Children and Self Discipline

What is Discipline?

The Process of Shaping and moulding a Child’s attitude

and behaviour over the years.

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Discipline Discipline is the use of methods to teach

children behavior guidelines.

Teaching these guidelines should begin as the child begins to move around.

To get along in the world…• Children need some

basic guidelines for behavior.

• Adults have the responsibility to teach children how to behave.

• Older brothers and sisters help by setting good examples.

Discipline Teaches.....• Self-control

• Limits

• Behavior patterns that are acceptable to society.

It should involve respect, support and encouragement as well as communication of limits or boundaries.

Effective Techniques

Set limits

with rules

Rules are necessary to

protect a child from

danger and set examples

of acceptable behavior.

Everyone is more

confident and comfortable

knowing how to act in a

new situation.

Communication Tell the child what he or she must do rather than what

they should not do!

Keep explanations simple and brief, they have limited vocabulary and a limited attention span.

Be prepared to repeat over and over to toddlers.

The difficult hostile child is the one who needs love and guidance the most!

Positive Reinforcement

• Children repeat the actions they are praised for!.

• Children give up any actions that are ignored by others.

Be Consistent! Discipline the same way every time that behavior occurs.

Be Fair! Be reasonable and impartial.

Be Firm! Stick to your rules.

Rewards• Reward the good behavior

– don’t only notice the negative behavior.

• Be immediate and direct with discipline and rewards – hugs are free!

DO:

• Set good examples and be the role model.

• Use timeout-remove the child from the misbehavior- this should give them time to think about the misbehavior.

• Take away privileges to promote desired behavior-especially with older children.

• Discipline the behavior-not the child!

• Consider the child’s age and ability.

• Match the consequence with the crime (misbehavior).

DON’T:• Do not Rely on physical punishment!

• Do not Make threats you cannot keep – older children.

• Do not yell – talk to the child and explain why he or she should or should not do certain things.

• Parents should be in agreement about discipline or not be in disagreement in front of the child.

Negative ReinforcementPunishment

It tends to discourage the behavior with which it is associated.

• Punishment should not take the place of encouragement and clearly stated limits.

• It can be part of positive and effective discipline, when used with good judgment.

Children are positively disciplined when:

• They are shown positive alternatives rather than

just told “no”

• They are encouraged to think of alternatives

to the misbehavior

• Their display of appropriate behavior is recognized

and rewarded

• They see how their actions affect others

• They are respected

• The expectations are fair, simple and consistently

enforced.

Children are positively disciplined when

Children are inconsistently disciplined when:

• Different limits are set on different days by the same

person

• Different adults set different limits

• No limits are set

• Limits are able to be changed

• Adult expectations are too high or low

Be preventative

• Change the environment to prevent

misbehaviour

Be preventative

• Cue the child using verbal, model, physical,

props or other prompts

• Ignore the inappropriate behavior

• Redirect or distract from potential problems

• State the rule before it is broken

• Give two appropriate alternative choices before

the inappropriate behavior occurs

Positive discipline is used when:

• Adults use a plan to:

– Respond quickly and calmly, using few words

– Reduce the misbehavior

– Replace the misbehavior by teaching an alternative,

appropriate skill that serves the same purpose as

the misbehavior

Hope you found the Presentation useful.

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