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You’re Gonna Miss Me When I am Gone A presentation for the parents of senior students

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Presenter Debra F. Craig, M.A., Special Projects

• Debra is a nationally recognized education leader and school counseling professional and has served in a number of K-16 school counseling, instruction and leadership capacities. These roles have included College/Career Counselor, Interim Director of Professional Development and Chief Educational Manager of K-12 Services at the College Board, Southwestern Regional Office.

• Appointed to serve on the Texas Higher Education Coordinating Board (THECB) Common Application Committee and the Texas Guaranteed Student Loan Corporation, Debra has been involved providing expert guidance and leadership in student access, college admissions and financial aid policy.

• Debra was named Counselor of the Year by the Texas Counseling Association and was honored with the William Fleming for Counseling Excellence and the Founders’ Awards by the Texas Association for College Admission Counseling.

• Debra has led a number of award winning initiatives and programs to serve students and families including content creation for the Texas State University uPhone, Parent College Admission Course, and the Fish Bowl Freshman Orientation Programs.

• Debra holds a Master’s of Education in Guidance and Counseling from the University of Texas and a Bachelor of Science degree in Political Science from Texas Tech University.

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You’re Gonna Miss Me When I am Gone March 2014

Today’s Objectives

To examine the needs/benefits for a program for your seniors and their parents to help them transition from high school to life after the K12 world

To provide resources for students and parents to reference as they embark on this new milestone

To provide a model for a presentation for parents that will

help prepare them for this experience To examine ways to help build parent and student support

networks that can be set up for the postsecondary transition

First Day…..

Reaching the Goal…

The Idea

Spin-off from my parent classes on the college admissions process

From a session I attended at my state’s ACAC conference

Talking to my Seniors about their upcoming changes…college summer orientations, picking roommates, going away vs. staying home

Hearing from my graduates and their parents

The Reasons

Adjusting to college has been marked as an important step in the psychosocial development of individuals as they attempt to develop a cohesive ego identity.

Young adults are required to separate themselves from parents and families and adjust to an environment where the direct support and influence of parents is no longer present.

Students whose parents helped prepare them for the transition into college seemed to transition easier than students whose parents did not help them prepare.

Educational Psychology Review, 24, 133-165.Crede & Niehorster, 2011

The Reasons

A study by Holly Schiffrin and colleagues from the University of Mary Washington in the United States, published in Journal of Child and Family Studies indicates:

an inappropriate level of parental behavioral control was linked to negative well-being outcomes for students. Helicopter parenting behaviors were related to higher levels of depression and decreased satisfaction with life.

helicopter parenting behaviors were associated with lower levels of perceived autonomy, competence, and relatedness. And those who perceived they had less autonomy and competence were also more likely to be depressed.

The Timing

Publicized it in September

Held the session in late March early April

Asked the Senior Class officers to call to call every parent

Requested other seniors to make cookies cookies and “Thank you” signs

The Agenda

Last minute graduation details

Project Graduation

Provided checklists, reading lists, websites

Parent Panel

The Books

Your favorites

My favorites

Letting Go, A Parent’s Guide to Understanding the College Years

by Karen Levin Coburn and Madge Lawrence Treeger

Favorite line to quote:

“The most helpful parents are those who listen, acknowledge their child’s feelings, and allow him or her to generate some options.” (page 263)

The Books

My favorites

I’ll Miss You Too

by Margo Bane Woodacre and Steffany Bane

Favorite line to quote about the time when it it is close to the departure: “Tempers Tempers can flare and tears will flow.”

The Books

My NEW favorite

The iConnected Parent Staying Close to your Kids in College (and Beyond) While Letting Them Grow up

by Barbara Hofer, Ph.D and Abigail Moore

Study statistic: Students reported that parents are proofreading (19%) and editing (14%) their college papers.

The Checklists

End-of-year Items for School

Summer “To Do” List

Packing Lists

College Orientation Sessions

The Parent Panel

Two Dads, Three Moms

Out-of-State College

In City/Out of City College

Community College

Multiple Children

The Parent Panel

Sent a letter to the parents two weeks in advance

Attached list of questions

Ending the year

Realistic Expenses

College Orientations

Summer Issues

Top 2 Child Adjustments

Top 2 Personal Adjustments

Sibling Adjustments

Unique Situations

The Key Topics: Wrapping up the Senior Year

Getting important events

on the family calendar

Reviewing high school close-out issues

Making college deposits, signing up for orientations

Discussions on visiting family and friends

The Key Topics: Summer

The Key Topics: Summer

The Key Topics: Money

Review financial expectations

Establish process and communication

Assist with skills needed for managing money

The Key Topics: Communication

The Key Topics: Communication

A USA Today poll of 500 college students found that 50% only go 30 minutes without using digital technology

For first year college students 13.4 average weekly contacts 6.3 student initiated 7.1 parent initiated

14.5 average for females 11.3 average for males

The Key Topics: Children Adjusting

Independence

Academics

Social

When there is a problem

The Key Topics: Parent Adjustments

Loss of “BFF”

Loss of BFF’s friends

Family dynamic changes

Stay-at-Home Moms

Social Circle Changes

Life Milestone

Benefits

Helps equip parents with resources and information to proactively plan for the next few months with their Senior

Provides parents with peer parent advice and insight

Gives parents an opportunity to see and seek support networks

Guides parents to think about their own milestone and adjustment

Brings closure to the K12 cycle for students, parents, and my relationship with them.

Wrap Up

E-mail: fcw@collegeboard.org

College Counseling Resources College Board @ www.collegeboard.com

Apply to 4 or More Campaign http://counselorworkshops.collegeboard.org/apply-to-four-or-more

Big Future - College Planning https://bigfuture.collegeboard.org

Counselor Resource Page http://counselorworkshops.collegeboard.org/resources

College Counseling Sourcebook* • Nuts and Bolts of College Advising • Tips and resources from practicing school counselors • Chapters devoted to Special Populations including:

Low income and First Generation Students in Foster Care Students with Disabilities

* Join the Apply to 4 or More campaign and provide summary information to receive a complimentary PDF in Spring 2014

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Membership Mobilization & Engagement Spring 2014 Webinar Series

You’re Going to Miss Me When I’m Gone: Transitioning Students from High School To College

Wed., Mar. 12, 2014 1:00 PM to 2:00 PM EST

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Wed., Mar. 19, 2014 1:00 PM to 2:00 PM EST

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