DESCRIBING FEELINGS

WHAT IT IS?

This technique does consist of talking about our emotional reactions as well as checking the real feelings of others. In describing true feelings and reactions there are two major points in the statement:

• The pronoun I or my.• Naming or describing the feeling.

I feelstupid and neglected

by you.

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WHAT IT DOES?

This allows each person to know how the other feels. By describing feelings and responses, you could clarify any misinformation that may have developed from facial expressions, your breathing, the tone of your voice and even your words.

One of the major problems in communication is misunderstanding and misinterpretation.

Inaccuracy

Misunderstanding

Confusion

Disruptive Relationships

Divisiveness and

Separation

Accurate descriptions of feelings help others to understand how

we are really responding so that they may make an intelligent

decision as how the interaction should continue.

CONCLUSION:

WHY IT DOES IT?

In general, it can be said that it is not our feelings that are the source of problems in our relations with others but the way we deal with our feelings.

It conveys your feeling or response, rather than accusing or commanding another person.

I am terribly offended by the

language that you are using.Close your foul

mouth.

Accurate statements, even critical ones, pave the way for

feelings of confidence and trust and a willingness to

communicate.

CONCLUSION:

HOW TO DO IT?

You must learn the methods for expressing your own feelings accurately and directly.

You will have to develop the ability to know when it is appropriate to break the conventional form of most conversations and describe your true feelings.

Name the feeling directly.

Use figures ofspeech to describe

the feelings.

I feel like afeather in a

windstorm.I am a

sunbeam.

FOR EXAMPLE:

Report what action you

wouldlike to take.

FOR EXAMPLE:Let's find some air,I feel like shouting.

FOR EXAMPLE:

Feeling check.

Is it truethat you hate me?

FOR EXAMPLE:

Am I right thatyou feel terrible?

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