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Fathers, Work and Family Life!

This material is based upon work supported by the National Institute of Food and Agriculture, U.S. Department of Agriculture, and the Office of Family Policy, Children and Youth, U.S. Department of Defense under Award Numbers 2010-48869-20685 and 2012-48755-20306.

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Today’s Presenters:

Dr. Scott Behson Dr. Scott Behson is a Professor of Management at the Silberman College of Business at Fairleigh Dickinson University, where he teaches, conducts research, and provides consulting services in work-family balance and workplace flexibility. He earned a Ph.D. from the University at Albany, State University of New York and a B.S. from Cornell University. He has published over 17 academic journal publications, presented over 40 times at prestigious national and international conferences, won seven research and teaching awards, and was named a Who’s Who in Work-Family Research by the Sloan Work-Family Research Network. Behson also runs the popular blog, Fathers, Work and Family, dedicated to supporting work-family balance for fathers. His writing has appeared at the Harvard Business Review, Time, the Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post and Good Men Project, and he has appeared on CBS This Morning, NPR Morning Edition, and HuffPost Live.

Tim Red is the Senior Program Military Consultant for the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI). He joined NFI after serving 30 years in the military with the last twenty in an Active Duty status. He served as the State Family Program Director for the Texas National Guard for four years. He also was mobilized and then deployed overseas in support of the Kosovo Peacekeeping mission for seventeen months. Currently, he works with Military Family Programs to help them understand the importance of reaching out to fathers and how to best do that.

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Fathers, Work and Family: The Challenges for Today’s Dads and How We Can Respond

Scott Behson, PhD Fairleigh Dickinson University As part of a webinar for The Department of Defense

Today’s Dads Pulled in Many Directions

�  Provider/Caretaker � Husband/Partner �  Father/Dad � Own Career/Spouse’s

�  Face a different set of expectations than their own dads

�  “Funhouse mirror” version of working women’s dilemma

Today’s Generation of Fathers �  Tripled time spent with children/on childcare � Doubled housework � Aspire to more egalitarian households BUT �  Same # of work hours �  Similar career ambitions �  Less financial/job security �  Sole/primary provider in 85% of dual-parent

households �  Social (and self) pressure to be providers � Workplaces that expect “all in” commitment

No Wonder That…

� Over 60% of dads report significant work-life conflict and stress (higher than moms!)

Challenges At Work � Men face barriers at work as they

expand family involvement ◦  Supervisors ◦  Coworkers ◦ Organizational Cultures ◦  Increased Time Demands

�  Still expected to be primary provider and “all-in” for career ◦  Extra flexibility stigma for men ◦  90% desire paternity leave, almost

none take it ◦ Many must hide family priorities

How I Counsel Non-Military Dads �  Examine own priorities �  Discuss these with spouse and others �  Calibrate career and family accordingly �  Financial simplification �  Assess your work situation �  Time management and prioritization �  Negotiate for increased work flexibility �  Protect family time from creeping demands of work �  Be present during family time �  Take some “me time” for recharging �  Build informal support network of peer dads

How I Counsel Non-Military Organizations �  Increase time/place flexibility when possible �  Redesign work for teams and redundancy �  Proper use of technology for flexibility �  Reduce excessive work expectations �  Time management and prioritization �  Space for part-time, informal and ad-hoc

solutions �  Supervisor and leadership support for balanced

culture �  Long-term approach to employees

Military Dads �  Stressful work �  A “calling” for many, with strong career/

personal identity �  Forced travel/time away from family �  Less freedom to go against supervisor,

rules, culture or system �  Male-dominated workforce �  Often a “macho” culture �  Financial pressures �  Chronic overwork

Stress, divorce levels much higher for military families �  http://www.rand.org/news/press/2013/09/03.html

How can we help military dads? 1. Awareness that other dads feel the same pressures �  Formal and informal peer support � Role-modeling by leaders

The goal: Make it more ok and normal to talk about concerns and struggles

How can we help military dads?

2. Reduce chronic overwork � More regular hours �  Schedules well in advance � Keep people unplugged from work after hours � Make them use all available vacation time � Use it or lose it sick/personal days

The goal: Reduce stress and allow time for life

How can we help?

3. Smart use of technology � Ways to work more flexibly? Time/place? �  Stay connected to loved ones while away The goal: maintain family connections and enhance communication

How can we help?

� Your ideas?

Thank you! � [email protected] � www.FathersWorkandFamily.com � @ScottBehson on twitter

Today’s Presenters:

Dr. Scott Behson Dr. Scott Behson is a Professor of Management at the Silberman College of Business at Fairleigh Dickinson University, where he teaches, conducts research, and provides consulting services in work-family balance and workplace flexibility. He earned a Ph.D. from the University at Albany, State University of New York and a B.S. from Cornell University. He has published over 17 academic journal publications, presented over 40 times at prestigious national and international conferences, won seven research and teaching awards, and was named a Who’s Who in Work-Family Research by the Sloan Work-Family Research Network. Behson also runs the popular blog, Fathers, Work and Family, dedicated to supporting work-family balance for fathers. His writing has appeared at the Harvard Business Review, Time, the Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post and Good Men Project, and he has appeared on CBS This Morning, NPR Morning Edition, and HuffPost Live.

Tim Red is the Senior Program Military Consultant for the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI). He joined NFI after serving 30 years in the military with the last twenty in an Active Duty status. He served as the State Family Program Director for the Texas National Guard for four years. He also was mobilized and then deployed overseas in support of the Kosovo Peacekeeping mission for seventeen months. Currently, he works with Military Family Programs to help them understand the importance of reaching out to fathers and how to best do that.

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How to successfully engage Military Dads

©2012 Na/onal Fatherhood Ini/a/ve

n  Where do you work with military families? n  On an installation n  Off-‐base n  Both n  None of the above

Audience Poll

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NaAonal Fatherhood IniAaAve™ ________________________________________________

Improving the well-‐being of children by increasing the propor/on of children with involved, responsible, and commiHed fathers in their lives.


Defining the Issue

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n  24 million children live in homes absent their biological father*

n  1 of 3 children na/onally -‐ triple the rate of 1960 -‐ live in father-‐absent homes*

n  2 of 3 in the African American community live in father-‐absent homes*

n  2 of 5 children in father-‐absent homes have contact with their fathers less than once per month**

n  9 in 10 moms and dads believe there is a father absence crisis in America today***

* From the U.S. Census Bureau, “America’s Families and Living Arrangements: 2010” ** From Aquilino, W.S. (2006). The noncustodial father-‐child rela/onship from adolescence into young adulthood. Journal of Marriage and

Family, 68, 929-‐946 ***From Na/onal Fatherhood Ini/a/ve’s “Mama Says” and “Pop’s Culture” surveys (2009 and 2006)

> There are record levels of father absence in America


Defining the Issue

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Since 1965, fathers have more than doubled their /me doing child care and house work* Societal agreement on the no/on that dads should not only provide for their children, but nurture and guide them, too

*Anthes, E. (2010, May/June). Family guy. Scien4fic American Mind

> However, today’s involved fathers are more involved than ever


Children in father-‐absent homes are two to five /mes more likely to: n  live in poverty n  fail in school n  develop emo/onal or behavioral problems n  abuse drugs n  be abused and neglected n  become involved in crime n  commit suicide

Why Fathers MaKer

> The Consequences of Father Absence


Why Fathers MaKer

> The Benefits of Father Involvement

Children with involved fathers are more likely to have: n  beHer cogni/ve outcomes, even as infants n  higher self-‐esteem and less depression as teenagers n  higher grades, test scores, and overall academic

achievement n  lower levels of drug and alcohol use n  higher levels of empathy and other pro-‐social behavior


n  Nurturing Fathering and Paren/ng is first and foremost a philosophy that emphasizes the importance of raising children in a warm, trus/ng, and empathic household.

n  Nurturing from Fathers is just as important and needed as Nurturing from Mothers

n  Men don’t gravitate towards the word Nurturing but Involved/Responsible/CommiHed Fathers provide it everyday

Nurturing – a Benefit of Father Involvement

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> NFI is a non-‐profit, non-‐parAsan organizaAon that was founded in 1994 to begin a society-‐wide movement to renew fatherhood in America.

Who is NaAonal Fatherhood IniAaAve (NFI)?

NaAonal Fatherhood IniAaAve Mission: To improve the well-‐being of children by increasing the

propor/on of children with involved, responsible, and commiHed fathers in their lives.

Educate Educate and inspire all Americans, especially fathers, through public awareness campaigns, research, and other

resources.

Equip Equip fathers & develop leaders of na/onal, state,

and community fatherhood ini/a/ves

through curricula, training, and technical assistance.

Engage Engage every sector of society through strategic alliances and partnerships.

NFI’s Mission is carried out using a “Three E” Strategy


n  NFI has published more studies about fatherhood than any other organizaAon n  NFI has published 35 research reports including:

n  3 na/onal surveys on fatherhood and marriage n  24 state surveys on fatherhood and marriage n  7 research compila/ons n  A report on the economic cost of father absence

n  NFI has the quickest and broadest access to the largest amount of fatherhood research n  By accessing its research compila/on, Father Facts, combined with knowledge of

Census data and other relevant data sources, NFI can provide the public with informa/on on fatherhood quickly and accurately.

> NFI, through the publicaAon of research educates the public about the importance of strengthening fatherhood in America.

What Does NaAonal Fatherhood IniAaAve Do? Research


n  Pops Culture Survey –over 50% of Fathers feel like they are replaceable

n  What Mama Says Survey – over 50% of Mothers feel like the Father is replaceable

n  One Hundred Billion Dollar Man Study

What Does NaAonal Fatherhood IniAaAve Do? Research

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The Facts on Military Fathers

n  Approximately 593,000 ac/ve-‐duty Service Members and nearly 300,000 U.S. Reservists are dads.

n  Approximately 1.8 million children of military dads are affected by the unique stresses of military life.

n  150,000 military fathers are currently deployed, with deployments ranging from 30 days to 15 months.

n  This means that approximately 300,000 children are currently separated from their fathers.


Military Dads: Who Are They?



n  Regular Dads . . . n  Parents n  Providers n  Husbands



n  That have faced or are facing: n  Deployment Separa/on n  Child Custody n  Divorce n  Reunion / Reintegra/on n  Combat Stress n  Health Issues n  Communica/on Challenges

It is a challenge for them to be involved, responsible, and committed.


Why Programming for Military Dads?

n  So, with all that said, the question is still asked – “Why should we have programming for Military Dads?”

n  So why should we? n  How many of you are currently working with Military Dads speciGically?

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n  Research tell us: n  Military life and family life can compete with each other.

n  Service members are looking more for work/family “fit” than ever before.

n  Service members make re-‐enlistment decisions based on family circumstances, leader support, & sa/sfac/on with services.

n  Service members are more able to focus on mission when family concerns are addressed.



n  Paren/ng n  Where are Men taught how to be Fathers?

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n  Addresses the 6 Protec/ve Factors n  Nurturing and aHachment n  Knowledge of paren/ng and child and youth development

n  Parental resilience n  Social connec/ons n  Concrete support for parents n  Social and emo/onal competence of children


Resilience

n  I aHended the DOD/USDA Family Resilience Conference where I experienced many great programs designed to improve the resiliency of Mothers, Spouses, Families, Children and Parents.

n  However, no one at this conference (except for NaAonal Fatherhood IniAaAve) was talking about a crucial piece of the Family – Fathers. Why is that?


Resilience

n  Family Program organiza/ons can be very successful in improving the resiliency of Mothers and Children from Military Families. But, if that Military Father is struggling with resiliency or has none, it will be very challenging to sustain resiliency successes for Mothers, Children and Families.


Where do you start?

n  So where do you start a Military Family Program on an installation or in the National Guard /Reserves?

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Programming targeted to:

n  Child Development Centers n  Family Advocacy n  New Parent Support Programs n  Chaplains n  Family Programs (ACS, FFSC, AFRC, MCCS, USCG Work-‐Life) n  Na/onal Guard Family Programs (States and Wings) n  Army, Air Force, Navy, and Marine Forces Reserves Family

Programs n  Local Community-‐based organiza/ons that support the

military n  Leadership


How do we reach them?

n  Types of programs: n  Training specifically for fathers n  Skill-‐building resources specifically for fathers n  Reunion/Reintegra/on events n  Pre-‐Deployment briefings n  Fatherhood Resource Centers n  Leadership Educa/on


How do we reach them?

n  Involvement/Commitment by Senior Military Leadership is impera/ve to a very successful and sustaining Military Dad Program on an installa/on

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Fatherhood Resource Center


So how do you use the FRC?

n  Mobile (allows you to take the informa/on to the Dads)

n  Light weight n  Resource holders can be removed n  Can mount on the wall n  Can change posters



n  Take the FRC to where Fathers are gathered n  Exchange n  Gym/Fitness Center n  Barber Shop n  Dining Hall/Dining Facility n  Bowling Alley



n  Take the FRC to events Fathers may be aHending n  Chaplains are hos/ng a Men’s Breakfast n  Paren/ng Classes n  Marriage Enrichment n  Stress/Anger Mgmt Classes n  Reunion/Reintegra/on n  Pre-‐Deployment Briefings n  Family Days n  Leadership Mee/ngs n  FRG Mee/ngs (introduce to Moms)


When to use the resources?

n  Use in Home Visits n  Use in Counseling sessions n  Place in New Baby Gip Packages n  Give to a Deploying Expectant/New Dad n  Use as a tool to educate Leadership


Next Step – Training specifically for Dads

n  24/7 Dad n  7 Habits of the 24/7 Dad n  Doctor Dad

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Recruitment challenges for training

n  Market heavily but Dads do not show up n  Don’t want to aHend classes aper work n  Leadership will not let them take classes during the work day

n  If I go to a Fatherhood Class I am doing something wrong

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Recruitment strategies for training

n  Leadership buy-‐in (Good Dad=Strong, Prepared Family=Mission Success)

n  Educate Senior Leadership on the hours spent by Junior Leadership on Family Advocacy cases

n  Offer classes at the unit n  Financial/Promo/on incen/ves

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BoHom line

n Good Dads = Strong, Prepared Families = Mission Success

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Fatherhood.gov

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NFI’s Website

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Free Resources on our website

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Father Factor Blog

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n  Tim Red – Contact informa/on: n  [email protected] n  Work # (240) 912-‐1262 n  Cell # (214) 478-‐1635


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