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Do you wanna know why social issues still prevail in India and other countries, go through the article that has been written after in-depth analysis by our team of experts.
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You want to know why all this happens!
If you are a man reading this, you would probably never get to know how
many times the women in your life (your own mother, sister, wife, girl-
friend or even just a friend) have been disgraced at various instances..
and If you are a woman, you must have often chosen silence over words,
when you would have experienced an insult to your modesty. I, like many
other hundreds and thousands of people, have also been outraged by what
has happened to that girl who was gang-raped. I refuse to accept it as
just another story. And why only her? When I first read the news of a
rape in Hindustan Times in the newspaper’s specially devoted column,
‘This city is not safe for women’, I was still a teenager, and I kept on
asking myself why would something of this sort would happen at the first
place.
Today, after ten years, fortunately or rather unfortunately, I have found
some answers… I started commuting in Delhi buses when I joined a college
in Vasant Kunj. My brother, always, worried, accompanied me to college
several times but of course that could not have continued forever, and
not always could I find companions to commute with me… Men often sat next
to girls and women, including me, and were often reminded to behave
themselves. This is not a memory that I can recall, but it still happens
around me each time I commute. Initially, I often ignored the
misbehaviour, but gradually realized that it was better to ‘make noise,
embarrass them and give them a piece of mind’, so that the miscreants
would think at least once when they do it the next time. Often, these
people think that the girl would stay quiet and that is where they are
encouraged. My first lesson was learnt. Never let these eve-teasers go
away with their momentary pleasures!
But speaking up is always not the easiest option, especially, when the
victim is young. So many friends of mine, who I know for years, have
recently confided to me now how they have also come across such
situations, not only in Delhi buses, but with their relatives,
neighbours, teachers, street lechers, when they were young, when their
sisters were young. Since we never talk about such things openly in our
families and often the mothers of the girls ‘train’ them to be tolerant
to all this, we tend to oversee how these things will later become a
bigger problem not only for us but for society at large…
A mother never gives birth to a rapist, just like a terrorist is not
born. Probably, this is how it goes--A man is probably never discouraged
to be violent at home, he then becomes an eve-teaser on roads, then
molests a child or a girl or woman at the first chance he gets; and when
he has perfected all of the aforementioned skills, he finally tries his
hands at raping, which is in a politician’s language- A DASTARDLY ACT OF
VIOLENCE. When things go out of hand and translate into such inhuman
acts, we try to figure out various reasons, including the failure of law
and order, psychological disorders in the rapists, and what not! However,
are you absolutely sure that in your own capacity, you have in no way
contributed to this menace that the society is facing? Don’t we let our
imagination work over-time when we come across a news or somebody’s
experiences like this? Talking of this very instance of gang-rape, I have
received so many forwarded messages mentioning that rods were inserted
into the gang-rape victim’s vagina, her uterus was thrown out of the bus
and what not! If I myself, ever choose to confide my own experiences to
friends and family, they first convince me to dismiss it as just another
everyday instance, and would then probably like me to oblige them with
details, of what exactly the lechers did, where did they ‘touch’, so that
they can judge whether my reaction is justified or not! I just cannot
imagine what a rape victim would have to go through! More often, than
not, girls are also lectured on how prevention is better than cure, and
how they can prevent these instances at their own end in various ways.
But putting together all the case studies from the past, a ‘sensible’ and
a ‘rational’ person has to agree that such a ‘dastardly act of violence’
is quite difficult to be prevented by somebody who will be at the
receiving end.
And then we have to head to India Gate or Jantar March, but sadly these
protests, though showing a kind of awakening among people, cannot be
solely trusted upon to change the ground realities.
Dear society, my only appeal to you is that, for once, let us NOT
consider rape as an act of having sex, wanted or unwanted, it is an act
of violence and so is molestation. Also, let us not consider a rape to be
an act of violence to only the victim. If a murder happens in your
neighbourhood, it does send shivers down your spine because you fear for
your own safety, but a rape probably does not evoke similar reaction,
because we consider it to be an individual’s plight.
Getting angry is a good thing! Feeling helpless is also good if you have
finally become aware that there are challenges around to be addressed.
But if this noise again dies down without bringing any meaningful
results, it would be another let-down to our country. The most important
takeaway that we should remember from this episode, if at all, we think
it has woken up from our procrastination, should be to reduce our
tolerance to any sort of unreasonable behaviour directed to us, or any
woman we know or do not know. Empathy, more than excitement, would help!