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…this is the general manner is which
parents communicate expectations to
their child(ren).
A. Parents develop their own parenting
styles from…
…their own experiences growing up
…their own personalities
…influences from society and the media
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…their basic attitudes toward children
and childrearing which come from
parent’s values and beliefs.
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B. Parenting styles – most parents use
a combination of the following styles to
teach children to behave appropriately.
Specific situations sometimes require
the use of a specific parenting style!
Is Kimmy set up for
success with her
milk? What if she
spills?
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1. Authoritarian – the “brick wall” parent
Based on the belief that children should
obey their parents without question or
hesitation.
AUTHORITARIAN
R is for rules
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a. Parents set the rules to control or
restrict children’s behavior.
b. Parents set goals for behavior (not the
child).
Examples: high grades, chores, etc.
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c. Rules are made firmly clear with
NO input from the children or
discussion about fairness.
Why??
BECAUSE I SAID SO!!
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d. Punishment is firm and swift.
e. Effects on children – how would you
feel?
Children can either be “perfect” or rebel.
Might cause children to lack confidence in
their own decision making skills.
Sometimes necessary for “strong willed
children”.
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2. Permissive – the “jellyfish” parent.
Based on the belief that children need to
set their own goals, rules, and limits.
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a. Little or no structure is
provided.
b. Children are given all
the freedom they can
handle.
c. Parents are accepting
of children’s impulses,
feelings, and behavior.
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d. Effects on children – how would you
feel?
May cause children to behave
inappropriately,
Children may have trouble respecting
authority, like teachers, etc.
May lead to feelings of frustration from
children.
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Bottom line….
Kids need limits
to feel secure and loved!!
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3. Democratic – the “backbone” parent,
also called “authoritative” in child
development literature.
Based on the belief that parents should set
limits and standards but base
expectations on children’s development
and abilities.
AUTHORITATIVE
T is for teaching
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a. Reasons behind rules and limits are
explained.
b. Parents value children’s opinions and
allow them input on rules.
c. Children are allowed some
independence within the established
limits.
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Examples:
Giving choices (both good ones) of what
snack to have before bed.
Tailoring grade expectations to the ability
of the child
Giving age appropriate chores
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d. Effect on children – how
would you feel?
While this requires a great
amount of patience,
Helps raise children’s self
esteem,
Gives children some power in
the family,
Helps children learn “self
discipline”.
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For each situation, describe how each parenting
style might handle things...
1. 5 year old Timmy is jumping on his bed.
2. 10 year old Tina is running around in the
grocery store.
3. 16 year old Tammy is late for curfew.