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HOW TO RELATE TO A DEAF CHILD:
A Seminar for Parents of the DeafMarch 5, 2011
Joy L. [email protected]
Objectives of the Seminar
EXAMINE Hearing parents -Deaf children relationship by identifying issues &
points of conflict;
UNDERSTAND Hearing parents-Deaf childrenrelationship by recognizing the impact &
consequences of deafness on the relatoinship;
PROPOSE ways to improve the relationship between Hearing parents and Deaf children.
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
DEAF PARENTS-DEAF CHILDREN
RELATIONSHIP
HEARING PARENTS –DEAF CHILDREN
RELATIONSHIP
Our Focus
The DYNAMICS of the
relationships differ.
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
90 % deaf children
With Hearing parents
10 %
90 % of Deaf Children are born to Hearing Parents
Many hearing parents are notprepared to havedeaf children.
Don’t go out.Watch T.V.
Uhh!I’m
bored!
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Relationship is a journey together.
Hearing Parents Deaf Child
DEVELOPMENT
DEVELOPMENT
Parenthood Deafhood
- Growth & maturation as parents.
- To be the largest Deaf person one can possibly be.
(Ladd, 2004)Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
RELATIONSHIP
Emotional Bond-Love &
Acceptance
Communication-Clarity & Adequacy
Control-Expectations
(rules & norms)
Awareness & understandingof the Deaf Experience
Perspectives on Deaf People
Emotional Bond: Issue on Acceptance
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Have I accepted my deaf child for what s/he is?
Or I still wish s/he becomes
hearing; acts & behaves like a
hearing person?
Do my parents accept me as a Deaf
person? I feel they want me
to become like a hearing person.
Communication: Issue on lack of communication & Miscommunication
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
I like to sign to express myself well.
Speak.Practice
your speech.
Very poor English skills !
Parents’ Control over the Deaf Child: Issue on Deaf Uniqueness:Language, identity & culture
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
HEARING Parents decide on:
1.Communication mode-preference on speech2. Identity (personal/group)3. Perspectives on Deaf people4.Behavior as a Deaf person
The Deaf child’s reactions to parental control might
change with growing awareness as a Deaf person.
Understanding the Deaf Experience
How well do hearing parents understand the Deaf Experience?
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
ANO PO ANG GUSTO NYONG MALAMAN SA INYONG MGA ANAK NA DEAF?
ANO ANG PROBLEMA NYO SA MGA ANAK NYONG DEAF?
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Common Questions of Hearing Family Members (Parents/ Brothers & Sisters)
• 1. Bakit ang anak kong Deaf ayaw mag-stay sa bahay? Gusto lagi nasa Deaf friends? (Why my Deaf child does not like to stay home? S/he likes always with Deaf friends.)
• 2. Bakit ang bagal matuto ng anak kong Deaf? (Why does my Deaf child’s learning lag behind?)
• 3. Bakit ang anak kong Deaf parang immature ? Mas mature pa sa kanya yung bunso! (Why does my Deaf child seems immature? The youngest is more mature than her/him.)
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
The real handicap of deafness is in the area of communication.It affects all aspects of development because of the role that
communication plays in human life.
Communication
& Language
Deficiencies
COGNITIVE
DEVELOPMENT
SOCIAL
Development
EMOTIONAL
Development
MORAL
SPIRITUAL
DevelopmentJoy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
PARENTS
TEACHERS
STRANGERS
PROFESSIONALS
RELATIVES
PEERS
NEIGHBORS
SIBLINGS DEAF SELF
What does it mean to be deaf? Am I
normal?
Am I OKAY
?
Am I inferior?
MEMBERS OF OTHER COMMUNITIES
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
The Deaf Person
Results ofSuccessful Coping
Results of Poor Coping
Having social adjustmentdifficulties
Clear IdentityUnresolved Identity
Socially Adjusted
Emotionally AdjustedHigh self-esteem
Realistic self-concept
Having emotionalIssues
Low self-esteemPoor self-concept
Cognitive Development at parw/peers; Informed
Delayed Cognitive Devt.Information deficit
Language competent; Age-appropriate reading & writing skills
Language incompetent; Low reading & writing skills;
very poor vocabulary
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
The Developmental Environment
The Hearing Family
The Hearing
Community
The Deaf Community
The Deaf Child
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Deaf way
Deaf World
Deaf Culture
Deaf people are members of a culture & a linguistic minority sector.
Hearing World
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Hearing Parents
Deaf Chikl
HEARING CULTURE
DEAF CULTURE
Awareness of the cultures and Adjustment to each other
Relationship
CONFLICT may happen.
1. SOCIOEMOTIONAL NEEDS –acceptance, belonging, HAPPINESS, friendship, support, IDENTITY, etc.
2. LEARNING NEEDS
-language, news, stories, information, etc.
3. IDEALS & ASPIRATIONS
AS DEAF PEOPLE
‘FOUND IT!
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
Some recommendations …
AWARENESS
BALANCE
COMMUNICATION
- learn about Deaf people.
-consider the Deaf child’s feelings/needs.
- “talk” & LISTEN to your
Deaf child; dialogue if necessary.
Joy L. Cristal /March 5, 2011
