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"The happiest moments of my life have been the few which I have passed at home in the bosom of my family."

-- Thomas Jefferson

Thomas Jefferson

According to many recent studies of well-being one of the most important factor in providing happiness is close social relations particularly in the family. People who are married are happier than those who are not.

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Christopher Lasch begins his book with this question:

‘why has family life become so painful, marriage so fragile, relations between

parents and children so full of

recrimination?’ (p.xiv)

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• The community, the lord, the parents decided a good match for their children

• Marriage was not based on love. Husbands and wives were generally strangers until they first met. If love was involved at all it came after the couple had been married.

• The arrangement of the marriage was based on monetary worth• Girls could be 12 years old and boys 17 when they married

Arranged Medieval Marriage:A Matter of Politics and Property

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Luther Paves the Way

MartinKatharina

von Bora

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Ordered by Father By attraction

Political Reason

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Presentation of Marie de Medici’s Portrait to Henri IV Wedding by Proxy of Marie de’ Medici to King Henri IV, 1606

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Charlotte de Montmorency

Long Distance Marriage for Diplomatic Reasons Flounders She is fifteen and he is 57

Henry IV

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William Hogarth, Marriage à la Mode, 1743

Lawyer Silvertongue

Lord Squanderfield

SonSquanderfield

Bride Father ofBride

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_%C3%A0-la-mode

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Scene 2, Shortly after Marriage. Exhausted husband from a night on the town –(brothel?). Lady’s cap in his master’s pocket. It is breakfast time, the woman is already tired. There was card playing in night. The butler is disgusted: The household is in chaos. The butler leaves despairingly, a clutch of bills

Religious pictures

Behind curtain erotic picture

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The Visit to the Quack DoctorCount visiting an avaricious doctor with two women, to determine who gave him a sexual disease

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The Countess’s Levee (Toilette) Marriage a la Mode, Scene 4She is now a countess and mother. The lawyer Silvertongue invites her to a masquerade

'Jupiter and Io‘

'Lot and his Daughters'

Lawyer Silvertongue

Countess

husband

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The Death of the Earl, Count catches his wife with her lover, Lover kills Husband. As she comforts the stricken man, the murderer in his nightshirt makes a hasty exit through her bedroom window.

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The Suicide of the Countess, Countess poisons herself in her grief and poverty-stricken widowhood, after her lover is hanged for murdering her husband.

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The 18th Century

the small nuclear families emerged. They were a product of a greater freedom in individual choice (young men set up business/farm and get married; They marry women who could help their business; together they take advantage of the economic opportunities made available

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Marriage based on Romantic Love:•Idealization of the loved one•Notion of a one and only•Love at first sight•Love winning out over all•An indulgence of personal emotion

•Work (Public Sphere) was separated from the Home (Private Sphere), more individualized, more child-centered

•together with this new notion of childhood, the modern

wife emerged; woman as the object of adoration and protection (romantic love), and she was then the custodian of family/home as a sanctified sphere

• women’s child-nourishing responsibilities were elevated to supreme virtues, and true womanhood was about piety, submissiveness, gentleness and purity; sex (to be hidden from the innocent children) is to be confined to marriage and family

•Gender bias: Man the Breadwinner and worker in the Public Sphere

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In India– People in arranged marriages reported more romantic love after 5 yrs of marriage– than People who married for love (Gupta & Singh, 1982)

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The Donna Reed Show, The Donna Reed Show, 1958-1958-19661966

Leave It Leave It to Beaverto Beaver1957-19631957-1963

FatherFather Knows Best, Knows Best,1954-1954-19581958

The Ozzie & Harriet The Ozzie & Harriet ShowShow

1952-19661952-1966

Toward the End of the Victorian – Traditional Family

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Family……………TransformationSexual…………..Revolution Feminist Movement

Ecology MovementWar Protest MovementDrug Revolution

Birth years: 1946 – 1964; Formative years: ’50s to early ’80s

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The Median Age at Which Americans Marry for the First Time

is Rising

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NeverMarried

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Playing with fire

10 times more common than 30 years ago

About 40% will be at one time or other in a cohabiting family

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The divorce rate in the US has risen fivefold since 1910

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Current divorce rates imply that half of all marriage will end in

divorce

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What Percentage of Americans are Divorced?

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ROMANTIC LOVE primary bond holding couple together

INDIVIDUALISM personal needs to be met

GENDER ROLESIMPACT OF WOMEN’S GROWING INDEPENDENCE AND CAREER ORIENTATION

SOCIAL INSTITUTIONSCHANGES IN LAWS, RELIGION AND THE FAMILY HAVE AFFECTED DIVORCE. “NO-FAULT DIVORCES”

VALUES AND NORMSDIVORCE DOES NOT HOLD THE STIGMA IT ONCE DID FOR THOSE INVOLVED

TEENAGE MARRIAGEREALITY SETTLES IN VERY QUICKLY

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PARENTAL DIVORCE. DID ONE OR BOTH PERSONS EXPERIENCE DIVORCE AS CHILDREN?

REMARRIED COUPLES. Remarried have higher divorce rate

HIGH EXPECTATIONS. High expectations not met lead to divorce

LIMITED ECONOMIC RESOURCES

If a WIFE EARNS MORE than her husband the likelihood of divorce increases

If WIFE IS IN POOR HEALTH divorce is more likely

The more housework a wife does, the less likely a couple will divorce

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Shawn Southwick (1997 – present)Julie Alexander (1989 – 1992; div.)Sharon Lepore (1976 – 1984; div.)Alene Akins (1967 – 1972; 2nd div.)Mickey Sutphin (1963 – 1967; div.) SAlene Akins (1961 – 1963; div.)Frada Miller (1952 – 1953; annull.)Annette Kaye; (Dates Unknown; divorced)

King has been married eight times to seven

women

Larry King

Serial Monogamya form of monogamy characterized by several successive, short-term marriages over the course of a lifetime.

http://www.answers.com/topic/larry-king

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Single men with children as % of all families with children

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% 1981

1991

Single women with children as % of all families with children

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B DK D GR E F IRL I L NL P UK SF N S CH USA CND

%1981

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1960 1995

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Giovanni Arnolfini and Giovanni Arnolfini and His WifeHis Wife

(Wedding Portrait)(Wedding Portrait)

Jan Van EyckJan Van Eyck

14341434

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&source=hp&q=Giovanni+Arnolfini+and+His+Wife%2C+ppt&btnG=Google+Search&aq=f&oq=&aqi=

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Green dress

-hope

white cap –

purity

red curtains- physical love,

carnal union

The small medallions are from the Passion of Christ, represent God’s

promise of salvation for the figures reflected on the mirror’s convex

surface, which in turn, represent the eye of God observing the vows

of the wedding.

Jan van Eyck’s message (symbolism)

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The single burning candle in the chandelier represents "the ever present Jesus Christ in the marriage”

The cast off shoes indicate the bride and groom stand on holy ground as they are married. 

The dog represents the faithfulness in marriage.  

Jan van Eyck’s message (symbolism) cont.

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The mirror, like the chandelier and candle, represent God's all-seeing eye.

The oranges probably represent fertility and prosperity.

The small statue on the bed post is of Saint Margaret, who is the patron saint of childbirth.

Jan van Eyck’s message (symbolism) cont.

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In the Beginning, at Creation, before the entrance of sin God established the Monogamous Family

Gen. 2:18-25

At the End of Time, and in Revelation 22: 16 there is the image of Monogamy again as the “The Spirit and the Bride say ‘Come (Lamb [Bridegroom]”

After the Fall, the families of the Bible are as diverse as those of our era. If we want our families to be biblical, which biblical family do we have in mind? Genesis, chapters 2, 16 and 29, I Kings 11, and the book of Ruth

Adam and Eve,Abraham, Sarah and his concubine Hagar? Jacob and his two wives Leah and Rachel? King Solomon and his seven hundred wives?Or Ruth and her mother-in-law Naomi Or shall we emulate the apostle Paul, who advised Christians that it is better to remain unmarried? 1 Cor 7:7-9

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