FRIEND OR FOE?

Created for I M CONFIDENT NIAGARA CANADAby Brenda Silveira

According to the dictionary, a friend is someone you know fairly well and someone you like, who is not a family member.

WHAT IS A FRIEND?

• Fun and companionship• Good for our health &

well-being• Boosts esteem• Helps build good

relationships• Develops career skills

WHY DO WE NEED FRIENDS?

• Developing trust & loyalty• How to handle emotions• How to communicate• Becoming responsible• Developing confidence• Understanding others• Making decisions• Solving problems• Developing identity• How to have fun

WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM FRIENDS?

• Build or destroy esteem• Increase or decrease stress• Calm or heighten emotions• Build or ruin reputation• Instill or destroy trust in people• Strengthen or weaken

relationships• Make us happy or sad

FRIENDS CAN...

• Complete trust in each other• Enjoy spending time together• Totally comfortable with them• Can share secrets that are not repeated• Can disagree without arguing• Encourage each other• Stick up for each other • Always there even when hurt or sick• Accept differences

WHAT MAKES A GOOD FRIEND?

• Can’t trust on them• Don’t always feel comfortable with them• Not always fun being with them• They spread rumours or gossip about you• Often fighting or disagreeing• Don’t encourage you• Don’t stick up for you• Not there when you need them• Often complaining or critical about you

WHAT MAKES A BAD FRIEND?

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who is smiling OR Someone who is frowning & friendly & unfriendly

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who is thankful OR Someone who is critical and

complaining.

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who shares OR Someone who doesn’t share

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who is comfortable OR Someone who is more with how they look interested in a mirror than you

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who is nice OR Someone who is nasty and shows kindness

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WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who is happy OR Someone who is unhappy & fun to be around & makes you miserable

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who accepts you OR Someone who points out you as you are flaws and imperfections.

WHO WOULD YOU CHOOSE AS A FRIEND?

Someone who keeps OR Someone who gossips your secrets about you

• If you have good esteem you will likely attract friends

• If you have poor esteem, you will likely repel friends

• Go back over slides 8 through 15 and determine if you are a good or bad friend

• Then take the necessary steps to changing your behaviour

• YOU CAN BE A GOOD FRIEND IF YOU WORK AT IT!

WHAT KIND OF FRIEND ARE YOU?

• We all have the potential of being a great friend because we all have great abilities and skills.

• If we learn to love ourselves (not in a vain or egotistical way), we will be able to love other people and they will love us back

• Need to build our confidence and increase our esteem

• Need to change our perspective

IF YOU WANT FRIENDS, YOU HAVE TO BE A FRIEND

• Even if you are confident and have strong esteem, there will be people who won’t like you.

• About 10% of the people in the world will never like you even if you are the most likeable person because of personality conflicts and interests

• Always try to be the best person you can be – JUST BE YOURSELF!!

FACT: EVERYONE WILL NOT LIKE YOU

For more information on building confidence and self-esteem, or to purchase a copy of my Self-Esteem workbook, visit my website at www.imconfident.com

THANK-YOU FOR WATCHING THIS PRESENTATION!