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Compassion
Focused therapy
Session 5Compassionate Awareness
Cultivating Mindfulness
Layers:Cft builds in layers:
• Safe group space
• Understanding vs self-blame
• New layer: Mindful Awareness
Mindfulness:
If we are to work with our suffering, we must
be able to tolerate it, stay with it
Mindfulness allows us to pay attention to the
present moment (outside and inside our
brains)
We allow ourselves to just be with our
experience, to notice and observe without
judging, criticizing, or blaming
Mindful Awareness
Useful for people who are haunted by self-
critical thoughts
The problem is not that we have these
thoughts (most people do from time to time)
The problem comes when we ruminate on
them, rehearse them and believe them
Mindfulness
Mindfulness allows us to see thoughts and
feelings as mind objects instead of who we
are
Three Flower Pots
Imagine three flower pots:
Mindfulness
It doesn’t matter what you put in front of your
minds’ eye, it will always be you looking at it
The voice inside our head
Ever notice what happens in our minds during
a lull in conversation? When we’re alone?
The Voice What is this voice? It never stops talking, and 70-80 % of
what is says is negative
It gets really loud when we’re trying to sleep:
“Omigod, I forgot to call Fred, what is he going to think? I’ve got such a load tomorrow, I hate work, these kids are driving me crazy, maybe I’d be better off alone, I hate being alone, I’m going to be alone forever, what’s wrong with you? Get your act together, what if? What if? Some thing bad is going to happen, I just know it, I’m such an idiot, how could it not. It’s not fair, why do things have to be so unfair, I hate my life, what a disaster, my mother was right, I’ll never be anything, no wonder everyone leaves me… and on and on and on….
The Voice
Is this voice you?
Who is this voice?
This voice is not you
You are the one who is hearing it
Nothing it says is any more real than anything
else in your mind
(remember the three flowerpots)
Why does it talk?
The talking releases built up nervous, fearful
or desire-based energy.. Like a teakettle
whistling
When you are angry with someone, how
many times do you tell them off inside of your
head?
It talks because we are not okay inside and
talking releases stored energy
The Manic Roommate
Imagine you spend the day just listening to the voice
Your inner voice never stops chattering, observing, fortune-telling, criticizing. It changes its mind, is conflicted, jumps from one thing to another
Now imagine this a person sitting next to you on the couch, a roommate you take everywhere
The Manic Roommate
Image if you had to listen to the incessant,
neurotic, conflicting chatter all day from a real
person
How long would we last?
Would we pay this person money to advise us
on finances, relationships, our future?
The Maniac Roommate
Why do we give it all of our attention, and
believe every word it says?
Have we ever bothered to check it’s
credentials?
How often is it right/wrong?
Where will we put our attention?
Attention Practice
Attention is like the spotlight of the mind
Let’s practice..
Series of words
When you hear the word, direct your attention
to where the word indicates
So if I say “left elbow” direct your attention to
your left elbow….
Let’s discuss…
How quickly could you shift your attention was
is fast or slow?
Notice how you could switch from something
very narrow, like your elbow to something
very broad like world peace
Mindfulness Practice
Mindful check-in
Why?
Develop the habit of bringing attention to body experiences, get used to noticing
Notice without judging
Easy practice to transfer to life in general
Thinking vs observing
Thinking about your feet vs observing your feet
Practice: Tactile anchor point
Choose a stone
Just notice qualities.. Mindfulness practice pg
114 green book
Benefits of Mindful Practice
Mindfulness can grow parts of the brain that are involved with feelings of self-soothing and emotional regulation
After 8 weeks of practice the amygdala (or fear center) shrinks
Brain registers less physical pain (source: Scientific American Website)
Develops ability to pause and choose action, instead of gut reacting
How Mindfulness affects the
brain:
Video Sara Lazar, Harvard Universtiy
8 weeks, 30-40 mins per day of Meditation
causes an increase in areas of:
Thinking, planning and emotional control
Compassion and understanding
And a decrease in: fear and anxiety
Summary and Homework:
Mindfulness allows us to observe without judgment, developing compassion
It allows us to tolerate and work with difficult emotions
It sets the stage for the rest of the CFT program, cultivating compassionate strengths
Homework Practice for two mins per day (set timer) and record reaction in journal