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Bedminster • Cranford • Freehold Hackensack • Mount Laurel • Parsippany
Acknowledging Male Victims of Domestic Violence:
H e lp ing Male V ic t ims G e t th e Su p port & P ro te ct ion Th e y D e serve
Male Domestic Violence By The Numbers
- 1 in 4 men (28.5%) in the United States
have experienced rape, physical violence,
and/or stalking by an intimate partner or
spouse in their lifetime.
- 1 in 7 men have experienced severe
physical violence by an intimate partner or
spouse.
- 53% of all male victims experienced some
form of intimate partner violence before
they were 25 years old.
- Approximately 15% of documented
contacts to the National Domestic Violence
Hotline identify themselves as male victims.
Sources:
CDC: National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey, 2010
National Domestic Violence Hotline
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Challenges to Getting Help for All DV Victims
- Intense self-doubt and anxiety
- Fear their abusers will seek retribution if they go to the police
- Uncertainty about leaving their home for temporary safe house shelter
- Concern about what will happen to their kids
Why Male Victims Avoid Getting Help
- Fear that men who claim victim status won’t be taken seriously by the police.
- Fear that seeking help will result in further negative repercussions, such as the abusive spouse making false accusations.
- Fear that domestic violence laws don’t protect male victims, and related laws, such as child custody laws, are biased against men.
- Fear that domestic violence agencies don’t offer assistance to men.
Fear: Law Enforcement & The Courts Don’t Take Male Victims Seriously
-Law enforcement officers
understand the diversionary
tactics abusers try to use and
are trained to do their job to
assess the incident and take
the correct action.
-Likewise, the courts exist to
examine the weight of
evidence in an impartial
setting.
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Documenting Domestic Violence: Action Steps for Men
- Start keeping a log of all instances of abusive actions taken by your partner. Be
specific with dates, places, times, what happened, and the names of any witnesses.
- Carefully document any cuts, bruises or other injuries. Take photos and seek medical
care as needed.
- If you feel unsafe having this information in your home, leave it with a trusted friend or
family member.
- In the event you call the police, or someone else calls 911 to report an incident, or
you need to go to court, producing this kind of evidence can be a powerful tool to
clarify the situation.
- Men can help law enforcement and the courts do their jobs by being completely up
front with what has been happening in the relationship.
Fear: Domestic Violence Agencies Don’t Help Men
- Female-centric agency names may send male victims the message that they aren’t welcome — even when they are!
- If a shelter or organization receives federal funding, most sources require that services are provided to all victims of abuse.
- If your organization offers help to men, list this somewhere on your website and Facebook page.
- Let DV Hotlines know that your organization is a male victim-friendly referral.
Fear: Domestic Violence Laws Are Stacked Against Men
-Laws in New Jersey pertaining to
domestic violence and temporary
restraining orders are gender-free.
-Despite this, men often go to court for a
TRO feeling like their gender will bias the
courts against them.
-Access to legal assistance is important
for all victims, including male victims.
-Study: 83 percent of victims who had an
attorney help them file a restraining
order successfully obtained one,
compared to approximately 30 percent of
victims without counsel.
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TRO Form
bit.ly/TRO-forms
bit.ly/TRO-forms
Fear: Gay Male Victims Will Be “Outed”
- Gay or transgender men who wish to keep their sexual orientation private may believe they will need to reveal this information in order to get help.
- Men need to hear the message: It is enough to identify yourself as a victim of domestic violence.
- Agencies can help by making privacy policies readily available and understood.
Fear: Men Who Seek Help Are Weak
- Men are socialized to suppress their emotions.
- Young boys are still taught to “suck it up” and “be a man.”
- Society on a whole still embraces narrow definitions of gender.
A Message for Male Victims & All Victims of DV:
Few actions require as
much bravery as walking
away from an abusive
relationship. Recognizing
that you need of help, and
taking the steps to get this
help, is not a sign of
weakness. It is a sign of
immense strength.
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