FFFAMILY MMMATTERS
Diane Coffill State Family Program Director
[email protected] (919) 664-6324
SGT Calvin Buchan State Family Program Assistant
[email protected] (919) 664-6124
SSG Ju Autry Budget Analysis [email protected] (919) 664-7583
SGT Daniel Holland HR Assistant [email protected] (919) 664-6124
PFC Carolyn Stevens HR Assistant [email protected] (919) 664-6124
Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator [email protected] (828) 271-5029
Renee Brotherton FAC Team Leader [email protected] (704) 359-5736
Kathleen Flaherty, LTC (Ret.)
Airman & Family Readiness Program Mgr. [email protected]
(704) 398-4949
Pamela Hughes State FRG Advisor [email protected]
(919) 693-5016 ext. 13
Alice Dean State Youth Coordinator [email protected] (919) 664-7616
May is Military Appreciation Month The North Carolina National
Guard recently welcomed home more than 4,000
Soldiers from the 30th HBCT at the RBC Center in
Raleigh, NC. Also last month, Soldiers from the 1/130th
ARB returned to States.
Welcome home to our returning Soldiers, and we pray
safety for our currently deployed and
deploying troops.
North Carolina National Guard Family Programs presents its first-ever
Family Retreat
August 20-22, 2010 Military Families deserve a break from the daily
grind and chance to “reset” their life at home.
Salute to Military Families
Raising a military family is a little more complicated when challenged with family life changes. Chaplains and Family Programs are bringing military families training relevant to the special dynamics of military family life during the North Carolina National Guard‟s first Family Retreat in August. Registration will begin Friday at 4 p.m. and last until 7 p.m. Following registration at 7:30 p.m. family participants will have some time to meet others who have registered for the event. Rooms will be available for both Friday and Saturday nights. Childcare will be pro-vided. Children at least 8 years old and older will have the opportunity to participate in activities tailored for that age group. Please direct questions about this retreat to: PFC Carolyn Stevens at 1-800-621-4136 ext. 6124 or [email protected]. Mail Registration Form along with non-refundable registration fee by July 20, 2010 to: NCNG Family Program, c/o PFC Carolyn Stevens, 4105 Reedy Creek Rd, Raleigh, NC 27607-6410. For a Registration Form, visit www.nc.ngb.army.mil; „Family Programs;‟ „Family Retreats.‟
Individual Highlights
Taking Care of Families 2
Yellow Ribbon Program 3
Child Registration Info 4
Community Cares 5
Upcoming Events 6
30th HBCT Photo Spread 7-8
FAC Directory 9
Face to Face 10
Volunteer Appreciation 11
YR Child Registration 12-13
May 2010—Volume 2, Issue 5
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Taking Care of Families By Diane Coffill, NCNG Family Programs State Family Programs Director
We recognize Military Spouses also during Military Appreciation Month. Thank you to all the Mili-tary Spouses whose sacrifice and strength shoulder the men and women who so bravely serve our State and our Nation. You should be proud.
Here in the State, we’ve been given Military Family Life Consultants (MFLCs) to assist you for free
with any issues you may face. MFLCs specialize in adult, child and youth, and finances matters.
MFLCs don’t keep records; so, call them up. It may help to have a different perspective. We have a
Director of Psychological Health, Stephanie Nissen, to assist in elevated instances. Our FACs are
located in armories, at armories in separate buildings, and even in community storefronts. All of
these resources are designed to support you … because we care and know that military life can be
challenging.
Please register for the upcoming Yellow Ribbon events. You’ll get good information on where you,
your Soldier and family are in the deployment cycle. You’ll interact with many military-connected
agencies. Your children will take part in age-specific activities on experiences as military children.
We care about you. We not only appreciate our Soldiers, we appreciate their Spouses, as well. I can,
without hesitation say, that it is not just a “job” for us. Let us help in any way we can. We hope
you’re finding Family Matters informative. Make sure your local FAC has your email address and
that you’re registered on JSS (www.jointservicesupport.org). Check us out on Facebook where you’ll
receive regular updates on what we’re doing across the State. Become a fan!
We care about you all, and know that no matter what you phase of military life you’re in, that you
can call on us when you need us … because we are here, taking care of families.
Wishing you and yours a safe, fun and happy Summer!
Sincerely,
Diane Coffill State Family Program Director
(800) 621-4136 ext. 6324
“Guarding Families on the Homefront”
Military Spouse Appreciation Day Events
May 8 is Military Spouse Appreciation Day. To honor the
sacrifices of NCNG military spouses, several Family Assis-
tance Centers are planning Pampering Events just for you.
Check your email or Facebook for Military Spouse Appre-
ciation Day events happening in May. If your local FAC
does not have your current e-mail, contact them soon. Don’t
miss out on the exclusive Rest and Recuperation event for
military spouses.
MILITARY SPOUSES |military spouse appreciation day
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Members of the Yellow Ribbon in April at the 30th
HBCT Welcome Home Ceremony in Raleigh.
30th30th30th HBCT Events 30 Day Reintegration Event is mandatory for Soldiers
and highly recommended for Family Members.
The 60 Day PDHRA is mandatory for Soldiers only.
Contact Yellow Ribbon at 800-621-4136 ext. 6054 for questions.
30-Day Reintegration, Uniform: Civilian Clothes
Time:
1st Day—No Earlier than 2 p.m.; No Later than 5 p.m.
2nd Day—Classes 8 a.m.—5 p.m.
EVENT DATES: 30-DAY
MAY 13-14: 1-120th CAB + E Co. BSB, HHC 30th HBCT
MAY 14-15: 113TH Fires, and the Dets of 30th, 252,
120th + G Co. BSB, HHC 30th STB + B Co. 30th STB
MAY 15-16: 1-252 CAB + F Co. BSB
60-Day PDHRA, Uniform: ACUs
Time:
Friday night: No earlier than 2 p.m.; No later than 5 p.m.
Saturday: Classes/PDHRA—8 a.m.—5 p.m.
Sunday: Classes/PDHRA—8 a.m.—5 p.m.
EVENT DATES: 30-DAY
JUNE 11-13: 1-120th CAB + E Co. BSB, HHC 30th HBCT
JUNE 4-6: 113TH Fires, and the Dets of 30th, 252,
120th + G Co. BSB, HHC 30th STB + B Co. 30th STB
MAY 21-23: 1-252 CAB + F Co. BSB
~~~LOCATION~~~
KOURY CONVENTION CENTER
3121 HIGH POINT ROAD AT 1-40
GREENSBORO, NC 27407
Lodging and Meals will be provided.
Standard is one room with double
beds, per married Soldier.
Exception: additional room avail-
able for immediate family with five or
more dependant children. Immediate
family members can include: mom,
dad, but if spouse is coming the extra
family members are not authorized.
Single-Soldier information: one room
with double beds per Soldier and
guest. Only exception: additional room
available for divorced parents.
~~OVER 60 VENDORS WILL BE PRESENT~~ ~~DOOR PRIZES & DRAWINGS THROUGHOUT THE DAY~~
YELLOW RIBBON |DEPLOYMENT CYCLE SUPPORT
―We’ve evolved and made our events more fun and easily
accessible to families. We aim to supply everything that fami-
lies will need … from a great location, lodging, food, travel
reimbursement. We’re here to try to keep the family mem-
bers informed of what to expect before the Soldier leaves
and once he/she returns. Even with the best that we can
give them, they deserve more,‖ said Lola Lawson with the
Yellow Ribbon Program.
RIBBON YELLOW
YELLOW RIBBON TEAM
800-621-4136 EXT. 6054
John Gattis
Program Director
David Coffill
Adam Garrity
Lola Lawson
Ken Martinsen
Gerald Murray
David Nobles
Chris Rosehart
NCNG CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM
2025 National Guard Drive
Morrisville, 27560
FAX: (919) 664-6156
Alice Dean
State Youth Coordinator
(800) 621-4136 ext. 7616
Bridgette Carroll
KOG Coordinator
(800) 621-4136 ext. 8820
Kristi Wagner
Assistant Youth Coordinator
(919) 693-3651
Dear Families, We look forward to having all of your children with us for the upcoming Yellow Ribbon Events. We have planned a fun and educational time for all. Some of the activities the children will be doing will be focused on fam-ily reintegration. Children ages five and up will have a uniformed NCNG Service Member participating in the activities and sharing information about their deployment, reintegration and how their children met the chal-lenges of reintegration.
In order to provide the best experience, we need your cooperation with the following. Keep in mind that the approximate 4,000 Soldiers processing for the Yellow Ribbon Team means more than 8,000 infants, toddlers, children, and teens for the NCNG Child & Youth Program.
Ages Birth to Four If your child(ren) are in diapers, please bring a diaper bag that includes diapers, wipes and a change of clothes. All children will have child-friendly snacks and lunch. If your child(ren) are on formula and baby food, please bring. If your child uses a sippy cup, please bring with their name on it. On your diaper bag, please have your child’s and military member’s name clearly marked (with your cell phone number). If your child(ren) are on any medications, please let us know. We will go over this with you at registration. We will not be administer-ing any medications. You will need to do this prior to drop-off.
Ages Five and Up Children are not allowed to bring cell phones, iPods, Game Boys or other electronic devices. We want your child(ren) to socialize and participate in activities with the other children attending. Your child(ren) will be able to interact with other military kids who have also experienced this deploy-ment. If your child(ren) are on any medications, please let us know. We will go over this with you at registration. We will not be administering any medications. You will need to do this prior to drop-off. In order to save time when you sign in your child(ren), the Registration Forms that need to be filled out, one per child, are at the end of this newsletter. To make this as stress-free and smooth as possible, please return the Registration Forms upon receipt.
Registration Forms can be found here on the last two pages.
Please complete the form online and email back to
[email protected] or print and mail to the address below.
Contact 1-800-621-4136 ext. 7616 or [email protected] with
questions. Your assistance in advance
will help ensure a smoother process for all parties.
YELLOW RIBBON |CHILD REGISTRATION REQUIRED
PRE-REGISTRATION REQUIRED FOR CHILDREN
BECAUSE MILITARY
KIDS SERVE, TOO!
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N eed help mowing the lawn or have some home repairs that have to wait till your spouse gets home from a deployment or heals from an injury? Carolina Helping Heroes is a great resource for families to get the little things or even the big things done around the house. Community groups register, indicate who they are and what help they can offer to military families in need. Military families then search the site for community groups near their home that can help with whatever tasks they need. An easy process with clear-cut volunteer tasks will support our troops and their families, strengthen our communities and help our neighbors in need. Carolina Helping Heroes was inspired by the Minnesota Military Family Care Initiative cre-ated by Minnesota First Lady Mary Pawlenty.
I can think of no better way to show how much we value our men and women in uniform than through these simple acts of neighborly kindness. When a sol-dier serves, their whole family serves along with them. Join us, as we help care for these families, while honor-
ing the service they provide to our nation.
Bob Eaves First Gentleman
COMMUNITY CARES |RESOURCES FOR YOU
To find some help in your area visit, Carolina Helping Heroes at
www.carolinahelpingheroes.nc.gov.
QUICK REFERENCE
DEERS/ID Cards 1.800.538.9552
TriCare
1.888.363.2273 www.tricare.osd.mil
Transition Assistance
Andy Jackson 919.664.6573
American Red Cross: 877.272.7337 www.redcross.org
National Suicide Prevention Hotline
1.800.273.TALK (8255)
Veteran’s Affairs (VA)
The VA offers Readjustment Counseling Services for service members and their families working toward readjustment.
Locations
Charlotte Vet Center, 704.333.6107 Fayetteville Vet Center, 910.488.6252 Greensboro Vet Center, 336.333.5366 Greenville Vet Center, 252.355.7920
Raleigh Vet Center, 919.856.4616
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The North Carolina National Guard Family Programs maintains
a Legal Assistance Team that is available to assist military
members and military families with a range of legal issues. Tax
assistance remains available for those who have extensions.
Contact one of our qualified legal professionals today.
Family Programs Legal Assistance [email protected]
Reita Smolka – (919) 485-9565
Chris Alderson – (919) 485-9564
130 Penmarc Drive, Suite 110, Raleigh NC
Free Counseling, No Paperwork!
John Alleman, Adult and Family Specialist
[email protected], (919) 745-9635
Betty Steelman, Youth and Family Specialist
[email protected], (919) 665-9178
Asheville: [email protected], (828) 729-0729
Charlotte: [email protected], (980) 213-6458 or 6459
Greenville: [email protected], (252) 295-8558
Morrisville: [email protected], 919) 627-4360 or 4361
Wilmington: [email protected], (910) 508-6170
Stephanie Nissen, LMHC & LPC
NCNG Director of Psychological Health at (919) 257-8863.
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UPCOMING EVENTS | MARK YOUR CALENDAR
VIEW EVENTS ONLINE www.nc.ngb.army.mil, ‘Family
Programs,’ ‘Events Calendar’
Single Soldier’s Retreat
How Not to Date a Jerk ((or Jerkette)) April 30-May 2—Beach
August 20-22—Smoky Mountains
For more details, call 800-621-4136 ext. 6124
Marriage Enrichment
Weekend Retreats … Laughing Your Way to a Better
Marriage
Reserve your Slot Now! July 9-11, 2010 - Beach
July 23-25, 2010 - Beach
August 13-15, 2010 - Beach
August 27-29, 2010 - Beach
For more details, call 800-621-
4136 ext. 6124
OPERATION KIDS ON GUARD Hurry and register your child to at-
tend one of our upcoming KOG
camps. Registration material is
available at www.nc.ngb.army.mil,
‘Child and Youth Programs,’ ‘Kids
on Guard.’
Day Drills: June 19: Kinston Armory, 2875 Dobbs Farm Road
July 10: Raeford Armory, 305 Teal Drive
July 24: Winston Salem Armory, 2000 Silas Creek Pkwy
August 21: Morrisville Armory, 2025 Nat’l Guard Drive
August 28: Asheville Armory, 100 Minuteman Drive
Overnight Weekend Camps: April 23-25, 2010
September 24-26, 2010
Camp Butner Training Site
539 Roberts Chapel Rd, Stem NC
Spaces fill quickly. To learn more and to register,
contact Alice Dean, State Youth Coordinator,
at [email protected], or call (919) 664-
7616. You may also contact Bridgette
Carroll, KOG Assistant, at
or call (919) 664-7664.
DINNER AND A MOVIE … LET’S ALL HAVE SOME FUN!!! Military Spouse & Parent Appreciation Night
Thursday, May 6, 2010 from 6-8pm St. James Episcopal Ch. Fellowship Hall, 806 SW College Ave. Lenoir, NC 28645
Come enjoy dinner, movie and a massage. A spaghetti dinner and salad will be
prepared by the American Legion Post 29 Women’s Auxiliary.
Movie Of The Night: “Did You Hear About The Morgans” Childcare will be provided for children 0-4 years old. If you need childcare, please let the FAC know when you call to RSVP. Children 5 years old and up will be par-
ticipating with the Caldwell County 4-H Club in fun science activities. Please RSVP to the Lenoir FAC by Fri. Apr. 30th by 5pm by calling 1-800-621-4136 Ext. 8073 or email [email protected] or [email protected]. If you send
an email, you will receive a confirmation. If you do not receive a reply back, please call the FAC to confirm your RSVP.
Check with your local FAC Rep for Military Spouse Appreciation Events
in your area in May.
GET WITH THE “PROGRAM!” FACEBOOK ~ BECOME A FAN North Carolina National Guard
Family Programs
Military Potluck Picnic
Come enjoy a time of fun & fellowship with other local military fami-
lies at our Potluck Picnic on Saturday, May 22, 2010, from 5pm-8pm
at the Shelter at the Soccer Field of Calvary Baptist Church (5000
Country Club Rd., Winston Salem, NC). RSVP: Please email Jesse
Hopkins at [email protected] by Friday, May 14th, stat-
ing how many people are expected to attend. Please bring a dish or
dessert item. Drinks and paper products will be provided.
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FAMILYAMILYAMILY PPPROGRAMSROGRAMSROGRAMS recaps
3 0 T H H B C T 3 0 T H H B C T 3 0 T H H B C T W E L C O M E H O M E
C E R E M O N Y | M E M O R I E S Photos by Kathryn Jarvis & Angelena Dockery, NCNG Family Programs
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30th HBCT WELCOME HOME CEREMONY | memories
“I cannot put in words all that would sum up how much I appreciate all my spouse did when I was
away,” said 2nd LT Ken-neth McArthur.
PHOTO OF THE YEAR Can you imagine how much fun these two are having back
together? Good luck, mom!
Thank you to the RBC Center for your
outstanding show of support to the NCNG and their families.
“I thought I could handle it
since I have been deployed...but
it is a lot harder when you are
the one waiting at home,” said
Mrs. Dillon. SGT Christo-
pher Dillon and his wife
just got married before he
deployed with the 30th.
Mrs. Dillon deployed with
the Air Force prior to SGT
Dillon‟s Deployment.
Asheville Military Family Resource Center (MFRC)
7 Yorkshire St. Suite C, 28803
Fax: (828) 274-8572
David Ponder, FAC Network Coordinator
[email protected], (828) 274-8571
Debra Collington, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (828) 274-8571
Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
4240 West Blvd., 28208
Fax: (704) 359-5759
Rachel Talbott, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (704) 359-5756
Lynn White, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (704) 359-5769
Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
449 East Mountain Dr., 28306
Fax: n/a
Amy Wallace, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (910) 672-5125
Greensboro State Family Assistance Center (SFAC)
110 Franklin Blvd., 27401
Fax: (336) 691-7725
Katy Jones, FAC Network Coordinator
[email protected], (336) 691-7712
Sandy Harrison, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (336) 691-7763
Greenville State Family Assistance Center (SFAC)
1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834
Fax: (252) 551-6136
Dawn White, FAC Network Coordinator
[email protected], (252) 551-5669
Kannapolis Military Family Resource Center (MFRC)
6001 Gateway Ctr. Dr., Suite 109, 28081
Fax: (704) 359-5759
Shane Judd, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (704) 788-4553
Doretha McLaughlin, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (704) 788-4554
Kinston Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504
Fax: (252) 526-2772
Vacant, (252) 526-2711
Lenoir State Family Assistance Center (SFAC)
1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., Lenoir, 28645
Fax: (828) 757-4519
Nancy Davis, FAC Network Coordinator,
[email protected], (828) 757-4365
Frances Johnson, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (828) 757-4365
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Let us help! Call or Stop By!
Take Advantage of the Monthly Events We Offer.
Raleigh Military Family Resource Center (MFRC)
130 Penmarc Dr. Suite 110, 27603/(919) 334-9966
Fax: (919) 334-9971 Chinequa Knight, FAC Network Coordinator
[email protected], (919) 334-9966
Lottie Anderson, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (919) 334-0195
Valencia Green, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (919) 334-0196
Lisa Faison, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (919) 334-9957
Marci Thames, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (919) 485-9560
Mark Woolbright, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (919) 334-9957
Earlene Capps, Administrative Assistant
[email protected], (919) 334-9971
Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
406 Hospital Rd., 27577
Fax: (919) 934-2901
Abby Millsap, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (919) 934-2013
Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
500 Morganton Rd., PO Box 1317, 28387
Fax: (910) 692-3659
David Butler, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (910) 692-8747
Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC)
2412 Infantry Rd., 28412
Fax: (910) 251-7130
Jim Marley, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (910) 251-7195
Wilmington Military Family Resource Center (MFRC)
3114 Randall Pkwy., 28403
Fax: (910) 343-1776
Judy Howard, FAC Network Coordinator
[email protected], (910) 343-1775
Julie Rowe, FAC Specialist
[email protected], (910) 343-1775
BECOME A FAN Get the Latest Updates
on Facebook. Search “North Carolina
National Guard Family Pro-grams.”
TELL A FRIEND
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FACE TO FACE
VETERAN’S RALLY &
PICNIC IN THE PARK
COME OUT TO PROTECT
THE RIGHTS OF VETERANS
MAY 18, 2010
2:00 PM TO 6:00 PM
MARSHALL PARK
(3rd & McDowell Streets)
CHARLOTTE, NC
FOLLOWING THE PICNIC THERE WILL BE A
MARCH TO THE GOVERNMENT CENTER TO KEEP
THE VETERAN SERVICES OFFICE OPEN
―ALL VETERANS ARE ASKED TO REPORT
BACK TO DUTY‖
Appropriate military attire and flags welcomed!
SPONSORED BY THE MECKLENBURG COUNTY
VETERANS COUNCIL
COURAGE
resilience
BRAVERY
honor
STRENGTH
MEMORIAL DAY
MAY 31, 2010 Imagine a State whose foundation and bonds are so tight that not only are Soldiers held in high
esteem … but, so are their children. So much so … that the North Carolina State Employee’s Credit Union Foundation paid for a Ford Expedition and attachment Leonard Trailer u-haul for
use for the North Carolina National Guard Kids on Guard Program. Military spouses, this means more support for your kids … where you live, where you need it, and when you need it.
The NCNG Family Programs’ Child & Youth Program
first unveiled the mobile unit at the Welcome Home Ceremony of the 30th HBCT in April at the RBC
Center. The unit will hit the road for weeks to come for upcoming KOG events. Make plans to attend!
Thank you NC State Employees’ Credit Union Foun-
dation. Your more-than generous contribution affords our program the mobility to travel across the State
and beyond in support of military children.
Pamela Hughes
State FRG Advisor
105 West Spring Street
Oxford, 27565
(919) 693-5016 ext. 11 [email protected]
Family Readiness
Support Assistants
Charlotte
(704) 359-5707
Clinton
Sarah Strickland
(910) 299-5466
Goldsboro
Greg Smith [email protected]
(919) 739-5319
Jacksonville
Judy Richardson
(910) 347-4352/line 11
Morrisville
Jim Roberson [email protected]
(919) 664-7655
(919) 664-7655
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Above & Beyond This month, the NCNG Volunteers would like to
celebrate Military Spouse Appreciation Month.
Because Military Spouses go Above and Beyond.
Thank you for supporting the men and women
of the North Carolina National Guard
and serving in The Silent Ranks.
Spotlight on Volunteers
The Silent Ranks Author—unknown
I wear no uniforms, no blues or army greens.
But I am in the military in the ranks rarely seen.
I have no rank upon my shoulders. Salutes I do not give.
But the military world is the place where I live.
I'm not in the chain of command, orders I do not get. But my husband is the one who does, this I can not forget.
I'm not the one who fires the weapon, who puts my life on the
line. But my job is just as tough.
I'm the one that's left behind.
My husband is a patriot, a brave and prideful man and the call to serve his country not all can understand.
Behind the lines I see the things needed to keep this country
free. My husband makes the sacrifice. But so do our kids and me.
I love the man I married. Soldiering is his life.
But I stand among the silent ranks known as the
Military Wife.
JOIN JSS jointservicessupport.org
Get program information,
events, chat with other
military families, and
more.
You will also receive
emails with lots of great
opportunities.
NCNG Family Programs
“Guarding Families on the Homefront.”
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