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Advancing Women’sHealth Care...
A Conversation with Dr. Nancy Milliken
Vice Dean, School of Medicine, UCSFDirector, UCSF National COE
Women’s HealthPage 14
Advancing Women’sHealth Care...
A Conversation with Dr. Nancy Milliken
Vice Dean, School of Medicine, UCSFDirector, UCSF National COE
Women’s HealthPage 14
Advancing Women’sHealth Care...
A Conversation with Dr. Nancy Milliken
Vice Dean, School of Medicine, UCSFDirector, UCSF National COE
Women’s HealthPage 14
In This Issue:Is Success Running YouRagged?Michele Lisenbury Christensen andSara Harvey Yao
Wondering Where to PointYour Camera?Kathi O'Leary
Ask the Menopause MavenDr. Sandi Altman
A Cautionary Valentine's Tale Katherine Forsythe
Celebrate Valentine’s DayWith a Little Bling!Michele Benza
Buy Local, Buy Global, But Buy Investment RealEstate and Retire on Rental Income!Deborah Lopez
And much, much more!
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By Jo Healey
So, the holidays are over and yourcredit card bills are piling in. Your NewYear's resolution to get out of debt andcreate wealth seems as big-a-chal-lenge as climbing Mount Everest, butyou are determined to get to the sum-mit! Hail the Wealthy Girl Summit.
Wealthy Girl Summit is 2008's pre-mier wealth-building event. A 4-dayaction-packed Tele-conference &Webinar hosted by Alicia Dunams,author of the top-selling book GoalDigger: Lessons Learned from theRich Men I Dated. Learn first handfrom headlining authors, speakers andmillionaire entrepreneurs how tobecome a millionaire and createwealth in all areas of your life. Specialguest speakers include ChristineComaford-Lynch, Loral Langemeierand The Secret's Marci Shimoff. Visitwww.wealthygirlsummit.com tolearn more and purchase tickets.
This unprecedented event is inspiredby the tyrannical words of one of themany rich men that Alicia dated andinterviewed for her highly successfulbook. Upon seeking the advice of "Mr.Rich" on how women can createwealth and become millionaires, thisrich man replied "Women must com-pete for men. That is the only waythey will become a millionaire.Women are too emotional and scat-tered to become their own millionaire."
Enraged by this sexist remark, Aliciaset out to prove Mr. Rich's point ofview to be wrong.
Alicia had a vision for a nationwideevent that would, "in one fell swoop",get the attention of all women acrossthe country to take action and empow-er themselves, in a radical fashion, tobe the creators of their own millionairesuccess.
"I want Wealthy Girl Summit tobecome a movement." says Dunams."A movement that will instill the million-aire mindset in women to createwealth in all areas of their life. Onethat will dispel the myth that the knightin shining armor will save them fromfinancial hardship and provide womenwith the tools and attitude to do it forthemselves. I want Wealthy GirlSummit to empower women, eventeenagers, to foster a new way ofthinking about themselves as women,about life and about money and todevelop a healthy working relationshipbetween all of these things to createthe best life imaginable."
The Wealthy Girl Summit 2008 iscomprised of 6 wealth creation strate-gy segments with the following head-lining speakers.
Christina Comaford-Lynch, Self-made millionaire entrepreneur and NewYork Times best-selling author of Rulesfor Renegades.
Loral Langemeier, a.k.a."Millionaire Maker", New York Timesbest-selling author, star of The Secret,and Wealth Strategist.
Marci Shimoff, New York Times best-selling author and star of The Secret.
Tiffany Bass Bukow, a.k.a. MsMoney, Entrepreneur and PersonalFinance Expert.
Elizabeth Potts Weinstein CFP, JD,Author and Entrepreneur
Tina Wells, CEO, Buzz MarketingGroup & self-made MillionaireEntrepreneur.
Michelle R. Alberda, CFP, CLU,Financial Planner & Entrepreneur
Sanyika Calloway Boyce,International Speaker, Financial FitnessCoach and Author.
Alexis Martin Neely,Financial Planning & LegalExpert
Adryenn Ashley, Author,Speaker & Entrepreneur
Gina Stern, Self-made MillionaireEntrepreneur
Maryanne Comarota, RelationshipAdvocate, Author & Speaker.
Sandra Selleni, Brand Specialistand Entrepreneur
Wealthy Gir l Summit 2008expert speakers will give com-plete, comprehensive and inten-sive training courses on the topsix strategies for wealth creation.They will also share their ownstrategies, secrets and personal
insights to becoming financiallysecure and independent.
Tickets are only $297, which isan incredible value for access tothese New York Times best sell-ing authors and entrepreneurs. Anationwide event, this virtual,Tele-conference and Webinar willprovide l i fe changing wealthbuilding information. Visitwww.wealthygirlsummit.com today topurchase tickets and start buildingyour wealth in 2008!
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About Alicia DunamsFounder of the Wealthy GirlSummit 2008, Alicia Dunams isa successful model and singlemom turned entrepreneur, realestate investor, author andsuccess coach. She's the authorof Goal Digger: Lessons Learnedfrom the Rich Men I Dated,www.goaldigger.com. Today,Alicia's passion is to inspire andeducate women to becomewealthy in all areas of their lifewith her book series and finan-cial foundation,RichGirlGuide.com and WealthyGirl Summit. She has been fea-tured on Oprah and FriendsRadio, Good Day Sacramento,The Joey Reynolds Show, NewsTalk Los Angeles, and muchmore.
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Greetings and welcome to the firstedition of the Bay Area Women'sJournal in the New Year! As our atten-tion turns to 2008, we look forward to ayear filled with possibility, abundanceand joy. And, this edition of the BAWJis filled with ideas and information tohelp you have your best year ever!
Maybe 2008 is your year to build yourfinancial portfolio...check out TheWealthy Girl Summit and Deborah
Lopez's article on building wealth byinvesting in Real Estate. Or perhaps youare ready to spruce up your wardrobeand buy the perfect piece of jewelry foryourself...read Michele Benza's article toget sound advice on the best shape andstyle of BLING just for you!
How about work/life balance in 2008?Consider the ideas you'll find in IsSuccess Running You Ragged or look toan article by Sasha Sabbath on connect-ing your passions to your daily life. Ishealth high on your list this New Year?Don't miss the BAWJ interview with Dr.Nancy Milliken as she shares herthoughts on the state of women's health-care.
And finally, maybe your hope for thenew year is as simple as oneword...Happy. Be sure and readLorena Bathey's unique and warm per-spective on how to make 2008 "AHappy New Year"!
2008 is filled with possibility...sowhether you're chasing a toddler, pur-suing a promotion or going after yourdream...here's to inspired living!
Contents &Index of AdvertisersBe InspiredBe Inspired Photo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6
About the Photo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7
Round of Applause . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .7
Business LifeNew Year, New You . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .3
Will Your Idea Make Money Online? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8
Is Success Running You Ragged? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9
8 Ways to Make 2008 Your Benchmark Year . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10
Take 5 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10
Buy Local, Buy Global, But Buy Investment Real Estate andRetire on Rental Income! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .11
Succeed in Sync With Your Soul . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .13
BAWJ Bay Area Woman SpotlightAdvancing Women's Health Care...A Conversation with Nancy Milliken MD . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .14
Health & WellnessWeight Training with Kettlebells! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .16
How to Cross "Lose Weight" and "Get Healthy" Off of Your New Year's Resolutions List... Forever! . . . . . . . . . . . .17
Know Your Numbers...Answers to Frequently Asked Questions . . .18
Ask the Menopause Maven . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .19
My LifeThe Grace of Girlfriends . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .20
A Valentine's Cautionary Tale . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .21
Happy NEW Year! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22
Celebrate Valentine’s Day With a Little Bling! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .23
BAWJ Non-Profit SpotlightLearning to Perform Onstage to Help Kids Perform Offstage in Everyday Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24
LeisureBay Area Real Shopping Deal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .27
Valentine's Day Symbols . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .28
Local Author's Page . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .29
Wondering Where to Point Your Camera? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .30
Renaissance of Divine Chinese Arts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .31
BAWJ Community Resource Page . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .26
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By Rose Hodges
My mother asked me to join her on a trip toEurope. How could I pass up this opportunity? Iasked myself, "What could I do in Europe to makeour trip really special?" An idea popped into myhead, like a great inspiration! I could photograph"Angels" as people in costume, in fantastic placesin Italy. I hadn't had an inspiration like this before.It was as if I was asked to do this!
We went to Venice and Mom volunteered to beone of the Angel models. Venice was full of excit-
ing locations. I carried a little letter written in Italian asking people if theywould model for me as an "Angel". Most people were thrilled. Even thoughthey didn't speak a word of English, we always managed to find someoneto help us set up a time and meeting.
The experience resulted in about 100 images, which inspired me to writea book about the spiritual path. At the time of my inspiration, I had no ideathat this was a major turn in my own spiritual journey. My mother becameterminally ill just two weeks after leaving Rome and was flown back to SanFrancisco in an emergency state. She passed away soon after.
In my 17 years as a photographer, this was the most inspiring, magicaland amazing photo shoot experience I have ever had. And, one for which Iwill always be grateful.
To see more of Rose Hodge's Angel collection, please visit her web-site at www.rosehodges.com.
Congratulations to Julie Rems-Smario...a CNN Hero!
Julie Rems-Smario, was recently honored asa CNN Hero for her work as Executive Directorand co-founder of Oakland based, DeafHope.CNN viewers in over 80 countries nominatedmore than 7,000 heroes in 6 categories, with 3finalists identified for each category. Julie wasone of three finalists in the CommunityCrusader category for creating solutions to alocal problem or social issue.
DeafHope's mission is to end domestic vio-lence and sexual assault against Deaf women and children through empow-erment, education and services. DeafHope was the BAWJ's featured Non-Profit in our Sept/Oct 2007 edition. You can find the article atwww.BayAreaWJ.com/Deaf_Hope.html. Also, please visit their website atwww.deaf-hope.org to learn more.
About the Be Inspired Photo Reader Round of Applause
Julie Rems-Smario
Congratulations Julie!
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By Lori Feldman
Maybe you've thought about trying tomake money online. Or maybe youthought the only people making tons ofprofits were the ones selling "MakeMoney Online" products. Internet mar-keting is not just a hot trend that willcome and go in a year. It's not an areathat you have to study for years beforeyou can begin to reap the rewards.You can learn enough right now tostart expanding your business onlineand double your profits within six
months. The principles are the sameproven business marketing conceptsas in the offline world.
In order to be successful online, youneed to be able to find niche ideas,evaluate them, develop profitableproducts around them, and then dupli-cate your success in other niche mar-kets. But first, you must study thebasics of Niche Marketing. As an anal-ogy, niche marketing is like fishing in asmall pond packed with really hungryfish, and you have the bait they like themost. Mass marketing, on the otherhand, is like fishing in a large pondwith schools of overfed fish swimmingaround, most of which aren't evenlooking for their next meal.
Large corporations with their deeppockets ignore niche markets becausethey're not trying to make an extra$1,000 to $20,000 per month-theyneed extra millions. This is great newsfor entrepreneurs--we don't have tocompete with these large advertisingbudgets. It's also easier to findprospects in niche markets. Peoplewith the same passions, like CockerSpaniel owners, scrapbookers, camp-
ing enthusiasts, usually read the samethings and hang out at the sameplaces.
Here are the four most importantquestions you need to answer beforedeciding which "niche market" topick:
1. Is the market easily defined?
What publications do they read? Dothey have activities that bring themtogether? Do they look for informationonline?
2. Is the market small enough sothere are few competitors but largeenough to make a profit?
You want a small pond, but it musthave enough "fish" to make it worth-while.
3. Does the niche have and actual-ly spend money?
For example, physical products areusually not the most profitable prod-ucts to sell, but if other sites sell theseproducts, it might be a good sign.
4. Does the group have a ridicu-lous zeal for its niche?
You need prospects that are so pas-sionate; they must have all the infor-mation related to their subject. A greatexample is golfers, who must own thenewest equipment, gadgets and golfmagazines in case there is one hot tipto allow them to beat their golfingbuddy.
Can you make money sellingonline? Research your niche marketfirst!
Lori Feldman
Lori Feldman is The DatabaseDiva and she teaches salespeo-ple and entrepreneurs how toprofit from their customer data-base using ACT! Software, tar-geted mailing lists and onlinelead generation. To learn morevisit www.thedatabasediva.comor call 1-800-264-5478.
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"People around me are impressedwith my success, but I don't really feelsuccessful, and I don't know if I cankeep this up!" Does this sound likeyou? It's a constant refrain amongmany go-getter women. We're doing alot, but it has us spread pretty thin.One of the perspectives that helpswomen like you (and us) is the recog-nition that in our pursuit of career andpersonal success, we may not havebeen using all our power.
Traditionally, we have spoken ofpower using terms that describe mas-culine traits. For instance, powerfulmight mean assertive, decisive, inde-pendent, driving, and pragmatic.Words like relating, gratitude, caring,inclusion, or curiosity didn't seem to fitwith our definition of power. Thesewords describe more feminine aspectsof power. In order to use all of ourpower, we have to incorporate bothmasculine and feminine Elements ofPower into our sense of what's power-ful.
12 Elements of Power
After coaching male and femaleleaders for ten years, we developedthe 12 Elements of Power as a tool forourselves and our clients. TheElements were our way of articulatingand understanding the feminine traitswe intuitively knew were powerful, butthat haven't been defined as such. Wediscovered that when we are able tointegrate both feminine and masculineElements of Power, we move fromstress to ease.
Today, at our company, Working withPower, we help companies retain andgrow their best women by teachingwomen the 12 Elements of Power andhow to use them to make everything awhole lot easier. This article is a quick
introduction to the Elements. In futuremonths, we will bring you more articlesthat teach you how to use theElements of Power in your daily life.
There are six pairs of Elements ofPower. Each pair relates to one keyarea of our lives and work: how we getthings done, how we establish ouridentity, how we relate to ourselvesand others, how we handle chal-lenges, how we set priorities, and howwe think. Each pair contains a femi-nine Element of Power and a mascu-line Element of Power. It's not aman/woman thing, rather more likeYin/Yang. Everyone has all 12Elements of Power available at anytime.
Feminine and Masculine Power
Masculine power is assertive,observable and directive. FemininePower is receptive, subtle, and con-tained. In our society, we tend to thinkof the masculine elements (like driv-ing, focus, self-reliance, and pragma-tism) as the keys to effectiveness, andthe feminine elements as eitherrewards to enjoy after the work getsdone (like receiving or connection) orweaknesses (like using resilienceinstead of fierceness or nurturinginstead of providing). But, when wehave all 12 tools available, we're ableto use the right tool for the job in anymoment.
The Elements describe behavior,attitude or energy in a given situation.For instance, Nurturing and Providingare the feminine and masculine ele-ments, respectively, in the How WeRelate to Others pair. When someonetells you about their day, your behaviorand attitude may be focused on mak-ing room for them to talk and feel theirfeelings, demonstrating nurturing. Or
you may offer ideas, solutions, andperspectives, which would demon-strate providing. Which one is better?Neither. What matters is whether youused the Element of Power that metthe needs of the moment.
In many situations, we're conditionedto use our masculine power. If thatdoesn't work, we turn up the intensity.Our clients learn and demonstrate thatputting the feminine power first con-serves their energy and makes moreroom for those around them. Lettingsomeone vent, for instance, oftenallows them to come to a broader per-spective on their own, and it's a lot lesswork than "bringing them around" byproviding. Other times, once they'vevented, they're ready to hear yourgood ideas for how to proceed.
Strengths Can Be Liabilities
It's been said that a strength over-used becomes a liability. This recogni-
tion helps explain the source of manyof our headaches and struggles atwork and at home: when we overuseone Element of Power, it goes funkyon us. For instance, a quality likeassertiveness can turn into aggressionwhen overused. We call that the dif-ference between "clean" or "active"Fierceness and "distorted" fierceness.
Any aspect of your life that isn't work-ing can be traced to an under-use orover-use of your power. But once youunderstand all the power that's at yourdisposal, you can quickly correct forthese imbalances by activating newElements of Power and picking theright tool for the job at hand. And asyou begin to see others through thelens of the 12 Elements of Power™you'll have newfound compassion fortheir distortions.
Experiment with your power, andenjoy the ways you can have successwithout it running you ragged.
By Michele Lisenbury Christensen and Sara Harvey Yao
Michele Lisenbury Christensen andSara Harvey Yao
Michele Lisenbury Christensen and Sara Harvey Yao are founders ofWorking with Power, LLC, a consulting and training firm dedicated tohelping companies retain and develop great people and great teams.You can read other articles about the 12 Elements of Power™, theDistortions of Power™, and helping employees thrive in intense environ-ments at www.workingwithpower.com. You can reach them by emailat [email protected], [email protected],or by phone at 206.686.7697 x221.
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By Ann TardyAuthor of LifeMoxie! Ambition on a Mission
Imagine looking back on December31 this year and thinking 2008 was sofabulous that it's now the year for allothers to beat - your new benchmarkyear.
By taking on 2008 with your moxie*,your benchmark year is guaranteed!
*mox•ie: guts, determination, pas-sion, & perseverance.
8 ways to bolster your moxie:
1. Defy your Comfort Zone.Notice if you are being gutsy aboutyour goals or just comfortable aboutthem (then choose gutsy!) If you wantextraordinary results this year, moveout of the comfort zone; if you are OKwith the same results as last year,don't move.
2. Stop Worrying What OtherPeople Think. It's paralyzing toplease so many people. They all wantyou to do life the way they do it (butthey have no moxie!) Start worryingwhat you think about your life.
3. Talk to Strangers. Everyone iscraving connection but they're con-cerned about what you think of them.So, you go first. Talk to strangers andwatch your network expand exponen-tially.
4. Learn Something New EveryDay. Subscribe to the word of the dayat www.dictionary.com; and read only
educational articles (skip the articleswith bad news).
5. Tackle One "Someday" EveryMonth. Someday we'll do a picnic onthe beach. Someday we'll paint thekitchen our favorite color. Somedaywe'll play hooky to go to the movies. Ihave friends who have lived theirwhole lives in San Francisco and"someday" they'll visit Alcatraz andMuir Woods.
6. Say Yes! to Opportunities thatExcite You. When new opportunitiesmake your eyes twinkle, your stomachflip flop, and your goose-bumps dance,those are signs your soul is excited.Jump quickly and deal with the detailslater.
7. Turn Off the Television Set. If wewatch TV for one hour less each day,we will at the end of the year have sal-vaged enough hours to equal fifteen24-hour days. That's adding more than2 weeks to your year!
8. Eat Ice Cream. When my regular-sized grandma was 54, she went on a30-year diet fighting the one thing sheenjoyed - sweets. One day when shewas 84 and skin and bones, I showedup with her favorite ice cream - mintchocolate chip. She scoffed, "I can'teat that. It'll go right to my thighs." Sixmonths later she died. She missed themoment to eat ice cream.
If you are ready to have a phenome-nal year, one that will be your bench-mark, then it's essential you createmoxie, get on the court, experiment,and live. And above all else, don't missyour moment to eat ice cream.
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8 Ways to Make2008 Your
Benchmark YearTake 5
Ready to Grow in 2008?
Make sure you can lay claim to the following 5 to jumpstart your growth!
1. A clearly defined mission statement, vision and core valuesthat have been adopted by management and embraced by your employ-ees.
2. A proven business model or format that will serve as a basis oras the architectural plan for the growth strategy selected. This businessmodel needs to have been tested, refined and operated successfully.
3. Proven methods of operations and proprietary process andsystems that can be put up in wiritng in a comprehensive operationsmanual-one that cannot be easily duplicated by competitors.
4. Comprehensive training programs for employees. These pro-grams should integrate the latest education and training technologiesand take place at the outset of employment, as well as on an ongoingbasis.
5. A commitment to, and genuine understanding of your cus-tomers. A company positioned for growth has taken the time to under-stand the short-term as well as the long-term needs and wants of it cus-tomers, then modified its organization and products to meet those needsand wants.
5 Tips for Finding the Right Banking Partner
1. Understand the basics. Large or small, banks are interested in thesame fundamentals-such as cash flow, collateral and the viability of yourbusiness.
2. Sell the bank on your company. Provide solid information on itsfinancial history, your business plan, and information about the kinds ofloans you need and the terms you want.
3. Look for a good fit. Let prospects know what kind of a relationshipyou want with a bank.
4. Ask the right questions. Find out where decision making takesplace, how many people you will have to deal with, and if the bank isopen to meeting with you and your advisors fairly regularly.
5. Commit time and energy to developing your relationship withthe bank you choose. Get to know more than one person at the insti-tution so that if your bank is merged or acquired, someone familiar withyour business will probably still be there.
Source: SCORE and the SBA
BUSINESS LIFE
By Deborah Lopez
There is absolutely no require-ment that the first piece of realestate you buy has to be your ownpersonal residence. One client ofmine refused to own his own homeuntil he had enough income fromrental properties to pay the mort-gage. Another client bought aninvestment property every year sothat he could retire and live verywell on the income from his units.He started small and built up tohundreds of units.
If you take a look at the wealthiestmen in the world, many of them gotthat way investing in real estate.This is a tried and true method thatdoes not discriminate! In fact,women are often better at manag-ing real estate - we do it for others.It's important to think about how todo it for ourselves.
Robert Kiyosaki explains in hisbook, Rich Dad, Poor Dad, that anasset is something that puts moneyin your pocket, a liability takesmoney out. Owning your ownhome, as wonderful as it is, is own-ing a liability that you have to payfor every month. Owning rental realestate is owning an asset that paysyou every month in one way oranother.
OPM - Other People's Money -put it to work for you!
One of the great benefits of realestate is the ability to build wealthusing Other People's Money(OPM). Owning rental real estateallows you to do this in three ways:
A) First, you get leverage. The
goal of buying an investment prop-erty is to put as little money downas possible. The amount of thedown payment is strictly related tothe amount of cash flow you wantthe building to create. To breakeven on an actual cash basis todayoften requires 40-50 percent down,but having leverage allows you todouble the value of your asset usingOPM.
B) Second, OPM pays for yourfinancing. The income to pay allthe expenses of owning an invest-ment property comes from your ten-ants. When you evaluate a build-ing, you take into account vacancyfactor, property taxes, insurance,maintenance and all the otherexpenses you will have. Yourrental income should cover all ofthose and then the balance will bewhat is available to cover your mort-gage payments. You should havezero outlay each month, but unfore-seen issues often arise. That iswhere the third source of OPMcomes in.
C) Tax benefits will allow you touse what WOULD have been theIRS's money! You will be able todeduct expenses against incomeand then take depreciation, result-ing in a tax benefit to you everyyear.
The Magic of NOT Paying Capital Gains Taxes!
If you use the tool of IRS Section1031 tax-deferred exchanges tobuild your real estate portfolio, youmay also never pay capital gains taxon any of the wealth you build.When you die, your loved onesinherit your properties at the valuethey have at the time of your death- all gains are wiped out. By con-tinually rolling one investment intothe next, taking money out throughfinancing options and/or living onthe income, you can leave an estatecompletely free of capital gains.This is how wealth is built andpassed on from generation to gen-eration. So think about it…tax-freewealth, paid for by other people -are you ready to get started???
What Can You Buy?
Investment property can be any-thing you purchase for the purpose
of investment from land and condo-miniums, to apartment buildings orcommercial shopping centers.
Turn-key investments handleeverything for you - all you do is sitback and cash the check. Forexample, condo projects likeFootprints on the Bay in Monterey,have a full property managementprogram. You can use your unit afew weeks a year, keep it furnishedand then rent it on a weekly basis tovacationers. Or, they will find you along-term tenant.
Another option for hassle-freeinvesting is putting your money intoa tenancy-in-common commercialinvestment. By doing that, you geta percentage interest in a big shop-ping center, office building and/orapartment complex. You get areturn, an income check and all thetax deductions; however, your exitstrategy may be limited.
Or you can do it all yourself - buya property, handle the rentals, takecare of the tenants and pay your-self the management costs.What you purchase isdetermined by the timeand effort you want todedicate to this partof your life. Tenantsand toilets can be adrudge for some,but for others, it'san exciting part ofcreating wealth.Evaluating the levelof involvement youwant is part of theprocess I gothrough with youwhen setting up aninvestment strategy.
Where Can you Buy?
Of course, if you are managingyour property yourself, you will wantto buy something close to home.But the IRS allows you to deduct thecosts of travel to inspect yourinvestments twice a year, so whynot consider something in a placeyou always visit or would like toalways visit? How about a condo inParis, Buenos Aires or Tel Aviv?What about a duplex in Portland orArizona? Or an apartment buildingin Manhattan? There are manage-ment and tax issues involved inowning real estate in far awayplaces, but they can be offset by thefun of being able to go to visit yourproperty.
There is no time like the present toget started on building your realestate portfolio. The world is wait-ing! In the next issue of the BAWJ,I will discuss some of the global realestate hot spots and the opportuni-ties in international real estate!
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Deborah Lopez
Deborah Lopez is a licensed broker and Certified International PropertySpecialist with Paragon Real Estate Group. In her 30+ year career sell-ing real estate in San Francisco, she has consistently been a top pro-ducer. Deborah has experience in every market in San Francisco, from$16 million mansions to $3.5 million apartment buildings to$600,000 TICs. She uses her legal background for her clients' advan-tage and her persistence is legendary! Whether you are selling orbuying, or building your real estate investment portfolio, Deborah willgive you a head start. You can reach Deborah at (415)-738-7084 ore-mail [email protected].
Buy Local, Buy Global, But Buy InvestmentReal Estate and Retire on Rental Income!
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BUSINESS LIFE
By Sasha SabbethLeadership Soul Coach ™
Are you living what you love?Are you clear about what you want?
Does your career express your SOUL?Are you ready to claim your dreams
in 2008?
I believe that we all have a deep seat-ed memory that whispers within us tellingus why we were born and what we cameinto life to do. I perceive this resounding,embedded echo to be the voice of yourSoul guiding you to live your LifePurpose Destiny.
Today, more than ever, living in align-ment with your Life Purpose Destiny andpassions is critical to having a life ofmeaning, fulfillment, sanity, and success.It is key to having a life that matters.Living your passions allows you to har-ness your Soul's Force to craft a life stylefor your unique Life Purpose Destinyexpression. This is the formula by whichto Succeed In Sync With Your SoulSM.
When traveling the path of clarity, com-mitment, and courage to live life accord-ing to this formula, you graduate fromhaphazardly just existing in your life. Atransformation occurs where youbecome a Leadership Soul. Your life isfilled with your heart's deepest longings,desires, visions, and most meaningful lifeactivities. Your choices, decisions, andactions fully express your core values,gifts, talents, and strengths. When facedwith inevitable challenges, living a pas-sion based life ignites within you agreater resiliency, synchronicity, creativi-ty, joy, and confidence. A force literallyrises up from the depths of your being. Icall this your Soul Force. A LeadershipSoul is one whose Soul's Force perme-ates one's personal and professional life.
Succeed In Sync With Your SoulSM
To Succeed In Sync With Your SoulSM isboth an intention as well as evidence ofliving a life where your Soul is honoredvia your passions, values, priorities, andgifts. Designing your life to respect youruniqueness in this way then defines yournonnegotiable perception of success.Creating a passionate life becomes yoursteadfast resolution in this life time.
The secret is to both love your selfenough and to believe that it is possibleto have a life composed of what is trulymost important to you. You get to a pointwhere you draw a line in the sand andsay, "It is my time! I take my power back!I will find a way to have the life that Iwant!"
This is where your Soul stamps its footon some metaphorical ground and says,"Life, here I come! I will not live amediocre existence! I CAN make a differ-ence of contribution. I will not turn myback on my dreams! "I WILL BE the bestthat I can be!" It is a declaration to theUniverse, and anyone else who is listen-ing, that what lies in your heart will showup in your outer reality. When your Soulunleashes this bellowing cry, watch whathappens!
The Passion Test™: The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Destiny
The first step is to discover what reallymatters most to you. Your passions arewhat you hunger to do, to be and to haveas you create your life masterpiece. ThePassion Test™, developed by Janet andChris Attwood, is a simple, yet life-chang-ing process that uncovers what you pro-foundly care about and sets into motionwhat you must have to feel that you areliving YOUR life. Their book, ThePassion Test , attained New York TimesBest Sellers list in the first week of itsrelease.
The second step is to consistentlychoose in favor of your passions. ThePassion Test process gives you a toolkitthat serves as your guide throughoutyour life in all areas of your life.
These 4 components assure you thatyou are living in alignment with your pas-sions. They are:
1. Clarity of your top 5 passionsThese are the passions that arise fromyour heart versus from your head.
2. A toolbox of principles that teachmental and emotional empowermentThis is a list of specific understandings,perceptions, and attitudes that allow youto more easily continue to live your pas-sions
3. Design a roadmap of the directroute to the fulfillment of your pas-sionsThis is a path consisting of your chosenidentified experiences that, once accom-plished, tell you whether or not you areliving your passions to maximum fulfill-ment
4. The Master Passionate Life Secret This is a single guideline that insuresyour passions will continue to unfold atall times in the face of existing obsta-cles, limitations, confusion, and chal-lenges.
Why Bother?
Do you think that having a life filledwith joy and meaning improves your
health, relationships, self image, spir-ituality, intuitive capacities, creativity,and, perhaps, your income? Yes! Doyou think that giving up on yourdreams steals your joy, inspiration,success, vitality, and positiveapproach to life? Yes!
The chaos and problems of our cur-rent world demands that we each findour own truth, source of joy, andways to feel inner peace. When weget in touch with our passions andunderstand what really matters to us,it is easier to handle the challengesof life.
Creating a life to Succeed In SyncWith Your SoulSM guarantees anapproach to living that will help youunleash a greater joy to being alive.Additionally, one of the greatest heal-ing potions that we can experience isthe energy generated from enjoyingand being grateful for our own lives.Being immersed in such an energycan uplift you and those whose livesyou touch. May you start 2008 pre-pared, poised, and organized tolaunch your new year with infectiousinspiration and excitement! Mayyour Soul Force blaze forth to launchyour highest vision of a life well livedand bring transformative inspirationto your world.
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“There are two great daysin a person's life...The day we are
born…And the day wediscover why.”
- William Barclay
Succeed in Sync with Your Soul SM
And The Passion TestTM
BUSINESS LIFE
Testimonials: “I am currently the Vice President of a Fortune 500 company. My professionis so consuming that I don't necessarily take enough time to really reflect upon what's impor-tant to me. The particular value of the Passion Test is that it brought me clarity as to where toput my intention and attention to make my life's journey the most powerful and positive that
it can be. This was not just another exercise. This was about Sasha supporting me in achievingmy life's destiny.”
- Carolyn Pineda: Sabre Airline Solutions - Vice President
“Sasha Sabbeth is a force to be reckoned with. She has a quiet, precise power that allows herto be completely clear about her insights. She quickly brought me to the recognitions I needed
about my life which helped me refocus my business for greater success.”- Suzanne Sherkin: Highborn Communications - President and CPO
Sasha Sabbeth
Sasha Sabbeth is a LeadershipSoul Coach™ and CertifiedPassion Test™ facilitator with 20years experience as a personaland business development con-sultant with spiritual orientation.Her passion is to help others"craft yourself, your business,your world...to passionately liveyour Life Purpose Destiny". Sheuses the Passion Test™ as well asNLP, Print® Profile personalityassessment tool, Self Hypnosis,Reiki, and various project designstrategies to help clients connectto their intuition, core values andintrinsic talents to achieve theirobjectives.
To learn more: attend one of herupcoming workshops and visither website at www.leadership-soulcoach.com. She can bereached by phone at 707-328-5632 and415-328-2631 or by e-mail [email protected].
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By Deborah BurstynStaff Writer Bay Area Women's Journal
Imagine a future in which every doc-tor who cares for you understands yourunique female biology and values yourpreferences. Imagine a future in whichhealth care providers work in teamsand share information with each other-- and you -- via the internet. Imagine abrand new state of the art hospital inSan Francisco devoted entirely to pro-viding women a lifetime of reproductivehealth, where a woman can have ababy in a birthing center, receive thelatest in breast cancer care, uterinefibroid treatment or incontinence all ina woman-centered environment.
That future is closer than you thinkthanks to the vision of lifelong women'shealthcare advocate and expert Dr.Nancy Milliken. Dr. Milliken, who fordecades has pioneered efforts tochange the medical system from with-in, helped create the UCSF NationalCenter for Excellence in Women'sHealth in 1996. Now a decade latershe is a force behind the planned newUCSF Women's Specialty Hospital atMission Bay. The Women's Hospital ispart of a new $1.5 billion UCSF med-ical complex scheduled to breakground in 2011.
As a young undergraduate atHarvard during the 70s, Dr. Millikenwas caught up in the counter-culturalchanges sweeping through collegecampuses. Cambridge was groundzero for the women's self-help healthmovement, an offshoot of the era'sbold push for women's rights.
The Boston Women's HealthCollective urged women to takecharge of their health in a new waythat combined women's innate wis-dom about their bodies with modernmedical information. They publishedthe landmark book, "Our Bodies,Ourselves" and as a witness to thisachievement, Dr. Milliken discoveredher true calling.
A history major near graduation atthe time, switching to pre-med meantalmost going back to square one. Butonce Dr. Milliken sets her mind tosomething, she seems unstoppable.Before too long she was taking premedcourses at Stanford before enteringDuke Medical School.
The long and distinguished careerwhich followed is one of persistentvictories that have furthered thecause of optimal healthcare forwomen. While she has advanced tothe top rungs of her profession, Dr.Milliken has stayed true to her pas-sion and her dream. She lives in SanFrancisco with her husband and theirtwo teenage sons.
BAWJ: What is one of the biggestchanges you have seen inwomen's healthcare?
Dr. Milliken: The biggest change isthe recognition that by excludingwomen from clinical research trials wemight be providing ineffective orunsafe care to women.
Women were excluded as subjectsbecause we are more difficult andthus more costly to study, due forexample, to daily hormone fluctua-tions. Historically, the solution was tostudy only men and then assume thefindings applied to women. That rea-soning was scientifically flawed. Weneed to study women to know whatworks in women.
This began to change in the 1990s;Congresswomen in office at that time
really helped bring about change.Another driving force was BernadineHealy, the first female head of NIH.Studies are no longer funded unlesswomen are represented in numberslarge enough to be valid.
Another major change in women'slives is that we are living longer. Justthink, at the beginning of the 20th
century the average lifespan forwomen was 48 years, by the end itwas 85. This means women are livinga full third of their lives pastmenopause and we have known verylittle about health in those addedyears.
Knowing how women are differentfrom men is essential to understand-ing prevention strategies, screeningand diagnostic testing as well as med-ical and surgical treatments. This isessential if those added years aregoing to be long and healthful.
Once we have the new knowledgewe must put it into action. There aretwo great routes to accomplish this.One is to make sure that the curriculain our health professional schools areup to date so we train our doctors,nurses and pharmacists to be able to
take care of the unique needs of bothwomen and men.
Secondly we need to put this newinfo into the hands of women. This isa most effective strategy becausewomen are extraordinarily thoughtfuland savvy consumers of health care.
BAWJ: As we saw with the move-ment for home births instead ofhospital births during the 1970s?
Dr. Milliken: Exactly. When womenwere dissatisfied with the delivery ofcare and lack of options, they votedwith their feet. Home births replacedhospital births and hospitals paidattention! As a result there is no hos-pital now that doesn't have a birthcenter. No one should underestimatethe power of informed women.
Women are the major health caredecision makers in this country. Theymake 70 to 90 percent of the deci-sions for their health, their parents'health, their in-laws' health and theirchildren's health. By truly respectingwomen and giving them informationthey need to make those decisions,we can have a major positive impacton communities.
BAWJ: What is the latest thinkingon Hormone ReplacementTherapy?
Dr. Milliken: There's been a hugesea change in our understanding ofHRT. In fact we don't call it HRT any-more. We call it HT for hormone ther-apy to emphasize that it is a therapywith risks and benefits that should beused to treat symptoms. Menopauseis not a deficiency state that needs tobe corrected.
In the recent past we routinely rec-ommended HT to women withoutmenopausal symptoms as good pre-vention. Now we know HT (whichmost commonly is estrogen combinedwith a progestin) may put an olderwoman at risk of heart disease, strokeand pulmonary embolus.
The lesson of this story is the impor-tance of good clinical trials to goodhealth care. The earlier hypothesisthat estrogen must be good wasbased on the fact that women don'tget heart attacks as early as men.Heart disease is the number one killer
Advancing Women’s Health Care...A Vice Dean, School of Medicine, University of California San Francisco,
BA WOMAN SPOTLIGHT
The “Wall of Tiles’ that line the entry to the UCSF Women’s Center are all hand-made.
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of women, but not until later in life,after menopause.
At first, most but not all, observa-tional studies seemed to confirm thecommon sense notion that hormonesmight have a protective effect againstheart disease. Unfortunately observa-tional studies can mislead, as they didin these studies, in which women whochoose to take hormones were com-pared with women who hadn't takenthem. Given the new findings, wethink there may be something aboutwomen who choose to take a pill forprevention that is different from thosewho don't. Perhaps those women aremore health conscious and do morebeneficial things for their health.Perhaps they have better access tohealth care and more money to payfor medications.
To control for those factors, weneeded a good randomized con-trolled study. We finally got that withthe Women's Health Initiative (amajor 15-year research programlaunched in 1991 to address the mostcommon causes of death, disabilityand poor quality of life in post-menopausal women -- cardiovasculardisease, cancer, and osteoporosis).This study showed that traditionalHRT is not helpful for heart diseaseand can increase the risk of bloodclotting and stroke. Plus after a peri-od of time on HRT, risk of breast can-cer goes up. I think we can clearlysay that hormone therapy for preven-tion is contraindicated.
However, hormones remain one ofthe most effective treatments for hotflashes and other menopausal symp-toms. Its benefits may out weigh the
risks in younger women having symp-toms. I would advise these women touse hormones at the lowest dosageand for the shortest period of time asnecessary.
The good news is that there are
ongoing studies and data analysis.We know more and more each year.The information is so much betterthan before. So we need to weigh thepros and cons for each woman. It'snot one size fits all.
BAWJ: Whatabout the cur-rent concernabout cosmet-ics?
Dr. Milliken:We are starting anew researchand policy pro-gram onwomen's repro-ductive healthand the environ-ment. There area number ofpotential toxinsin the environ-
ment that we will be looking at andwe don't know what the results aregoing to be.
It is possible that some cosmeticsmay be found to be harmful to repro-ductive health - they have not yetbeen rigorously tested. TheEuropean Union has already restrict-ed over 1,000 chemicals found inpersonal care products. It is some-thing for women to pay attention toand to go with the safest alternatives.
BAWJ: Are you seeing anincrease in women going into med-icine?
Dr. Milliken: The shift has beendramatic since I was in MedicalSchool. This year's entering class atUCSF was 59% women; nationallythe percentage is now over 50%. Inob-gyn the gender mix has changedeven more significantly over the past20 years.
It is healthy to have diversity withinthe healthcare community. Diversity isessential to excellence in researchand health care. Our workforceshould mirror the people we are treat-ing so we hope to attract students ofdiverse gender, racial and ethnicbackgrounds, LGBT identity andthose who are differently-abled.
BAWJ: You have accomplished,and continue to accomplish,tremendous achievements inadvancing the state of healthcare
Conversation with Nancy Milliken MDDirector, UCSF National Center of Excellence in Women's Health
BA WOMAN SPOTLIGHT
During the BAWJ interviewwith Dr. Milliken, she gave us atour of the UCSF NationalCenter of Excellence inWomen's Health. With the cre-ation of the Women's HealthCenter, Dr. Mil l iken and herteam took the opportunity tothink about the physical envi-ronment and how it impacts awoman's experience of hercare. She offered thesethoughts during our tour.
"This building used to have starkwhite walls and linoleum floors.It used to be the most depress-ing building for patients and theirfamily members. Now we haveplants, art on the ceilings, woodfloors and lots of sunlight."
When we asked her about a beau-tiful wall of tiles that grace the entryway into the clinic she offered"These tiles are the voices ofpatients and their family members.
Some are full of anger, grief andloss. Families come here and visitwith their loved one's tile. This wallof tiles is part of creating a physicalenvironment that helps peopleheal. Sometimes visual artistic rep-resentation reaches people andopens them up to health issues intheir lives. Art can be very powerfuland we believe it is important tointegrate art, patient stories andcommunity into the fabric of health-care delivery."
All of these elements serve tocreate an environment that is moreinviting and encourages women toparticipate in their health care. AsDr. Milliken and UCSF turn theirattention to building the UCSFWomen's Specialty Hospital atMission Bay, you can be sure thatin addition to world class healthcare, the interior design will beworld class in the creation of ahealing environment that supportsand empowers women.
Changing the Medical Care Experience for Women also Includes “Interior Design”!
The Main entrance to UCSF Women's Health Center.
Outdoor courtyard for patients and staff.See “Milliken”
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By Amy Dudley
Many women believe if they do any type ofweight training, the result would be a more mascu-line body. I have foundthat women tend to joinaerobics classes and usehydraulic exercisemachines hoping to findthe secret to huge weightloss.
I know most of us know"someone" that has eitherjoined or tried one of thesemethods. We know theresult!
Results that are notice-able do not come from just cardiovascular exer-cise. Make no mistake about it, the best way to geta lean, striking, and a well defined physique is withheavy weights and low reps.
I have taught group fitness classes for the last fif-teen years. Four months after the birth of my thirdson, with many pounds to lose, I found myselflooking for a exercise program that renewed myenergy level, was exciting, and of course enabledme to fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans! I found theanswer...Kettlebell.
What is a 'Kettlebell'?
A 'Kettlebell' is a traditional Russian cast ironweight that looks like a cannonball with a handle.The Kettlebell dates back to 1704 in the Russiandictionary and made its American debut in 2001 byPavel Tsatsouline, deemed modern king ofKettlebells, and Dragon Door publications.
Why train with 'Kettlebells'?
Kettlebell workouts increase strength,endurance, agility and balance, challenging boththe muscular and cardiovascular system withdynamic, total-body movements delivering all-
around fitness. Kettlebells' melt fat without the dis-honor of dieting or aerobics.
What does this mean? If you're overweight, youwill lean out. If you're skin-ny, you will build muscle.But will Kettlebell's makeme bulky? In order to buildbig bulky muscles youhave to have the rightamount of testosteronelevels which women do nothave, and increasedcaloric intake, and a regi-men that includes lots ofvolume. The answer is no.
The Russian Kettlebell isa powerful tool for fixing
your body comp, whichever way it needs fixing.With 'kettlebells' you will get stronger and improveyour overall conditioning, no other tool does it bet-ter. Additionally, the kettlebell will make your backresilient from every conceivable angle, staticallyand dynamically and is an outstanding grip, wrist,and forearm developer. The kettlebell's offset cen-ter of gravity maximizes shoulder strength, flexibil-ity, and health. This is beneficial in our busy,demanding lives.
Who trains with 'Kettlebells'?
Clients or Comrades of all persuasions or ages.'Kettlebells' are used among all walks of life: mar-tial artists, athletes, military, law enforcement,busy Mom's, soon to be you and me. This can def-initely seem intimidating. What could a womanpossibly get out of this? Everything. Kettlebellswill increase your energy level, reshape your body,improve strength, relieve stress, and boost yourmetabolism which will enhance your quality of life.You will see results and achieve your fitness goalsmore quickly with The Kettlebell Workout.
Am I 'Kettlebell' material?
'Kettlebell' training is for everyone no matter
what stage of life you find yourself or body type.Participants begin with a manageable kettlebelland increase when ready.
Where can I trainwith 'Kettlebells"?
Most women are more concerned with having alean physique rather than developing realstrength. You will become leaner and develop abody that is strong and conditioned when you trainfor strength. The body you have always wanted orwished you had is waiting for you with Kettlebells.
Visit www.dragondoor.com to locate an instructorin your area. You can also order kettleballs,videos and other resources to help you get startedwith your kettleball exercise program!
Weight Training with Kettlebells!
Amy Dudley
Amy Dudley has been teaching fitnessclasses for 15 year. She completed certification for the Russian KettlebellInstructor Challenge in September 2007.
for women. How has that dedicationand focus affected your personallife? Do you feel you have a worklife balance?
Dr. Milliken: When there is so muchto improve, it is an enormous chal-lenge to find the right balance. I feelfortunate to have a community at workwhere my colleagues are my friends.As professional women with youngchildren and aging parents, we areoften juggling the same family/work
issues; we support each other in find-ing solutions and covering for eachother when time is needed at home. Ihave always lived close to the hospitalso my husband and sons could visitwhen I was on call, which was great forthem and me. I have a wonderful fam-ily and my time with them is a greatbalance to my time at work.
I feel incredibly blessed by havingfound a passion that I continue to careabout and a profession that hasallowed me to make a difference inpeople's lives. I am thankful about thatevery day.
“Milliken”Continued From Previous Page
“Women are the major health care decision makers in this country. They make 70 to 90
percent of the decisions for their health, their parents' health, their
in-laws' health and their children's health. By trulyrespecting women and giving them information
they need to make those decisions, we can havea major positive impact on communities.”
-Dr. Nancy Milliken
HEALTH & WELLNESS
By Lisa Lewis
On January 1, journals and diariesacross the globe are filled with lists,goals and resolutions that will (hope-fully!) make the New Year a successfuland better one. And, at the top ofmany lists are the important but elu-sive goals of 'lose weight" and "gethealthy".
I have a lot of first hand knowledgeand personal experience with theseresolutions. For most of my adult life Ihave struggled with my weight andalong with the weight came otherthings that burdened my life...lack ofself-esteem and confidence, healthissues and low energy, and the blocksthat being overweight seemed to placearound every corner both personallyand socially.
As the author of this article, I think it'simportant for you to know that I wasone of those people who made thoseresolutions every year. In fact, I con-sistently included these two resolu-tions on my list year after year. Myresolve would always wane within aweek or two. I finally recognized thisas a negative pattern and decided thatI needed to ask myself WHY I wasmaking the resolution in the first place.
With some time spent soul search-ing, I was able to find the answersinside myself that solidly ignited mydetermination and commitment tokeep my resolutions. I discovered thatI was sick and tired of being over-weight, making unhealthy choices andfeeling bad about myself every singleday of my life! I also realized that Iwas the only one who could ultimatelymotivate me to reach these elusivegoals.
This was the major breakthrough
that helped me to begin to keep mycommitment to losing weight and thuschange my life forever!
Starting with that first step, I havenow reached my comfortable goalweight and I am healthier and happierabout myself today than ever before inmy life! I have gone from a size 16 toa size 8 in a matter of months. I con-tinue my commitment by making timeevery day to support and maintain myhealthy and energetic lifestyle.
And, here's the proof!
If I can do it, so can you and I amhere to help you succeed! In fact mylife's mission and work is to make aprofound and lifelong difference inpeople's lives and give every personthe opportunity to experience vibranthealth.
Here are 7 success strategies thatworked for me and I know they canhelp you keep your resolutions onceand for all!
1. Ground Yourself Emotionally -The most important step you can take
is to become very attached to howgreat you can feel and look. Writedown all of the fabulous ways your lifewill change and what it will be likewhen you do achieve your goal.
Then, spend time visualizing in greatdetail what your life will be like. I can'ttell you how many times the strengthof my "feelings" about being vibrantand healthy, helped me to make bet-ter choices about what I did and didn'tdo and kept me focused on the factthat the decisions I made today direct-ly related to my goal and my future.Visualization helped me to start livingthat life in the moment.
2. Small Steps - Focus on realisticgoals with measurable results. Breakthings into the smallest steps you canmanage. Be prepared to try severaldifferent approaches to achieve yourgoal. Prepare a plan of action thatgives you plenty of options.
3. Enlist others to Cheer You On! -Share your intentions with as manypeople as possible that care about youand want to see you succeed. Askthem to be your support team and besure to tell them all the reasons youwant to be successful. Call on themwhen you are struggling and they canremind you of your "why" when youneed it most and cheer you on to suc-cess!
4. Get Moving! - Get started imme-diately! Action precedes motivation,not the other way around. Instead ofwaiting for inspiration, get moving. Ifyou are having trouble getting out forthat walk, start moving and you willsoon find the motivation was there,just waiting for you to shake it loose!
5. Encourage Yourself - If you fall
off a bit or even relapse, don't be toohard on yourself. Remind yourself thatit was just a minor setback and don'tlet it undermine your self-confidence.Just because you didn't get up earlytoday to take a walk doesn't mean youcan't find 30 minutes in the middle ofthe day to get some exercise.Relapses can be challenging, but thebest solution is to start again.
6. Help Yourself with positivereinforcements - Create your owntriggers to help you to stay on track.Change your home page on your com-puter to a health-focused website soit's the first thing you see when youstart your day. Pack a healthy lunchso you don't have to make the oftendifficult decision of where and how toget a healthy meal. Sleep in yourexercise clothes if it makes it easier tohead out the door first thing for a walk.
And last but not least…
7. DON'T TAKE YOURSELF TOOSERIOUSLY… but be serious aboutliving your Life. If you are unhappyabout your weight, you can resolve it.You can take control of your eatinghabits and feel better about yourselfand your body. Treat yourself like youwould someone else in this situation-with support and encouragement. Beyour own best friend and cheerleader.Don't give up on yourself so easily.It's never over till you quit trying!
If you are ready to live your mosthealthy life, then there is never a bet-ter time to start than now. Take thetime to follow these 7 strategies, refo-cus your energy and don't quit untilyou get there!
Happy New Year and Cheers to yourgood health!
Lisa Lewis
Lisa Lewis is a certified Nutrition and Wellness Consultant and anIndependent Associate with Isagenix International. Lisa has personallyexperienced the life changing benefits that proper nutrition and exercisehave made in her life and has been privileged to witness many of herclients, friends and family experience fantastic results in their lives also.Lisa is dedicated to causing a breakthrough in people's health and wellbeing and committed to "being the change" she wants to see in theworld
For a complimentary health review, or to learn more, call Lisa at 415-366-7358 or email at [email protected].
How to Cross “Lose Weight” and “Get Healthy”Off of Your New Year's Resolutions List...Forever!
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Q. What are my "numbers?"A. Knowing your numbers is an
important part of keeping your hearthealthy. These numbers can help youand your doctor determine your risksand mark the progress you're makingtoward a healthier heart. Your num-bers should include blood pressure,cholesterol, fasting glucose (bloodsugar), waist circumference and bodymass index (BMI - calculated basedon your height and weight).
Q. How do I get my numbers? A. A quick visit to your doctor's
office for a simple blood test andblood pressure check is the way toget your numbers. You can measureyour waist circumference with ameasuring tape and your BMI is cal-culated for you when you take the GoRed Heart CheckUp at www.gored-forwomen.org.
Q. What does a complete blood work test check for?A. Complete blood work tests check
your complete blood count, thyroidfunction, glucose, lipids (cholesterol),triglycerides (in association with cho-lesterol - form the plasma lipids) and acomplete metabolic check (potassium,calcium and liver function).
Q. Is there "prep" work needed to take the blood test?A. Check with your doctor prior to the
blood test; you may need to fast.
Q. Are these tests covered byinsurance?A. In most cases, insurance will
cover the cost of blood testing - checkwith your provider.
Q. What should my numbers be?A. Your numbers should be: less
than 200 mg total cholesterol, lessthan 120/80 mmHg blood pressure,less than 150 mg triglycerides andless than 100 mg fasting glucose.
There are two kinds of cholesterolthat you need to know about. Low-density lipoprotein, or LDL, is knownas the "bad" cholesterol. Too muchLDL cholesterol can clog your arter-ies, increasing your risk of heartattack and stroke. High-densitylipoprotein, or HDL, is known as the"good" cholesterol. Your body makesHDL cholesterol for your protection. Itcarries cholesterol away from yourarteries.
LDL cholesterol goals vary. Lessthan 100 mg/dL is optimal; 100 to129 mg/dL is near optimal/aboveoptimal; 130 to 159 mg/dL is border-line high; 160 to 189 mg/dL is high,and; 190 mg/dL and above is veryhigh.
HDL ("Good" cholesterol) should be50 mg or higher.
Q. What should I do with these numbers once I get them from my doctor?A. Now that you have your numbers,
you can take the Go Red Heart CheckUp at www.goredforwomen.org for fur-ther information on living a heart-healthy lifestyle. You'll find helpfulhints on exercise, diet and nutritionand quitting smoking - valuable toolswhether or not your test results revealelevated cholesterol or blood pres-sure.
Keep your numbers in check by tak-ing the Go Red Heart CheckUp.
Log onto www.goredforwomen.organd love your heart today!
Know Your Numbers...Answers to
Frequently Asked Questions
About Go Red For WomenGo Red For Women is theAmerican Heart Association'snationwide movement that cele-brates the energy, passion andpower we have as women toband together and wipe outheart disease.
Go Red and Go Red for Womenare trademarks of AHA. The RedDress Design is a trademark ofU.S. DHHS
By Dr. Sandi Altman
Dear Dr. Sandi,
I keep hearing about bio-identicalhormones, but I am really confused.Can you tell me what they are,where they come from and how theywork?
F. P.
Dear FP:
Bio-identical hormones refer toestradiol, the estrogen made by ourovaries when we are younger, andprogesterone, which is made by ourovaries after we ovulate. The onlynatural source for these hormonesare the ovaries of young women,and for obvious reasons they won'tpart with them.
Estradiol is made from the soy-bean. Two molecules, genisteinand dadzien, are extracted from thesoybean and then manipulateduntil the resulting molecule is identi-cal to the naturally occurring estra-diol. In reality it's "synthesized" butit matches what we "naturally" makeand what we have receptors for.
Bio-identical estradiol is commer-cially available at traditional phar-macies. It is available as patches,pills, creams, gels and vaginalrings. There's nothing magic abouthaving it made by a compoundingpharmacy since they, like the phar-maceutical companies, get their rawingredient estradiol from the same 3or 4 suppliers.
Progesterone is created from theMexican yam root or Chinese cac-tus. It's commercially available asPrometrium. It's important toknow that Prometrium contains
peanut oil and must be taken atbedtime because it will make yousleepy. I hope that clarifies thingsfor you!
Dr Sandi
Dear Dr. Sandi,
I thought testosterone was a "guything". But lately I have been hear-ing that women have testosteronetoo. I have to admit this is a scarythought to me! If it's true, can youtell me what testosterone does forme and why I need it?
E. V.
Dear EW,
It is true. Women have testos-terone. We don't have as much asmales do, but we have some.
In fact, the first thing that hap-pens in puberty for girls is the pro-duction of testosterone by the adre-nal gland resulting in armpit hair,pubic hair, acne and attitude.Several months later the ovarycomes on line producing estrogenand testosterone.
From that point on, half thetestosterone in the female is pro-duced by the adrenal gland and halfby the ovary. During our 40s, theadrenal gland stops producingtestosterone, and only the ovariescontinue to do so. So by the timewe're in our 40s our testosteronelevel is down 50 percent. Accordingto my text books, the ovaries aresupposed to continue producingtestosterone for 10 years after theyhave stopped making estrogenUnfortunately, many ovaries nevergot that particular email and theypoop out during our 40s and early50s.
The question is, what happenswhen we lose our small amount oftestosterone?
Some women experience manychanges and others experiencenone. The most common symp-tom is that libido diminishes, butreduced libido is just one result ofthe loss of testosterone. Othersymptoms include fatigue, lack ofa sense of well being, lack of moti-vation, diminished muscle strengthand loss of mental sharpness.
The studies we have on givingwomen testosterone, all involve
postmenopausal women alreadyreceiving estrogen. For some ofthese women, adding the testos-terone makes them feel like them-selves again.
Because current lab tests andavailable testosterone productsare geared for males, the existingstudies and statistics aren't veryaccurate at our low range and thedoses of the drugs are way toohigh for us. Last year the testos-terone patch for women wasapproved in Europe, but the U.S.FDA asked for more safety databefore granting approval.
Keep in mind that any use oftestosterone for women is "off label"and involves a compounding phar-macy or using small amounts of thegels and creams made for men.Using testosterone can have sideeffects such as oily skin, acne, facialhair, feeling too assertive, increasedappetite and male pattern hair loss.When taken orally it can lower goodcholesterol.
In other words, this is a very indi-vidualized process and a womanneeds to work with a doctor whohas experience with this area ofhormone management.
Ask the Menopause Maven
Dr. Sandi Altman
Dr. Sandi, aka The Menopause Maven has been inhigh demand as a speaker and teacher onmenopausal and hormonal topics since 1992. Sheinspires and empowers women with cutting edgeinformation and employs humor and candor to demys-tify menopause. Dr. Altman provides custom keynotes,break out sessions and educational workshops.
Dr. Altman has been a Board Certified Ob-Gyn since1985 and is a fellow of the American College ofObstetrics and Gynecology. She received her B.A.from Tufts where she graduated cum laude and herM.D. from Boston University Medical School. Shehas been in private practice since 1983 with a spe-cial emphasis on a woman's transition throughmenopause. To learn more, please contact Dr.Altman at: (925) 947-5945 or by e-mail at [email protected].
If you have a question that you would like to have Dr. Altman answer in this column, please send it [email protected].
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“How do you make time for self-nurturingand what are your favorite ways to take care of yourself?”
Nikki Anderson
I make time for self-nurturing by choosing me over other things I could be doing. I have realizedover the years that if I don't put myself as a priority then ultimately not only do I suffer but so doeseverything else in my life. My favorite ways to take care of myself each day are taking quiet timein the mornings, sitting down for three balanced meals every day, and taking as many naps as I cansqueeze in on a given week.
Nikki Anderson is a lifestyle strategist and business coach. She works with individuals, teams andbusiness partners, helping them to create successful work/life balance strategies.
www.coachnikki.com / 415.402.0689
Erica M Nelson
Nurturing yourself is a mindset, away of being that honors you. Sooften we slip into the role of leavingour own list of nurturing activities tolast place.
The funny thing is that while I per-sonally know nurturing oneself iswildly important (and I even wrote abook about getting into a positivemindset and how this will help youget stronger results), in my life, tak-ing time for Erica is a challenge. Thethree kids are perpetually mommy-
hungry, my future books want my energy, housework stretches on end-lessly, and my husband would like more time.
To take care of my spirit, I meditate and listen to guided meditations. Ilove riding my horse. I curl up with a book in front of the fireplace. In thewild landscape of my life, if I cannot spend the time for a nice pedicure,I stop and look outside and consider the beauty in the sky.
To the degree I take that time for me, my life runs smoothly and withmore joy.
Erica M Nelson, author of "Prospect When You Are Happy: Move theLaw of Attraction into Action" ($13.95, ISBN 978-1-932279-81-8 atAmazon.com and EricaMNelson.com) is a success coach.
Jodi Perelman
One of the ways I take care ofmyself is to surround myself withpeople who also believe in thepower of self-nurturing and self-care.These friends support me in makinggood choices and look out for mewhen I overextend myself.
Another good way is to set asidetime for nurturing activities (or non-activities!). It's really helpful to makean appointment with myself forthings like rest, making art, medita-tion, yoga, seeing good friends,connecting with my partner and
doing absolutely nothing.
It can be hard to slow down in the midst of so much busyness, andsometimes I feel a lot of resistance to it. But when I actively make self-care and self-nurturing my priority, I feel good inside and am more effec-tive in my other activities.
Jodi Perelman, M.A., is a psychotherapist in private practice in SanFrancisco. She welcomes women who wish to work on relationship issuesand build on their innate capacity for health and healing. She alsoworks with couples and families.
415.435.7559
As women we love to talk and share ideaswith one another, especially our girlfriends.Ask any woman and she will tell you there'ssomething special about her friendships withother women. Girlfriends are there to listen,to console and to encourage. They inspire usto keep on keeping on or help us to look atthings in a new way.
In honor of the power of Girlfriends, TheBay Area Women's Journal is pleased tobring you this feature The Grace ofGirlfriends. In each edition, we ask Bay Areawomen to share their thoughts and wisdomwith you on topics that are...well...girlfriendtalk. So grab a cup of coffee!
One of the greatest challenges women faceis learning how to nurture ourselves. The ten-dency, of course, is to put ourselves last onthe list...taking care of everyone and every-thing else before tending to our own emotion-al, physical, or spiritual needs. Yet, ironically,when we put ourselves last on the list, we areoften stressed out, depleted of energy, andunable to give to family members, our jobs orour life the full attention needed!
As we head into the new year, the staff ofthe BAWJ feels it's important to include "Self-Nurturing" on our to do list for 2008. To helpinspire us, we asked the following Bay AreaWomen.
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By Katherine ForsytheIt's almost Valentine's Day and you
can't stop thinking about him. Everytime your phone rings you gasp, won-dering if it's HIM. You're at Starbucksand unexpectedly, HE shows up, andhe's all alone. Did you tell him youwould be at Starbucks today? Yourmind races…what should you say tohim? (Hey, how's it going? [No] Hi - Ididn't know you'd be here! [Lame.] Bonjour! [You're kidding me.]) You areawkward and tongue-tied. You askyourself: What's the MATTER withme?
Relax. Whether you are 17, 37, 57,or 97, there is NOTHING the matterwith you. Like many women, you aresimply and solidly in lust - doing whatwe all do, at any age, when a captivat-ing new man marches into our life anda new romance blossoms. The secretis to recognize this passion and obses-sion as infatuation. Do not mistake itfor love.
Relationships come in four distinctcategories: Interest, Intrigue,Infatuation, and Love. They don't nec-
essarily happen together, or in anygiven order. Infatuation gets redflagged and a lot of exposure onValentine's Day. Infatuation can feellike love. It acts like love. It gives youlots of fun, but also gets you into themost trouble, and the biggest heart-breaks. Before we take a closerlook at infatuation, let'scheck out the other cate-gories.
Interest beginswith a first glance.If that first eyecontact lastsmore than fiveseconds, themessage is,"I'm interest-ed". Try it.Flirting andconversationensue.
Intrigue ispure desire,nothing else.Have you evermade eye contactwith someone andinstantly felt that elec-tric buzz? That's hotintrigue. It's a heat-seek-ing missile and physical. Ifyou already have a partner, it canalso mean real trouble unless youignore it.
Love... true mature love, is notromantic love. It is slow developingover time, energizing, dependableand supportive. In real love, you
don't need to be constantly together,because your trust level is unques-tioned.
Our smitten lady at Starbucks issolidly in infatuation. She may thinkshe is in love, but she's really in lust.Like intrigue, she's emotionally andsexually on fire. But, unlike intrigue,she wants a deeper relationship.She thinks about HIM 24/7. Whenthey get together, they are insepara-ble. Does it mean she has met thelove of her life, the father of her chil-dren, or the long awaited soul mate?
The answer is a cautious Maybe.Infatuation is an intense, time-limitedstate of affairs. Thank goodness,because it is exhausting! All thosemiddle of the night phone calls, theobsessing, the heart pounding - itwears you out! The good news isthat infatuation is necessary and
wonderful. It floods us with endor-phins and pleasure hormones thatmake the world a beautiful, exhilarat-ing place. As it evolves, this isromance at its best. It's fuel forromantic poets and sages.Especially on Valentine's Day, we fallfor it easily.
But, caution! What goes up mustcome down. Infatuation's romancehas an evil twin - a dark side. It turnsout Cupid is not as emotionally sta-ble as we would like. For all theamorous, euphoric feelings ofromance, there can be equalmoments of gloomy, distressing
reactions, based mostly on an age-old question…How could he do
this to me? Abandonment,disappointment, and
rejection can producedepression, groveling,
begging, and eventhe stalking andthreatening of ourformer "beloved".
What shouldyou do whenyou feel out ofcontrol andlove-struck? Behonest withyourself aboutwhere you are in
the relationship.Infatuation is fun
and fabulous whenit's ridden with
hearts, flowers and hotsex. But recognize that
you are at an unbalancedplace. Take time to exhale.
Spend some time by yourself forreflection. Talk to your girlfriends. Allof these will help you keep perspec-tive on your new "love".
If you stay with your new man forawhile - anywhere from threemonths to three years (yes, in rarecases, infatuation can last 3 years!),don't be surprised if you find yourselfwondering what happened to theflame when the intensity starts towane. Believe it or not, in a healthyrelationship, that's a moment tosavor. It means you are dropping thepretense of romance and signals thepossibility of a long-term and morestable commitment.
A few years ago, there was a dia-mond advertisement that read,"Nothing worthwhile happens fast".Cupid isn't going to like it, but thisphrase applies heartily to true love.Infatuation is the trickiest of allemotional waters to navigate.Enjoy it, but be honest with your-self about what is happening. Reallove takes time.
A CautionaryValentine’s Tale
MY LIFE
Katherine Forsythe
Katherine Forsythe is credentialed by AASECT - the AmericanAssociation of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. Katherine isa graduate of the University of Michigan in Communications, andholds an MSW with a specialization in human sexuality. She is a grad-uate of San Francisco State Institute for Human Sexuality. She has beenan adjunct instructor in human sexuality for physicians, at the Universityof Cincinnati College of Medicine.
Katherine writes about sex, intimacy, and relationships. She speaks toaudiences across the country. Contact her about her keynote presenta-tion for your group or association: Relationships That Last: What aConcept! . Katherine is available for private consulting concerningpersonal intimacy or relationship issues. Phone or office sessions areavailable. Call or email for more information about this article or aboutservices. Office: 415-934-0001. email: [email protected] confidentiality of your call or email will be protected.
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By Lorena Bathey
What does "Happy New Year!"mean to most people? Credit cardbills looming, still at the job you hate,swamped with organizational issuesat home and work, or simply just notsure where it is you are and where itis you are going.
January seems to be the greatequalizer in making you take stock ofyour life. Sometimes you even findthat you made the same resolutionsthat you made last year…oops! Andwhile you hope that you can do someof the things you have been holdingoff for so long, you are not exactlysure that it will work out. I mean,there are other people in your life thatyou have a responsibility to. It's notas if you can just take off willy-nillyand do the things that make you
happy. There is a hierarchy of"wants" in this world and yours fall atthe bottom of the totem pole.
And so it will go until January, andits urgency to change, turns intoFebruary. Then pretty soon theleaves are turning green and the flow-ers are bursting around you and youdid it….you survivedthe beginning of anew year.
Do you ever won-der who thought upthe sadistic idea ofmaking resolutionson New Years? Firstobserved in ancientBabylon about 4000years ago it beganwith the first NewMoon after theVernal (Spring)Equinox. Lasting 11days with each dayhaving its own cele-bration it is clear thatthe Babyloniansreally knew how toparty!
However, the idea of celebrating theNew Year began, it has lasted foreons of time. You can just imaginehow many centuries through timepeople have been agonizing over notonly their resolutions, but….will theyhave a date for the big New Year'sBash.
That being said, the New Year ishere and 2008 needs to be great.How do you do that? How do youmake a year great? I have an idea,instead of killing yourself to abide bythe resolution you made that wasprobably thought up after too manyglasses of champagne ….why notdecide that instead of living by reso-
lutions, you are going to live by thetitle given to the new year, "Happy".
We say it so many times on NewYear 's Eve and after, that it loses itsmeaning. "Happy" that's an idea isn'tit. Instead of trying to shed the 20pounds you believe you need to lose,spending more time reading, doingmore charity work, or simply saving
more money, what if you made asimple and doable goal of being"Happy."
Of course, everyone's idea ofbeing "Happy" is different. But whatis universal is the bliss and truth thatoccurs in your life when you strive tobe "Happy". Everything shines
brighter, looksnewer, smells nicer.When you wake upevery morning tocount your bless-ings, see the beautyof the day, or justsmile at yourself inthe mirror you havedone what youresolved to do. It'sthat simple and a farmore rewarding reso-lution, don't youthink?
So for 2008 insteadof resolving to be res-olute in your resolu-tions, why not simplylive the title that
January 1st was given, "Happy NewYear"! That is it, simple and straight-forward. Live a "Happy New Year".And when 2009 rolls around youwon't have to agonize over what youwill pick for the new year…you'llalready know. Your resolution is sim-ply "Happy New Year" and your cele-bration will last for 364 days. That'llshow those Babylonians!
Happy NEW Year!Resolve to live by the title of the new year...HAPPY!
MY LIFE
Lorena Bathey
Lorena Bathey lives in the suburbia of Northern California. In a peri-od of three years she lost her mother to cancer, her father remarried,and her own marriage disintegrated after years of neglect. In thesedrastic changes, she found herself.
Lorena was inspired to write her story when the fairytale of her eleven-year marriage was tested and it flunked. She started Scepter Pressand sent Happy Beginnings: How I Became My Own Fairy Godmother(www.scepter-press.com) out into the world.
Lorena lives with her two children in San Ramon, California. She notonly writes books but also is a mom, speaker, budding entrepreneur,and a connoisseur of coffee. Lorena is currently working on her sec-ond book and studying for a degree in metaphysical/spiritual healing.
Fairy Godmothers On The Go! ITALY 2008If you are looking to find a part of you that seems to have locked itselfin the closet of your psyche, come toItaly, May 7-17th with "FairyGodmother's On The Go". Lorenaleads you through breathtaking sceneryand important introspection all withlaughter and warmth. Sometimes find-ing yourself takes a stamp in your pass-port. Come join us on this life chang-ing adventure! What are you waitingfor, the time is now!
You can reach Lorena by e-mail at:[email protected] or
visit her website at:www.beyourfairygodmother.com to
learn more.
MY LIFE
By Michele BenzaSan Francisco's Best Kept Secret -Completely Confidential Image ConsultingFeaturing European Style & Elegance
What better way to celebrateValentine's Day than to spoil yourselfby buying a lovely piece of jewelry?
Jewelry is made out of almost everymaterial known and has been madeto adorn nearly every body part.While high-quality jewelry is madewith gemstones and precious met-als, there is also a growing demandfor art jewelry where design and cre-ativity is prized above the value ofthe material. In addition, there is theless-costly costume jewelry, madefrom less-valuable materials andmass-produced.
Fortunately, no matter the depth ofyour pocket, there is jewelry to suitevery budget. Choosing jewelry thatenhances your looks is fun andexciting. But, it can also be confus-ing and overwhelming, so keep thefollowing in mind to make selectionsthat compliment you!
If warm colors go well with yourskin tone, choose jewelry in shadesof yellow or gold. If cool colors suit
you better, then choose white metalssuch as silver, platinum or whitegold.
Another element to consider whenselecting jewelry is your personality.Are you a romantic gal, or is ele-gance more your style? Are youdrawn more to the natural or bohemi-an look, or more to western or dra-matic designs? As a rule, most of usare multifaceted and our wardrobe,and thus our jewelry, too, shouldreflect this aspect of ourselves.
See the "Jewelry SelectionGuidelines" insert to further help youchoose jewelry based on the shapeof your face and length of your neck.I recommend that you clip this out ofthe BAWJ and put it in your wallet forhandy reference to help you choosethe perfect piece to compliment yourfeatures.
If you have lovely, well-manicuredhands, wear ONE beautiful ring. Ifyour neck is your best asset, make anecklace the focus, but wear tinyearrings. Do not wear yellow ear-rings with a white metal necklaceunless it includes yellow and whitemetals (my personal preference!)
Remember, make a statement nota showcase and focus only on onepiece of jewelry. More is NOT better!
Just as you take care of yourclothes, you need to take care ofyour jewelry. Polish your silverpieces and check clasps and mount-ings regularly and carefully to avoidlosing precious pieces.
In French, there is a saying, "Dis-moi quels bijoux tu portes et je tedirai qui tu es." "Tell me what type ofjewelry you wear and I will tell youwho you are!" Thus, it is important toremember the jewelry you wear is anintegral part of your image sochoose pieces that improve it andthat are appropriate to your environ-ment. Remember, your image is yourfirst non-verbal communication andyour first business card. So wearand choose your jewelry well andenjoy it!
HappyValentine's
Day!
Earrings and Face Shape Diamond Shaped Face
-No to diamond or rectangularshapes
-Yes to curved earrings -More width and less length
Square Shaped Face-No to square shapes
-Yes to straight and curved earrings -More length, less width
Oblong Shaped Face-Yes to circular shapes
-No to dangle or drop earrings -More width, less length
Triangle Shaped Face-No to triangular shapes
-Yes to square or circular earrings -More length than width, rounded
base
Round shaped Face-No to circular earrings
-Yes to drops or to square earrings -More length, less width
Necklaces and Neck
Long Neck-A short necklace with severalstrands, e.g. swagged pearls
Short Neck-Long necklaces
Swan-Everything looks marvelous!
Lucky you!
Arms
Thin Arms-Lots of bracelets
Thick ArmsNo bracelets Small rings
Michele Benza
Born and raised in Belgium,Michele Benza is the founder of"Michele Benza ImageConsulting and Posture" a pro-gram that focuses on enhancingone's personal and professionalimage. She is certified in imageconsulting from EuropeanInstitutions and her niche isEuropean style and elegance.Michele is a member of theAssociation of Image ConsultantsInternational (AICI) and is theonly American member of theAssociation Francaise pourL'image Professionnelle etPersonnelle (AFIPP)!
With years of experience as anowner of retail fashion stores,esthetician, Pilates instructor andImage Consultant, Michele offersclients a truly unique experience.Her combined talents and servic-es help clients attain ideal pos-ture and to dress appropriatelyfor their body type, lifestyle andage! Michele Benza is SanFrancisco's best kept secret!To learn more call Michele at415-956-3025 or [email protected] or visit herwebsite atwww.michelebenza.com.
Testimonial -
Hello Michele,I had a fabulous time shopping with youon Tuesday. I am so thrilled with mynew items and I owe it all to you!!!Thank you for helping me raise myselfto a new level. I really needed to havethis wonderful opportunity at this timein my life.Merci and Sincerely,LBSanta Rosa, CA
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Celebrate Valentine’s Day With a Little Bling!How to Buy the Perfect Piece of Jewelry to Accent Your Best Features.
Michele Benza Image Consulting and PostureShreve Building, 210 Post Street, Suite 611,
San Francisco, CA 94108(415) 956-3025
www.michelebenza.com Email [email protected]
Jewelry Selection Guidelines
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By Deborah Burstyn
Alicia Keys, Fifty Cent and JenniferHudson better look out. Anysa,Youngin and Treszher are catchingup. These breath-taking young per-formers were among the top trophywinners in a recent afternoon talentshow at the Historic Sweets Ballroomin downtown Oakland present-ed by the Bay Area All Stars, aprogram of the All StarsProject, Inc.
Wait a minute. JoyceDattner, the effervescentdirector and a founder of theBay Area All Stars wants tosay something.
"This is not anotherAmerican Idol," quicklyexplains the Bronx native."Everyone gets a medal here.Everyone is a winner. That'swhy it is called 'All Stars.'We're a talent show whereevery young person makes it!.Sure, there are young peoplewho come through our pro-gram and go on to show businesscareers. Mekhi Phifer and Lil Mamagot their start in our New York AllStars. But we're a talent show notlooking for only the most talented orat risk. We create a stage for all innercity youth to use what they love to do-perform- to grow and develop aslearners, team builders, choice mak-ers and leaders. "
So why, you're probably thinking,are you encouraging thesekids to rap, break dance andsing on stage instead of tutor-ing them in school subjects?Again, we turn the microphoneover to Joyce.
"We believe that if you canperform on stage you can per-form in everyday life," saysDattner, who is also a busi-ness and life performancecoach. "All Stars is aboutbuilding confidence. We takesome of the best that kids lookfor in gangs - a sense ofbelonging and validation - andoffer it to them in a productiveenvironment."
Dattner is a feisty Boomer who cuther activist teeth during the 60supheavals of the Civil Rights andAnti-War Movements. When she wasa student at New York's City Collegein Harlem, she saw past the studentsmarching and carrying signs to the
surrounding community and realizedthey had other worries.
Dattner recalls, "There was a dis-connect between the community andthe campus. The community's con-cern which became mine was how tosupport the development of youngpeople in disadvantaged circum-
stances. All Stars grew out of a com-munity organizing and welfare rightsmovement."
The kids of adults active in thatmovement told Dattner and her col-leagues that they didn't have anythingto do. They asked them what theywanted to do. Their answer: let's puton a show. The year was 1981. ASouth Bronx church basement wasprocured. The All Stars program waslaunched.
In the ensuing years the success ofthis unique motivational performingarts program for youth inspiredDattner, a member of the All StarsProject Board of Directors, and hercolleagues to replicate the program inother cities. There are now All Starsprograms in Newark, N.J., Chicago,Boston, Los Angeles and as of sixyears ago, the SanFrancisco/Oakland Bay Area. Duringthose six years, over 1000 Bay Area
kids have beamed to thesound of an audience applaud-ing just for them; nationwidethe numbers swell to tens ofthousands since All Stars'inception.
Basically this is how it works.Twice a year, the Bay Area AllStars produces talent shows togive kids an opportunity tostrut their stuff. For six weeksat the beginning of each talentshow cycle, volunteers withred vests and clipboards fanout to neighborhoods in someof the Bay Area's poorest com-munities to sign up kids tocome and audition.
The audition criteria? Showup on time -- and with the five dol-lar registration fee.
"That's very important," explainsDattner. "That conveys to the kidsthat we take them seriously - thatwe have expectations for them.One of the worst things in life is
Learning to Perform Onstage to HelpKids Perform Offstage in Everyday Life
Bay Area All Stars and the Bay Area Business CommunityHelps Kids Sing and Dance Their Way to Development!
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Photo 1Dr. Elouise Joseph, Youth ProgramsManager for the Bay Area All Stars and(r) Tony Bush Jr., All Stars MC, look on asrappers Ajman Thrower and Greg Griffinreceive their awards
Photo 2Da Movement Dance Squad gettingready for their performance
Photo 3Joyce Dattner, Founder and Director ofthe Bay Area All Stars
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not to be taken seriously and no onehas any expectations for you."
Then every participant who gets onstage and performs is congratulatedand accepted into the program. Whatfollows is a three-hour workshop on aSaturday. The assignment at a recentworkshop was for each kid to imaginethat they're a talk show host and pre-pare several questions they wouldlike to ask other young people.
"Why do you think there's so muchviolence? How do we stop violence?Did you grow up with a father? Whatdo you think about homelessness?They ask very poignant questions,"says Dattner. They are also coachedin treating others with respect.
"No booing allowed. We takeresponsibility for each other." But theyare not coached in singing, dancingor any other aspect of performing.
Performing in the business worldthough is an area where All StarsTalent Show alums 16 to 21 years oldcan now also get some coachingthanks to All Stars business partnerssuch as the San Francisco law firms,
Heller Ehrman and Latham andWatkins. The firms have held onsiteDevelopment Workshops that bringAll Stars participants to their officesfor a half day.
Before their introduction to thefinancial district, they join other work-shop applicants at a group interview;are part of an improv theater work-shop where they practice their con-versational and question-askingskills. And they get to visitBloomingdale's and learn the differ-ence between dressing casual anddressing for work.
But kids are kids. What if someonedoesn't want to suit up?
"We tell them you can make thatchoice. It's up to you. But you won'tbe successful in the business world.We're not trying to turn them intolawyers. We're trying to develop inthem the capacity to do whatever theywant to do," explains Dattner.
"They learn they can take BARTfrom Oakland to go to an office in SanFrancisco. If a kid says I'm nervous,we say you've been on stage. Useyour capacity to perform to take youplaces you've never been before; toenrich every area of your life. All ofhuman activity requires performance.
If you can perform on stage, make adecision to use that skill to do whatyou want to do."
Dattner also points out that a per-formance is also a social activity thathelps build community. Whether it'sbringing together inner city kids,mostly African American and Latino,with affluent adult professionals orturning kids from different neighbor-hoods into an ensemble of perform-ers, or creating that special magic ofa performer connecting with his or heraudience, All Stars makes partici-pants aware of different communitiesthat can offer them options for posi-tive productive outcomes.
It's the business community invest-ing philanthropically in youth develop-ment that is funding the expansion ofthe All Stars, Dattner explains. Theorganization eschews governmentgrants and instead prefers privateindependent funding. "There aremore than 1,000 active Bay Areadonors. We're a unique partnershipbetween inner city youth and adultswho want to invest in an innovativedevelopment program that can helplift kids out of poverty.
Partners from Merrill Lynch, Lathamand Watlkins and Dunn andBradstreet have been generous
donors. Hunter Hunt is a member ofthe All Stars Project Board ofDirectors. In addition, members ofSan Francisco's venerable arts com-munity volunteer to serve as a panelof judges at the talent shows. Theyhelp decide who will receive first, sec-ond and third place in each perform-ance category although all partici-pants receive a medal.
That afternoon at the Talent Show inSweets Ballroom, rappers, dancers,singers and spoken word artists alltook their turn in the spotlight. TonyBush, Jr. the lively emcee was him-self an alumnus of the All Stars TalentShow program.
Amid the creative original lyrics andhip hop rhythms, when a talentedyoung singer named Master C lent anew timber to the Temptations' "MyGirl," the grandparents and parents inthe audience thrilled to the familiarmelody. But the crowd of over 200gave enthusiastic applause to eachand every performer.
To learn more, visit the All Starswebsite at www.allstars.org or contactJoyce Dattner at [email protected]
or 415 986 2502.
Photography by Margot Duane,planetmargot.com
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Mark your Calendar...East Bay Women in Business Roundtable Ten Year Gala Event!On February 1, 2008 the East Bay Women in Business Roundtable (EBWIBR) will celebrate its Ten-Year Anniversary. In 1998 when a small group of
savvy corporate female professionals and entrepreneurs of the Oakland Metropolitan Chamber of Commerce gathered to connect, support, learn, andgrow - EBWIBR was born.
In the beginning, EBWIBR's membership was sixty percent corporate professionals and forty percent business owners. Now the breakdown is 30percent corporate professionals and 70 percent business owners. Recognizing that women-owned businesses are the fastest growing piece of thesmall and mid-sized business segment in the country, EBWIBR will continue to bring thought provoking and stimulating topics to its audiences ofboth women and men.
SAVE THE DATE on February 1, 2008, when Fran Solomon, senior vice empress of Playfair, will lead our lunchtime festivities for the Ten-Year Galaevent. An inspirational teacher and irresistible motivator with a uniquely entertaining style, Solomon is an expert in the field for conducting interactive work-shops and group sessions on teambuilding, creativity, recognition, and FUN. Mark your calendar now for this commemorative event. To learn more, con-tact Darlene Crane at (510) 886-4483, [email protected] or Elsie Lum at (510) 272-6426, [email protected].
Deaf Hope 5th Annual Glimmer of Hope GalaJoin DeafHope as they celebrate their 5-year anniversary on February 23, 2008 with their annual gala Glimmer of Hope event. Appetizers and dinner
will be served by VIP waiters and there will be live entertainment, a silent auction and raffle.
DeafHope is now in the early stages of realizing its dream to design and build a new shelter for Deaf survivors in the San Francisco Bay Area. The newfacility will be a very special place with temporary living quarters and space for a host of social services within a supportive community environmentdesigned specifically for Deaf survivors.
Proceeds will benefit both the capital campaign and day-to-day operational services.The event will be held at the Ten15 Club, 1015 Folsom St., San Francisco, CA. To order tickets or learn more, visit www.deaf-hope.org.
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Welcome to the Community Resource PageThis page is dedicated to providing information on local non-profit organi-zations that provide services that are of benefit to our readers. So, whetheryou need help or want to get involved...check out this page.
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AnewAmericahttp://www.anewamerica.org
(510) 540.7785 ext 314Carolyn Carr
AnewAmerica's mission is to promote the long-term eco-nomic empowerment of new Americans - new citizens,immigrants, and refugees - and to encourage their full
participation in the political, social and cultural growth ofAmerica.
Bay Area All Starshttp://www.allstars.org
(415) 986-2565Caroline Donnola
The Bay Area All Stars uses a performance-learningapproach to foster the emotional and social develop-
ment of young people living in poor communities, pro-ducing neighborhood talent shows for young people
ages 5-25.
Catholic Charities CYOwww.cccyo.org(415) 972-1200
Catholic Charities CYO changes the lives of more than40,000 clients annually throughout San Francisco,
Marin, and San Mateo Counties via 33 programs thatserve the poor, the sick, children, youth, families, immi-
grants and seniors, regardless of faith.
Creating Economic Opportunities for Women(C.E.O. Women)
http://www.ceowomen.org/(510) 836-3481
The mission of C.E.O. Women is to create economicopportunities for low-income immigrant and refugee
women through teaching English, communications andentrepreneurship skills, so they can establish successful
livelihoods.
DeafHopewww.Deaf-Hope.org (510) 267-8800
Julie Rems-SmarioDeafHope is a nonprofit organization, established forand by Deaf women in January 2003. Our mission at
DeafHope is to end domestic violence and sexualassault against Deaf women and children through
empowerment, education and services.
Dress for Success San Franciscowww.dressforsuccess.org
(415) 305-9151The mission of Dress for Success is to promote the eco-nomic independence of disadvantaged women by pro-viding professional attire, a network of support and thecareer development tools to help women thrive in work
and in life.
GirlSource Inc.www.girlsource.org (415) 252-8880
Leticia HernandezGirlSource provides meaningful employment and leader-ship opportunities for low-income, high-school-age girls
in San Francisco. Our paid job programoffers technology training, supplemented
by individual guidance to help girlsfinish high school, go on to col-
lege, and launch their careers.
Golden Gate IntegralCounsel Center
www.goldengatecounseling.org(415) 561-0230
Golden Gate Integral CounselingCenter provides caring, profession-al psychotherpy and counseling ina relationship of trust and repect toindividuals, couples and families. Our suites are in a beautiful andtranquil setting near Civic Center
BART.
JumpStartwww.jstart.org 415-536-5867
Carol Laughlin Jumpstart helps struggling preschoolers develop
into successful learners through one on one atten-tion in the classroom. We are currently seeking vol-
unteers to partner with a child in reading and playing.Help a child have a brighter future.
Kellams Associates 501(c) (3)www.Kellams.org (415) 454-1050
Carolyn KellamsKellams Associates has taught communication, social
and emotional skills to thousands of teens and adults toprevent teen pregnancy by training teen parents to tell
their peers what having a baby is really like, and FamilySupport Seminars.
LifeFlowwww.lifeflow.org(510) 653-3300Deborah Erwin
LifeFlow's on-line programs deal with caring for agingparents and families providing end of life care. You can
learn about self-care while caregiving, financial deci-sions, work/life balance, advance directives, how todownsize and prepare for the move of an elder, and
more.
ProfessionalOrganizations
eWomenNetwork, San Franciscohttp://www.ewomennetwork.com
(415) 513-5733Ann Evanston
The #1 resource for connecting women business ownersand professionals worldwide. The SF chapter meets the
2nd Tuesday every month. Guests welcome
German American Business Association(GABA)
www.gaba-network.org(650) 386-5015Caroline Raynaud
The German American Business Association ofCalifornia (GABA-CA) is a non-profit organization thatfosters and promotes transatlantic business, cooperation
and careers by providing a network for German-American and US-German trade.
National Association of Women BusinessOwners
www.NAWBO-SF.org415-333-2130
Barbara Mark, Ph.D."Grow, Thrive, and Lead" with the San Francisco chap-ter of the National Association of Women Business own-ers, where we network with successful, savvy business
women, educate women to grow and sustain their busi-ness and support public policy related women business
owners.
COMMUNITY RESOURCES
The Bay Area Women's Journal is com-mitted to community support. Part ofour "GIVE BACK" program include afree listing of non-profit organizations
serving women and children of the BayArea. If you know of an organizationthat should be included in this listing,
please contact us by e-mail at [email protected] or call (415)874-8047, toll free (866) 789-6626.
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By Deborah Burstyn
The holidays are over. You've been good toeveryone. Now you can go be good to yourselfand not feel guilty. Here are some of ourfavorite outlet stores.
Ghirardelli Chocolate Factory1111 139th Avenue (at Rose Drive),San Leandro, CA 94578, 510-346-3146, Mon - Sat 10 am - 6 pm; Sun noon - 6 pm.
Here you can have it all - quality chocolate inquantity at bargain prices. Ghirardelli, thefamed San Francisco chocolate firm, has pro-duced its own premium line here since theGold Rush days. It remains one of the fewAmerican manufacturers that make chocolate,starting from the cocoa bean through to fin-ished products, with even the beans roastedin-house.
At 25% to 75% off retail price, you can stockup to your chocoholic heart's content on 60%cacao bars, flavored chocolate squares, gifttins, hot cocoa powder, baking supplies, sun-dae sauces plus Ghirardelli signature cook-books, aprons and mitts. No "seconds" here,just the good stuff.
Crate and Barrel Outlet Store1785 Fourth Street (between Hearst and Virginia), Berkeley, CA 94710,Mon - Sun 10 a.m. - 6 pm
This is Crate and Barrel's only NorthernCalifornia outlet store. You'll find overstocks,discontinued and out-of-season items.There's a little bit of everything and lots ofbargain-priced glassware, cookware, kitchengadgets, garden gear, candles, vases, flat-ware, bedding and fabric - fabulous fabric,some of it Marimekko.
A backroom holds damaged furniture andfloor models for sale but the prices aren't asgood as those for smaller items in the store'smain room. It's hit or miss. Go with an openmind and be prepared to find something youdidn't know you needed until you found it.
Mycra Pac Designer Wear Outlet535 Center Street, Moraga CA 94556, 925-631-6878, Mon - Fri 11 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Not only made in U.S.A. but made in Moraga.Who knew? Swooping through here on anordinary weekday might net you one of thecompany's high end designer raincoats.These tend to be lightweight, reversible, waterrepellant, packable, washable, generously-sized and made from a rainbow of shimmeringfabrics. Some are jacket or stadium length.
They also cost hundreds of dollars but herediscontinued styles, samples and secondscan be had for 20% to 60% lower than retail. Atwice yearly sale offers half off wholesaleprices.
North Face Outlet1238 Fifth Street (between Gilman and Harrison), Berkeley, CA 94710, 510-526-3530, Mon - Sat 10 am - 7 pm, Sun 11 am - 5 pm
Okay, how much difference is there reallybetween last year's backpack styles and thisyear's? Last year's parka and this year's?Right. Not much. You can head to the peaks ora bone-chilling ferry ride around the Bay outfit-ted head to toe in bargain-priced top of the lineouterwear.
There's a North Face retail store on PostStreet and one in Palo Alto in case you want tocomparison shop. One proviso, items pur-chased at the outlet store do not qualify forNorth Face's lifetime warranty. But at 60% ormore off retail, that may not matter.
Heath Ceramics Factory Store400 Gate Five Road, Sausalito CA 94965, 415-332-3732, Sun - Wed 10 a. - 5 pm, Thurs - Sat 10 am - 6 pm
Prestigious Heath Ceramics, revered in thehighest echelons of modern design, was start-ed in the 1940s by ceramics artist Edith Head inSausalito. And in Sausalito it remains to thisday.
Heath pieces are part of museum collections
and retail at places like Barney's New York andGump's. In fact Gump's gave Heath her firstcommercial order after seeing her work in amuseum exhibit at the Palace of the Legion ofHonor. So even at 30% discount in the factorystore, you're still looking at a chunk of changeto own a Heath. For example a chic little browncoffee cup lined in eggshell blue costs $19.25instead of $27.50. A pumpkin orange servingbowl runs $84 instead of its original $120.
Jessica McClintock Outlet Store25 15th Street (between De Haro and Carolina Streets), San Francisco, CA 94103, 415-553-8390, daily 10 am to 5 pm.
Who doesn't want something pretty forspring? And remember the only thing standingbetween a Jessica McClintock bridal dresspriced at $15 and a party dress may be a box ofRIT dye. San Francisco icon JessicaMcClintock's signature dressy dresses' facto-ries aren't here but the company's main officesare - and have been since the 70s whenMcClintock first made a name for herself withthe Gunne Sax line of calico and lace "granny"dresses favored by Haight Ashbury hippiesand later by prom queens and brides acrossthe country.
One of only two outlet stores (the other's nearL.A.), this one features overstocks, past sea-son merchandise, seconds, damaged goodsand samples of prom, wedding, cocktail andchildren's dresses. A promotion at press timeoffered, "All fall dresses 50% off, buy two andget the third for $10."
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Along with Valentine's Day are cer-tain symbols that reflect the meaningof love and romance. Here is a listingof some of those symbols and a briefsynopsis of how each one originated:
1. Heart: In ancient times, the heartwas thought to be the source of allemotions. It later came to be associ-ated most directly with the emotion oflove. It's not clear when the heartshape became the symbol for theheart organ. Some scholars specu-late that the heart symbol, as we useit to signify romance or love, camefrom people's early attempts to drawan organ they'd never seen.
2. Red roses: These flowers weresaid to be the favorite of Venus, theRoman goddess of love. Also, red is acolor that signifies strong feelings.
3. Lace: This material has long beenused to make women's handker-chiefs. Hundreds of years ago, if awoman dropped her handkerchief, aman might pick it up for her.Sometimes, if she had her eye on theright man, a woman might intentional-ly drop her handkerchief to encour-
age him. As such, people began tothink of romance when they thoughtof lace.
4. Love knots: These symbols ofeverlasting love have a series ofwinding and interlacing loops withno beginning and no end. They weremade from ribbon or drawn onpaper.
5. Lovebirds: Found in Africa, thesecolorful birds are so named becausethey sit closely together in pairs - like
sweethearts do. Doves are symbolsof loyalty and love because they matefor life and share in the care of theirbabies.
6. "X": This sign represents a kiss,
and the tradition started with themedieval practice of allowing thosewho could not write to sign documentswith an "X." This was done before wit-nesses, and the signer placed a kissupon the "X" to show sincerity, whichis how the kiss came to be synony-mous with the letter "X," and how the"X" came to be commonly used at theend of letters as kiss symbols. Somebelieved "X" was chosen as a varia-tion on the cross symbol, while othersthought it might have been a pledge inthe name of Christ, since the "X" - orchi symbol - is the twenty-second letterof the Greek alphabet and has beenused in church history to representChrist.
7. Cupid: The mischievous son ofVenus, the Roman goddess of love,Cupid is supposedly responsible forpeople falling in love. According tomyths, anyone being hit by Cupid'sarrow falls in love with the first per-son he or she sees. In Greek mythol-ogy, Cupid has Eros, the son ofAphrodite, as his counterpart. Thenames of both of these gods areused synonymously with the conceptof love today.
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And I Was ToldBy Aiyana
An Ordinary Woman’s SpiritualJourney Reveals The Extraordinary!Quirky San Francisco attorney Cheri
Greene meets, and instantly connects withtough police officer Gabriel Koomowa.Gabe soon falls seriously ill and Cherifinds herself helping him to survive.Nearing death, he is spontaneouslyhealed, leaving the once logical lawyersearching to understand why.
In her quest for answers Cheri discoversshe has paranormal gifts, and has livedprior lives. She also learns her purpose inthis life is to be a scribe, writing words offuture prediction and prophesy, and wordscontaining answers to time honored ques-tions of mankind.
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Goal DiggerBy Alicia Dunams
Marry rich! That's what Alicia Dunamsset out to do. But instead of marrying amillionaire, she learned the secrets ofbecoming one-turning her dates withfame and fortune into the ultimate wealth-building school. Inside this sizzling newtell-all, Alicia takes you beyond the expen-sive gifts, exotic trips and lavish dinners toreveal the intimate lessons her Rich Mentaught her about money, life and success.To order, please visitwww.goaldigger.com.
Successful model turned author andentrepreneur, Alicia Dunams is a successcoach who inspires "can do" action tohelp her clients design and live theirdream life.
Prospect When You Are HappyBy Erica Nelson
Learn how to get into a great placebefore making any call, and watch yourresults skyrocket. Author Erica Nelsonspells out a step-by-step primer to put theLaw of Attraction into action. Get clearon what you want. Then beam it out.Watch people flock to you. When youfeel good, everyone wants to be nearyou. A positive mindset clears the pathfor much more prosperity and delight.That is what "Prospect When You AreHappy: Move the Law of Attraction" isabout.
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Happy Beginningsby Lorena Bathey
Lorena Bathey's story is the story of theevery woman. In Happy Beginnings:How I Became My Own Fairy Godmother,Ms. Bathey puts a name to the turbulentemotions that swirl around such anupheaval as divorce and gives women theopportunity to identify with issues in theirown world. Seeing Ms. Bathey succeed,the readers are empowered to take uptheir own wand and make their owndreams come true. Ms. Bathey is anauthor and an inspirational speaker thatchooses, to further the cause of womentoday by giving them the strength to makea difference in their life.
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By Kathi O'Leary
Creating photos with appeal andpower is a process and a journey.The great photographers like AnselAdams or Henri Cartier Bresson(both great teachers as well as mas-ters) explain that it takes knowingyour camera mechanics by heart,pre-visualizing a good photo andthen waiting patiently for the rightmoment to push the shutter. Ofcourse they have lots more to sayabout photography than that, but as aBay Area portrait photographer andteacher myself, I have a few pointersto share with anyone who wants toimprove their photography.
In my last article, I cautioned thatone must read thecamera manual toavoid the unpre-dictable results ofthe automatic set-ting. Controllingshutter speed andaperture is as criti-cal in 2008 as it wasin 1908. Shooting ingood lighting condi-tions is extremelyimportant for anycamera, from aview camera to adisposable. With aready camera and alocation that affordsgood light you willneed to considerthe art of composi-tion to frame yourpotential winningphotos.
In other words, you need to knowwhere to point the camera!
You can photograph anything thathas enough light for the camera torecord a picture (point and shoot!).But will that photograph be attractive
to look at or cause one to think? Keepin mind that certain general shapesand tones tend to make good photos.We are drawn to repeats like a row ofcolumns, or picket fences. We lovegeometric shapes; triangular shapeswork really well.
And in the two dimensional photo-graphic print there is pleasure in see-ing deep color, separation of tones, orobjects with patina like rust and bark.For subject matter, it is eye catching toshow well-isolated people or animals,flowers, or simple tools that allude tohuman activity like coffee cups, orshoes left outside a door.
Remember that filling your photo rec-tangle is just as demanding as filling a
canvas with paint. Fit all the interestingthings inside the rectangle andexclude that which is not part of yourartistic statement. An oil painter wouldnot paint a rose in a pot, and then adda Fed Ex truck in the background tohelp the composition. But, when pho-tographing in the real world, deliverytrucks lurk around every corner. And,
the corollary to this is that sign postsseem to grow out of people's headslike mushrooms after a rain shower.The photo artist minds their back-grounds just as much as their subject,pointing their lens at the good andleaving the distractions behind.
What are yourcomposit ionalchoices forexample in cap-turing a flower ina pot?
Well, youcould put it off-center with ablack paperb a c k g r o u n d ;place it in yourchild's lap;change thepoint of view toan aerial perspective; shoot in a sepiacolor setting; place it next to a bulldoz-er to emphasize its fragility; or useyour macro setting and only shoot thepetals.
Composing is not static, it's kinetic;you've got to move! Get on yourknees, hop on a chair. Move the sub-ject into different lighting conditions.
Another composition tip is to stand inrelation to your subjects so that there
is "optical" separationof things side to sideand front to back. If youtake a photo of twobuildings, angle it sothat you see lightbetween them. Thetwo-dimensional photo"reads" better with sep-arate shapes.
Shooting a subjectoff-center is interestingtoo. All you have to dois pre-focus on it andthen, while keepingyour finger down tolock the focus and lightreading, reposition thecamera so the subjectis more to the side andthe background fills
more space. Again it is always impor-tant to confirm that you are pre-focused. If you let go of the half-wayfocus before shooting, the camera willfocus again on something else in thecenter. That gives camera lag andoften puts the main interest out offocus, a disappointing result.
And lastly, the grand daddy of all
compositional tips, shoot at "the deci-sive moment". This refers to scenes inthe real world that have movingobjects. Waiting for a moving subjectto come clearly into your composition,is the mark of a patient, confident pho-tographer and Doisneau's does just
that in his famous shot of a proudFrench boy with his wine bottles,rounding the corner at that magicmoment in time. It takes persistence,and luck too, but like the lotto, you'vegot to play to win, so get out there andfind that perfect photo of your own.
Kathi O'Leary
Kathi O'Leary has been captur-ing eye catching portraits of fam-ilies and professionals in the BayArea for 14 years and has andalso runs a photography schoolfor students as young as 7. Herportrait studio is on Divisadero Stin Pacific Heights. She offers digi-tal photography instruction toindividuals and groups and holdsweeklong workshops for kids dur-ing school and summer breaks.
For Valentine's Day, order photoclass gift certificates from Kathistarting at $75- a great compan-ion to a new camera outfit. Andcheck out Kathi's photo partiesfor birthdays and corporate teambuilding events.
You can reach Kathi at 415-359-1900 or e-mail, [email protected] or to learnmore, visit her website:www.kathioleary.com .
TPhoto Credit:top: By Kathi O’Leary
bottom: By Keenan, age 11
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By Ying Yang
The curtain rises to revealstunningly beautiful 3-D scenerythat fills the backdrop. On stage,scores of classical Chinesedancers in splendid costumesgracefully dance with joyousheavenly music from an exclu-sive live orchestra. Chinese NewYear Spectacular has begun.
Largest and FinestCelebration in the World
Displaying true traditionalChinese culture reinterpretedfor a modern audience on mod-ern stages, Chinese New YearSpectacular will grace 66 majorcities across four continents,bringing heart-felt joy to650,000 audience members in 2008.Audiences have acclaimed it a ren-aissance, a true world-class celebra-tion on the grandest scale.
"'Chinese New Year Spectacular'has spectacle to spare - and a mis-sion to lift the spirits."
- San Francisco Chronicle
"The shows are at once elegantand entertaining - a perfect way forthe whole family to celebrate the NewYear together." - Magazine Best ofNew York
Reviving True Chinese Traditions
China once went by the name "TheLand of the Divine," because ancientChinese people believed thatChinese culture was a gift from theheavens. In more modern times, theancient beliefs and customs havebeen eroded, most notably duringthe Cultural Revolution.
In 2006, over 200 world-renowned classical Chinesedance artists, vocalists, andmusicians gathered in NewYork and formed Divine
Performing Arts. Inspired tobring their true culture
back to life, they brokeaway from the
Communist cul-ture imbedded
into arts andsuccess -
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thousand years of civilization into abreathtaking performance.
The Spectacular contains heroiclegends and pious tales, ethnic folkdances and grand classical proces-sions, embodying pure truthfulness,pure compassion, and pure beauty.English and Chinese hosts introducestorylines, history, and culturalthemes, and translations of songlyrics are projected onto the back-drop, adding to the audience's under-standing and giving context to theperformances.
Redeveloping Chinese Classical Dances
Ancient Chinese people empha-sized harmony of body and mind andthe belief in the divine. Chinese clas-sical dance emphasizes this innermeaning. The expanse of one's per-formance is the embodiment of one'sexperiences, and the internal enlight-enment of one's life. Chinese classi-cal dance involves dozens of distinc-tive movements, rhythms, postures.It also includes martial arts and acro-batics. It is therefore capable ofexpressing most any character orstory and is truly entertaining towatch.
Resounding Heavenly Melodies:Fusion of Western and ChineseMusic
For the first time, the Orchestra forthe Spectacular successfully com-bines Western and Chinese instru-ments to create a unique whole.The music draws upon thestrengths of Western orchestrationto present various distinctive stylesof Chinese music.
Bright, pure, elegant, andmelodious with a definite clas-sical slant, the music in theSpectacular expresses the joyof sound from heaven and ithas deeply touched people'shearts. Ancient Chinesebelieved that creation of musicwas originally intended as amedicine to cure. Show goershave told miraculous stories-"After watching your perform-ance, my illness is cured."Perhaps we should credit partof this miracle to music.
Reserving the Beauty ofAncient Culture: GorgeousCostumes
Through dance, music, back-ground scenery, and dazzling
costumes, the Spectacular joyfullytransports us to the Divine Land ofancient China.
The Spectacular's wardrobedesigners put great effort into creat-ing just the right effect. A costumestarts with a concept of the dance.Designers pore over paintings, fres-coes, and even statues to find theright look for the specific dynasty.Accessories then come into thedesign-hair, shoes, hats, and belts.
Ms. Amy Lee, the principal designerin New York, has worked in the fash-ion industry for more than twentyyears. In general, "Everything can befound in the clothes-even the ancientpeople's morals and values," saidLee, "Clothing isn't just a way tocover the body. It also reflects a per-son's thoughts, culture, and respectfor the gods.
Chinese New YearSpectacular
Chinese New Year Spectacularwill be presented at SanFrancisco Orpheum Theatre fromJan 23-26, 2008.
To witness the finest productionin the history of performing arts,please call 415-512-7770 ororder tickets on linewww.shnsf.com.For more information, please visitwww.BestChineseShow.com.
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