Lessons on ListeningSophomore English Fall 2012
I sleep when I want.
I cry when I want.I poop when I
want.I’ll listen when I
want.
Dynamite Definition
Listening is… The process of
receiving, constructing meaning from, and responding to verbal/non-verbal messages.
This sounds sooo easy… even an
infant could listen!
Hearing is… Listening is… Being able to detect sounds Natural Passive
Getting meaning from sounds that are heard
A learned skill Active
“But Sullivan—I can always hear you, so I’m always listening to you!”
And all this time I
thought I was
getting paid to listen…
I love practicing
my listening skills
through work gossip!
Pointing at the Process
Step One: Sensing Hearing the message
You can also find this step
in the CM when the
sender sends the message
to the receiver!
Pointing at the Process Step Two: Interpreting the Statement Decoding the message
Find me in the CM when the receiver finds the meaning
of the message!
Sparky is thinking he’s depressed.
Ball!
Pointing at the Process Step Three: Examining the Statement Preparing for feedback
and encodingFind me in the CM when the
receiver prepares to
turn their ideas/feelings into feedback
for the message!
I love you, but I’m not in love with
you.
Pointing at the Process Step Four:
Responding to the Statement Appropriately Feedback
Find me in the CM when the
receiver sends appropriate feedback to the original message.
YOU MEAT HEAD!!!
Pointing at the . EVERYONE listens…
1. for F-U-N (or enjoyment)
2. for F-A-C-T-S (or to obtain info)
3. for F-I-G-U-R-I-N-G out stuff (or to think critically)
4. for F-R-I-E-N-D-S (or to be empathetic)
Lessons on Listening is brought
to you by the number 4
Above the Influence.
Four Factors for (in)Fluence: One: Energy and
Focus Lucy Listener’s level of
energy= Lucy Listener’s level of focus
2+2=QUESADILLA!
Above the Influence.
Four Factors for (in)Fluence: Two: The Speaker
Lucy Listener’s willingness to listen = Lucy Listener’s liking of the speaker Think about: personal bias
AND speaker’s ability
Above the Influence.
Four Factors for (in)Fluence: Three: Prejudice
Lucy Listener’s prejudgment on topic = Lucy Listener’s probably will/will not listen.
Above the Influence.
Four Factors for (in)Fluence: Four: The
Environment Lucy Listener’s willingness
to listen = Lucy Listener’s location
Breaking the Barrier.
Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers: One: Retention
Lucy Listener can only listen to 150-250 wpm, BUT Speaky Sullivan can speak at 500 wpm.
Lucy Listener only recalls 50$ of what is heard, and forgets 20-25% of that in 1-2 days!!!
Breaking the Barrier.
Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers: Two: Physical
Barriers Lucy Listener can’t hear
well = Lucy Listener can’t listen as well
Lucy Listener doesn’t feel well = Lucy Listener doesn’t listen as well
A nose in need deserves Puffs
indeed…and a day off of listening!
Breaking the Barrier.
Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers: Three: Mental
Lucy Listener’s mind likes to wander = Lucy Listener’s listening is lost
SELECTIVE LISTENING ANYONE?
Breaking the Barrier.
Bummer-worthy Blocking Barriers: Four: Cultural
Barriers Lucy Listener doesn’t
speak the language = Lucy Listener can’t listen as well!
How do I pronounce that? Why is she using smart people English? JIGGA WHAT?
.
You can become a LISTENING LEGACY if you are: 1. Prepared (stop, look, and listen!) 2. Concentrated (Focus on the
speaker and message) 3. Concentrate..more. (record
details, refrain from interrupting, review what was said)
4. Taking notes and studying them (write V.I.P ideas, word it your way, watch where you put it, wade through the info again)
Lessons on Listening is brought
to you by the number 4
“Pump the breaks Sullivan; you’ve made your point. How do I get better?”