Understanding Abusive Relationship Tactics

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

No matter what tactics your partner uses, the effect is to

control and intimidate you or to make you feel that you

do not have an equal voice in the relationship.

UNDERSTAND ABUSIVE TACTICS

HOW TO FIGHT-BACK

SELF DEFENSE WORKSHOPS

ABUSIVE TACTICS 1

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Oppression is the exercise of authority or power in a burdensome, cruel, or unjust manner.

WEBSITE www.shorinjikempo.org.in

A tool for exerting control and power is the use of

threats and coercion. The victim may be subject to

threats that they will be left, hurt, or reported to

welfare. The abuser may threaten that they will

commit suicide.

COERSION AND THREATS

ABUSIVE TACTICS 2

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Control freaks manipulate and pressure others to change so as to avoid having to change themselves.


Abused individuals may be intimidated by the

brandishing of weapons, destroying their property

or other things, or using gestures or looks to create

fear.

INTIMIDATION

ABUSIVE TACTICS 3

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Control freaks use power over others to escape an inner emptiness .


One method is to prevent the abusee from getting a

job. Another is to control their access to money;

This can be done by withholding information and

access to family income, taking their money,

requiring the person to ask for money, or giving

them an allowance.

ECONOMIC ABUSE

ABUSIVE TACTICS 4

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Individuals with sadistic personality disorder derive pleasure from the distress caused by their

aggressive, demeaning and cruel behaviour towards others.


Emotional abuse include name-calling, playing

mind games, putting the victim down, or humiliating

the individual. The goals are to make the person

feel bad about themselves, feel guilty or think that

they are crazy.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

ABUSIVE TACTICS 5

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Sadistic people have poor ability to control their reactions and become enraged by minor disturbances.


Isolation includes controlling a person's social

activity: who they see, who they talk to, where they

go and any other method to limit their access to

others. The abuser exhibits hypersensitive and

reactive jealousy.

ISOLATION

ABUSIVE TACTICS 6

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Psychopath will weigh you up according to your usefulness, and you could be recognised as either a

pawn or a patron.


The abuser may deny the abuse occurred to

attempt to place the responsibility for their behavior

on the victim. Minimizing concerns or the degree of

the abuse is another aspect of this control.

DENYING & BLAMING

ABUSIVE TACTICS 7

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Psychopath will create a scenario of “psychopathic fiction” where positive information about

themselves and negative disinformation about others will be created.


Children may be used to exert control, by

threatening to take the children or making them feel

guilty about the children. It could include harassing

them during visitation or using the children to relay

messages. Abusing pets.

USING CHILDREN AND PETS

ABUSIVE TACTICS 8

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Individuals with sadistic personality disorder derive pleasure from the distress caused by their

aggressive, demeaning and cruel behaviour towards others.


Using "privilege" means that the abuser defines the

roles in the relationship, makes the important

decisions, treats the individual like a servant and

acts like the "master of the castle".

USING PRIVILEGE

THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME

T h e P e r s o n ! T h e P e r s o n ! T h e P e r s o n !

E v e r y t h i n g d e p e n d s o n t h e q u a l i t y o f t h e p e r s o n .

SHORINJIKEMPO INDIA

Education

Understanding Abusive Relationship Tactics