Your Mental HealthYour Mental Health

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In your logbook: How do people get their In your logbook: How do people get their personality?personality?

Today’s Objectives: To explore why Today’s Objectives: To explore why understanding personality is important, understanding personality is important, and to distinguish between invalid and and to distinguish between invalid and valid personality tests.valid personality tests.

RemindersReminders

Take thorough notesTake thorough notes Use headingsUse headings Leave space between sections; it makes it Leave space between sections; it makes it

much easier to study (and grade)much easier to study (and grade) Enter topics in your table of contentsEnter topics in your table of contents Turn full pages sideways; tape them Turn full pages sideways; tape them

ONCE at the top of the page and then fold. ONCE at the top of the page and then fold. (If it can’t open, I can’t grade it.)(If it can’t open, I can’t grade it.)

Mental Health is:Mental Health is:(in your notes)(in your notes)

1.1. Having a generally positive outlook on Having a generally positive outlook on lifelife

2.2. Being comfortable with yourself and Being comfortable with yourself and othersothers

3.3. Being able to cope with the demands Being able to cope with the demands and challenges of everyday lifeand challenges of everyday life

Write a quick paragraph about your own mental health. Write a quick paragraph about your own mental health. “I think my mental health is (good, great, horrible, etc.) “I think my mental health is (good, great, horrible, etc.) because….”because….”

PersonalityPersonality

It is a blend between nature (what you’re It is a blend between nature (what you’re born with) and nurture (what you’re born with) and nurture (what you’re exposed to) and your own unique exposed to) and your own unique characteristicscharacteristics

It’s important to have a general idea about It’s important to have a general idea about your personality because such self your personality because such self knowledge will help you find the right job, knowledge will help you find the right job, right friends, right partner, etc.right friends, right partner, etc.

Many companies now test for personality Many companies now test for personality before hiring employees. Fair or not?before hiring employees. Fair or not?

Valid and ReliabilityValid and Reliability

Validity: A test measures what it says it measures

Reliability: A test delivers consistent results.Popular personality tests: MBTI, Kiersey Popular personality tests: MBTI, Kiersey Temperament Sorter, DISC.Temperament Sorter, DISC.

These tests are not 100% reliable, and These tests are not 100% reliable, and especially not for children and teens. especially not for children and teens.

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1) Do you think the the Personality Pig test 1) Do you think the the Personality Pig test is valid and reliable? Why or why not? is valid and reliable? Why or why not?

2) Write down five things that you think 2) Write down five things that you think you could not live without.you could not live without.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of NeedsMaslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

Physiological or Survival

Safety & Security

Love & Belonging

Esteem

Self-Actualization

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Take two pieces of yellow paper.Take two pieces of yellow paper. Do not put your name on either paperDo not put your name on either paper On one of the two pieces of paper you have On one of the two pieces of paper you have

been given, write down the nicest thing you been given, write down the nicest thing you can ever remember anyone saying to you. can ever remember anyone saying to you. (Give this page a border, be creative -- add (Give this page a border, be creative -- add some art)some art)

On the other piece of paper, write down the On the other piece of paper, write down the worst thing you can ever remember anyone worst thing you can ever remember anyone saying to you. saying to you.

What do you think?What do you think?

What is self-concept?What is self-concept? Self-Concept:Self-Concept: The way you think about The way you think about

yourselfyourself Where does it come from?Where does it come from? What’s the difference between self-What’s the difference between self-

concept and self-esteem?concept and self-esteem? Self-esteem:Self-esteem: The way you feel about yourself The way you feel about yourself When are the “normal” times in life that self-When are the “normal” times in life that self-

esteem often dips?esteem often dips?

Some Terms to KnowSome Terms to Know

Feedback:Feedback: Messages from others that Messages from others that indicate who they think you are or what they think indicate who they think you are or what they think you’re like.you’re like.

Self Talk:Self Talk: Things you tell yourself about the way Things you tell yourself about the way you think you are. (Hint: it’s not always the truth.)you think you are. (Hint: it’s not always the truth.)

Constructive CriticismConstructive Criticism:: When someone When someone corrects you but gives you advice or pointers corrects you but gives you advice or pointers about how to improve a skill or behavior. It’s not about how to improve a skill or behavior. It’s not just to put you down.just to put you down.

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In your notes: Is your self-talk mostly In your notes: Is your self-talk mostly positive or negative? What do you think positive or negative? What do you think influences your self-talk the most?influences your self-talk the most?

Comparing yourself with others?Comparing yourself with others? Media expectations?Media expectations? The committee in your head?The committee in your head?

““No one can make you feel inferior without No one can make you feel inferior without your permission” -- Eleanor Rooseveltyour permission” -- Eleanor Roosevelt

How do you really improve your How do you really improve your self-esteem?self-esteem?

There are only There are only two waystwo ways::1.1. Being true to yourself (By the way, you can’t Being true to yourself (By the way, you can’t

cheat on this. You will not feel good about cheat on this. You will not feel good about yourself if you’re breaking your own rules)yourself if you’re breaking your own rules)

2.2. Accomplishing things Accomplishing things

That’s it – No major magic formula. Just get out That’s it – No major magic formula. Just get out there and do something that fits your belief there and do something that fits your belief system. system.

12 tips to help you develop self-12 tips to help you develop self-esteem esteem

1.1. Develop your talents and Develop your talents and abilitiesabilities

2.2. Help other peopleHelp other people3.3. Take care of your healthTake care of your health4.4. Be willing to try new thingsBe willing to try new things5.5. Set realistic goals [You may Set realistic goals [You may

not be able to dance like not be able to dance like Michael Jackson or play ball Michael Jackson or play ball like Michael Jordan or act like Michael Jordan or act like Michael J. Fox or like Michael J. Fox or Michael Douglas or Michael Michael Douglas or Michael Keaton – but that’s cool. Keaton – but that’s cool. Your name probably isn’t Your name probably isn’t even Michael). You shine in even Michael). You shine in your own ways.]your own ways.]

6.6. Work on having a positive Work on having a positive attitudeattitude

7.7. Get to know peopleGet to know people8.8. Don’t expect yourself to be Don’t expect yourself to be

perfect (No one is)perfect (No one is)9.9. Learn from your mistakes Learn from your mistakes

(forgive yourself and don’t (forgive yourself and don’t dwell on them)dwell on them)

10.10. Keep your wordKeep your word11.11. Dress and look your best at Dress and look your best at

all timesall times12.12. Smile!Smile!

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On a scale of 1 to 10, how stressful would On a scale of 1 to 10, how stressful would you say your life is? (10 would be super you say your life is? (10 would be super stressed, and 1 would not really be stressed, and 1 would not really be stressed at all)stressed at all)

What are the things that are creating What are the things that are creating stress in your life?stress in your life?

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What are some of the changes you notice What are some of the changes you notice in your health triangle when you are in your health triangle when you are stressed? stressed?

Erasing negativityErasing negativity

Research shows it takes 60 positive Research shows it takes 60 positive comments to erase 1 negative remark.comments to erase 1 negative remark.

It Stresses Me OutIt Stresses Me Out

SchoolSchool SiblingsSiblings FriendsFriends DramaDrama ParentsParents ShoppingShopping RumorsRumors Lack of sleepLack of sleep ProcrastinationProcrastination TeachersTeachers

HomeworkHomework Injuries/broken bonesInjuries/broken bones ZitsZits Opposite sexOpposite sex Major eventsMajor events HolidaysHolidays Peer pressurePeer pressure SportsSports DrivingDriving Cats in heatCats in heat

Terms to knowTerms to know

Hardy personality: A person who seems Hardy personality: A person who seems to have a lot of stress but handles it to have a lot of stress but handles it effectivelyeffectively

Eustress – the positive kind of stress that Eustress – the positive kind of stress that comes from exciting events or challenging comes from exciting events or challenging yourselfyourself

Distress – negative stressDistress – negative stress

Five categories of StressorsFive categories of Stressors Biological:Biological: Chemical Imbalances, mental or physical Chemical Imbalances, mental or physical

illnesses, disabilities or injuriesillnesses, disabilities or injuries Environmental:Environmental: Poverty, pollution, crowding, noise Poverty, pollution, crowding, noise

or natural disastersor natural disasters Cognitive:Cognitive: The way you perceive a situation or what The way you perceive a situation or what

you expect from ityou expect from it Personal behavior:Personal behavior: Body or mind reactions caused by Body or mind reactions caused by

tobacco, alcohol or other drugs or not exercisingtobacco, alcohol or other drugs or not exercising Life situations:Life situations: Losing a family member or pet, Losing a family member or pet,

parental separation or divorce, school or friend parental separation or divorce, school or friend problems, moving, etc.problems, moving, etc.

Three Stages of StressThree Stages of Stress

AlarmAlarm Fight or Flight responseFight or Flight response

ResistanceResistance FatigueFatigue

PhysicalPhysical PsychologicalPsychological PathologicalPathological

In your notes!In your notes!

Your senses sharpen for fight or flight. Your senses sharpen for fight or flight. Your body releases adrenaline (also called Your body releases adrenaline (also called

epinephrine) – the body’s emergency hormoneepinephrine) – the body’s emergency hormone Your liver and fat cells release glycogen to give Your liver and fat cells release glycogen to give

you extra energyyou extra energy Extra blood goes to the heart, muscles, brain Extra blood goes to the heart, muscles, brain

and lungs (sing it with me!)and lungs (sing it with me!) Blood comes away from the digestive, immune, Blood comes away from the digestive, immune,

reproductive and integumentary systems.reproductive and integumentary systems.

Your Turn:Your Turn:

How do you or others handle stress? How do you or others handle stress? Include good ways and not-so-good ways.Include good ways and not-so-good ways.

Make a t-chart good vs. bad waysMake a t-chart good vs. bad ways

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Without looking back in your notes, Without looking back in your notes, answer these two questions:answer these two questions:1.1. What is the difference between distress and What is the difference between distress and

eustresseustress

2.2. What is one of the five categories of What is one of the five categories of stressors, and what does it mean?stressors, and what does it mean?

3.3. Think of a funny joke or short (clean) videoThink of a funny joke or short (clean) video

Five ways to deal with stressFive ways to deal with stress

1.1. Get SupportGet Support

2.2. PlanPlan Use your plannerUse your planner Set goalsSet goals Prioritize your activitiesPrioritize your activities Learn to say no Learn to say no

3.3. Re-channel energyRe-channel energy

4.4. Laugh!Laugh! It strengthens your immune systemIt strengthens your immune system It gives you a mild to moderate workoutIt gives you a mild to moderate workout It produces endorphins (the brain’s own It produces endorphins (the brain’s own

happy drug)happy drug) It boosts self-confidenceIt boosts self-confidence It relaxes muscles and reduces tension It relaxes muscles and reduces tension

achesaches

5.5. RelaxRelax

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What is one of the five ways to relieve What is one of the five ways to relieve stress?stress?

What is one of the benefits of laughter?What is one of the benefits of laughter?

Mental DisordersMental Disorders

Organic: You can see it on a test or scanOrganic: You can see it on a test or scan Functional: Must be diagnosed by Functional: Must be diagnosed by

symptomssymptoms

Mental DisordersMental Disorders

Anxiety Disorder – a condition in which Anxiety Disorder – a condition in which real or imagined fears are difficult to real or imagined fears are difficult to controlcontrol

Phobia – a strong and irrational fear of Phobia – a strong and irrational fear of something specificsomething specific

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder – Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder – repeating thoughts that keep people from repeating thoughts that keep people from normal daily activities, combined with normal daily activities, combined with repeated irresistible behaviors.repeated irresistible behaviors.

Panic Disorder – sudden, unexplained Panic Disorder – sudden, unexplained feelings of terror with physical symptoms feelings of terror with physical symptoms like those of a heart attacklike those of a heart attack

Post-traumatic Stress Disorder – a Post-traumatic Stress Disorder – a condition that may develop after exposure condition that may develop after exposure to a terrifying event that threatened or to a terrifying event that threatened or caused physical harmcaused physical harm

Clinical Depression – Feelings of sadness, Clinical Depression – Feelings of sadness, despair and hopelessness with no obvious despair and hopelessness with no obvious cause that last several weeks and interfere cause that last several weeks and interfere with ability to function. with ability to function.

Bipolar Disorder – A disorder that Bipolar Disorder – A disorder that features extreme mood swingsfeatures extreme mood swings

Manic:Manic: Mood changesMood changes GrandiosityGrandiosity High energyHigh energy Pressured speechPressured speech DistractibilityDistractibility High-risk behaviorsHigh-risk behaviors

Depressive:Depressive: IrritabilityIrritability Preoccupation with Preoccupation with

death or suicidedeath or suicide Loss of enjoymentLoss of enjoyment Physical complaintsPhysical complaints Low energyLow energy Change in eating or Change in eating or

sleeping patternssleeping patterns

Anorexia – Eating disorder where the Anorexia – Eating disorder where the irrational fear of becoming obese results in irrational fear of becoming obese results in severe weight loss from self-imposed severe weight loss from self-imposed starvationstarvation

Bulimia – An eating disorder where some Bulimia – An eating disorder where some form of purging of the digestive tract form of purging of the digestive tract follows excessive overeatingfollows excessive overeating

Conduct disorder – A pattern of behavior Conduct disorder – A pattern of behavior in which the rights of others or basic social in which the rights of others or basic social rules are violatedrules are violated

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What is the difference between a fear and What is the difference between a fear and a phobia?a phobia?

When is a bipolar person most likely to When is a bipolar person most likely to commit suicide?commit suicide?

Schizophrenia – A severe disorder in Schizophrenia – A severe disorder in which a person loses contact with realitywhich a person loses contact with reality

Antisocial personality disorder – An Antisocial personality disorder – An individual tends to be irritable, aggressive, individual tends to be irritable, aggressive, impulsive and violent and often shows no impulsive and violent and often shows no remorse for bad behaviorremorse for bad behavior

Dissociative Identity Disorder – disorder in Dissociative Identity Disorder – disorder in which two or more (up to 100) separate which two or more (up to 100) separate and distinct personality states (or and distinct personality states (or identities) control the individual's behavior identities) control the individual's behavior at different times. at different times.

Tourette’s Syndrome – multiple involuntary Tourette’s Syndrome – multiple involuntary tics physical movements or vocalizationstics physical movements or vocalizations

Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder -- Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder -- an illness characterized by inattention, an illness characterized by inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity.hyperactivity, and impulsivity.

SuicideSuicide

Suicide is almost always the result of a mental disorder Suicide is almost always the result of a mental disorder (bipolar, depression, anorexia, etc.)(bipolar, depression, anorexia, etc.)

In bipolar disorder, the mixed state is the most In bipolar disorder, the mixed state is the most dangerous.dangerous.

Teen girls attempt 5 times more often, but boys complete Teen girls attempt 5 times more often, but boys complete suicides more frequently. Why?suicides more frequently. Why?

There are effective medications to treat these disordersThere are effective medications to treat these disorders Parents can think that teen depression is normalParents can think that teen depression is normal

Three Important Things to DoThree Important Things to Do

Listen without judgmentListen without judgment Ask whether they’re thinking about suicide and Ask whether they’re thinking about suicide and

whether they have a planwhether they have a plan Get helpGet help

School counselor, teacher or coach School counselor, teacher or coach Crisis telephone hotline [206-461-3222] Crisis telephone hotline [206-461-3222] Private therapist or counselor Private therapist or counselor Mental health agency Mental health agency Hospital emergency room Hospital emergency room Clergy or religious leader Clergy or religious leader

Your turn!Your turn! Think of a time when you were really sad or Think of a time when you were really sad or

depressed. Write it down in your notes.depressed. Write it down in your notes. When did it happen?When did it happen? Where were you at the time you heard?Where were you at the time you heard? Who else was involved?Who else was involved? What feelings do you remember having?What feelings do you remember having? What thoughts and actions did you have that What thoughts and actions did you have that

were different than normal?were different than normal? What things did people say or do that helped?What things did people say or do that helped?

Grief & Loss: How can you cope?Grief & Loss: How can you cope?

Death of a loved oneDeath of a loved one Death of a petDeath of a pet A divorce or A divorce or

separationseparation A tragedyA tragedy MovingMoving A major A major

disappointmentdisappointment

Loss of a friendshipLoss of a friendship A breakupA breakup Abortion or Abortion or

miscarriagemiscarriage Becoming disabledBecoming disabled A loved one going A loved one going

through an illnessthrough an illness Any significant lossAny significant loss

What causes grief? Some common What causes grief? Some common examples:examples:

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What does it mean to listen without What does it mean to listen without judgment?judgment?

Why is it important to ask a suicidal person Why is it important to ask a suicidal person if he/she has a plan?if he/she has a plan?

Jeremy, 4 (would Jeremy, 4 (would be 23 now)be 23 now)

Amelia, 1 ½ (would Amelia, 1 ½ (would be 20 now)be 20 now)

5 stages of Grief5 stages of Grief

DenialDenial AngerAnger BargainingBargaining DepressionDepression AcceptanceAcceptance

People can go through the stages of grief in any People can go through the stages of grief in any orderorder

Some really important stuff to Some really important stuff to remember about griefremember about grief

Everyone grieves differentlyEveryone grieves differently. If someone . If someone doesn’t react how you expect them to, it doesn’t react how you expect them to, it doesn’t mean they don’t care or that doesn’t mean they don’t care or that they’re crazy. Normal is:they’re crazy. Normal is:

LaughingLaughing CryingCrying WithdrawalWithdrawal Telling the same story over and over and over…Telling the same story over and over and over… A huge range of emotionsA huge range of emotions

Grieving people often think they’re crazy Grieving people often think they’re crazy because their minds don’t work the way because their minds don’t work the way they usually do.they usually do.

It’s common for people to feel guilty that It’s common for people to feel guilty that they’re alive and their loved one is gonethey’re alive and their loved one is gone

There is no set time that it takes people to There is no set time that it takes people to grieve (although average is two years)grieve (although average is two years)

It’s important to keep in touch with grieving It’s important to keep in touch with grieving people long after the initial experiencepeople long after the initial experience

Most Importantly…Most Importantly…

The most important thing you can do is The most important thing you can do is listen!listen!

NEVER say “I know how you feel”NEVER say “I know how you feel”

If you are the one who is grieving:If you are the one who is grieving:

Accept the grief (you Accept the grief (you can’t get over it; you can’t get over it; you must go through).must go through).

Talk about itTalk about it Get rid of imagined Get rid of imagined

guiltguilt

Take care of yourselfTake care of yourself Eat wellEat well Exercise regularlyExercise regularly

Accept your Accept your understanding of the understanding of the situationsituation

Join a group of others Join a group of others who are sorrowingwho are sorrowing

Associate with old Associate with old friendsfriends

Postpone major Postpone major decisionsdecisions

Record your thoughts in Record your thoughts in a journala journal

Turn grief into creative Turn grief into creative energyenergy

Take advantage of your religionTake advantage of your religion Get professional help if neededGet professional help if needed

ParentParent TeacherTeacher CounselorCounselor Mental health professionalMental health professional Grief support groupGrief support group Church pastor, bishop, rabbi, etc.Church pastor, bishop, rabbi, etc. Other trusted adultOther trusted adult King County Crisis Clinic (206) 461-3222King County Crisis Clinic (206) 461-3222 Emergency room psychologistEmergency room psychologist

Remember: You are not alone!Remember: You are not alone!

Five Stages… sort of Five Stages… sort of

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