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To Inspire and Inform:Wise Words . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3Virtually Yours . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4Life Skills . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5Chef a gogo . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7Inside The Box . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8Women’s Occupational Workshop . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Words On Wine . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Upcoming Events And Happenings . . . . . . . . . . . . 15

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Are you living up to your potential? This issue is dedicated to all of us who are born with great potential within us and want to fulfill that

potential in the span of time that we are on this earth. Who doesn’t have potential? Everyone has potential. Everyone is born with a gift, a genius within them. It is our responsibility to ourselves to seek out that gift and to share it with others. You’ll notice that our cover has six very pretty and very energetic cheerleaders on it. I selected cheerleaders for this month’s cover because what better people to shout out to you about how you can overcome difficulties and reach your full potential, whether it is in a ballgame or the game of life. Do you really know just how special you are? Do you know that there is only one you and only you have that very special gift that you can share with others? Most of us hide our gifts and talents because we feel that they just aren’t good enough. We wish our lives away wanting someone else’s gifts. Not all of us can be American Idols or Survivors or The Apprentice but we all have that one thing that sets us apart from everyone else. What is that for you? What is it that your friends and family have said to you in a positive manner that talks to you about your talent? What do you have the potential of becoming? When I was young, my mother always told me that I could do anything that I set my mind to do. So, I in my immature wisdom; tried everything and failed or at best struggled at many things. But in doing so I did realize one thing I was really good at. That was making people feel comfortable and helping them connect with others. That’s not a talent that can be taught in school. That is something that I was born with and realized just recently that it was a worthwhile endeavor. How many of us keep trying to be what we are not because we think that’s what others would hold in higher esteem? How many of us think that unless you can make a lot of money doing something, that it can’t be your gift? Let me let you in on a little secret. Sharing ‘your gift’ with the world will bring you immeasurable satisfaction and rewards. There are many people in the world and even in our own community who make a lot of money but are very unhappy with the work they do because they are not living up to their potential with the one gift that they were born with. Are you one of them? This month, take the time to ask your friends and family what they think that you are really good at doing? You may be surprised at their answers. Live up

to your potential by sharing your gift. YOU CAN DO IT! YES YOU CAN! ■

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Deborah Reynolds, Owner of DediKated Resource Virtual Administrative Solutions, virtually assists solo and small business owners in growing their businesses and educating them on Web 2.0 technologies. She is a Certified Internet Marketing & Social Media Marketing Specialist, and specializes in establishing a local online presence for businesses. For more information on her services, please visit www.dedikatedresource.com, and connect with her on Facebook www.facebook.com/DediKatedVA and Twitter @DediKatedVA.

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Seems like everyone is talking about Facebook these days, but is it really a big deal? Well, there is no doubt that Facebook is the hottest online

activity right now, and it has no signs of cooling down. They have over 500 million users and have basically become another search engine. So, in my opinion, Facebook really is a big deal, especially for business owners. While Facebook Profiles represent individuals with a network of friends and family, Facebook Business Pages represent businesses and have a network of “fans”. Pages allow business owners to have a separate presence within Facebook, which offers unique opportunities to inform their audience and engage with them. The purpose of a Facebook Page is to share about your business; specials, new products or services, events, etc., and to attract new fans. A Page also allows businesses to network with people, ask and answer questions, and

provide customer service. The viral possibilities for Pages really are a big deal. Once someone clicks the “Like” button on your Page, updates from your Page will then appear in their news feed. An update will also appear in all of their friends’

news feed notifying them of their friend’s new “Like” and a link to your Page. Since most people are friends with people in their local area, chances are they will click the link to visit and “Like” your Page too! This viral visibility increases as each new person “likes” your Page and it’s shared with their friends. Another benefit of a Page is that updates appear in search engine results, which is more exposure for your business when people search online for local products and services. Facebook is an excellent site for businesses simply because of the trust factor. People are being more cautious in their online activity as our dependence on the internet increases. However, people trust their friends and will most likely visit a business that has been referred to them. In fact, more than 74% of people trust their Facebook friends’ referrals. These online “word of mouth” referrals are priceless to a business owner.

Virtually Yours Tip of the Month: You can increase the number of people who “Like” your Facebook Page by adding the “Like” button to your website or blog, and including the link to your Page in email signatures. ■

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Life and relationships are often messy and filled with all sorts of sticky situations. So how do we maintain being civil and polite when faced with thoughtless or rude behavior? It would be

wonderful if everyone practiced good manners every day, but we know that is not reality.

Respond, Don’t ReactLet’s say a coworker does not reply to your email or phone message in a timely manner and you feel you have to follow up with another email or phone call. This is a time waster, and you may become a bit angry.

You may feel like he or she is ignoring your communication and even damaging your personal and professional relationship. So how could you handle the situation?

Start by keeping the end in mind. You want to respond, not react. Without a well-thought-out response to the situation,

you may end up reacting in a rude manner. Here are a few tips to help you respond, not react:1. Identify the situation. Might the person be going through a stressful situation and is unable to respond?2. Identify your relationship with the offender. 3. Identify your motivation. Is it to enhance the other person and your relationship, or simply to vent your anger or embarrass them?4. Make sure you are not emotionally charged. It is impossible to respond in a positive and civil manner when you are angry. 5. Identify all the possible ways you could handle the situation. Consider both positive and negative options.6. Consider all the possible outcomes to your various choices.7. Select the best choice.

The Oreo-Cookie Method Once you have gone through this process, try applying the Oreo-cookie method. The Oreo-cookie method is where you first start with something kind and supportive – the cookie, followed by constructive feedback – the cream, and then end with something positive – another cookie. The Oreo-cookie method might sound like this: “Janelle, you are one of the most conscientious professionals I know. Your commitment to this company is admirable. Recently, however, you have not been responding in a timely manner to my emails and phone calls. I’m not sure why that is. Would there be a more effective way for me to communicate with you? I enjoy working with you and want to make sure our projects are on time and well done. ” The next time you are faced with one of life’s sticky situation, serve the other person two cookies along with the cream. ■

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Gumbo is arguably the most important culinary contribution from Louisiana and has become a staple of the Gulf States since it’s introduction

in the early 1800’s. Almost immediately, the debate over what constituted “authentic” gumbo began and there is never a shortage of cooks willing to throw a whisk into the fray and fervently state their culinary

position. Light or dark roux? Okra, file, or neither? Can sausage be combined with seafood? Here are a few gumbo tidbits that might

get you by at a cocktail party or possibly a quiz show. If the conversation turns to Acadians, Choctaw Indians, and the etymology of the word “gumbo,” you’re going to be on your own.•Gumbogetsitsnamefromaninterpretationofthe

West African word for okra. As palates have changed it is becoming more common to see okra eliminated as an ingredient in restaurant gumbo, particularly preparations based on dark roux.

•All gumbo,with the exception of the vegetarianLenten gumbo z’ herbes, begins with the Holy Trinity of green peppers, yellow onions, and celery. Garlic is known as the Pope. These are non-negotiable.

•Creolecookingisconsideredmorerefinedthantheone pot cooking typically found in Cajun cuisine. Creole gumbo contains tomatoes, usually shellfish, and almost always okra. Although Creole gumbo sometimes contains roux it is generally a lighter roux.

• Filéisgroundsassafrasleafandisaddedattheendof gumbo making or sprinkled on by the diner at the table.

•Cajun gumbo is based on a darkmahogany roux(sometimes even darker) and is often finished with filéwhenserved.

•Gumboisnotathirty-minutemeal.Planonaboutthree hours.

• Sausage is usually paired with fowl and notseafood.

•Plain steamed unconverted rice is the traditionalaccompaniment. Potato salad served with gumbo is a Cajun thing.

In the end, there are as many recipes for gumbo as there are cooks and, authentic or not, it’s never really a bad pot of gumbo when you’re sharing it with family and friends. ■

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Reaching one’s potential often requires a change of direction and personal insight. It escapes me that we spend more time preparing to fail than to succeed. I mean, ask the question

of yourself, “What if I do succeed?, “What if this idea (dream, plan, vision) is reachable?” Are you ready to reach your goals or are you more comfortable with hoping instead of doing? If the answer is that you are ready to soar, then read on. Success

requires planning. You must take paper and pencil to hand and map out the future. Step by step planning allows you to foresee areas of difficulty and areas of potential growth. Time

is not wasted looking for direction. You would never start a trip without a good map, would you? Why make your business subject to a hit and miss approach. After well-spent time preparing a plan, don’t file it away and never refer back to your ‘business map’. This type of map is ever-changing. Conditions, unforeseen bumps along the road and changes in finances can require that updates are needed. I like to look at my plan weekly. It helps to keep it before me and remind me where I intend to go. This is also the reason to write it in pencil. Modifications can mean big financial gain. If a direction becomes static, alter it to fit the ultimate goal of success. Also remember to spend quiet time to take the opportunity to look inward and identify your own personal power. Often, we live our business life scaling down to the expectations that others hold of us. Some may be valid, based on past performance. Others, invalid - for the same reason. Life is a wonderful collection of moments spent gaining experience. You have not failed in the past. You have ruled out ways that do not work in given circumstances. Take that experience to propel you forward. There is amazing power inside you. You are the creative expression of the Creator. There is potential in you that has never been expressed. Now is the time. Discover your power and apply it to the business plans you have ‘in your head’! Unleash yourself. ■

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Tech support! Tech support! You don’t have to have to run down the halls of your building, or through the alleys screaming

for tech support, it is usually a lot closer than you think. Problems arise in new installs. There may be version conflicts caused by other product updates, but if you haven’t kept up with the install disk or

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When a sk ed to write this a r t ic le , my

aim was to be brief and informative. So I’ll start with why and how to drink wine. Why drink wine? First because it tastes good; and secondly wine can enhance the food you’re eating, the company you’re with, or both. When properly served, wine flavors can range from chocolate to flowers, from berries to grapefruit, from mushrooms to cedar, and from minerals to candy. The right food paired with the right wine improves the flavor of both the food and the wine. How to drink wine? Anyway you can get it to your mouth is the first answer that comes to mind. A glass shaped for the type of wine will aid in the enjoyment of the wine, but I have enjoyed some great tasting wine out of a jelly jar on a camping trip. Don’t get too hung up on the proper stemware. Spend more time on what goes in the glass than on the glass itself. A 6 to 8 ounce stemmed glass with the top narrower than the bowl will work for almost any wine. At what temperature should I serve wine? Serve red wines at 60 to 65 degrees. I know you’ve heard room temperature, but when that wine adage was coined, most people lived in poorly built stone houses with no central heat. Room temperature then was about 55 to 65 degrees and not 75 to 80 like now. White wine should be chilled to 40 to 45 degrees. If you get any wine too cold you can hold the glass in the palms of your hands for a few seconds and warm it to the temperature you want. In short, drink wine the way you enjoy it. Remember the wine police won’t come to your door and get you if you don’t follow the “rules”! Each month I will get into more detail about how to taste wine, what wine works best with what foods, where to shop, how to store wine at home, and anything else that might help you to enjoy wine. There is no right or wrong to wine enjoyment, only opinions. And opinions are like elbows, everybody’s got one or two. I would welcome your comments, questions or criticism. You can e-mail me at creed.minnis@earthlink.net. ■

Creed Minnis

Creed and wife Ida have been partners with their daughter and son-in-law in Wise Liquors for the last 8 years. Atending classes about wine, tasting wine, visiting wineries, interviewing vintners, reading about wine, has been a passion of Creed’s for over 40 years. Hosting wine tastings and pairing food and wine are services provided by Creed in his stores and in private tastings. www.wiseliquors.com

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1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you. Chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION! 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy … the driver won’t see you, but everybody else will.This has saved lives. 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching

you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE. If

someone is in the car

with a gun to your head DO NOT

DRIVE OFF. Repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your air bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location. 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

A. Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.

B. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are

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8. As women, we a re a lways trying to be sympathetic: STOP It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked ‘for help’ into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her ‘Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, ‘We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door.’ He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby’s cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby’s cries outside their doors when they’re home alone at night.

10. Water scam! If you wake up in the middleof the night to hear all your taps outside running or what you think is a burst pipe, DO NOT GO OUT TO INVESTIGATE! These people turn on all your outside taps full blast so that you will go out to investigate and then attack. Stay alert, keep safe, and look out for your neighbors! ■

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Tuesday, October 19, 2010American Airlines Center

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Upcoming Events & Happenings of Interest DON’T FORGET! Tear out this page

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reference.ThE PROmIsEThru Oct 30 Friday and Saturday nights onlyTexas Amphitheatre, Glen Rose, TexasSpend a night under the beautiful autumn evening sky with us at the Texas Amphitheatre in Glen Rose, and experience the birth, life, words, death, resurrection, and triumphant ascension of Jesus Christ through The Promise. For tickets or more information call 254-897-3926. www.thepromiseglenrose.com

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Readers, we want to list associations that would be beneficial to the women of Wise County. Also, if you know of events that may be of interest to our readers please email them to kim@wisewomanmagazine.com.

We will do our best to get the word out!

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Is 4-HFor You?

The Potential for Books

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Taylor Oates

DanielleFoster

The Family Album

The treatment options for unwanted leg veins has really improved in the past ten years. New options include endovenous laser therapy, phlebectomy, sclerotherapy, and topical laser therapy. Endovenous Laser Therapy eliminates the unwanted vein using a laser fiber inserted through a skin puncture. Phlebectomy interrupts the problematic vein using a small surgical tool. Sclerotherapy involves injecting the vein with small amounts of solution to dry up the unwanted vein. A Topical laser is applied through the skin to eliminate superficial spider veins. I can customize your treatment options. Consultation, testing, and treatment are covered under most insurance plans.

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Kambree Alyssa Hand, 2010 Chico Midget Cheerleader

Noah Ratcliffe, 3 years old, on his first day of school at First Friends (First

Baptist Church in Bridgeport).

Little Ava Barnett is ready for the big game.

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The Family Album

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Each time a book is opened potential is being released. It is the potential of the story to unfold and deliver a piece of history, another world, another time or place,

suspense, romance or humor. The potential that lies within the world of books is unlimited. For most readers, this is not new information-- it is why we read. However, the book itself is only half of the equation which results in realized potential. The other half lies in the reader. Without the reader’s imagination, worldview, desire to learn or ability to be inspired a book is simply text on paper. When a reader is placed with the right book, then both the book and the reader come to a place of the fulfillment of their potential. Having observed readers for many years, I think that it is often what happens when the reader finishes a book that is interesting. A great book can inspire a reader to strive to reach their personal potential. A noteworthy example of this lies in the popular book Same Kind of Different as Me by Ron Hall and Denver Moore. This book shows the human face of

homelessness and has inspired numerous people, several here in our own community, to seek volunteer opportunities or to donate to charities for the homeless.

In The Book That Changed My Life, Frank McCourt recalls how reading Shakespeare helped him while suffering from typhoid as a child. He recalls, “it’s like having jewels in my mouth when I say the words.” Author Dorothy Allison was inspired to become a writer after reading Toni Morrison’s The Bluest Eye. She tells us after reading this book that, “. . . a debt that passes to the reader [is] to take up the story and remake the world. It changes me utterly. It changes me still. It remade my life.” Books have the potential to change lives and to bring out the potential in the reader. Potential lies in books; it lies within individuals; it can be found at your library. ■

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DO YOU HAVE PATRIOTIC POTENTIAL? A group of patriotic high school students attending a Young American Foundation conservative leadership conference in Washington, D.C., said they were ordered by a security guard to stop singing the National Anthem during a visit to the Lincoln Memorial. U.S. Park Police confirmed that the students were in violation of federal law and their impromptu performance constituted a demonstration in an area that must remain “completely content neutral.” To their credit, the students kept on singing and were joined in by others visiting the memorial. “This is America,” said one student, “we can sing the National Anthem.” Source: Fox News 8/10/10

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The Family Album

Riggin Holt likes what he sees in the mirror.Olivia Parr, enjoying the last

days of summer while we were vacationing in Mexico Beach, Florida. Olivia is 10 and just started 5th grade in Alvord .

Luke and Bohner (of Paradise) enjoying a fast and furious tube ride on Lake Bridgeport.

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In This Issue:At Your Library. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4Laying Down The Law . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8Dave Says . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 4-H News . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10 Wise County Wonderings . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11Energy Wise. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 Wise Eyes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14With Love, Naturally . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15Discover Wise County . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17

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This month’s theme is POTENTIAL and what better way to remind us about our potential than cheerleaders who are always telling us ‘You can do it, Yes you can!’ All of us have amazing potential. It’s up to us to believe and surround ourselves with people who will encourage us. YOU CAN DO IT, YES YOU CAN!

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The Family Album

Ryan Grace Schroeder of Paradise born August 18, 2008 at

Wise Regional Hospital in Decatur. We expect great things from you. Bridgeport Bulls Black PeeWee Football team in a huddle during a recent

game. These boys show lots of potential!

Harrison and Henry Oberg enjoying the last week of summer at the beach with Mom.

Jesseca Mobarak enjoys her first snorkle lessons.

TXI Supports United Way:Alvin Dethloff, Chris Metcalfe, Randy Flake

If you read Wise Family Magazine, then you have seen several articles over the past year about being more civil. In fact, our editor/super

marketing coach received an award for civility a few months ago. To be quite honest, I was uncertain about what they were talking about. I figured being more civil was pretty easy and just a matter of not being a complete jerk. Wrong. Because of my pride and probably ego (my wife would say absolutely), I ignored the civility challenge. Enter October 2010. I really hate it when Kim (editor) and Deborah (Life Skills author) are right, but this whole civility thing has merit. I don’t have it all figured out but the gist of it appears to be a simple matter of changing how you interact with other people. I tend to get pretty excited about things. Seriously. No kidding. I found that my conversations tended to be more about what was going on with me and my family and instantly less about what w a s g o i n g on with the person I was interacting with. A small change in how I handle discussions with others produced a much more beneficial dialogue. Similarly, I tend to be the guy at Wal-Mart on the phone. Even when I saw folks I knew, I gave them the “hello, how are ya” while I was still on the phone. There is nothing meaningful or beneficial about that interaction. Hanging up and being more attentive is the more civil alternative. So before all my faithful readers start thinking I have gone soft, I can assure you that my lack of polish and redneck proclivities are still in full effect. Fear not. I will say, however, that I am working on being more civil. When thinking about the topic of civility, please don’t think that there is any implication of weakness. Being more civil doesn’t mean you are weak of mind or of body. It also doesn’t mean that you have to back down from anyone at anytime. You can still be a hardcore, tenacious person, but still find ways to handle yourself in a more professional and civil manner. If I can do it, so can you. See you next month.■

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After seven years in private practice, James Stainton took office as the Wise County Attorney in January 2009. James works with the Wise County Teen Court and Wise County Domestic Violence Task Force and believes that only through involvement and action can we make a difference in our community.

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Dave Says

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The Family Album

Dear Dave, My husband says we can’t travel to Illinois for a family reunion next summer if we’re not out of debt by then. He thinks your rule is no vacations while you’re getting out of debt. I think if we plan and save, it would be worth it to go. Who’s right? – Ann

Dear Ann, It must be your family reunion we’re talking about! Seriously, he’s right in this case. No vacations while you’re getting out of debt. You guys need to roll up your sleeves and get the job done.

Still, I’m not going to be an ogre or anything about this kind of trip. I mean, we’re talking about family. So, I’m okay with it if you guys work together and

spend next to nothing to make it happen. But if traveling to Illinois involves $1,000 worth of plane tickets, then you’re staying home, girl! If I were in your place, I’d be staying home. That’s how you get out of debt. You have to get angry at it. You can’t just roll

No vacation?

along living life as usual. Live like no one else, so that later you can live like no one else. I know, you’re thinking life’s too short to not have some fun. Well, you’re right. Life is too short. It’s way too short to live your whole life being broke! – Dave Dear Dave, Would you agree that pride is our biggest problem when it comes to debt? – Brian

Dear Brian, That’s a really interesting question. I think pride is definitely toward the top of the list, but I’d say the biggest cause of debt is immaturity. One really good definition of maturity is learning to delay pleasure. When you can’t wait to buy the video game, or the car, or the iPhone, then that’s a sign of immaturity. It’s like a four-year-old fussing and whining, “I want it right now!” Give me a break! That kind of stuff makes me sick. But you know, pride may be the biggest reason people keep debt. People who walk around worrying about what everyone else would think if they got rid of the big house or the fancy car—worrying that everybody else would think they’re broke—now that’s pride. But it definitely enters into the equation. – Dave

Bridgeport Varsity Cheerleader, Taylor Oates, and her cousin

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4-H

New

s The new 4-H year has many 4-Hers, parents and volunteers at their busiest. The start of a new year, f inds 4-Hers choosing

projects and getting ready for shows again. Even while many 4-Hers are still enrolling, many of you may have never heard about 4-H and what it is. So don’t stop here, keep reading! The first thing we will need to discuss is, what is 4-H. 4-H is a youth organization that is focused on teaching leadership, citizenship and life skills. Let’s not forget, you have can have a lot of fun too! 4-H offers many opportunities to participate in projects, contest and later offers a chance for scholarships. Now that you know what 4-H is, let’s discuss the various projects offered. There has often been a misconception that by being in 4-H you must show livestock. Livestock projects are a few of the

many projects offered, but these are not mandatory to

participate in 4-H. Some other projects include Food and Nutrition, Clothing, Science and Technology, Dog Shows and many more. There’s a project for almost any interest. By participating in projects you are provided many learning opportunities and also are given a chance to compete at competitions. 4-Hers have the opportunity to participate in the projects of their choice with no limitation on the number of projects in which they choose to participate. 4-Hers seeking to become more active leaders in 4-H also have the opportunity to hold officer positions throughout the various clubs in Wise County. 4-H also gives kids a chance to participate in many different community service projects around their community. 4-Hers develop leadership and citizenship skills by participating in such projects. Individuals interested in learning more about 4-H can participate in the 4-H Explosion on Saturday October 9th at 2:00pm in the Multi Purpose Building at the Decatur Middle School. The 4-H Explosion will provide an opportunity to learn more about the Wise County 4-H clubs and projects. Those interested in learning more about 4-H may do so by contacting the County Extension office at 940-627-3341. ■

Makayla Cross

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Makayla Cross is a 3-year 4-H participant, 1st generation to participate in 4-H and she enjoys participating in various hobbies which include working with animals, reading, singing, cooking, and sewing. Her life goal is to attend Texas A&M to get a PhD in Agriculture Science and become a missionary.

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A very forward thinking man, Daniel Howell, came from Alton in Denton County and chose a location near the future site of

Decatur Baptist College, because he knew the county seat would in all probability be located somewhere near his place of business. He would soon take a partner, Elmore Allen, who was destined to become the father of the first child to be born in Decatur.

As near as we can determine this store was located about a block north east across the street from what is now the Wise County Heritage Museum. As soon as the town was permanently located on the hill to the north, Howell moved his store to the “square”. Soon after Howell built his store, a man by the name of Henry Martin built a frame structure sixteen feet square, weather boarded with four inch hackberry boards that had been cut in the West Fork bottoms and shaved with a drawing knife. The building was roofed with two foot clapboards and floored with cottonwood puncheons. This building was to have further significance in the history of Wise County as our first courthouse! Until the county seat was determined, all courts in and for Wise County were held in Daniel Howell’s store.

A question from a reader:Dear Ms. Gregg, What was the name of the outlaw that is buried west of Cottondale that you mentioned in the August column? Answer: His name was Arkansas Johnson, a member of Sam Bass’ gang. Arkansas Johnson had several aliases but his real name may have been Huckston. After service in the Union Army he engaged in horse stealing and highway robbery in Arkansas. In March of 1878 he and a man named Underwood broke out of a jail in Nebraska. They made their way to Texas to join the Sam Bass gang. The gang had been active in Denton, Wise, and surrounding counties stealing horses and robbing trains and banks.On the morning of June 13, 1878 a Texas Ranger named Junius Peak was joined by a posse led by Wise County Sheriff George W. Stevens and Denton County Sheriff W.F. Eagan. They closed in on the Bass gang at Salt Creek and shot Arkansas Johnson through the chest as he was saddling his horse. He died instantly and was buried on the spot later that evening. The rest of the gang escaped. The grave of Arkansas Johnson is located west of Cottondale off CR 3661 on private property. ■

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onderings

Rosalie Gregg

Rosalie Gregg was born near Hayden, New Mexico. Ms. Gregg graduated from Paradise High School and from Decatur Baptist College. She married Robert Nolen Gregg, Jr., who had been a Prisoner of War for 3-1/2 year during which time he helped build the railroad that led to the Bridge over the River Kwai in Thailand. Ms. Gregg has been involved with the Wise County Heritage Museum since its inception in 1967.www.wisehistory.com

Mr. Howell, a man of vision?

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DID YOU KNOW?In late-1600’s Puritan society, a child over 16 convicted of cursing at a parent was sentenced to death. Being a stubborn or rebellious child also earned you a death sentence.

A book signing of The Adventures of Giji Giraffe … The Beginning … Who Am I? was hosted by Donna Teal of

Memory Lane. Decatur resident and newly published author, Jill Greenwell (aka Mo Cookie) was “overjoyed” with the outpouring of interest. The majority of revenues will be donated to “Bearing Precious Seed,” a ministry which supplies Bibles to Missionaries in the USA and around the world. The Adventures of Giji Giraffe benefits young readers by helping them learn life’s valuable lessons through God’s amazing love and His creation. The author was inspired by her grandchildren and hopes that her book will enrich society by helping children grow into responsible adults. Books are available at Memory Lane which is located at the Square in Decatur. ■

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Macey Robinson is a Senior at Bridgeport High School. She has been a cheerleader since the 3rd grade. When she was a freshman Bridgeport changed the rules for cheerleading

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cheerleader. This is what living up to your true potential is all about! ■

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Usually when I’m talking about efficiency, I’m talking about energy efficiency. Gas and electric bills tend to be so high that it’s easy

to forget about your other main utility cost; water. But, even if you don’t pay as much each month, you may still be spending more than you have too. Experts say that about 14% of residential water vanishes due to leaking pipes or fixtures. Even the little leaks add up. If your faucet is leaking just ten drops per minute, you’ll lose 525 gallons in a year. The Maryland Department of the Environment has published a manual for conducting a water audit on your home (there’s a link on my website). It includes an easy way to check your house for leaks. Turn off all water fixtures inside and outside your home, and check the reading on your water meter. Wait one hour, ensuring that no one uses any water, and then check the meter again. If the meter reading has changed, you have a leak somewhere in your home. Besides leaks, up to 30% of the water you buy or pull from your well is going down the toilet. Switching to a new, efficient toilet could save up to 4 gallons per flush which makes a pretty big difference over time. 1. Fix leaks as soon as you discover them, no matter

how small they seem. 2. Listen to your kids when they come home singing

songs about turning off the faucet while you brush your teeth. It turns out that giant dinosaur actually knows a little bit about conserving water.

3. When you aren’t using your swimming pool, keep it covered. This can stop up to 90% of water loss caused by evaporation.

Sources: Maryland Department of the Environment and www.futurefriendly.com. ■

Daylight Saving Time ends at 2am on Sunday November 7, 2010. Be sure to move your clocks back one hour and “gain” an extra hour.

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David Walker was elected Sheriff in 2004 and took office January 1, 2005. Walker obtained his Bachelor’s Degree in Criminal Justice in 1995. He currently holds an Advance Peace Officer Certification. In October of 1999, Sheriff Walker graduated from the Quantico F.B.I. National Academy. He has obtained his TCLEOSE Instructor’s Certification, Chemical Weapons Certification, and numerous hours of continuing education in various areas of law enforcement. He has received numerous commendations from both Federal and Area Law Enforcement Agencies.

Wise Eyes

Sheriff David Walker

Most of the citizens think that residential burglaries are done in the night hours. In the past several months, we have investigated numerous daytime

burglaries throughout Wise County. When we take our kids to school, and head off to work; burglars seem to realize that nobody is at home.

Most of our daytime burglaries have the same motive of operation in that the front or back door is kicked in. A variety of items are reported

stolen mainly being audio/video equipment, and video games such as X-Box. These items being easy to trade or sale, and predominately hard to recover with no record of serial number written down by the owner. How do we as citizens combat this problem? The easiest thing is to be vigilant of your surroundings and communicating

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with your neighbors. I would bet that most of us are not familiar with our neighbor’s schedules and or even know their names. Take time to meet your neighbors and let them know when you will be out of town or at work. Get involved by watching out for each other and calling in ANY suspicious activity. We get a lot of calls from citizens that say “we hate to waste your time but…” You will NEVER waste our time, responding to calls is our job and being proactive is much more effective than being reactive. With every citizen in Wise County watching out for one another, it allows us to gain vital witness information. Your information as a witness allows us to respond better, track the information you provided to other areas of the county, and it keeps the criminals wondering who to watch for. As we update our approach to daytime burglaries, please assist us in watching your neighbor’s residence and belongings. If you see something that just does not look right, call us. We would much rather find nothing wrong than respond later in the day to a burglary report. Many citizens call us with suspicious activity and we thank you very much. We have solved cases with the citizens witness information here in Wise County as well as surrounding Counties. ■

Destiny Oliver of Rhome with her horse Teddy dreams of fulfilling her

potential in life.

Paige Conner knows that she has potential.

Tony Lambert who plays for the Boyd Yellow Jackets baseball team pitching at the Rangers Ballpark in Arlington at the

“Mike Maddux Pitching Clinic.”

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With Love, Naturally

Wendy Fowler is a local doula (professional childbirth assistant) with a passion for helping young families thrive. She is a Texas Woman’s University graduate with a degree in Family Studies, but she gets most of her experience in the trenches raising five daughters out in the country with her husband Shane. For more information on the services she offers, visit her website at www.wisecountydoula.com.

There has been a bit of parental commotion lately regarding how loudly we allow our children to live. Is it okay for them sail alone around the world? Or just

across the Pacific? Maybe splashing around in the creek is even too risky. I mean, you never know, right? In the book Last Child in the Woods, author Richard Louv says that we need to be willing to let our children play and accept some measure of risk. We need to stop saying, “Be careful!” and instead say, “Pay attention!” Sometimes I cringe when I see my toddler’s legs cycling like Fred Flintstone’s, but I want her to feel the joy of running hard through the wind. So now I say, “Pay attention!” But let’s back up. I submit that fearless parenting begins much earlier. Maybe even in pregnancy. Look at one of the number one pregnancy books on the market-that “What to Expect” one…it doesn’t actually outline how a woman’s body has been birthing babies beautifully for generations and generations. No, it details every negative scenario possible. Pregnancy has gone from being normal to being scary. But why should a normal, healthy woman be afraid? This robs her of her joy during one of the most precious times of her life.

How can a pregnant mom separate herself from fear? 1. Read good books-research books that look at birth as

natural, not fearful.2. Turn off the TV. Drama boosts ratings. Do not let

frightening drama enter your mind. Yes, I am talking about all those birth shows.

3. Refuse to listen to the scary birth stories some women feel the need to tell. They are much like fishermen’s “fish stories”—they grow scarier with every telling.

4. Trust your body. It was made to do this! By reflecting on the birth you want to have, you can move away from fictitious fear. You can run barefoot through the grass at full speed, so to speak. You can enjoy the miracle of growing a new person inside without all the worry. Sure, pay attention, but do not fear. ■

Wendy Fowler & Traci Wann

Fearless Parenting

Traci Wann is a lactation educator and mom of three breastfed babies. She has a Masters of Christian Education degree and has taught English in Wise Countyy. She spends her time rocking her babies; serving her church family and helping moms nurture their babies by breastfeeding. She can be reached through breastfeed101@yahoo.com.

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Decatur 1st grade cheerleaders.

Miss Logan Cullop was chosen the Rodeo SweetHeart at Posse Rodeo. Congratulations!

DID YOU KNOW?Dr. Seuss wrote Green Eggs and Ham after his editor challenged him to produce a book using fewer than 50 different words.

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Sela Ochoa (seated) had over 12 inches of her hair cut so that she could donate her hair to Locks of Love (a non-profit organization that makes wigs for children with medical issues). Pictured along with Sela is Sam Slate of Sam’s Hairquarters in Decatur and Brisa Ochoa (Sela’s big sister).

12U baseball team, Texas ATTACK. The team has players from Boyd, Rhome and Justin/Haslet area. They are the current USTSA World Series Champs. Pictured from front to back: Lyric Walker, Jose Oberto, Will Coglan, Tito Alegria, Chris Clark, Colton Meadows, Blake Tucker, Stephen Norrell, Shane Fenton, Dylan Powers, Maury Watson, Coach Zak Walker, Head Coach Mac Tucker, Coach Matt Fenton

DID YOU KNOW?Sumo wrestlers skip breakfast and then nap after lunch to gain and sustain their weight.

RESOURCES FOR OUR FAMILYFamily Friendly Associations

CLUBSBoys & Girls Club of Wise CountyJanetta Killen 940 399 9747Wise County 4H940 627 3341Wise Merchants AssociationKim Tinkham 940 210 1769www wisemerchants org

EDUCATIONDecatur Academy for Children940 626 4444Pettit Private SchoolAurora 817 489 2318Decatur 940 627 8393Weatherford College at Wise Decatur 940 627 1846

HOTLINESTexas Runaway Hotline1 888 580 HELP (4357)Texas Youth Hotline1 800 210 2278Wise County Domestic Violence TaskforceHot Line - 940 626 4855Abuse Hotline1 800 252 5400Nat’l Center for Missing & Exploited Children 1 800 843 5678National Response & Terrorist Hotline 1 800 424 8802

PERFORMING ARTSDecatur Music940 626 2120Off 380 Players CommunityTheatre 940 575 2538

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SCOUTINGWise County Scoutingwww mustang-district orgRyan Newcomb 817-905-7372BSAMustang36@aol comGirl Scouts Barbara Reynolds 940 727 1813Girl Scouts Darlena Hoyl 940 627 1116

SPORTSAlvord Sports AssociationCharlotte Fitzgerald 940 389 5441Boyd Youth AssociationJeff Clark 940 799 5441Bridgeport Youth BaseballBill Cline 940 683 4299Chico BaseballBrad North 940 644 5624Paradise Baseball Michael Heathington 940 433 8603Slidell BaseballWise County Little LeagueChris Shields 940 627 4930Aurora Baseball AssociationMark Davis 817 296 6216

Wise Co. Co.ed Softball LeagueClifton North 940 393 2752Decatur Girls Softball AssociationTerri Ivie 817 360 2433Wise County Youth VolleyballNancy Eoff 940 627 3430wisecountyyouthvolleyball comDecatur Little Dribblers -Paige Ochoa 817 996 7420www.WiseSoccer.comDecatur Paula Little 940 399 6541ParadiseWayne Tipton 817 789 3518BridgeportCesar Pinon 940 577 2363Carrie Tremaine 940 393 5089

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EMERGENCY NUMBERS:Wise County Sheriff 940 627 5971Severe Weather Updates www weather comEmergency Preparedness Info www redcross orgwww MissingKids com 1-800-843-5678National Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-422-4453National Poison Control Center 1-800-222-1222National Substance Abuse Hotline 1-800-662-4357National Runaway Hotline 1-800-786-2929

WILD ABOUT DECATUROctober 95:00 pm - 11:00 pmThe Decatur Chamber of Commerce hosts their 19th Annual Auction Tickets are $40 00 per person and includes dinner, entertainment and open bar Contact the Chamber office to purchase tickets and to donate items for the auction Decatur Civic Center2010 W US Highway 380, DecaturContact: 940-627-3107

BREAKFAST BEFORE BUSINESSOctober 128:00 am - 9:30 amJoin the Wise Merchants Association for breakfast and networking opportunities at their “Breakfast Before Business” meeting There is no cost to attend and breakfast is provided!Hampton Inn & Suites110 S US Hwy 287, DecaturContact: www wisemerchants org

PARADISE CHAMBER OF COMMERCE GARAGE SALEOctober 169:00 am - 3:00 pmClear out the closets and garages and bring your unwanted items to the Paradise Chamber of Commerce’s garage sale and fundraiser All are welcome to bring items and pick up is also available First Baptist Church of ParadiseMain Street (church parking lot), ParadiseContact: 940-389-1363

FALL FESTIvALOctober 1610:00 am - 7:00 pmThe Rhome Fall Festival includes a bounce house, cotton candy, vendor booths, pumpkin patch, game and more! Reserve a booth for only $25 00 All proceeds to benefit the Family Park Project Rhome Family Park400 Virginia Lane, RhomeContact: rwilldesign@gmail com

MAIN STREET FESTIvAL October 239:00 am - 3:00 pmThe Paradise Historical Society sponsors this event to raise funds for the Veterans Memorial Park in Paradise’s downtown park Event includes vendors, food booths, auction, a quilt show, and live music Main Street in ParadiseContact: 940-748-2422

SPOOKTACULAR 2010October 305:30 pm - 8:30 pmFall Festival featuring games, candy, inflatables, face painting, speed pitch and more all free! Hosted by the City of Bridgeport Parks & Recreation Bridgeport Community Center1102 Lawdin Avenue, BridgeportContact: 940-683-3480

HALLOWEEN COSTUME PARTY & DANCEOctober 306:00 pm - 10:00 pmDon’t miss the Halloween party with a costume contest, dancing, haunted hay ride, and games Fun for the whole family! Cost is $5 00 per person Rhome Fire DepartmentContact: 817-696-6742