressure from this big object as it makes it’s journey down, through and out and create more space back to front.

• Internal work … how to prepare the birth canal to open up and let a big object pass through so there is no trauma to the woman’s body and your baby comes out promptly.




Then you have to learn the birth and coaching skills:• 5 Phases of each contractions … know how to work

with each phase of increasing and decreasing pain of contractions using one or more of your skills.

• Directed Breathing … how the birthing woman can use her inhalation to open her body and her exhalation to relax inside her body.

• Pelvic Clock … how a woman can soften inside her pelvis

• Communication … verbal and non-verbal skills so you can read and hear exactly when your partner is coping or needs your help.

• Positions … with plumbing in mind, you don’t want the woman to close off her space and hinder the baby’s journey.

• Deep relaxing touch … how to cue your partner to soften in very specific areas of her body.




Self Improvement

Giving birth is an exercise in plumbing