Parenting Ideas!

Fun with EducationFun with EducationFun with EducationFun with Education

About this Talk� How do we understand our Children’s needs?

� Why Our children’s needs are as such?

� Why is it important to know about their needs?

� What can we do to supplement our Children’s education?

� where can we get Help?

� How can we support ourselves?

� About your Child

� Growing up Phases

� Leadership to Independence

� Essential Skills

� Fun- Activities for Kids

� Support for Parents

� Q&A

Agenda

Activity

Lets get to know each Other

Have some fun!

What do I expect to Learn and take home with me today

Why we send our kids to school

How do we know our kids?� Parents need to talk with each other more …

� Parents need to engage their Kids constructively

� Parents need to update themselves on developments

� Keep a Journal of your Kids Life Journey

� Lead by example

� Play and Have FUN!!!

Why is it Important to know?� Because there are statistics, from proven research

� Its their Future, and ours, and Humanity’s

� Changing times, Now ever faster and more furious!

� Education has a Price and today exert$ Real value

� Society and Media run contrary to reality

� Most importantly, your Kid is Able and is our only Hope …

Quote

If you are planning for a year, sow rice;

if you are planning for a decade, plant trees;

if you are planning for a lifetime, educate people.

Chinese proverb

About the Child� Capability

� Talent

� Temperament

� Pride e.g. showing off

� Defining, growing, different as time progresses

� In addition to basic needs (Maslow’s and others’)

Growing Up Phases1. Play Age 3 to 5 Years, Initiative vs. GuiltInitiative vs. GuiltInitiative vs. GuiltInitiative vs. Guilt; Purpose

(prior Trust vs. MistrustTrust vs. MistrustTrust vs. MistrustTrust vs. Mistrust, Drive and Hope; Autonomy Autonomy Autonomy Autonomy

vs. Shamevs. Shamevs. Shamevs. Shame, Self-control, Courage, and Will)

2. School Age 6 to 12 Years, Industry vs. InferiorityIndustry vs. InferiorityIndustry vs. InferiorityIndustry vs. Inferiority,

Method and Competence

3. Adolescence 12 to 18, Identity vs. Role ConfusionIdentity vs. Role ConfusionIdentity vs. Role ConfusionIdentity vs. Role Confusion,

Devotion and Fidelity (therafter Affiliation and Love)

8 stages of growth

� Infancy from Birth to 18 Months, Trust vs. Mistrust, Drive and Hope

� Early Childhood 18 Months to 3 Years, Autonomy vs. Shame; Self-control, Courage, and Will

� Play Age 3 to 5 Years, Initiative vs. Guilt; Purpose

� School Age 6 to 12 Years, Industry vs. Inferiority, Method and Competence

� Adolescence 12 to 18 Years, Identity vs. Role Confusion, Devotion and Fidelity

� Young adulthood 18 to 35, Intimacy and Solidarity vs. Isolation, Affiliation and Love

� Middle Adulthood 35 to 55 or 65, Generativity vs. Self absorption or Stagnation, Production and Care

� Late Adulthood 55 or 65 to Death

Ego Development Outcome: Integrity vs. DespairBasic Strengths: Wisdom (AF Harder 2009)

� Kid complains, Finds classes and activities boring

� Teachers complain, Kid is restless and misbehaves

� Kid is “Labelled” either above- or below-

� Kid is indeed a “troublemaker”

� Failing studies

Typical Issues at School

Essential Skills

� CCCComputing

� IIIInterpersonal

� PPPPresentation i.e. public

� SSSSurvival e.g. first aid

� OOOOther Life skills

� MMMMusic & AAAArts

� MMMMathematics e.g. market

� SSSScience

� HHHHumanities e.g. concerns

� PPPPhilosophy

� Working together as a team

� Competing individually and as a team

� Following a leader or team mates

� Leading others

� Collaborating and Supporting

Leadership

Computing Skills

� Using, finding help

� Documenting, Bloging

� Messaging, Chatting

� Searching the web

� Setting, Configuring

� Staying ahead on trends

� Administrating usage

� Incorporating useful …

� Innovating useful apps

� Intelligence, Robotics

� Mashing technologies

� Programming

Activity

Explore your common interest and those of your Kids’

List down wishful activities for your Kids

Suggest one or two programmes that you can create

together as new friends

Activities for Kids

� Computing

� Field trips

� Institutional visits

� Sleep over

� Solving problems

� Board or Mind games

� Celebrations

� Sports

� Teaching others

� Travels and Tours

Activities for Kids

ComputingComputingComputingComputing

� Is a Essential Life skill

� Blog, website, media

� Toys such as robotics

� Computational thinking

Solving ProblemsSolving ProblemsSolving ProblemsSolving Problems

� In Everything we do

� Purpose driven projects

� Inputs from study

� Individually, with a team

Activities for Kids

Field tripsField tripsField tripsField trips

� Kinaesthetic approach

� Being in the environment

� Group interactions

� May be extended duration

Institutional visitsInstitutional visitsInstitutional visitsInstitutional visits

� Familiarisation

� Observation

� Relate to study, real life

� e.g. visit Engineering sch.

Activities for Kids

Sleep OverSleep OverSleep OverSleep Over

� To Know friends better

� Social skills

� To Extend community

� e.g. watch meteor shower

Board or Mind GamesBoard or Mind GamesBoard or Mind GamesBoard or Mind Games

� Mental exercises, logic

� Family and Friends

� Managed environment

� e.g. Monopoly, Cluedo

Activities for KidsSportsSportsSportsSports

� Basketball, court games

� Soccer, field games or

individual events

� Martial arts, e.g. TKD

� Health & Physical dev.

CelebrationsCelebrationsCelebrationsCelebrations

� Birthdays

� Festivities

� Achievements

� Involve other kids

� Organise or attend

Activities for KidsTeaching othersTeaching othersTeaching othersTeaching others

� Reinforce learning

� To explore new subjects

� Kids like to lead as well

� A Necessary social skill

� e.g. short video project

Travels and ToursTravels and ToursTravels and ToursTravels and Tours

� Extended duration

� Relate to studies

� Include adventures

� Write a Journal, publish

However …

The least of things with a meaning is worth more in life

than the greatest of things without it. - Carl Jung

Typical Parents’ ConcernsKidKidKidKid

� Personality

� Academic

� Health

� Skills & Talents

� Acceptance

SelfSelfSelfSelf

� Example

� Scheduling

� Setting Goals

� Time management

� Trusting

Support for Parents

� Non-governmental Org.

� friends

� Parent-teachers

� Social-community meets

� Web based e.g. forums

� Professional

� Semi-professional

� Not-For-profit

� Literature

� Personal journals

Support for ParentsDirect avenues e.g.Direct avenues e.g.Direct avenues e.g.Direct avenues e.g.

� Parents Teachers Assoc.

� Professional programmes

� Self-organise support

� Community-family

Indirect avenues e.g.Indirect avenues e.g.Indirect avenues e.g.Indirect avenues e.g.

� Malaysian Nature Society

� Malaysian Scientific Assoc.

� NAGC Malaysia

� Homeschoolers groups

NAGC Malaysia� Parenting meetings:

member support sessions

� News, sharing

� Outdoor Field activities

� Resources, e.g. books etc.

� Workshops

� Affiliations

� Public resource-avenue

on Giftedness matters

� Research, New developments

� Professionals in membership

� Members ‘give back’

Journaling(1) blog e.g. wordpress

(2) images and videos e.g. on Picassa and Youtube

(3) calendar of events

(4) events and announcements e.g. use Facebook

(5) hardcopies but Not recommended

(6) contacts

(7) Use Google Docs, together with social media for …

Don’t forget to make backups

� Robert Tee, PhD MCompSc MEnv BSc(Hons) MIEEE

robertee@gmail.com .. +6019 321 8163

Profile on Facebook, LinkedIn, www, etc.

� Vice-President, National Association of Gifted Children Malaysia

� Interests in Education, Computing, Entrepreneurship

and personal mentor, coach

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