Starting Friendship Groups Using The Destination Friendship Model
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STARTING FRIENDSHIP GROUPS USING THE
DESTINATION FRIENDSHIP MODEL
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Tour Guides: Mary Benton, M.Ed., BCBA Carol Hollis, M.Ed., BCBA Kelly Mahler, M.S., OTR/L Alice Womer, M.S., CCC-SLP
Audience Survey
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HISTORY OF DESTINATION FRIENDSHIP
Carol’s Dream
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WHAT MAKES THE DESTINATION FRIENDSHIP MODEL DIFFERENT?
² Not a traditional social skills group (no lessons,
no role playing). Just real life experience with support!
² Infuse strategies into these everyday activities ² Focus on Intuitive Social Processing ² Coaching it Right in the Moment—Be their
FRONTAL LOBE
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WHAT WE’VE LEARNED ABOUT GETTING STARTED
Identifying the Location
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WHAT WE’VE LEARNED ABOUT GETTING STARTED
Selecting the Participants
² Who is ready for the Destination Friendship Model? (screening is important)
² Ages ² Ideal Group Size
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STEP 1:
² Gather information
o Friendship Skills Checklist
o Interest Survey
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THE FRIENDSHIP SKILLS CHECKLIST WHAT IS IT?
Cooperation Hidden Rules of Friendship Conversation Skills Flexibility of Thought Listening Empathy Perspective Taking Initiation Share Interests Greetings Organization of Thought Memory Self-Regulation
13 Core Skills Areas:
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COMPILING THE RESULTS
Key: M= Mostly; O=Occasionally; R=Rarely Friendship Skills Checklist: ©2012. AAPC Publishing. In Destination Friendship by Benton, Hollis, Mahler, & Womer 102
Group: Grades 6 – 8 Friendship Skills Checklist Date: November, 2013
Information on Friends
Does the individual have friends? (check) � Yes - 5 � No – 1 –A. B.
How many friends does the individual have? (check) Blank - B. D.
� 0 – 2 - O. N., E. S., A. Y.
� 2 – 4 - A. B., G. W.
� 5 +
Are they friends from (check): Blank – A. B.
� School - O. N., E. S., A. Y.
� Community G. W.
� Other:
Does the individual get together with these friends? (check)
� Yes - A. B., B. D., O. N., E. S.
� No – G. W. A. Y.
How often does the individual get together with their friends (check) Blank- G. W.
� Daily
� Weekly
� Monthly – A. B., B. D., O. N., E. S. A. Y.
Does the individual express a desire to have friends? (check)
� Yes - A. B., B. D., O. N., E. S.
� No - G. W., A. Y
Is the individual content with having or not having friends? (check)
� Yes - A. B., B. D., O. N., E. S. (she feels she has many friends), G. W., A. Y (yes, I think so)
� No List any situations or activities in which the individual socially excels (i.e., sporting activity, job, etc.)
A. B.– blank B. D. – computer gaming/technology related activities O. N. – blank E. S. (blank) G. W. – When being around people he knows, he will initiate conversations A. Y. – sometimes with family
List any frustrations regarding friendships identified by the individual:
A. B.– Frustration with trying to solve interpersonal problems. Doesn’t know what to do when his friends argue. B. D. - blank O. N. – No one listens/understands E. S. - feels she has lots of friends, but while the kids are nice to her, she has few who actually involve her or invite her places G. W. – None – except saying he doesn’t have someone to play with A. Y. – Understanding friendly teasing, how to react when told things that aren’t true
Directions: Please think about the individual in a variety of settings (home, school, community) when completing this questionnaire. When reading each question, rate the response according to the following scale: M = mostly (this skill is observed greater than 75% of the time across environments), O = Often (this skill is observed 25% to 75% of the time across environments), R= Rarely (this skill is observed less than 25% of the time across environments).
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Key: M= Mostly; O=Occasionally; R=Rarely Friendship Skills Checklist: ©2012. AAPC Publishing. In Destination Friendship by Benton, Hollis, Mahler, & Womer 102
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FLEXIBILITY OF THOUGHT
Can the individual deviate from his/her perceived routine? M X X O X X R X X
Can the individual accept last-minute changes? M X O X X X R X X
Does the individual demonstrate a willingness to explore new experiences/activities?
M O X X X X X R
Can the individual accept losing in a leisure situation? M X X O X X X X R
LISTENING
Does the individual demonstrate active listening skills in a conversation? M O X X R X X X X
Does the individual make relevant comments? M O X X X R X X X
Does the individual ask questions? M X X O X X R X X
Does the individual look at the speaker? M O X X X X R X X
EMPATHY
Does the individual express concern for others? M X X X X O X R X
Does the individual recognize when others are physically/emotionally hurt? M X O X X X X X R
Does the individual offer help? M X O X X R X X X
Does the individual inquire about others feelings? M O x X R X X X X
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Interest Survey
Name GW School Anytown, PA
Age 13 Grade 7 Why did you sign up for the Destination Friendship?
I felt like it
Tell us about your family. They are nice people who I love very much
List 3 special interests (i.e., Bionicles, swimming, horses).
Music, Computer, Soccer
List 3 favorite snacks (i.e., M&M’s, chips, Doritos).
M&M’s, Chocolate Chip Cookies, Chips
List 3 things you don’t like: (i.e., activities, foods, TV shows)
Spaghetti Sauce, Thunderstorms, Golf on the Wii
Do you like:
CIRCLE ACTIVITIES LIST FAVORITES
Yes No Board Games Checkers, Life, Chess
Yes No TV Shows House of Anubis, The Universe, iCarly
Yes No Music Pop, Rock, Nickleback
Yes No Movies Star Wars, Indiana Jones, Unstoppable
Yes No Fast Food Restaurants Arby’s, KFC, Burger King
Yes No Actor/Actress
Yes No Sports Soccer, hockey, Nascar
Yes No Cartoons Mad, Scooby Doo, Sponge Bob
Yes No Video Games Wipeout – Mariokart, Angry Birds,
THE INTEREST SURVEY - WHAT IS IT? COMPILING THE RESULTS
Destination Friendship Interest Survey
Group: Grades 6-8 Date: September, 2013
Name Age Grade School A. B. 13 7 Middle School
B. D. 12 6 Intermediate School O. N. 12 6 Middle School
E. S. 14 8 Saint Margaret School G. W. 12 6 PA Cyber School
A. Y. 13 7 St. Peter’s School
Name Why did you sign up for the Destination Friendship? A. B. I felt like it
B. D. To make friends. O. N. I enjoyed it so much the last two times
E. S. I don’t do well with certain kids G. W. To play with kids and see Miss Alice! A. Y. My Mom Signed me up
Name Tell us about your family.
A. B. They are nice people who I love very much B. D. Lily – 5, Bradford elementary, loves horses, blond curly hair
Mason – 3 ½ , short brown hair, loves Spiderman Mother – L.G.W.A.B.H. Father – O.H.L.
O. N. Cindy is my mother and she is 46, Peter is my father and he is 54, Noah is my brother and is 11. Eva is my half-sister and is 26.
E. S. My Brother, Kyler My Mom, Kristie My Dad, Scott G. W. I live with my mom and dad and my dog Molly
A. Y. -I have one brother, a mom, and a dad -I live with all of them and a dog named Reika
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Interest Survey: Grades 6 – 8 - 3/2012 1
Name Yes No Fast Food Restaurants - List Favorites A.B. x
B.D. x Rainforest Cafe O.N. x Subway McDonalds Wendys
E.S. x Burger King G.W. x McDonalds Wendys Arbys
A.Y. x -KFC -McDonald’s-Burger King -Arbys
Name Yes No Actor/Actress - List Favorites A.B. x
B.D. x O.N. x Taylor Swift Gerard Butler Sutton Foster E.S. x
G.W. x Miranda Cosgrove A.Y. x
Name Yes No Sports - List Favorites
A.B. x Nascar, Soccer B.D. x
O.N. x Basketball, tennis, E.S. x Soccer G.W. x NFL Football, Soccer, Baseball, Basketball
A.Y. x Only watching football, hockey, baseball, Soccer
Name Yes No Cartoons - List Favorites A.B. x Mad
B.D. x Mad, Adventure Time O.N. x Mad – cartoon network Total drama Island
E.S. x Adventure time G.W. x Sponge Bob Square Pants Scooby Doo
A.Y. x -Scooby Doo -Sponge bob
Name Yes No Video Games - List Favorites A.B. x Mario Kart Wii B.D. x Zombie Lane
O.N. x E.S. x all Legend of zelda games all Metroid games all Kirby games
G.W. x Wii Sports Angry Birds Wii Sports Resort A.Y. x -Wipeout -Mariokart
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"You have the location & participants, so now what?"
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STEP 2
² Active Game Night ² Board Game Night ² Cartoon Night ² Halloween Party ² Karaoke Night ² Movie Night ² Video Game Night
² Special Interest Sharing ² Swimming ² Teen Center Challenge ² Fitness Night ² Lego Night ² Minute to Win-it Night
Selecting the Theme for each session:
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STEP 3 Creating a consistent structure: ² Provides predictability ² Here is our suggestion……
1. Hello and Review Schedule! 2. Friendly Tips 3. Main Activities 4. Scrapbook Page 5. Snack & Magnificent Moments 6. Preview Next Session 7. Good-bye!
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CREATING A CONSISTENT STRUCTURE: 1. Hello and Review Schedule!
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2. Friendly Tips
CREATING A CONSISTENT STRUCTURE:
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3. Main Activity
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4. Scrapbook Page
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5. Snack & Count Magnificent Moments
CREATING A CONSISTENT STRUCTURE:
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Active Game Night October 16th
Super saying Hi
Great asking How friends are
Dedicated Door Holder
Cooperation!!
Super cheering
Great sharing
Funny Faces
Amazing Smiles
Flexible rule followers!!
Happy kids
Jumping to new heights
Terrific teams
Friendly opponents
Gracious winners
Super staying calm and waiting
Great job checking emotions!
Voracious volley ball teams
Fantastic friends helping friends
Smiling faces
Happy kids
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6. Preview Next Session
CREATING A CONSISTENT STRUCTURE:
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7. Good-bye!
CREATING A CONSISTENT STRUCTURE:
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STEP 4 Selecting the Strategies ² Strategies that address the skill targets
(based on the “occasionally’s”)
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EMBEDDING THE STRATEGIES
Flexibility of Thought ² Planned Interruptions of Routines ² Think Out Loud ² Check Your Breathing, Check Your Heart
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EMBEDDING THE STRATEGIES
Self-Regulation ² Take a Pit Stop ² Friendly and Unfriendly Thoughts ² Freeze and Change it Up ² What You Do, Makes Me Think
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THOUGHTS TO TAKE WITH YOU…
² Fun! Fun! Fun! ² Motivate! Motivate! Motivate!
² Real Context! Real Context! Real Context! ² Coach! Coach! Coach!
² Celebrate! Celebrate! Celebrate!
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WRAP-UP & QUESTIONS
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