Self-AwarenessBy Don Vaillancourt

dovailla@teksystems.com / vaillancourt.don@gmail.com

What is it?It’s having a clear perception of your

1.strengths & weaknesses2.thoughts & self-talk3.values & beliefs4.motivation5.emotions

Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment.

Why?To become a better version of yourself and a more dependable member of society.

Breaking it down

Johnny’s Strengths and weaknesses are the skills that he does well or not so well within a given context.

Example: Johnny is an amazing programmer. But when Hubert gives him instructions, Johnny’s quick to dismiss him to get to work right away. Then when it’s time to deliver, it’s not what the client had asked for.

Lloyd often lets his thoughts get the better of him. He doesn’t realize that they affect his morale.

Example: Lloyd keeps thinking that he’ll sound dumb when the team meets the client, even though everyone tells him he does a great job and he has nothing to worry about.

Hubert’s values and beliefs are what guides his behaviour? Although he has good intentions he doesn’t always follow through.

Example: Hubert values team work. He believes that everyone should be accountable to everyone else. Yet when Lloyd needs help, Hubert is never around and he’s hard to reach. Often coming into work late.

Johnny is motivated by his own goals and what he believes in. That’s when he loves to take the initiative.

Other times Hubert needs to incentivise him. Sometimes with a carrot, other times with a stick.

What motivates Johnny?

Intrinsic Extrinsic● Autonomy● Belonging● Curiousity● Love● Learning● Mastery● Meaning

● Given Rewards (the carrot)

● Fear of repercussions(the stick)

Emotional Intelligence is being aware that emotions can drive our behavior and impact people.It’s learning how to manage our ownand other’s emotions.

Example: Johnny tries to explain to Lloyd how to do his work. But Lloyd just doesn’t understand what Johnny is saying.

Eventually Johnny gets frustrated and then becomes impatient. Finally he gets angry.

What Johnny doesn’t realize is that Lloyd is nervous, the more frustrated and angry Johnny gets, the more nervous Lloyd get.

Emotional Wheel

Becoming Self Aware

Be proactive. Write a manifesto.Be Constantly Aware.Write in a journal.

Explore the moment.Self-Reflection.Get Support.Mindfulness.

Journal writing is an exercise to help you become more self-aware. After every event document the following:What was the event?What did you observe?What emotion did you feel?What were you thinking?How should the interaction have gone better?

PersonalitiesPersonality Profiles: Dominant, Influential, Steady, Compliant

Interaction With the World: Introvert, Extrovert, Ambivert

Thinking Habit: Proactive or Reactive

Big Five Personality Traits: Openness to experience, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, Neuroticism

Personality Theory: Type A and Type B

Personality ProfilesDominant

1. Active & Task Focussed2. Direct, Decisive, Doer3. Domineering, Demanding

Influential

1. Active & People Focussed2. Inspirational, Interactive,

Interesting3. Impulsive, Irritating

Compliant

1. Reflective & Task Focussed2. Cautious, Careful, Conscientious3. Calculating, Condescending

Steady

1. Reflective & People Focussed2. Stable, Supportive, Sincere3. Slow, Sensitive

Interaction with the WorldSix Facets of

Extraversion:Introvert Ambivert Extravert

Enthusiasm Holds down positive feelings Demonstrates some positive feeling

Shows a lot of positive feelings

Sociability Prefers working alone Occasionally seeks others Prefers working with others

Energy Mode Prefers being still in one place

Maintains a moderate activity level

Prefers to be physically active

Taking Charge Prefers being independent of others

Accepts some responsibility for others

Enjoys responsibility of leading others

Trusts of Others

Skeptical of others Is somewhat trusting Readily trusts others

Tact Speaks without regard for consequences

Exerts moderate care in selecting words

Carefully selects the right words

Thinking Habit

Proactive Reactive● Initiative● Responsibility● Influence● Leadership

● Influenced by other people and circumstances

● no responsibility● no initiative

Big Five Personality Traits

Extraversion Friendliness, Gregariousness, Assertiveness, Activity Level, Excitement-Seeking, Cheerfulness

Agreeableness Trust, Morality, Altruism, Cooperation, Modesty, Sympathy

Conscientiousness

Self-efficiency, Orderliness, Dutifulness, Achievement-striving, Self-discipline, Cautiousness

Neuroticism Anxiety, Anger, Depression, Self-consciousness, Immoderation, Vulnerability

Openness to Experience

Imagination, Artistic Interests, Emotionality, Adventurousness, Intellect, Liberalism

Personality TheoryType A Type B

● Always moving, walking and eating rapidly.

● Feel impatient with the rate at which most events take place.

● Strive to think or do two or more things at the same once.

● Cannot cope with leisure time.● Are obsessed with numbers,

measuring their success in terms of how many or how much of everything they acquire.

● Never suffer from a sense of urgency with its accompanying impatience.

● Feel no need to display or discuss either their achievements or accomplishments unless such exposure is demanded by the situation.

● Play for fun & relaxation, instead of exhibit their superiority at any cost.

● Can relax without guilt.

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