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Care for the CaregiverWhat You Should Know when Your Loved One has Alzheimer’s

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Natalie McFarland

Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng • Swansea, IL Experience a Dementia

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Overview of Dementia Alzheimer’s Disease is a brain

disorder named for German physician Alois Alzheimer, who first described it in 1906.

• He presented the case of “Auguste”, a 51 year old woman.


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Overview of Dementia


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• a broad term for any brain disorder that causes confusion, memory loss, personality changes, and mental decline


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Is a progressive and fatal brain disease

Causes plaques and tangles in the brain that destroys brain cells

Is the most common form of dementia

Has no cure


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Test Your Alzheimer’s IQ

1. Dementia is another name for early stage Alzheimer’s. T/F

2. If you suspect you have dementia, there is no point in visiting a doctor to get diagnosed because there is no treatment. T/F

3. Alzheimer’s disease is a psychiatric disorder. T/F

4. Alzheimer’s disease is fatal. T/F

5. Alzheimer’s disease is more common in older adults (over age 65) than in other age groups. T/F

6. Alzheimer’s disease is the most common of the irreversible dementias. T/F


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Timeline


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TreatmentCurrent medications slow disease

progression, but are not a cure.

Medications include Aricept, Exelon, Reminyl, and Namenda.

Psychotropic medications are used to treat challenging behaviors and moods.

“Hugs instead of Drugs”


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Communication Approach the person from the front.

Always get the person’s attention before speaking.

Avoid startling the person by moving slowly and gently.

Establish and maintain eye contact at face-to-face level.

Identify yourself by name.

Smile.


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Communication Speak in a gentle, soft voice.

Give brief, one-step directions.

Praise successes and emphasize the positive.

Use as few words as possible and be direct.

Be patient and reassuring.

Allow plenty of time for response.

Use non-verbal nods, smiles, pats, and gestures.

Use familiar words and cues.


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Communication Minimize noise and distractions.

Remain calm and reassuring if the person becomes agitated.

Maintain a comfortable distance.

Be repetitive and consistent.

Validate the person’s feelings and respond to them.

Talk to the person as an adult, not a child.

Keep your own stress to a minimum.


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Behaviors

Whose problem is it, anyway?


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Behaviors

Have you ever been lost? Late for an appointment? Made the wrong turn?

Scared ANXIOUS Nervous Unsure FrUsTrAtEd UptightANGRY Impatient MAD


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Behaviors Look for triggers:

Time – Pain – Bathroom – Tired – Environment.

Remain calm.

Go for a walk.

Do not argue.

Allow the person to feel that he/she is in control.

Sing a song together.

Use their life story.


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Behaviors

Kindness is a language that all can understand.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



The person with Alzheimer’s has lost the last 20 to 60 years, they are living at a younger age in their minds.

No matter how hard we try, we cannot bring back their short term memory. This means we should not bring them to our reality, but that we need to live their reality.

When they are looking for their mom, we need to tell them their mom is getting groceries. By giving answers that make sense to them, they are able to relax and not worry about where mom is.

We don’t like doing this because we feel like we are lying to them. I reassure you it is not lying, but it is “living their truth”.

Live Their Truth


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Live Their Reality

Maybe it will help if you visualize yourself in their position. Let’s say you have Alzheimer’s but do not remember that you do. You are actually 85 but you think you are 24. You wake up in a strange place and remember that you have children but you cannot find them. So you ask a stranger for help and they tell you that your kids are grown and you live here now and everything is fine. Your reaction might be, “Everything is not fine. I need to go home and find my kids!”

Does this vision help you understand? More importantly I hope it takes away some of the guilt you might have about “lying”.

There is no reasoning with someone with Alzheimer’s and you will not be able to make them live your reality. So instead, live their reality, and find treasures on your journey in their reality.


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“I want to go home.”

Families feel guilt when they hear “I want to go home”.

Families might stop visiting because it’s too uncomfortable.

Understand that the home they are often looking for no longer exists because it’s a home from long ago.


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“I want to go home.”

Responses:

Distraction – Tell me about your home.

Support – Your son will pick you up _____.

Magic words – I know things seem confusing right now, but I am here for you and I care about you.

The doctor wants to make sure you are feeling 100% better so he thought you should stay one more day.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



“Where are my children?”

Response: Your kids are still in school.

Your daughter is working today.

Your kids are safe. Your sister is keeping them at her house today.

Poor Response: Your kids are grown up now and they don’t live around here.

Poor Response: Don’t you even know that I am your son? How could you forget me?


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“I have to go to work.”

Response: It’s a holiday.

It’s Saturday. It’s Sunday. It’s the weekend.

We are supposed to get bad weather today so your boss has instructed us to take the day off.

Poor Response: You are retired and you don’t work anymore.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



“Where is my husband?”

Another very difficult situation is when the person asks where their spouse is and their spouse has already passed away.

Again, we need to live their reality. This person wouldn’t be asking where their spouse is, if he/she didn’t think their spouse was alive, right?

Imagine if someone told you today that your spouse was dead. What grief and pain you would go through. Now imagine that you asked that question every day, and every day you had to relive the news of the death of your spouse.

I cannot stress enough that you should not tell the person that their spouse passed away. Instead think of what their spouse might be doing if they were alive. “Jo is at work.” “Alice is getting groceries.”


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President Eisenhower


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Expectations

The course of dementia can take many alternate routes and can affect individuals in very different ways, so expect the unexpected!Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



ExpectationsWandering and not recognizing familiar items are common symptoms of dementia.

Label your loved one’s clothes, glasses, and other belongings with permanent marking.


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ExpectationsMisplacing objects is another very common

symptom of dementia.

Please remove valuables such as expensive or sentimental jewelry from our home. Try replacing valuable jewelry with costume jewelry.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



Expectations

We want to make sure your loved one is safe.

Please notify your loved one’s caregivers when you are leaving with your loved one. Sign out in the book at the front lobby. When keying in the alarm code, be sure a resident does not follow you out.


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Expectations

There is no such thing as a magic wand.

Your loved one may not want to take a shower here any more than they did at home, but with the right approach, we hope to partner with you and your loved one in providing them with the best care.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



Expectations

Remember in activities and socialization, quantity is not always quality.

It is our goal to enjoy life-enriching activities with each and every one of our residents every day.

A simple hug, hand massage, or hearing a memorable story from your loved one can often times be more meaningful than a large group activity such as a movie or bingo.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •



Adjusting to a New Home

Expect agitation for at least 2 -3 weeks.

Expect the person to be angry but do not beat yourself up about it.

Know that you did the right thing and that your loved one just needs to

grieve.


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Plan a BRIEF visit, 10 – 15 minutes.

A 3-hour visit is going to cause agitation.

If a loved one demands to go home, do not try to explain.

A person with dementia will often start talking about going home when they start to get tired, usually after about 30 minutes into the visit. Take it as an indication that it is time to go.

Don’t focus on goodbye.Sycamore V i l l age Ass i s ted L i v i ng •




Take something to do.

Once you are done, it is time to go.

Have the staff divert your loved one to an activity such as a meal.


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Call before you come so you know what kind of day your loved one is having...


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Talk. Smile. Compliment.


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Care for the Caregiver

Who are today’s caregivers? Spouses Daughters Daughters-in-law Sons Siblings Grandchildren Friends


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“Caregivers are at increased risk for depression and illness, especially if they do not receive adequate support from family, friends, and the community.”

~ National Institute on Aging


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Pace yourself…It’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon.


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Put on your own oxygen mask first.


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What can you do? Let it go. “You cannot control the

wind, but you can learn to adjust the sails.”

Educate yourself.

Maintain a sense of humor.

Be your own best friend.

Take time to relax.

Join a group.

Find support.


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References

Alzheimer’s Association

Best Friend’s Approach to Dementia Care

http://bit.ly/hMS4IX


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