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Need for Communication
• Very strong in Human beings• Considered as a basic need,
as in the case of eating, sleeping, etc.• Established as both a social &
individual need
Have something to say and say it as clearly as you can, that is the only secret of style.
Matthew Arnold
One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live.
On their return from their trip, the father asked ,"How was the trip?" "It was great, . "Did you see how poor people live?" the father asked. "Oh yeah," said the son. "So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?" asked the father.
The son answered: "I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a stream that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night. Our courtyard reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them."
The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, "Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are." Isn't perspective a wonderful thing?
Aggressive Communication
• Must have the last word
• Talking over the other person
• Out of control emotion
• Blaming
• Talking down12POC: ASC MRT, DSN 793-4847
Anyone can become angry. That’s easy. But to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time for the right purpose and in the right way is not so easy.
Anyone can become angry. That’s easy. But to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time for the right purpose and in the right way is not so easy.
Passive Communication
• Quiet
• No eye contact
• Withdrawn
• Sulking
• Submissive
• Fearful
• Appeasing
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Icebergs beneath Passive Communication
• It’s wrong to complain.
• I don’t really care. It doesn’t matter.
• I’ll make enemies if I speak my mind.
• No one ever really changes anyway.
• It’s more important that people like me, than to be right.
• I don’t like conflict.
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We spend between 50 and 80 percent of our waking life communicatingOn average, half of that communication time is spent in listening.
We spend between 50 and 80 percent of our waking life communicatingOn average, half of that communication time is spent in listening.
Listening - a neglected art
Most individuals are inefficient listenersInefficient and ineffective listening is extraordinarily costly
Listening - a neglected art
Listening - a neglected art
Learned Used Taught
Listening 1st Most (45%) Least
Speaking 2nd Next most (35%)
Next least
Reading 3rd Next least (16%)
Next most
Writing 4th Least (9%) Most
Spoken words only account for 30
-35% of the meaning. The rest is
transmitted through nonverbal
communication that only can be
detected through visual and auditory
listening
The average person talks at a rate of
about 125 – 175 words per minute,
while we can listen at a rate of up to
450 words per minute
Physicians interrupt 69% of patient
interviews within 18 seconds of the
patient beginning to speak. As a
result, in 77% of the interviews, the
patient’s true reason for visiting was
never elicited .
When you've learned how to Listen, well that's when you've learned everything you need to know in your life!"
Bad Listener
• Pretending to pay attention when you are not
• Trying to do other things while listening
• Deciding the subject is uninteresting
• Getting unfocused by the speaker’s way of speech, or other mannerisms
• Getting over-involved and thus losing the main thread
• Letting emotion-filled words arouse personal anger and enmity
• Concentrating on any distractions instead of what is being said
• Avoiding anything that is complex or difficult
Bad Listener
We are blessed with two ears and one mouth - a constant reminder that we should listen at least twice as much as we talk.
• You have over 630 muscles in your body. • It takes the interaction of 72 different muscles to
produce human speech.
• The strongest muscle in your body is your tongue.– use it effectively
• You have over 30 muscles in your face to help you smile or frown.– 17 muscles to smile– So... smile everytime you see someone – it’s easier!
Finally... some body Facts
"Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime.“