Definition of Grief. Review of 5 stages of grief by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. Ways we can help youth who are greiving. How to make separation or loss easier.
Text of Separation, Grief and Loss
1. Separation, Grief & Loss negative impact of multiple placements, importance of effective transitions, benefits of including the clients family in therapy
2. Youth experience grief & loss during:
anniversaries of death or significant event
loss of safety after a traumatic event
transitions from placements
Youth remember being with their family or friends during these events.It may be the first time away from home during a significant event
3. What is Grief?
A natural response to loss
The response to the loss results in how severe the grief
Small losses may result in grief if the child had a poor response
Grieving is personal and highly individual experience
4. How a person Grieves
Nature of the Loss
Grieving takes time Healing cannot be rushed
5. Nonormal timeline for grieving
Grieving can take
6. Myths or Facts about Grief?
The pain will go away faster if the youth ignores it.
It s important for the youth to be strong in the face of loss.
If they don t cry, it means they arent sorry about the loss.
Grief should last about a year.
7. 5 Stages of Grief Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Denial:This cant be happening to me.
Anger: Whyis this happening? Who is to blame? (My case worker? Foster family?)
Bargaining: Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.
Depression:Im too sad to do anything.
Acceptance: Im at peace with what happened.
8. Grief can be a roller coaster
Full of ups and downs
Highs and lows
Rougher in the beginning
Lows may be deeper and longer
As time goes on, the lows are less intense and shorter
It takes time to work through a los
Source:Hospice Foundation of America
9. Common Symptoms of Grief
Shock or disbelief
Fatigue, nausea, lowered immunity, weight loss or weight gain, aches and pains, and insomnia
10. What we can do to help Identify that they are feeling grief Listen to youth Express empathy for their loss Communicate with your Supervisor and the youth s therapist Connect youth to other family or friends through phone calls or visits Provide Structure and a set Schedule Use Positive Reinforcement when they take care of themselves Don t tell a youth how they should feel Plan ahead for grieftriggers Anniversaries, holidays, etc 11. Multiple Placements
It is typical for youth with behavioral problems in foster care to experience multiple family placements.
Multiple placements leave children confused, scared, and grieving for previous families.
Multiple placements are to be avoided as much as possible
If you do decide to move the youth, you are required to give a 10 days notice
We like to have a gradual transition if possible, the youth spends visits with the new family, gradually increasing in length as the child adjusts to the new family.
If the youth is going to go home, it s important that the natural family be involved in family therapy and visits. The foster parent needs to be extremely pleasant to the relationship between the child and their parents.
13. Working with Natural Parents
Look for the positives. Point out the positives.
Compliment the parents
Be supportive of visits, never threaten to take visits away.
Refer to your consultant for any criticism or frustration re: parents. Do not talk negatively of parents in front of the child.
Youth will be moved from placements if the foster family is not supportive of the reunification plan.
14. Family Therapy
Many of our youth will have weekly or bi-monthly family therapy services.
Be supportive of the youth and family and the important work they are doing.
Be on-time to appointments, be pleasant to natural parents, ask natural parents for feedback or suggestions.
Family therapy is a great way for youth to work through their grief and loss and the feelings they have for being brought into foster care.
Allow the youth to be quiet or need space after family therapy. Typically youth will struggle with the time immediately after and will need your support and empathy.
Express to the youth that you re available if they need to talk.