Affirmations for Building Self-Confidence
What is Motivational
Interviewing?
A collaborative communication style
A quiet, curious process about listening
A shift in style and attitude
Gently guide the conversation toward a common focus
Used to evoke their own sense of if, why & how they might change
Spirit
Collaboration (Partnership)“We are going to work together”
Acceptance“I value you and am delighted to talk with you”
Compassion“I want to understand and respect you and your experience”
Evoking“I am going to create a space for you to share yourself and your story with me”
AffirmationsOpen Questions
ReflectionsSummarizing
OARS
Affirmation vs. Praise
Affirmations
You really tried hard this week!
Your intention was good even thought it didn’t turn out as you would like.
Look at this! You did a really good job of finding these job leads this week.
Thanks for coming in today, and even arriving early!
You made three calls about possible jobs. Good for you.
Why Affirmations?• Establish rapport• Convey the message that the student is worthwhile• About being non-judgmental• Show respect for the young person’s strengths• Build confidence• Increase hope• Bolster feelings of empowerment• Nurture a competence instead of a deficit
worldview• Accentuate the positive
Native American Prayer as an opening to an MI session
Guide me to be a patient companionTo listen with a heart as open as the sky
Grant me vision to see through (his/her) eyesAnd eager ears to hear his story
Create a safe and open meadow in which we may walk togetherMake me a clear pool in which he may reflect
Guide me to find in him your beauty and wisdomKnowing your desire for him to be in harmony – healthy, loving, and strong
Let me honor and respect his choosing of his own pathAnd bless him to walk it freely
May I know once again that although he and I are differentYet there is a peaceful place where we are one
Native American MI Manual (Venner, Feldstein, Tafoya, 2006)
Finding Affirmations
• Read about a YTP student
• Consider the situation
• Write down the strengths you observe
• Form affirmations based on these strengths
• Reminder: Use “you” language
Affirmations
Let’s Practice!
Pair up
Describe a difficult situation you are in or challenge you are dealing with
Reflect, Reflect, Affirm
Switch
Try again
Thank you!MI Support Team:
Dan Franks Washington County [email protected]
Rosalie Galliher Springfield [email protected]
Heather Lynch Bend [email protected]