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What does it mean?
“The ability to identify and achieve goals based on a foundation of knowing and valuing oneself.”
Self-Determination
We are going to focus on the following four components for this training…
Communicating Assertively Self-Management Self-Awareness Taking Responsibility
There are many components to Self-Determination
» Aggressive- likely to encounter anger from others.
» Passive- needs and wants will not be known.
» Assertive- Express their needs and wants in a way that is likely to be met with a positive response from others.
People communicate their needs and wants in three different ways.
For Example:Help students communicate
assertively by using “I” statements.“I would like…” or “I need to…”
What does it mean? The way in which we talk with
people affects how well they are able to understand us and react to us.
For Example: Use visual choices to help your buddy pick which room they would like to visit that day. Monitor their behavior and try using this technique for communication to help them do what they want before they become agitated.
What does it mean? Knowing our
strengths, weaknesses, needs and preferences.
We learn more about ourselves through our experiences.
Help your buddy discover and become aware of their likes and dislikes by presenting them with options.
For Example: “Would you like to play
with play-dough or make an art project?”
“Would you like to go on the swings or in the ball-pit?”
What does it mean? Being able to
control and manage oneself in a manner that will help them get what they want.
For Example: You are going to
make a beaded keychain in the art room with your buddy. Help them make the first step.
Ask them, “What is the first thing we need to do to make the keychain?”
Then prompt them throughout the process.
Self-Management
What does it mean? The more
responsibility one demonstrates, the more control he/she has in a situation.
Help your buddy keep track of their “stuff”.
For Example: When finishing an
art project encourage your buddy to help you clean-up the materials and space that they used.
Taking Responsibility
What does it mean?
“An act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally.”
Types of Bullying:Direct Social
Cyber Bullying
Examples:
Hitting, grabbing, pushing, chasing with an intent to harm, threatening to hurt
Verbal or Physical Attacks
What is it? It is the most obvious
form of bullying and includes physical and/or verbal attacks.
Examples:
Exclusion, Rumors, Gossip, Lies
What is it? Behaviors that harm others
through damage (or threat of damage) to relationships or feelings of acceptance.
Examples:
E-mail, Text Messages, Facebook, Twitter
What is it? Use of information
and technology to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behavior by an individual or group.
» Bullies˃Characteristics such as: Aggressive, Hostile, Domineering towards peers
and other behavior problems such as truancy or drug and alcohol abuse.
» Victims˃Characteristics such as: Passive, Insecure, Weak, Withdrawn, Sensitive and
Quiet.
» Bystanders˃A person who witnesses or hears about an act of bullying and does nothing
to stop the situation.
˃85% of children that are neither bullies nor victims.
Listen Your buddy may be
comfortable enough to tell you what happens at school.
Watch Is your buddy acting
differently that he/she used to?
What to do: Listen to what your buddy has
to say and ask questions to find out what exactly happened.
Support his/her feelings by acknowledging and validating the way they feel.
Ask what he/she thinks would be helpful to stop the bullying.
Tell your buddy’s parent or the program director what your buddy has told you.
Don’t ignore it.
What NOT to do:˃Don’t offer premature solutions
such as, “This is what you should do next time.”
˃Don’t blame your buddy or give them the impression that he/she is responsible for why it happened.
˃ Ignore it.