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10 Indian Marriage Customs That Need To Be Banned

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INTRODUCTION

Kerala is the motherland of people belonging to varied religions, castes and communities. In fact, the

Hindu Religions belong to different cultures.Kerala weddings are celebrated with the same fervor

everywhere, though their way of conduct is different. Regional marriage ceremonies vary in

accordance with factors like religion, region and faith. Today Online Matrimony play major role

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Kanyadaan

A tradition in all Indian weddings without which the wedding is incomplete. The very name Kanyadaan is

made up of 2 words: Kanya and Daan. While if taken literally, it means giving the daughter away, according

to old Hindu traditions, it means the "gift of virginity" or "gifting a maiden". Yeah, well. It is an age-old

tradition and there are many reasons as to why it was brought into existence. One of the most popular ones is

that the scriptures stipulated that the eldest son or the 'son' of the family was supposed to light the funeral

pyre of his parents to absolve them of sins and pass on happily into the afterlife. The patriarchal Hindu

society began to thus revere boys and condemn daughters. To salvage the situation, Hindu priests then

created the concept of Kanyadaan wherein they said that giving the daughter away was one of the highest

honours as it too absolves the parents of sin. After the ritual, the "duty" of the daughter is passed on from the

parents to the groom and she is now his liability. Also, it is always a 'kanya' daan and not a 'stree' daan which

implied that only virgins were allowed to have the honour of absolving the sins of their parents





Kashiyatra

A popular tradition in South India, Kashi Yatra is today treated as more of a fun event. And yet, it

is an inseparable part of Tamil weddings. According to the ritual, the groom gets up from the

wedding and refuses to marry the bride, saying he wants to give up worldly pleasures and

complete his religious studies. He carries an umbrella, a walking stick and a towel containing

lentils (dal) and rice. As he commences this mock pilgrimage, the bride's father stops him and

pleads with them. He then tells the groom the benefits of married life versus ascetic life. He

promises his daughter to him and that she will aid him through the ups and downs of life. The

groom then returns to the wedding and the wedding continues.





Feet Washing

This is a very common tradition across different cultures in India. While some have the tradition

where the bride's parents wash the groom's feet, others make the bride herself wash his feet. While in

earlier days, the tradition made some sense as grooms generally walked barefoot from one village to

another for the wedding, in modern days with cars replacing feet and even horses, this tradition is

outdated. In Assamese tradition, it is the bride's sister who washes the groom's feet. It only seems

insulting to get two adults, as old as the groom's own parents and deserving the same amount of

respect, to wash the feet of the groom. Neither is the groom forced to walk barefoot anymore nor

does he have to travel long distances. Offering water or refreshing beverages makes sense but making

the parents wash his feet is just plain humiliating.





Haldi for the bride

The tradition of haldi is a beautiful one where a paste of turmeric and other spices is applied on the bodies

of the bride and the groom by relatives and friends to cleanse their skin and help them grow. The entire

tradition is fun and a time of great bonding for the bride with her family. It also cherishes some of her last

moments with her family as an unmarried woman. However, in certain regions, the bridal haldi ceremony

can get weird. In Bengali tradition for the pre-wedding haldi, the turmeric paste carried by the groom's

family for the bride is the same paste used by the groom or a paste that has touched the groom's body.

Leaving the sexist aspect aside, we really wonder how hygienic this tradition is. While it is not practised in

many urban areas or among literate people (the groom just touches the haldi with his hand before it is sent

to the bride), the custom is followed in rural areas.

In some Bengali traditions, the bride is made to sit under the elbow of the groom and water is then passed

from his elbow on to her. While this tradition is not exactly the haldi tradition and happens after the

wedding, turmeric paste is often applied to both to ward off the evil eye.





Name change - first name

This is a tradition peculiar to North India and parts of the West where the bride changes her first

name as well as her last name post marriage. The new first name is calculated on her and her

husband's combined astrological chart and the last name is the same as her husband's last name. Also,

the bride alters her middle name from that of her father's name to her husband's name. The practice is

common not just in rural areas but even in urban areas. While a lot of women now retain their last

names and add their husband's surname too, the tradition of making the bride change her first name is

wrong. A name is quite a person's identity and making them change it is akin to stripping the

complete identity away





Marrying a peepul tree/dog.

In a crazy Indian wedding custom, if the bride is Manglik, she is made to first marry a Peepal

tree or a dog. It is believed that marrying a Manglik woman results in the early death of the

husband. Hence, the woman is first married to a tree or an animal to ward off the evil effects of

the curse on her human husband. The husband has no such traditions to fulfill if he is Manglik. A

simple religious ceremony resolves the issue.

Most Indians believe in astrology and all Hindu rituals are based on astrological charts. Even the

wedding is held on an auspicious day according to the positions of the stars. However, while it is

acceptable to believe in parts of astrology, such traditions are plain "stupidstition" and blind

faith. It insults the woman and are demeaning to say the least.






Pot Balancing

In a strange custom in Bihar, once the bride enters the groom's house, the mother-in-law places a

pot on her head. She then continues to touch the feet of the elders and do other chores with the

pot on. After every 5 minutes, another pot is added to her head. The bride must not let the pots

fall off and must carry on with the rituals with all the pots perfectly balanced. This ritual is

supposed to help the bride achieve the perfect balance and harmony between her duties and her

family members as a wife.

While played in fun in recent years, during the earlier days, if the bride couldn't balance the pots,

she faced much ridicule and wrath from her in-laws. All this, just after she sets foot in the house!





Mother banned from the wedding.

IAs strange as it sounds, in Bengali weddings, the bride's mother is not allowed to see the

wedding. It is believed that the mother witnessing the wedding will bring harm on her daughter.

Or the mother possesses the evil eye to harm her daughter's marriage. We have nothing to say on

just how wrong and terrible this tradition seems!






Food only for the males

In Rabha weddings in Assam, the bride is expected to cook a complete luncheon on her first day.

While in most other religions, the bride is expected to only cook sweets on the first day and then

rest till her 'mehendi' wears off, this tribe makes the bride work right from day one. While

cooking a meal is considered one of the duties of a new bride and is not surprising, what is is the

fact that the meal cannot be eaten by all family members. The meal cooked by the bride is only

for the male members of the family. For the womenfolk, food is prepared separately by the cooks

or the helpers in the house.

A pretty sexist tradition where the bride herself is not allowed to sample the feast she is expected

to cook on day one of entering the house!





Mangalsutra and bangles

While western countries have the wedding band to signify marriage, in India the bride is

expected to wear a Mangalsutra (in Western and Northern regions) or Thaali (in South India)

post marriage. In most traditions, the brides are expected to wear bangles as a sign of marriage.

Some traditions also have the bride sporting toe-rings. Each of these ornaments are to be worn

and never removed. However, the groom is not made to sport any rings or bracelets or chains. He

continues life as usual.

The wearing of ornaments is not considered a burden by most women but the unfairness in

making a woman sport these as signs of her marriage, unlike men, is galling.





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