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Using Emotions
in a Positive Way
Jim Marteney
Professor of Communication Studies
Los Angeles Valley College
Selecting a Teammate
What characteristics do
you look for when adding
a person to your team at
work?
Emotional Intelligence
Tuning into the wealth
of information generated
by our feelings, senses
and our overall
emotions.
Emotional Intelligence
“It’s not your IQ. It’s
not even a number.
But emotional
intelligence may be
the best predictor of
success in life,
redefining what it
means to be smart.”
October 1995
Myths about Emotions
Emotions are Dangerous
Emotions are inferior as they are
more primitive than reason
There are good emotions and bad
emotions
EmotionsAnger fury, outrage, resentment, wrath, exasperation, irritability
Sadness grief, sorrow, gloom, melancholy, loneliness, dejection
Fear anxiety, apprehension, nervousness, concern, misgiving, dread
Enjoymenthappiness, joy, relief, contentment, bliss, whimsy,
rapture
Love acceptance, trust, kindness, affinity, adoration, infatuation
Surprise shock, astonishment, amazement, wonder
Disgust contempt, disdain, scorn, abhorrence, distaste, revulsion
Shame guilt, chagrin, remorse, humiliation, regret
5. Relationship Skills
“You will make more friends in
two days being interested in
them, than in two months trying
to get them interested in you.”
Dale Carnegie
Emotional IntelligencePersonal
Competenc
e
Social
Competence
Recognition
Regulation
Self Awareness
Emotional Self Awareness
Accurate self-assessment
Self-confidence
Self-Management
Self-control
Trustworthiness
Adaptability
Achievement drive
Initiative
Social Awareness
Empathy
Team awareness
Organizational
awareness
Relationship
Management
Influence
Communication
Conflict management
Leadership actions
Building bonds
Leadership
Daniel Goleman
“Great leaders move us.
They ignite our passion and
inspire the best in us. When
we try to explain why they
are so effective, we speak of
strategy, vision, or powerful
ideas. But the reality is much
more primal: Great
leadership works through the
emotions.”
Improving Our EQ
1. Self Awareness
What are you feeling?
What is causing that feeling?
Take breaks during the day to audit your
feelings.
Improving Our EQ
2. Mood Management
Use activities to release negative emotions
Prepare yourself for challenges
Find friends
Take a break during the day to manage your
mood
Improving Our EQ
3. Self Motivation
Sketch out a specific plan of action
Manage Your Time
Use the S.E.A.L.s 4 strategies
Decide on your goals, professionally & personally
Improving Our EQ
4. Empathy
Be an Empathic listener
Try seeing how long you can listen
to someone without interrupting
Ask yourself, “What are behind those words?”
Improving Our EQ
5. Relationship Skills
Build relationships both personally &
professionally
Encourage growth of those around you
Think, what’s in it for them?
Practice connecting with other’s communication style