A loving Friendship HealsTo become a good friend, you must first be a friend to yourself. It is on this note that you can be able to love

someone else. But Who is a True Friend?Those who see the worst in you but believe the best in you

and would stick with you through the scandal and the fame. You cannot afford to stay with the wrong people in your inner circles. They would block you from rising beyond what seems

to be your limits

Connecting with the Right People

Happiness is a choice.

The reason you should not hang around the wrong people is that they would poison your spirit with the wrong messages, actions and condemn you in a well protected spiritual prison. Before you know, you would be fighting against yourself while your time would be running out. Your energy would also be misdirected until all you will be left with is bitterness.

The big question is; How do you know you are in a wrong kind of friendship?

Who should I Avoid Hanging Around With?

• Self-haters• Those who feel threatened by your success and thus dread it.• Friends who manipulate you into satisfying their selfish demands• Those who are comfortable with you staying at the same position all your life• People who do not trust you but consider everything you do suspicious • Those who condemn every step you take to move forward• Those who do not believe you could be the best in anything you do• Those who gossip with you about others ( they would also gossip about you with others)• Very critical persons• Envious persons• People with whom you are scared of sharing good news because they would get envious• People who snoop at everything you do wanting to know the details of every action/step you

take• People who believe they are better than you• Those who are experts at finding fault with everyone else• Who expect you to do what they would not do to you Watch out how you feel each time you are with the one you consider your friend. Your

conscience when you listen to it would teach you better than anyone else.

How to know you are connecting with the Right People

• The person who is always there for you• Shares the good and the bad with you• Can disagree with you and still be there for you• Would support your dream to nurse it come to fruition• Ready to hear you out• Gives the right information to empower you• Corrects you when you are taking a wrong step• Someone to whom you can run for advice• Someone whose criticism would build and promote you• The person loves him/herself and is confident enough to let you do the same• Lets you be who you are without trying to make you another person• Can defend you from attackers• Would inspire you in your darkest days How you feel around that person is what makes the person the right/wrong person to

stay around.

How to Break from the Wrong People

• Find who you are and accept the person you are• Refuse to be manipulated• Build your defense walls by clearly defining what you can

take and what you refuse to accept• Find peace with yourself and come alive in your humanity• Avoid spending much time with such people. Be friendly

but keep them far from your inner circle• Become the right person and the wrong person would

leave you• Start doing/behaving/talking/connecting with what fulfils

you• Openly tell your friends how you feel about the friendship

and how you would have loved it to be.

Become a Better Friend• Look for ways to feel good about yourself• Start doing the things that make you come alive and fulfill you as a

person• Respect and love people for who they are• Care for your friends in ordinary circumstances and even more when

they are facing tough challenges• Rejoice when good things are happening to your friends and mourn

when the reverse is true• Avoid gossiping about your friends• Share information that would make them grow• Help them accomplish their dreams• Give them the things you treasure• Avoid depending on them always but frequently ask yourself how you

can be of help to them• Be the first to understand, care, give, encourage and love them Remember that what you give lives and as you show friendship, true

friends would locate you. Become the best that you can and keep pressing forward. Be upbeat, positive and never stop learning.

You are on the Right Path• Reading this article shows you are a wonderful person

filled with wisdom to make a change on yourself while impacting your environment.

• I wish you the Best because that is what you deserve.• Remember that no one is perfect. As you move on in

life, strive to only be the best. Accept that sometimes others may not be the best but do well to love and care.

• May you achieve your dreams in the most friendly manner.

• True friendship is a treasure. Be a treasure to others. When you find one, keep it safe and sound

Judith Indu wishes you the best this Month!!!!!