>The ideal is that courtship (pagmaya-maya, literally flirting or "fooling around") is improper, inevitably leading to premarital sex, and that only a total prohibition of any contact between unmarried persons of the opposite sex can prevent the normal human tendency to engage in sexual relations if given the opportunity.

Traditional a guy must talk

to his parents and tell them to whom he wants to marry.

Parents of the girl will decide who will be her husband whether she like it or not.

Modern A tausug guy

can court someone but be sure that the guy must not touch the girl.

It is prohibited to have a relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend unless it's a fixed marriage agreed by both parents.

Traditional it must be an

agreement of both parents.

They will ask for a down payment or sometimes they’ll asked for a diamond.

The family of the girl must decide the value of the dowry.

Modern According to

Qur’ an touching a girl is prohibited unless you are already married.

It is ashamed to see someone to have an affair but not yet married.

Traditional Courtship is

“haram” the guy must talk straight and ask the girl to marry in front of their parents.

Arranged marriage by parents.

Modern It is okay to be

together as long as the guy won't touch the girl.

It is prohibited to both of you to watch movie in the movie house or “cinehan” you must be in a group.

Traditional there’s no such thing courting a girl

before, the guy must go direct to the girl’s house and have an agreement with the family of the girl.

Courting must be accompanied by proposal.

There’s a three session the guy must do:

- 1st session- the guy must visit the family of the girl and tell his purpose. The guy must bring with him an “ustads”- a representative, who is familiar with the Islam Law.

- 2nd session- the representative of each clan will make an agreement about the value of the dowry and will set a date for their wedding.

- 3rd session- will be the wedding.

Traditional Fixed marriage. Same as the others but the

relationship will be secret and just keep it within themselves.

The guy must give the demands or requests by the girl's parents.

>There is no publicly recognized courtship between unamarried young people; ideally marriages are arranged by parents.

>it is SHAMEFUL for a young man and woman to be caught together; or for a girl merely to be touched by a man.

>shame or “sipug” in tausug

A young man cannot- and in practice does not- publicly confront an unmarried girl. His knowledge of her must be indirect, based upon reputation parental background, and external appearance and demeanor.

PREPARED BY:

FAMINDALAN, ZENEFMANDAC ,PATRICK JAY

LIT 101- C