Fear, Anxiety & Phobia

The discussion of todayDr Rupa Talukdar

A feeling of trouble, unease, or apprehensiveness in response to imminent danger.

Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn't feel it, we couldn't protect ourselves from legitimate threats.But often we fear situations that are far from life-or-death, and thus hang back for no good reason. Traumas or bad experiences can trigger a fear response within us that is hard to quell. Yet exposing ourselves to our personal demon(evil spirit) is the best way to move past them.

Anxiety A feeling of doom, unease, or apprehensiveness when no

danger is imminently present.Anxiety is a general term for several

disorders that cause nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worrying.

These disorders affect how we feel and behave, and they can manifest real physical symptoms.

Mild anxiety is vague and unsettling, while severe anxiety can be extremely incapacitating,

having a serious impact on daily life.

PhobiaA phobia is a type of anxiety. It's an irrational,

unreasonable fear of an object or situation.A phobia starts when a person begins organizing their lives around avoiding the object of their fear. A phobia is much more serious than a simple fear. Sufferers have an overpowering need to steer clear of anything which triggers their anxiety.

Individuals with a phobia go to great lengths to avoid a perceived danger which is much greater in their minds than in real life. 

If confronted with the source of their phobia, the person will suffer enormous distress, which

can interfere with their normal function; it can sometimes lead to total panic.

The body‘s response to danger (or stress-

provoking events) and the associated

symptoms.Anything that poses a challenge or a threat to our well-being is a

stress. Some stresses get you going and they are good for you - without any stress many say our lives would be boring and would probably feel pointless. However,

when the stresses undermine both our mental and physical

health they are bad. 

The difference between "stress" and "a stressor“

Rigidity and Flexibility

It’s the personality

Human being generally can adapt with the changes around.

In practice it has been observed that there is few people who gladly accept the

change and some people are there who at first attempt stay uncomfortable with the

change: they are of rigid personality.All around us each and every inch of life changes as we grow with time: change is

the LIFE: students, adults whose emotional and cognitive functioning are rigid , they

suffer a lot: they will be under stress.

When everything around is OK/not Ok

We have tendency to fixing blame first instead of realizing the problem/conflict

No blame is allowed: need an attempt to analyze the failure of certain

project/action/deedJust have an idea:• The quality of a painting is the responsibility

of a painter only. Like this quality of our life and lifestyle is the sole responsibility of us only.

• So a person is only ok when the same person gets the right man within himself /herself and then only s/he can see the world outside right.

To be Ok, need to learn how to be a responsible person

Leading a life of own is only possible if a person learns how to take joy and sorrow with equal responsibility

If cause of joy is only the responsibility of a person then reason of failure is also for the same person

Needs to learn success and failure with equal interest

For failure instead of blaming others it is wise to analyze the entire situation being flexible to accept the new approach

Open to ideas may bring triumph in the next step and helps a person to learn there

is always an alternative process to achieve a goal.

Why we could not analyze the reality of failure

It’s the personality

of the person

The environment around

The childhood learning process

The immediate relatives in the family

It is the personalityIn our previous lesson we talked about the BIG Five Personality : 5-Dimentional personality

Extraversion/IntroversionAgreeableness: skill of going alongNeuroticism: instabilityConscientiousness: motivationOpenness: alternative way of thought

The combination of above 5-dimension constitutes a personality

How to manage all these factors in life!!!

Personality is the

combination of

these five factors:

Variation of these five

factors produces a

unique nature of

each personality,

for these each human

being is unique in

nature

So there is no common

way to nurture a

baby: every individual demands a set of new

approaches

There is some general

categories which every individual

should learn to have a complete

picture: but when a person

is going to deal with

reality s/he should have capacity to adopt an

alternative as per situation.

So our seniors has duty to cultivate

creativity in every individual so that they can

bring innovation

when a generalized

approach fails.

Creativity invites

alternatives in life; it brings a freshness and

sooth in personality;

that generates ultimate

happiness in life.

Be happy with changes of life: it helps you to be competent

For enjoying a life we need to be competent to handle our life situation

First step is to remember, it is my life; so it’s our situation that we are going to face every moment of our life

Foremost duty of us to become knowledgeable how to handle the life situation

To become knowledgeable each one of us needs to be courageous to act as an observer and have keenness to generate next step to face the situation positively.

Which personality suffers most!!!!!!

Personality with Extreme Anxiety proneness:

• To them each and every change is anxiety provoking-they can not simply allow anything around to change for even betterment of the same person in future: always suspicious about the steps taken

Oversensitive personality

• They can not absorb the remarks/opinions of others around; extreme sensitiveness brings discomfort of their life and thus blocks the usual growth of life; this personality generally stays withdrawal and aloof.

If the personality of a person can change at all

It’s the MOTIVATION if a person has s/he can be a changed person at last.

SUCCESS/achievement at last speaks a lot: if a person is successful to touch his/her Goal and target in life: life has been changed totally.

So we only need to help a person to stay motivated towards his/her aim in life: finding an appropriate aspire in life is a big question as it deserve skillful

analysis of the chosen options-teachers and parents have a big role to help a child to be competent

throughout its life.

Being positive & negative: what implies it????Being positive means being hopeful and

enthusiastic, it enhances degree of driving force and effort: really when we make an attempt we get ready to accumulate energy to take the struggle of facing unknown: hopefulness increases the shower of hormones that needs to be there in our body to step out for managing life situation

Failure only reminds us to have more potential to win a race: it is the reminder .

When a person is anxiety prone/oversensitive: Need the action of support systemThe support system of the person should know how to

behave with the personAs the name suggests that person needs to be treated

by support system appropriately:1. Be careful of anxiety provoking subjects2. Slowly help the person to get ready to

accommodate with the new situation/concept3. Keep time for the preparative phase : as they will

be slow learners initially4. Most important part is to help them to desensitize

the cause of anxiety by developing alternative way out in a soothing environment

Stress: Male Vs FemaleThe approach to stress is different for the two cases:

male and femaleCommon concept about WOMENMulti-taskingMore of a mother than a professionalMotherhood brings change of Career: break in CareerExtremely Anxiety prone

Few women are stable in nature, but their number is very low.

It is not the compliment, it is the truth of WOMENMale and female both are under stress –but women’s stress is

unique in nature: e.g.,

Child care is a STRESS but it develops a special skill that every woman has which is generated in her hormonal set-up-this part is physiological.

In later phase of life after the end of child care the STRESS may turn into Obsession, Cleanliness, Re-check, Repeated thought process, Over possessiveness and Extreme fearful if family members do not conscious about it-females suffer mostly.

Women are unique in nature: they really need to be conscious about the design of their physiological and psychological set-up.

STRESS: SOMETIMES ASSETS-

SOMETIMES IRRITATING

So, Know your STRESS(Eustress Vs. Distress)

Stress is not always a bad. Stress is simply the body's response to changes that create taxing demands.

Eustress, which is a term for positive stress &

Distress, which refers to negative stress

Eustress Vs. Distress

Eustress Vs. Distress

Uniqueness because of OXYTOCIN

Men and women react differently to STRESS is HORMONES:

CORTISOL, EPINEPHRINE, OXYTOCIN

When stress strikes, hormones  raise a person's blood pressure and lowers the effectiveness of the immune system.Production of cortisol and epinephrine same between men and women. But the secretion of oxytocin differs-the cause of uniquness in women.In women, when cortisol and epinephrine rush through the bloodstream in a stressful situation, oxytocin comes into play. It is released from the brain, countering the production of cortisol and epinephrine, and PROMOTING NURTURING AND RELAXING EMOTIONS-at certain level they enjoy to be involved.While men also secrete the hormone oxytocin when they're stressed, it's in much smaller amounts.

Stress Increases Empathy in Women, Decreases It in MenMen respond to stress in a

fight-or-flight manner, conserving their energy for the confrontation

Women on the other hand, take a "tend-and-befriend" approach.

So women are good in BABY CARE and Service Oriented Industry.

Who’s Under More Stress?-Statistics

Women undergo lots of stress

from their lifestyle

You are the sufferer

specially after giving birth a

Child

Thank you

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