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Advice On A Boyfriend Break Up Have you just broken up with a guy? Are you lost without him? Do you wonder if you can get him back? Heres some advice about a boyfriend break up. First of all, decide whether the relationship is truly over. Until you are able to say that he is part of your past and not your present and future, you will not be able to move on. This is not to say that you have to put him in the past right away. There are a number of steps you can take to get him back. You can stay part of his life in a casual way hopping to become boyfriend and girlfriend again. But, if you are ready to move on, there are a number of steps you can take to reach closure. Closure is the process where you recognize that the relationship is over and you start to heal. Perhaps the first thing you should do is communicate your hurt. There are several ways to do this: Talk to friends and family who are truly empathetic and can help you work through your feelings. A true friend will do this, but many of your so called friends wont be up to the challenge. Go into short term therapy so you can work through your feelings with a dispassionate third party Write down your feelings in a journal, in poetry, or in music. This is an inexpensive way to express yourself and doesnt require anyone else to participate. Once you have come to some level of closure, get rid of anything you have of your exs. These things will only remind you of him and the boyfriend break up. Some things youll want to give back because they have value. Other things you can just toss. And, if hes given you gifts that you want to keep, box them up and store them for the time being. Next, figure out how you are going to spend your time now that you are not part of a couple. You may feel that time hangs heavy on your hands. Or, you may find that you are liberated by not having to do everything your ex wanted you to do. Get involved in things that make you happy. Go to the gym so that you look and feel good. Spend some time getting pampered at the spa. Take a Spanish class at the community center. Or, start to volunteer with the Big Sisters of America. By doing things that please you, you will become a happier person. You will find that you miss your ex a lot less. One of the ways you will know that you are over your ex is that you will start to develop feelings for a new guy. Maybe these will be reciprocated. Eventually, you will find a new man and form a new relationship. That will be when you know you have really moved on. The boyfriend break up wont be so serious any more.

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Advice On A Boyfriend Break Up Have you just broken up with a guy?  Are you lost without him?  Do you wonder if you can get himback?  Heres some advice about a boyfriend break up. First of all, decide whether the relationship is truly over.  Until you are able to say that he is part ofyour past and not your present and future, you will not be able to move on. This is not to say that you have to put him in the past right away.  There are a number of steps youcan take to get him back.  You can stay part of his life in a casual way hopping to become boyfriendand girlfriend again. But, if you are ready to move on, there are a number of steps you can take to reach closure.  Closureis the process where you recognize that the relationship is over and you start to heal. Perhaps the first thing you should do is communicate your hurt.  There are several ways to do this: Talk to friends and family who are truly empathetic and can help you work through your feelings.  Atrue friend will do this, but many of your so called friends wont be up to the challenge. Go into short term therapy so you can work through your feelings with a dispassionate third party Write down your feelings in a journal, in poetry, or in music.  This is an inexpensive way to expressyourself and doesnt require anyone else to participate. Once you have come to some level of closure, get rid of anything you have of your exs.  These thingswill only remind you of him and the boyfriend break up.  Some things youll want to give back becausethey have value.  Other things you can just toss.  And, if hes given you gifts that you want to keep,box them up and store them for the time being. Next, figure out how you are going to spend your time now that you are not part of a couple.  Youmay feel that time hangs heavy on your hands.  Or, you may find that you are liberated by not havingto do everything your ex wanted you to do. Get involved in things that make you happy.  Go to the gym so that you look and feel good.  Spendsome time getting pampered at the spa.  Take a Spanish class at the community center.  Or, start tovolunteer with the Big Sisters of America.   By doing things that please you, you will become a happier person.  You will find that you miss yourex a lot less. One of the ways you will know that you are over your ex is that you will start to develop feelings for anew guy.  Maybe these will be reciprocated.  Eventually, you will find a new man and form a newrelationship.  That will be when you know you have really moved on.  The boyfriend break up wont beso serious any more.

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