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You Just Don’t Understandby: Deborah Tannen
ANTONIO BERBER
3/18/15
Idea Behind the Book
Importance of Metamessages
What are Metamessages?
Lead to Asymmetry
Communication styles
Men Hierarchical or stratified
Women Collaborative
Intimacy vs. Independence
Men Seek independence
Women Seek intimacy
Talking Characteristics Women More likely to talk at
home
Talk about personal life “gossip”
Men More likely to talk in
public or business settings
Talk about politics, news, and sports
Types of Conversations
Men Tend to sit next to each
other
Indirect when expressing personal problems
More likely to make decisions independently
Women Tend to sit close to each
other or face each other
More likely to be direct in their speech
More likely to consult with each other before making decisions
Conflict Styles
Men Necessary to establish
status
Friendships have an element of friendly aggression
Women Threat to connection or
relationship
Conflict is to be avoided at all costs
Is change needed?
NO, you just need to understand the differences
Women can be more assertive or direct
Men be more sensitive and listen more