Positive Parenting - Martin Seligman

Sleeping with babies

Synchrony (mimicking) games

Toys that promote flow

“No”Provide unconditional

Save PRAISE for real successChores

Best Moments

Pre-view tomorrow

DreamlandIn rare circumstances, make a deal

Build a cardboard house together

A children’s strengths survey

Recalling good and bad things from the day

Match to strengths

Immediate and significant positive (highly desired toy)Focus on happy picture

Eating or reading together

Spending time together

Interactive at wide range of levels

At about age five

Love

Affection

Ebullience

Warmth

Calibrate it to the scale of the success

Say it repeatedly while falling asleep

Intend to dream about it

Call up a happy picture in your mind Make it into a movieNo more than twice per childhood

Only as a last resort

For promise to change unwanted behavior, with clear, meaningful, and significant consequences for that positive on first and second breach of promise (temporary, then permanent loss of toy)

Good predictor of future positive mental health

Reserved strictly forDangers

Limit settingNot inconveniences

Non-depressed adultsAverage 2 positive to 1 negative thought

What did you like today?

Children should be higher

What do you want to do tomorrow ?

Works well at the age of five

Seligman, M. E. (2002). Authentic happiness: using the new positive psychology to realize your potential for lasting fulfillment. New York: Free Press.

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