Mykim Tran
Be in control of your life: Make your own decisions
IntroductionHave your ever encountered times
when you know what you should be doing, but you still insisting on getting other people opinions?
Have you ever regretted in taking someone else advice because your advice was better than the other person?
Why you end up choosing others advice over yours
• If you end up choosing other people advice over yours, then it is not because your advice is bad, but you have been influenced by other people
• There will be times when other people opinions will affect you without you realizing it
• For example, when you wait too long to make a decision, you will be influenced to make decision based on other people
• The longer you wait to make a decision, the more influenced you will become
How influences begin• The moment that someone begins to hear what
your problem is, they will begin to give you their opinions, and then, the influence begins
• After you have heard so many opinions, you will get confused because you will not know which opinion is right for you
• The worst part is that you will start to believe that your decision comes from you, but it actually comes from other people
• A good example is advertisements, when advertisements are already influencing you, your decision is based on what the advertisements are saying, and less from you
Your life, your decisionWhen it comes to your life, if your
decision is not coming from you, you are more likely to make the wrong decision
No one understands what you are going through better than you
It does not matter how much you explain your situation to someone, they will never understand the situation better than you
2 reasons why others might not understand your situation
First, you will never be able to tell 100% of the story
When something is passed down to another person, it will never be the same
2nd fear• It is your human fear to be vulnerable• When you share 100% about yourself or
your problem, other people might not appreciate you because your negative side is exposed
• As a result, you many tend to hold off on some information about yourself or problem
• Sometimes, you might believe that you are 100% sharing about your problem, but there is a good chance that you are not
Holding off informationWhen you hold out on information,
other people will not be able to understand your situation well
As a result, people cannot advise you the best solution for your problem
Don’t be under the influenceYou have to make your own
decision without other people influences
The only time when the decision is based solely on you is when you make the decision at the beginning when you have not been influenced yet
The important of self-trustYou have to trust yourself that you can
solve your own problem because you already have all the solutions within you
In life, whenever you have a problem, you will also have a solution for it
You cannot have one without the otherIn life, everything has to stay in
balanced
“Trust yourself. You know more than you
think you do.” Benjamin Spock
“Self-trust is the first secret of success.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Trust your hunches. They’re usually based on
facts filed away just below the conscious
level.” Joyce Brothers
Action Steps• 1. Whenever a problem develops,
immediately write down all of the solutions that you came up with by yourself. Think to yourself what would be the best things for you to do to help you solve the problem
• 2. After you gather all of your solutions, pick one
• 3. Take action right away with the solution you had picked
Getting help • If you need help with the solution that you have
picked, then you can ask for help. However, you have to make sure you stick to your solution that you had picked
• People are only there to help you with your solution, not to be influenced to pick a different solution
• If no one agrees to help you with your solution, then you would rather try to accomplish it by yourself than changing your solution
• The only time you can change your solution is when you fail on the pervious solution
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