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Family Relationships
The Family
Families form a system of interacting elements
Parents and children influence one another
Parents influence their children both directly and indirectly
Children influence their parents◦ Children’s behaviors, attitudes, and interests affect how
their parents behave toward them
In the systems view, families, parents and children influence
each other and parent-child relations are influenced by other
individuals and institutions
Culture
School
Work
Extended
Family
Neighborhood
Religious
Organizations
Family
MotherFather
Children
Function of Families
Survival of offspring◦ Families help to ensure that children survive to
maturity by attending to their physical needs, health needs, and safety
Economic function◦ Families provide the means for children to acquire the
skills and other resources they need to be economically productive in adulthood
Cultural training◦ Families teach children the basic values in their
culture
Parental Socialization
Parents as direct instructors◦ Parents may directly teach their children skills, rules, and
strategies and explicitly inform or advise them on various issues
Parents as indirect socializers◦ Parents provide indirect socialization in the course of their
day-to-day interactions with their children
Parents as providers and controllers of opportunities◦ Parents manage children’s experiences and social lives,
including their exposure to positive or negative experiences, their opportunities to play with certain toys and children, and their exposure to various kinds of information
Parenting Dimensions
There are two general dimensions of parental behavior
The degree of warmth and responsiveness that parents show their children
The amount of control parents exert over their children
Warmth and Responsiveness
At one of the spectrum are parents who are openly warm and affectionate with their children
At the other end of the spectrum are parents who are relatively uninvolved with their children and sometimes even hostile toward them
Parental Control
Parents’ efforts to supervise and monitor their children’s behavior
Effective control◦ Setting standards that are appropriate for the child’s
age◦ Showing the child how to meet the standards◦ Rewarding the child for complying to these standards
Parents should enforce the standards consistently◦ Children and adolescents are more compliant when
parents enforce the rules regularly
Effective control is also based on good communication◦ Parents should explain why they’ve set standards and
why they reward or punish as they do
Parental Styles (Baumrind)
Authoritarian parenting◦ High parental control with little warmth
Authoritative parenting◦ A fair degree of parental control with being warm and responsive to children
Indulgent-permissive parenting◦ Warmth and caring but little parental control
Indifferent-uninvolved parenting◦ Neither warmth nor control
Children with authoritarian parents typically have lower grades in school, lower self-esteem, and are less skilled socially
Children with authoritative parents tend to have higher grades and be responsible, self-reliant, and friendly
Children with indulgent-permissive parents have lower grades and are often impulsive and easily frustrated
Children with indifferent-uninvolved parents have low self-esteem and are impulsive, aggressive, and moody
How Can Parents Influence Their Children?
Direct Instruction◦ Telling a child what to do, when and why
Learning by Observing (modeling)◦ Learning what to do by watching
◦ Learning what not to do (counterimitation)
Feedback◦ Parents indicate whether a behavior is appropriate
and should continue or should stop
Feedback
Reinforcement◦ Any action that increases the likelihood of the response that it follows
Punishment◦ Any action that discourages the reoccurrence of the response that it follows
Negative Reinforcement Trap
Parents often unwittingly reinforce the very behaviors they want to discourage
◦ First step: The mother tells her son to do something he doesn’t want to do
◦ Second step: The son responds with some behavior that most parents find intolerable
◦ Third step: The mother gives in – tells the son he doesn’t need to do as he was initially told as long as he stops doing the behavior that is so intolerable
Punishment Works Best When:
Administered directly after the undesired behavior occurs, rather than hours later
An undesired behavior always leads to punishment, rather than usually or occasionally
Accompanied by an explanation of why the child was punished and how punishment can be avoided in the future
The child has a warm, affectionate relationship with the person administering the punishment
Drawbacks to punishmentPunishment is primarily suppressive: if a new behavior isn’t learned to replace it, the old response will come back.
Punishment can have undesirable side effects:
◦ Children become upset as they are being punished which makes it unlikely that they will understand the feedback that punishment is meant to convey.
◦ When children are punished physically – they often imitate this behavior with peers and younger siblings.
Children who are spanked often use aggression to
resolve their disputes with others and are more likely to
have behavior problems
Parenting behavior and styles evolve as a consequence of the child’s behavior.
Children’s behavior helps determine how parents treat them and the resulting parental
behavior influences children’s behavior, which can in turn cause parents to again
change their behavior.
This reciprocal influence lead many families to adopt routine ways of interacting with each other.
Some families end up running smoothly (parents and children cooperate, anticipate each other’s needs, and are generally happy).
Some families end up in trouble (disagreements are common, parents spend much time trying to unsuccessfully control their defiant children, and everyone is often angry and upset).
Children’s Influence
Parental warmth gradually changes as children develop◦ Hugs and kisses work with toddlers not with adolescents
Parental control gradually changes as children develop◦ Parents gradually relinquish control and expect children to be responsible for themselves
Attractiveness
Mothers of very attractive infants are more affectionate and playful with their infants than are mother of infants with unappealing faces
Why?◦ An evolutionary explanation would propose that
parents are motivated to invest more time and energy into offspring who are healthy and genetically fit and therefore likely to survive
Attractiveness could be seen as an indicator of these characteristics
Marriage and Divorce
Divorce
Nearly half of all first marriages end in divorce◦ Every year approximately one million American children have parents who divorce
Divorce is distressing for children because it involves conflict between parents and usually separation from one of them
Family Life After DivorceChildren usually live with their mothers◦ About 15% of children live with their fathers after
divorce
How does life change (based on the Virginia Longitudinal Study)?
◦ First few months after divorce, many mothers are less affectionate toward their children
◦ Two years after the divorce, mother-child relationships improve, particularly for daughters
◦ Six years after the divorce, children in the study were adolescents
Family life continued to improve for mothers and daughters
Family life was problematic for mothers and sons
Impact of Divorce on Children Children whose parents had divorced
fare poorly compared to children from intact families in:◦ School achievement◦ Conduct◦ Adjustment◦ Self-concept◦ Parent-child relations
Children adjust to divorce more readily if their divorced parents cooperate with each other, especially on disciplinary matters
◦ Children benefit from joint custody if parents get along
Divorce’s Influence on Development
The absence of one parent means that children lose a role model, a source of parental help and emotional support, and a supervisor
Single-parent families experience economic hardship◦ Creates stress and often means activities once
taken for granted are no longer available
Conflict between parents is extremely distressing to children and adolescents◦ Particularly for children who are emotionally
insecure
Which Children are Affected?
The overall impact of divorce is about the same for boys and girls
◦ However, divorce is more harmful when it occurs during childhood and adolescence than during preschool or college years
With regard to parents’ remarriage, young adolescents appear to be more negatively affected than younger children
◦ Young adolescents’ struggles with issues of identity are heightened by the presence of a new parent who has authority to control them and is a sexual partner of their biological parent
Children and their Peers:Play
Peer Relations
Children’s skills at interacting with peers improves rapidly
◦ Children are becoming increasingly self-aware, more effective at communicating, and better at understanding the thoughts and feelings of others
What are some benefits of play?
Play and social development go hand and hand.
Play offers many opportunities to be with other children and to share, take turns, disagree, and compromise (Mitchell and Davis, 1992).
While at play, children are increasing their self awareness and are becoming more involved in cooperative play.
Benefits of play
Emotionally, children develop greater self awareness and they are more able to predict the emotions of others.
According to Huffnung (1997) children will develop empathy or the ability to appreciate the feeling of others and understand their point of view.
◦ If one child begins an activity, it is likely that his friends will want to follow along.
Developmental Sequence of Cognitive Play
Play Category Description Examples
Functional Play
Simple, repetitive motor movements with or without objects. Especially common during the first 2 years of life.
Running around a room, rolling a car back and forth, kneading clay with no intent to make something
Constructive Play
Creating or constructing something. Especially common between 3 and 6 years.
Making a house out of toy blocks, drawing a picture, putting together a puzzle
Pretend Play
Acting out everyday and imaginary roles. Especially common between 2 and 6 years.
Playing house, school, or police officer; Acting out storybook or television characters
Parten's Five Types of Play Mildred Parten (1932) was one of the
early researchers studying children at play. She focused on the social interactions between children during play activities.
Recent research suggests that children do not necessarily spend more time in social types of play as they get older, but rather their play within each category becomes more cognitively mature (Berk, 2004)
Parten's Five Types of Play
Onlooker behavior◦ Playing passively by watching or
conversing (or asking questions) with other children engaged in play activities.
These children seem to move closer to a group rather than watching whatever momentarily catches their attention.
All by myself play…
Solitary independent -Playing by oneself.
◦ A child plays alone with objects.
Even if the child is within speaking distance of others, the child does not alter her or his play or interact with others.
Solitary Play – Good or Bad?
Some forms of solitary play are signs that children are uneasy interacting with others
◦ Wandering aimlessly A child that goes from one preschool activity to the
next, as if trying to decide what to do
They just keep wandering, never settling into play with others or into constructive solitary play
◦ Hovering A child stand nearby peers who are playing, watching
them play but not participating
Parallel Play
Playing, even in the middle of a group, while remaining engrossed in one's own activity.
◦ Children playing parallel to each other sometimes use each other's toys, but always maintain their independence.
◦ “He plays beside rather than with the other children" (Parten, 1932).
Associative Play
When children share materials and talk to each other, but do not coordinate play objectives or interests.
◦ All the children in the group are doing similar activities, but specific roles and goals are not defined.
A Group Effort
Example: When several children make sand castles at the beach, they may share the job of making walls and digging the moats, and perhaps consult with one another about digging a channel to these.
BUT…as members of the group lose interest and wander off, others may joining the activity.
Cooperative play
This type of play occurs when children organize themselves into roles with specific goals in mind
◦ They help each other accomplish a joint venture, such as selling lemonade or building a fort for their “club”
Think back…What are some examples of YOUR cooperative play?
Cooperative Play
Example: while playing hospital they assign the roles of doctor, nurse, and patient.
Each member of the group remains with the task until it is finished or the group decides together to go on to other activities.
The progression from solitary to parallel to associative to cooperative play reflects
the child's growing ability to sustain his interests and relate to other children.
Typical 1 ½-year-old Typical 4-year-old
Parallel Play Associative Play Cooperative Play
Sociodramatic Play
As children develop the ability to represent experiences symbolically, pretend playbecomes a prominent activity.
◦ Pretend play is when children act out various roles and themes in stories that they create themselves.
By the age of four or five, children's ideas about the social world initiate most pretend play.
Sociodramatic Play
Actions in play often reflect real world behavior, they also incorporate children's interpretations and wishes.
Through dramatic play, children learn to assert themselves in a way to build their competence in later adult roles (Elkind, 1981).
◦ Children explore and rehearse social roles they have observed in society
◦ A child learns basic life skills such as cooperation, negotiation and compromise through play.
Is there any value to sociodramatic play?
When children play dress-up they are taking on the role of someone else. By doing this, children must try to think and behave in a manner appropriate to their pretend persona.
Such Sociodramatic play also helps them to understand others and develop feelings of empathy.
Thanks for your great patience!!!