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By Jim Scott PhD.
Hopes and goals
•Share stories/concepts.•Provoke thought.•Learn skills.•Examine challenges.•Have fun.
Overview
Warm up
Assets, Liabilities and Realities
My Approach to Our Best LifePARS Plus
Priorities-Purpose-PassionAttitudes
Rituals
Skills
PARS Challenge List•Priorities•Attitude•Rituals•Skills•Setting Boundaries
•Reducing Anxiety•Worry Reduction•Future Focus – Desired Life •Time management•Thought Restructuring•Letting Go of the Past
Ground rules:
If you have questions ask them.
Discussion
Have Fun
IDENTIFY THREE ASSETS
Think of Three
How did you spend your day yesterday?
IDENTIFY SOMETHING YOU DO TO RECOVER FROM THE DAY.
So what gets the way of
living your best life?
“Stuff HappensForrest Gump
Which of these has affected your life?
ELEMENTS OF CHANGELoss
Foundational Changes Values shift
Relationship issuesInstability
Increasing media influenceRate of change
Polarizing
SYMPTOMSSYMPTOMS OF A LIFESTYLE OUT OF OF A LIFESTYLE OUT OF BALANCE - SHORT TERMBALANCE - SHORT TERM
AnxietyMuscle Tension Problems
Sleep DisordersIntestinal Problems
DepressionImmune System
Circulatory IssuesCompulsive Behaviors
Long Term Effects
Heart DiseaseCancer
Immune system Diabetes
Circulatory IssuesGastrointestinal DiseasesCompromises Recovery
Addictive Behaviors
THE REAL ISSUE IS NOT CHANGE BUT HOW YOU
CHOOSE TO RESPOND!
Liabilities
DenialIgnorance
Lack of ClearPersonal Priorities
Greatest Assets
Health Ability to Change, Work and Play
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““LIFE IS LIKE A TWO LIFE IS LIKE A TWO MINUTE WARNINGMINUTE WARNING”” “FORREST GUMP”“FORREST GUMP”
TIME TO TIME TO MAKE CHOICESMAKE CHOICES
Anxiety
Reduction
CHALLENGE 1
FACTORS TO REDUCE ANXIETY
1. Thoughtful Nutrition2. Tension Release and Diversion
• Physical Activity • Hobbies• Physical Work
3. Quick relaxation technique
Challenge 1
CLEAR
PrioritiesPassion &
Purpose
SimplicityOrderEnergyPower
Focus on Your Desired Future
Challenge 2
Where is your focus? What you focus on grows.
Time Management is based on one’s
prioritiesIn relationships to one’s
goals and dreams.
Time is one asset that will never
appreciate in principle.
PITFALLS OF PITFALLS OF MANAGING TIMEMANAGING TIME
How many of thesebehaviors do you
maintain?
DISORGANIZATION
Is this you
?
LACK OF DIRECTIONLACK OF DIRECTION
How do you know where you
are going?
TOO MANY PRIORITES
If everything is important,
then nothing is Important.
LOST TIME
How do you lose time?
PROCRASTINATIONPROCRASTINATION
THE INABILITY TO MAINTAIN PERSONAL BOUNDARIES
Do you say yes too often?
If you always do,
what you have always done,
you will always get,
WHAT YOU ALWAYS GOT!
Setting Boundaries
“Good fences make good
neighbors”
Challenge 3
Set Boundaries
“Good Fences Make Good Neighbors”
Saying
“No”is a skill
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ELEMENTS OF SAYING “NO”
• Positive feeling message• Negative content message• Positive feeling message.
Positive Feeling Response:
Thank you for asking.
I can hear this is important to you!
I appreciate you thinking of me.
I can’t imagine the task that you have in front of you.
NEGATIVE CONTENT• I would be glad to help you if you will….
• I would be glad to take you to the mall when…
• I am not available but feel free to ask me next week.
Positive Feeling Conclusion:
Thank you again for considering me.
I appreciate your thinking of me. Feel free to call me next year.
If you can give me a weeks notice I would be glad to help you out.
REFUSAL SKILLS• Focus on what you will do, not on
what they have to do.
• You are welcome to … but I am going to stay.
• Thank you for offering but I am not hungry.
Challenge 4
Own your feelings
““Life is 10% what happens to Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% what I choose to me and 90% what I choose to do about it! All I can do is play do about it! All I can do is play on the one string I have and on the one string I have and that is that is my attitudemy attitude!”!”
Charles SwindollCharles Swindoll
CREATE ANCREATE AN
Attitude Attitude Of Of
GratitudeGratitude
GIVE BACKGIVE BACK
Get out of yourself!
Compliments to Attitude•Thoughtful Nutrition•Physical Activity•Redirect Negative thoughts•Get out of yourselfGet out of yourself•Reduce the amount of power you Reduce the amount of power you give to someone or somethinggive to someone or something•Strengthen Beliefs
Live each day
as if it were your last.
““STUPID IS AS STUPID IS AS STUPID DOES!”STUPID DOES!”FORREST GUMPFORREST GUMP
WORRYWORRY WORRY
Challenge 5
THE NATURE OF WORRYTHE NATURE OF WORRY
Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do, but it doesn't you something to do, but it doesn't get you anywhere.get you anywhere.
• Erma Bombeck, , God's Little God's Little
Devotional Book for mothersDevotional Book for mothersUS author & humorist (1927 - 1996)US author & humorist (1927 - 1996)
If you always think
What you always thought,
You will always feel
What you always felt!
CONDITIONAL THINKINGINCREASES POTENTIALANXIETY.
So what can you do?So what can you do?
SeekSeek
ActionAction
HOLDING HOLDING ONON CAN BE A CAN BE A PROBLEM!PROBLEM!
•Negative•Stuck in the past•Fatigued •Full of Resentment •Sarcastic•Angry
HOLDING-ON BEHAVIORS
LETTING GO IS A LETTING GO IS A SOURCE OF POWERSOURCE OF POWER
Challenge 6Challenge 6
• Forgiveness
OPTIONSOPTIONS• Seek helpSeek help
• Talk to a friend or spouseTalk to a friend or spouse• Talk to a clergyTalk to a clergy• Seek counselingSeek counseling• Get on line and look for support groupsGet on line and look for support groups• PrayerPrayer• JournalingJournaling
CHALLENGE 7CHALLENGE 7
CREATE CREATE RITUALS RITUALS
Do daily activities Do daily activities that rejuvenate and that rejuvenate and
restore yourestore you physically, physically,
mentally and mentally and spiritually.spiritually.
Reflect Daily
How is it going?
What can I improve?
What next?
Muscular Strengthand Muscular Endurance
CardioFlexibility
SEEK TO BE PHYSICALSEEK TO BE PHYSICAL
Take time to meditate –
pray-Decompress
daily
HUMOR
“Laughter is the best medicine”
Eat to live…Eat to live…Eat consciously Eat consciously
Less is More:
SEEK HEALTHY SEEK HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS
BE EXPRESSIVEBE EXPRESSIVE
GROW YOURSELF GROW YOURSELF NEW EACH DAY.NEW EACH DAY.
Don’t die with the music still
in side.
Seek Skills
Challenge 8
Life is measured not by the number of
breaths we take
but by the number of experiences that take our
breath away!
JIM SCOTT PHD.
If you have questions or concerns please feel free to contact me.Website: http://drjimscott.weebley.com
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