Download ppt - 222....handling obstacles in choosing a career 1

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Obstacles don't have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don't turn around

and give up. Figure out how to climb it,

go through it, or work around it.

Michael Jordan

A hero is an ordinary individual

who finds the strength to

persevere and endure in spite of

overwhelming obstacles.

Christopher Reeve

Obstacles are like wild animals. They are

cowards but they will bluff you if they can. If they see you are afraid

of them... they are liable to spring upon you; but if you look

them squarely in the eye, they will slink out

of sight. Orison Swett Marden

If you find a path with no obstacles,

it probably doesn't lead anywhere.

Frank Howard Clark

Success is to be measured not so much by the position

that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has

overcome.

Booker T. Washington

HHAANNDDLINLING G OOBBSSTTAACCLLEES S ININ CCHHOOOOSSIINGNG A A CCAARREEEERR

Common Obstacles –These obstacles are interwoven, and one can lead to another, until

we find ourselves caught up in a downward spiral. But we don’t have to let these following

obstacles defeat us.


Obstacles can be anything or anyone that gets in the way of you reaching your goal. Realizing that there will

likely be obstacles along the path to your goal makes it easier to plan for,

overcome or avoid them.


Obstacles can come in two forms: roadblocks and real limitations. A

roadblock is an obstacle which you have the power to control. Many

roadblocks are very real and cannot be changed or removed - these are

called limitations.


All opportunities lie in areas which you CAN change. It is important for

you to decide whether the roadblock is a true limitation, something that you

are unable to change, or not. Accepting any limitations requires

you to be really honest with yourself and you may need to adjust your goal

accordingly. Don't waste energy on things you can't change at the time.

PPEERRSSOONNAAL L OOBBSSTTAACCLLEESS-attitude

-fear/anxiety-procrastination

-lack of time management-low self-esteem, no confidence

-not assertive-difficulty communicating

-no positive vision-lack of drive, ambition

-lack of education-lack of experience

-lack of skills

EEXXTTEERRNNAAL L OOBBSSTTAACCLLEESS-economy

-lack of information-people

-competition-location of training/jobs

-lack of financial resources-lack of support systems

-family, friends, peers-stereotyping

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FEARSFEARS

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LACK OF LACK OF FOCUSFOCUS

LACK OF LACK OF KNOWLEDGE KNOWLEDGE OR SKILLSOR SKILLS

MAKING MAKING EXCUSESEXCUSES

While some fears are a normal reaction to a real or imminent danger, fears can be an excuse

for not confronting situations in which we expect to feel inadequate or humiliated. It is a way of keeping ourselves safe, but it can prevent us from taking the risk that make life exciting.

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We form beliefs from the time we’re born. Some serve us, while others limit us. The problem comes when we see our beliefs as factual realities. By identifying our beliefs as such we can make other choices.

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With all the choices that life throw at us, we may not know how to wade through them. We get confused, overwhelmed and stuck.

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When approaching something new, we may feel unprepared to deal with the additional education that will be required of us. We may feel inadequate to learn new skills. What we’re missing may feel unattainable, and we give up before we even start.

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Even if we narrow down the choices, we may have so many that we don’t know what to focus on first. We end up responding to all the urgencies and distractions, rather than actively choosing where we will put our attention.

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Excuses make it easier to give up on a dream. By making excuses you give up responsibility for your goal and the problem is never solved.

• Some common excuses are:-I'm not smart enough! -I'm too smart!-I'm a woman! -I'm a man!-No one believes in me!-My family expects too much of me!-I'm too young! -I'm too old!-I can't do it! -I'm too shy!

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• It is also helpful to differentiate between real and perceived blocks. If I start ice skating at the age of 40 with the intention of qualifying for the Olympics, that is a REAL BLOCK- even 25 is considered old in that arena. On the other hand, if I decide to start a new business at that age, it may be difficult, but it’s doable. I may need to work through the 5 blocks above, but with the proper determination, resources and support, I can do it.

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• Lesson / Opportunity Seeing your obstacle in this way can fuel your

determination. If everything was easy, it would all become bland and you would get bored and stagnate. Blocks force us to go beyond our current capabilities, both inner and outer and to stretch ourselves, to push the envelope. You can take them as a chance to grow, to become a better, stronger person, to gain coping tools that will serve you in the future and allow you to take on even bigger challenges.

BBlloocckkss vs.vs. HHuurdrdlesles• Blocks are something that

completely stops you and hurdles are something that gets you in your way, but that you can “jump.” Often what turns a hurdle into a block is a belief that you can’t do it, for one reason or another. As you work through your obstacles, you can learn and create strategies to help you manage future ones.

GGeet t CCllaarriityty• Write, draw, speak your

issues. Work with a friend or coach to pull apart the pieces that are confusing you, and come to a place of clarity.

PPrriioorriititizze e aanndd PPllaann• Take your goals and dreams,

write them down and prioritize them. Break them down into small steps and schedule those steps. Take into account the deadlines but be sure to also give priority to the things that may not be urgent, but are important to creating the future you want.

TTo o ssuum m UUpp……1. Identify your obstacle(s).2. Ask yourself, "What can I do about

it?“3.Think of as many possible solutions

as you can.3.Choose the best one for you.4.Write down your plan.5.Set a realistic time frame.6.Take action!

RReemmeemmbbeerr!!OBSTACLES ARE

THOSE FRIGHTENING THINGS YOU SEE WHEN YOU TAKE

YOUR EYES OFF YOUR GOAL.