ASHPAQ ATTAR

Presented by Ashpaq Attar

O2, Telecomm, Pune1

Motivational Speaker Personality Development Coach Loves to read self help books He is father of 2 sons and lives in Pune with

his family. Post Graduate in Computer Science

About Ashpaq

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“Primary success comes from primary greatness…your character.”

Stephen CoveyAuthor, “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”

Success is an Attitude! Character`

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The habits

of highly effective people

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Important to be effective; effectiveness can be

learnt Focus on developing character, not

personality. Habits shape us, so adopt productive habits. Build trust in relationships. Balance the different roles. Allot time to attend fairly to the various

responsibilities and relationships. Think positive and show empathy Rejuvenate yourself

Presentation at a glance

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1. They take initiative. (“Be Proactive”)2. They focus on goals. (“Begin with the End in

Mind”)3. They set priorities. (“Put First Things First”)4. They only win when others win. (“Think

Win/Win”)5. They communicate. (“Seek First to Understand,

Then to Be Understood”)6. They cooperate. (“Synergize”)7. They reflect on and repair their deficiencies.

(“Sharpen the Saw”)

Seven Habits of highly effective people

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Most of the business success literature focuses

on developing a good personality. Developing a sound character is more important. Character lays the basic foundation. Personality can emerge naturally when character

is rooted in and formed by principles. Forceful display of a personality that is

inconsistent with our character is like wearing a mask. It is deceptive, manipulative and ultimately destructive.

Character vs Personality

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Certain basic principles and values make

people more effective. They are fairness, equity, integrity, honesty,

human dignity and worth, excellence, a spirit of service, patience, caring, courage, encouragement and positive thinking.

The person whose character grows from these classic principles is a true leader who can inspire and help others.

Character is habit.

Basic Principles

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Habits have a tremendous gravity pull

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Lift off takes a lot of effort, but once we break out of the gravity pull,

our freedom takes on a whole new dimension12

What do we not see?

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A PARADIGM is the way an individual perceives, understands, and interprets the surrounding world.

Paradigm

Behaviour

Result

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Knowledge(what to, why to)

HabitsInternalized principles & patterns of behavior

Desire(want to)

Skills(how to)

Habits

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The 7 Habits7

Sharpen saw

Independence

Interdependence

PUBLICVICTORY

Think win-win4

Understand5

Synergize6

Dependence

1Be Proactive

PRIVATEVICTORY 2

End in mind

31st things 1st

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“You are respons-able: able to choose your respons!”

Habit 1:

Be proactive

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Freedomto Choose

Self-Awareness……..HeartImagination………….MindConscience…………..SpiritIndependent Will…….Body

ProactiveStimulusStimulus ResponseResponse

ReactiveStimulus ResponseStimulus Response

Stimulus and Response

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Circle of Concern

Circle of Influence

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“Proactive people focus their efforts in their circle of influence, causing the circle of influence to increase

Reactive people focus their effort in the circle of concern. The negative energy generated by that focus causes the circle of influence to shrink”

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“Anytime we think the problem is out there,

that thought is the problem”

“Anytime we think the problem is out there,

that thought is the problem”

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ZYou can choose your language

Reactive:

I must

If only

They made me

If I had

Proactive:

I prefer

I will

I choose

I can be

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“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”

"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.

"I don’t much care where," said Aleha.

"Then it doesn’t matter which way you go," said the Cat.

Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind

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Personal Mission StatementYour purpose and meaning life

Example

"My mission is to champion others to grow personally, professionally, emotionally and spiritually by using my compassion, my unique perspective, and my belief in others inherent goodness, integrity, and enormous potential.“ 27

Is the script you are living in harmony with your values?

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Habit 3:

Put first things first demonstration.

What is the lesson? 30

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The Time Management Matrix

Not UrgentUrgent

No

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po

rtan

tIm

po

rtan

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• Exam tomorrow• Friend gets injured• Late for work/class• Project due today

Planning, goal setting • Paper due in a week• Exercise• Relationships/relaxation

• Unimportant phone calls

• Interruptions• Other people’s small

problems• Peer pressure

• Too much TV• Endless phone calls• Excessive computer

games• Window Shopping• Other time wasters• Facebook & Internet 32

The Time Management MatrixUrgent

Imp

ort

ant

I The ProcrastinatorStressBurnoutCrisis managementAlways putting out fires

III The Yes-manShort-term focusCrisis managementReputation-chameleon type characterSee goals and plans as worthlessFeel victimized, out of controlShallow or broken relationships

IV The SlackerTotal irresponsibilityFired from jobsDependent on others or institutions for basics

II The VisionaryVision, perspectiveBalanceDisciplineControlFew crises

No

t Im

po

rtan

tNot Urgent

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It’s almost impossible to say NO to the popularity of urgent, non important matters, if you don’t have a bigger YES burning inside

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H3. First things first You run the program

H2. End in mind write the program

H1. Be proactive – you are the programmer

Private Victory

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Public Victory – The art of influencing

H5. Seek 1st to Understand and

then to be understood

H5. Seek 1st to Understand and

then to be understoodH4. Win/WinH4. Win/Win

H6. SynergyH6. Synergy37

Habit 4: Think Win/win

Win-win is like an all you can eat buffet.

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“You can only achieve win/win solutions with win/win processes”

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The Emotional Bank Account is a metaphor for the amount of trust that exists in your relationships.

Emotional Bank Account

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PG: 39

EBA Deposits and Withdrawals

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Habit 5 Seek First to Understand,Then to be Understood

Communication solves

problems.

Listen to people

sincerely.

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“We have such a tendency to fix things up with good advice, but often we fail to take the time

to diagnose, to really deeply understand another human being first”

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Judge Probe Advise

Don’ts of Empathic Listening

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Reflect feeling. Reflect meaning. Use Empathic Listening starters.

Do’s of Empathic Listening

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So if I am understanding you correctly, you’re

saying… What I’m hearing is… You seem… You must have felt… You feel _______ about ________. if I am understanding you correctly, you’re

saying… What I’m hearing is… You seem… You must have felt… You feel _______ about ________.

Empathic Listening Starters

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Habit 6:

Synergize

“The whole is greater than the sum of its parts”

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Open-mindedness. Teamwork. New ways to do

things. Work together to achieve more. Celebrate differences.

A fruit salad is delicious precisely because each fruit maintains its own flavor.

Habit 6 Synergize

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In order to have influence, you have to open yourself up

to bé influenced

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Creative Cooperation

ReflectView Point

CreateNew Ideas

CheckWillingness

Your Way

My Way

Third Alternative

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PhysicalExercise, NutritionStress Management

Social/EmotionalService, Empathy

Synergy, Intrinsic Security

MentalReading, Visualizing

Planning, Writing

SpiritualValue Clarification

& Commitment, Study & Meditation

IQ EQ

PQ

SQ

To Learn To Love

To Live

To Leave a Legacy

Sharpen the Saw

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Activities to develop intelligence

Mental Action planning

Time management

Strategy games-chess/bridge

Reading (non fiction)

Reviewing

Gathering information

Clearing clutter

Ordering/tidying up

Organising wardrobe/desk

Physical Competitive sport

Working out-Gym

Martial arts- Karate

Physical tasks/ targets

Extreme sports

Archery/shooting

Hunting/fishing

Mountaineering

Studying body language

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Spiritual Reading Holy Books

Relaxation / Meditation

Walk in nature

Being in or near water

Slow hot both

Proper diet

Gardening

Massage- Aromatherapy

Meditation

Quiet time with family

Social/Emotional Artistic: Painting

Poetry

Pottery

Playing/ self expression

Doing the unfamiliar

Brainstorming

Activities to develop intelligence

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Interdependent

Independence

Dependence

The pathway of the 7habits

7 habits - overview

Habits 1, 2 and 3

Habits 4, 5 and 6

Habit 758