FAMILY AND PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Chapter 6
FRIENDSHIPS
6:1
TYPES OF FRIENDSHIPS
Acquaintances are people you know but who are not your close friends
Good Friends are people you see often. You spend enough time with them to know each other quite well
Close Friend/Best Friend are usually only a few people in your life
WHAT IS A FRIEND?
What qualities do you look for in a friend?
In order for a friendship to develop both people must have similar traits for the friendship to grown
• Someone with whom you can talk• Someone who accepts you• Someone who supports you• Someone you can trust• Someone who is open
WHY DO YOU NEED FRIENDS?
Friendships take time and commitment to develop.
Benefits of Friendship• Helps you to mature intellectually, emotionally and
socially • Get to know yourself better• Source of companionship• Contribute to personal development
WHY DO YOU NEED FRIENDS?
Can help you know and understand your own thoughts and feelings
Help you to accept yourself as a person and increase your self-esteem
Helps you develop empathy (an emotion in which you feel what another is feeling)
Increase you communication skills
Learn how to work cooperatively
Satisfy the need for companionship
Prepare for future lone-term relationships
DEVELOPING A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP
How do you develop a friendship?
What qualities do you have for building a friendship?
What qualities are you looking for in a friend?
DEVELOPING A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP
Be Friendly
Develop Rapport• An atmosphere in which the other person feels
comfortable and wants to talk
Share Yourself
Build Trust• Most relationship MUST have • For trust to develop and grow, both people must
believe the other person is honest• Both must believe information share will not be used
against them in any way
DEVELOPING A CLOSE FRIENDSHIP
Respond with empathy
Be open to growth• Blind spots – your blind spot are factors that you did
not know about yourself
THE GO AL O F A CL O SE REL ATIO NSHIP
Experience fulfillment through sharing in the areas of intellectual, emotional, spiritual or physical
A friendships may provide a few of the areas but a marriage can provide in all these areas
Commitment
PEER RELATIONSHIPS
Your peers are at the same stage of their life path as you
HANDL ING N EGATIVE PEER PRESSUR E
Passive- go along with what is said or the group
Aggressive behavior – yelling, calling names, criticizing, etc. will often lead to more intense violence
Assertive- letting peers know what you think and feel by using good communication skills, this is the best way to respond
HANDLING BULLYING
Using aggressive behavior to intentionally harm another person is called bullying
Bullying is a sing of social immaturity because bullies are not concerned about the well-being of others
BULLYING
1.Physical Bullying – punching, poking, hair-pulling, beating
2.Emotional Bullying – rejecting, defaming, humiliation, blackmailing, manipulation friends, isolating, pressuring peers
3.Sexual Bullying – exhibitionism, requests for sexual activities, sexual harassment, abuse involving physical contact and assault
4.Verbal Bullying – name calling, teasing, gossip
CYBERBULLYING
Using technology such as internet or cell phones to send hurtful or threating messages to another person
1.Spreading lies or rumors through e-mail or instant message
2.Registering another person form something online without permission
3.Posting pictures with the subject’s permission
RELATIONSHIPS IN THE FAMILY
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FAC TORS I NF LUENCI NG FAM ILY RELATIONSHIP S
How well do family members know each other?
How much time do family members spend together?
What common interest do family members share?
What kind of communications occur in the family?
Does acceptance and support exist in the family?
Does love and concern exist in the family?
UN DER STAN DING Y OU R PARENT ’S POIN T OF V IEW
Your parent’s point of view
Cultural role expectations
Providing for the family
Support network
Protect the well-being of the family
PARENT-TEEN CONFLICT
Adjusting to changes such as teen’s independence
Different point of view
NEGOTIATING SOLUTIONS
Shows a positive attitude
Good communication skills
RELATIONSHIPS WITH SIBLINGS
Encourage each other
Sibling rivalry
With a close sibling relationship it can be the core of a strong support group
RELATIONSHIPS IN THE WORLD AROUND
YOU
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RELATION SHIPS WITH S IGNIF ICANT ADU LTS
Significant Adults• Grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers, youth
leaders, religious leaders, coaches• Relationships is usually less stressful than with
parents
WORK RELATIONSHIPS
Customer Relations• Friendly services
Relating to Fellow Employees
Relationship with Supervisors
RELATION SHIPS W ITH PEO PLE O F O THER CULTUR ES
Multiculturalism – a society with people of different cultural backgrounds
Diversity – the unique qualities of people form different cultural backgrounds
ACCEPTING DIFFERENCES
Getting to know people
Meeting people of other cultures
Take the initiative to introduce yourself and be friendly