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What Matters Most:
Crafting A Well Lived Life
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Wednesday, February 13, 2019
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SC Supreme Court Commission on CLE Course No. 190835
What Matters Most: Crafting A Well Lived Life
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
This program qualifies for 3.5 MCLE Credit Hours, including up to 3.5 LEPR Credit Hours and 3.5
SA/MH Credit Hours SC Supreme Commission on CLE Course #:190835
8:30 a.m. Registration and Continental Breakfast 8:55 a.m. Welcome and Opening Remarks Mike Ethridge Ethridge Law Group, LLC
Charleston 9:00 a.m. Living an Epic Life
The Honorable Kaye G. Hearn South Carolina Supreme Court Conway
9:20 a.m. Harnessing Your Inner Critic
Jeena Cho The Anxious Lawyer San Francisco, CA
10:30 a.m. Break 10:45 a.m. The Attorney’s Guide to Lifestyle Design
Jack Pringle Adams and Reese, LLP Columbia
11:30 a.m. More Heart Than Scars
Zack Paben Black Mountain Academy Asheville, NC
12:15 p.m. Panel Discussion and Closing Considerations 12:45 p.m. Adjourn
What Matters Most: Crafting A Well Lived Life
SPEAKER BIOGRAPHIES
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Mike Ethridge
Ethridge Law Group, LLC Charleston, SC
(course planner)
Mike is the founding chair of the South Carolina Bar’s Attorney Wellness Committee and is a frequent speaker at bar events and attorney gatherings across the country. Mike was a recipient of the 2015 Leadership in Law Award by South Carolina Lawyers Weekly, the South Carolina Bar’s 2016 Outstanding Achievement Award, and the 2016 American Bar Association’s Smythe Gambrell Professionalism Award (received on behalf of the South Carolina Wellness Committee). Mike also serves as an advisory board member for the ABA’s Commission on Lawyers Assistance Programs and is currently a member of the Commission for South Carolina’s Lawyers Helping Lawyers. In 2018 Mike was given special recognition by the South Carolina Supreme Court for his work in the area of attorney well-being. Mike hosts periodic CLE attorney wellness luncheons for lawyers and judges in Charleston, South Carolina, and he is the host of the attorney wellness blog, Lawyers In Search of Soul (www.lawyersinsearchofsoul.com). Mike is the founding partner of the Ethridge Law Group and still maintains a full-time litigation practice. Over a career that spans almost three decades, Mike has handled disputes for a diverse range of clients—from Fortune 500 corporations and large insurance companies to local construction contractors, design professionals and small businesses. Mike’s trial practice includes the representation of clients in commercial litigation, insurance coverage actions, and civil tort litigation in both State and Federal Courts in Georgia and South Carolina. Mike holds an AV Preeminent rating by Martindale-Hubbell. Since 2014, he has been named as one of the Best Lawyers in America® for Insurance Law, Litigation and Construction. Mike is a Senior Fellow of the Litigation Counsel of America and has served as a faculty member for the National Institute for Trial Advocacy. Mike is an active member of both the Defense Research Institute (DRI) and the Claims Litigation Management Alliance (CLM). Mike is a CLM Litigation Management Professional and currently serves on CLM’s National Advisory Board for Construction Claims. Mike is a graduate of the University of Georgia Law School (1988), the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary (1985), and Mississippi College (1982).
The Honorable Kaye G. Hearn South Carolina Supreme Court
Conway
Kaye Hearn, a Justice of the South Carolina Supreme Court, received her B.A., cum laude, from Bethany College in 1972 and her J.D., cum laude, from the University of South Carolina School of Law in 1977. She received an L.L.M. from the University of Virginia’s Graduate Program for Judges in May 1998. She has also received three honorary degrees and numerous awards. Justice Hearn practiced law with the firm of Stevens, Stevens, Thomas, Hearn & Hearn in Loris and Myrtle Beach prior to being elected a Family Court Judge in 1986. In 1995, she was elected to the South Carolina Court of Appeals, serving as its Chief Judge for ten years. Justice Hearn was elected to the South Carolina Supreme Court in May of 2009, becoming only the second woman member in the court’s history. Justice Hearn is married to Conway attorney and former member of the South Carolina House of Representatives, George Hearn, and they have one daughter, Kathleen, who is also an attorney. Justice Hearn enjoys cycling, cooking, and singing in her church choir.
Jeena Cho The Anxious Lawyer
San Francisco, CA
Jeena Cho is a partner at JC Law Group PC, a bankruptcy law firm in San Francisco, CA. She practices with her husband, Jeff Curl, working with individuals and small businesses to find the best solutions for their financial troubles. In addition to her law practice, she teaches mindfulness and meditation to lawyers. She regularly speaks and writes about wellness, self-care, and mindfulness. She also works with lawyers and law firms on stress management, work-life balance, career transition, increasing productivity and overall wellness. Jeena started her meditation practice at the Himalayan Institute in Buffalo, NY. She has completed several classes in Mindfulness and Compassion Cultivation Training at a number of institutions including Stanford University and has attended numerous retreats on mindfulness at organizations including the Spirit Rock, Insight Retreat Center and the San Francisco Zen Center. She has completed the teacher training practicum for Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR). Jeena has spoken and offered training at Seyfarth Shaw, LLP, Sheppard Mullin, MoFo, ABA, SCBA, NACBA, AABA, SMCBA, CCCBA, Golden Gate University, School of Law, NAPO and BALRA (and many other acronyms). Jeena is the co-author of The Anxious Lawyer (ABA). She is a regular contributor at Above the Law. She has also written for Forbes, Bloomberg, Lawyerist, Ms. JD, and Huffington Post. She’s been interviewed on MSNBC and Wall Street Journal. Jeena is the author of the LexisNexis guide How to Manage Your Law Office where she wrote about starting, growing and managing a solo practice including topics ranging from marketing to virtual law practice to social media. She holds a J.D. and B.A. from University at Buffalo.
Jack Pringle Adams and Reese, LLP
Columbia, SC
Jack Pringle is a partner with Adams and Reese in Columbia, South Carolina, and focuses his practice on privacy, information security, and information governance; administrative and regulatory law; public utilities; land use litigation; and class action litigation. Jack helps businesses protect, manage, and communicate information lawfully and effectively, and has received the Information Privacy Professional (CIPP-US) designation from the International Association of Privacy Professionals (“IAPP”). You can learn more about Jack at http://www.adamsandreese.com/jack-pringle/ Find him on Twitter at https://twitter.com/jjpringlesc And read some of the things he writes at https://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com/ or https://medium.com/@jjpringlesc Some of his presentations can be found at https://www.slideshare.net/jjpringle317
Zach Paben Black Mountain Academy
Asheville, NC
Since 1991, Zackary Paben has been empowering adolescents and adults as a mental health/recovery professional in a variety of modalities, including wilderness and residential. As he continues to face his own visible and invisible scars, he innately has to acknowledge the wounds of others and encourage them in their own healing process. Zackary is the co-founder and CEO of the 501(c)3 charity More Heart Than Scars Foundation, who empower people to say in the affirmative,"I have more heart than scars," or to be able to receive the affirmation, "You have more heart than scars." They have seen the transformative power of those words. More Hearts than Scars Foundation’s mission is to quest for faith, love, hope, and heart in order to transcend visible and invisible scars, by overcoming obstacles together, and encouraging others to live so boldly.
Living an Epic Life
The Honorable Kaye G. Hearn
What Matters Most:
Crafting A Well Lived Life
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
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Harnessing Your Inner Critic
Jeena Cho
What Matters Most:
Crafting A Well Lived Life
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
Better Lawyering Through
Mindfulness1
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Self-CareProvided “for you, by you.”
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The Attorney’s Guide to Lifestyle Design
Jack Pringle
What Matters Most:
Crafting A Well Lived Life
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
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Resources for Lawyers to Help Create Space and Build Resilience
Jack Pringle [email protected]
@jjpringlesc
ContentsFive Things Lawyers Can Do in Five Minutes or Less to Create Space ........................................ 1
Five Computer Tools Lawyers Can Use to Create Space ............................................................... 2
Resolve to Use Your Device as a Tool- And to Resist Being Tooled by It .................................... 4
Podcasts for Lawyers ...................................................................................................................... 7
Perfect: Enemy of the Good (and the Better).................................................................................. 8
Some Good Books for Getting Better ........................................................................................... 10
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Five Things Lawyers Can Do in Five Minutes or Less to Create Space
I know how busy you are. So here are a few simple ways to bring a little space into your day.
1. Breathe out. A longer out-breath activates the parasympathetic nervous system1 (rest,
relax and digest) and removes cortisol from your system.2
2. Sit still and quiet, even if it is just long enough to listen to your favorite song. (That
advice about the favorite song comes from Tim Ferriss3, and underscores the point that
the idea is to start where you are and not disappoint yourself by not being “The
Serenest”4).
3. Start your workday by thanking someone (email, handwritten note, don’t be too picky).
Among others, Jeff Manning5 has made this wise recommendation. These random acts of
kindness6 have an effect.
4. At the end of the day, write down three things that went well and why. (This is
from Martin Seligman, who knows a bit about thriving). Call it a Gratitude Journal if you
like.
5. Move for at least 15 minutes each day. Walk up a flight of stairs. Walk around the block.
Every little bit counts. The science7 backs this up.
Got some more suggestions? Tweet at me.
Also available at https://medium.com/@jjpringlesc/five-things-lawyers-can-do-in-five-minutes-or-less-to-create-space-9c6940aad69e
1 https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4386/A-Simple-Breathing-Exercise-to-Calm-Your-Mind-Body.html2 https://www.npr.org/2010/12/06/131734718/just-breathe-body-has-a-built-in-stress-reliever3 https://tim.blog/4 https://www.theonion.com/monk-gloats-over-yoga-championship-18195638555 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmanning/6 http://www.shawnachor.com/in-action/the-happiness-archive/7 https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/how-simply-moving-benefits-your-mental-health-201603289350
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Five Computer Tools Lawyers Can Use to Create Space
Aware of the fact that there is a potential contradiction in postulating that technology can help clear your mind as opposed to filling it with the unimportant, I offer these (and there are many others, I just chose these, I am a user of these things but get no consideration from any of them, etc. etc.) as a way to manage attention and energy of all types.
1. Evernote (www.evernote.com) - Your Brain is a Terrible Storage Device.
If your mobile device is never going to leave you, why not use some of that capacity to store things you want to remember later? Folders, tags, synchs across all your devices, etc. Stop complaining about that book or band someone mentioned to you a week ago that you promptly forgot.
2. Headspace www.headspace.com - Meditation on Demand and at Your Very Fingertips
Not ready for an ashram or a studio, much less chanting (not that there is anything wrong with chanting)? Headspace lets you choose from a variety of guided or unguided meditations, so you can do them in the privacy of your office or home and at your own pace (i.e. five minutes is just fine).
3. Freedom https://freedom.to/ - Eliminate the Temptation to be Distracted.
Freedom blocks certain sites (or the whole Internet) for a time period of your choosing.
4. 750 Words http://750words.com - Get Your Ya-Ya-s Out (Of Your Head)
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Keeping a journal is a very powerful way to create the space to clear your head, create, recover, and express gratitude.8 (By the way, read everything Benjamin Hardy9 writes). This site provides a simple way to create those “morning pages”10.
5. Moment https://inthemoment.io/ - Measure It to Manage It
Moment tracks the time you spend using your device. But prepare to be shocked …
Conclusion
As Melvin Kranzberg observed, “technology is neither good nor bad; nor is it neutral.” It’s up to you to discern what technology tools serve you best in your various endeavors.
Also available at https://medium.com/@jjpringlesc/5-computer-tools-lawyers-can-use-to-create-space-b16a2f846fea
8 https://medium.com/the-mission/why-keeping-a-daily-journal-could-change-your-life-9a4c11f1a4759 https://medium.com/@benjaminhardy10 http://juliacameronlive.com/basic-tools/morning-pages/
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Resolve to Use Your Device as a Tool- And to Resist Being Tooled by It
Introduction
It’s that time of year: reflection and some soul-searching about what to do differently when we turn over a new leaf on January 1st. Let me offer a modest proposal.
The New Body Part
Everyone reading this post has a smartphone. And chances are you are not going back to a flip phone, a bag phone, or a rotary dial phone hanging on the wall in your kitchen.
These cases require us to decide how the search incident to arrest doctrine applies to modern cell phones, which are now such a pervasive and insistent part of daily life that the proverbial visitor from Mars might conclude they were an important feature of human anatomy. — Chief Justice Roberts, Riley v. California.11
And I know you have some legitimate uses for your device: very convenient to get things done at any time and wherever you are. Ridiculous amounts of computing power and broadband internet speeds and video and pictures and those GIF memes, emojis, etc., etc. I get it.
But I am pretty sure that none of us planned to be on our devices constantly, at least not in the way we actually use them. Be honest: when you are on your smartphone, how often are you doing productive things? And how often are you doing “unproductive” things intentionally?
I am not being a scold here. No one enjoys playing as much as I do12. The question is whether you decided to play, or whether your device just happened to be there and you started swiping and typing.
Are You Using the Device, or Is it Using You?
Bright, shiny devices that are so easily accessible and so full of bells and whistles tend to hijack self-control. And left to our own devices (thanks, I will be here all week), we are likely to create our own little Skinner Boxes13- with games, social media sites, and constant checking of all our information streams- all the while not knowing that we’re doing it.
Your attention is being sought and used relentlessly by those doing business in the online world14.
“If you’re not paying for something, you’re not the customer; you’re the product being sold”. — Andrew Lewis.
Technology as a Servant, Not as a Master
11 https://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/13pdf/13-132_8l9c.pdf12 https://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com/2015/05/in-celebration-of-play.html13 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operant_conditioning_chamber14 https://www.amazon.com/Hooked-How-Build-Habit-Forming-Products-ebook/dp/B00HJ4A43S
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And when computer tools are using us, we don’t get a chance to determine the ways in which we can use these technologies as part of our “extended mind”- allowing computers to perform tasks that free up our minds to do higher-level thinking15. That higher-level thinking is what is going to enable work and workplaces to continue to evolve as automation advances16.
In other words, if you are going to have your device as another appendage, then put it to work for you.
Train Your Mind-Try Meditation.
Headspace17 is just so easy to use. And you can use it anywhere. At any time. Carving out those quiet moments may create the space for you to see the way your minds works, and how these technologies have commandeered your attention and created the idea that you are so “busy” all the time.
And I certainly am a proponent of getting quiet- whether through meditation, getting outside, exercising, or undertaking other pursuits- and away from devices altogether. But I don’t think it is an all-or-nothing proposition. The key is to have the space and frame of mind to discern what tools to use and when. And to realize who or what is being used.
Give Your Mind a Rest.
See above. In addition, stop keeping all these ideas in your head. Use Evernote or a similar program to memorialize and organize things for later use. If the device is going to be with you at all times, at least take advantage of that fact. As the late great Mitch Hedberg remarked:
I sit at my hotel at night, I think of something that’s funny, then I go get a pen and I write it down. Or if the pen’s too far away, I have to convince myself that what I thought of ain’t funny.
Free Up Your Attention
Quit complaining that you don’t have time unless you have gotten smarter about the way you use your time. Try Boxed18. Or Amazon Prime19. The idea is to use your time and attention to do meaningful things. An afternoon of shopping and hauling things around is not meaningful in my world when there are available alternatives.
Feed Your Mind
15 https://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com/2013/10/smarter-than-you-think-and-its-lessons.html16 https://counselorchronicles.com/learning-the-lessons-of-john-henry-7de7f4c2b130#.xzt7gn6j117 https://www.headspace.com/18 https://www.boxed.com/19 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00DBYBNEE/?tag=googhydr-20&hvadid=106229647582&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18440694473939515249&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=e&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_34qfrygf2i_e&hvtargid=kwd-3151046130
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There has never been a better time to learn new things. And these devices make myriad information sources available to you at any time. Below are just two examples.
Listen to Books. It has never been so easy to have great content literally at your fingertips. Consider a subscription to Audible 20, and listen while you drive, work out, walk, or otherwise have downtime. If you are looking for recommendations, click here21.
Listen to Podcasts. See above. Long-form discussion. Topics directly related to your profession, interests, or entertainment choices. Always available. Pushed directly to your device. You don’t have to do anything but click and listen. Podcasts for lawyers? Click here22.
Conclusion
The age of machines (artificial intelligence, machine learning, autonomous vehicles, the blockchain) is only just getting started. The changes in the way we live and work are going to be significant (and arguably have already been significant). In order for humans to figure out where we fit in, we have to have lots of attention and figure out where to spend (pay) it. That means understanding these tools- their benefits and risks- and making sure we use them wisely and effectively.
20 http://www.audible.com/21 https://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com/2016/08/some-good-reads-listens-for-2016.html22 https://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com/2015/02/podcasts-for-lawyers.html
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Podcasts for Lawyers
Here are the legal podcasts on my device right now (with summaries largely based on their own descriptions), in alphabetical order so I don't have to rank them:
1. ABA Journal: Asked and Answered23. This features top of the industry guests discussing various legal topics.
2. Amicus With Dalia Lithwick24. Lithwick25 writes about courts and the law for Slate, and Amicus is all about the United States Supreme Court. Great resource for following the goings-on at SCOTUS.
3. Building NewLaw26. This is a great listen for those exploring new and innovative ways to practice.
4. Kennedy-Mighell Report27. Dennis Kennedy28 and Tom Mighell29 educate lawyers on how technology can be used to improve services, interactions with clients, and overall workflow.
5. LawNext30. Hosted by Bob Ambrogi. Each week, Bob interviews the innovators and entrepreneurs who are driving what’s next in the legal industry. From legal technology startups to new law firm business models to enhancing access to justice, Bob and his guests explore the future of law and legal practice.
6. The Lean Law Firm31. Larry Port and Dave Maxfield offer insights on how to practice law effectively and efficiently.
7. Legal Toolkit32. A comprehensive resource for professionals in law practice management. Each month, host Jared Correia invites forward-thinking lawyers to discuss the services, ideas, and programs that have improved their practices.
8. Oral Argument33. A podcast about law, law school, and legal theory. Joe Miller34 and Christian Turner35, law professors at the University of Georgia, do some really in-depth analysis of cases and legal issues. A must-listen for those (including myself) interested in the laws of airline seat reclining and speed traps.
9. The Resilient Lawyer36. Practical and actionable information you can use to be a better lawyer.
10. This Week in Law37. Denise Howell discusses breaking issues in technology law, including patents, copyrights, privacy, drones, driverless cars, the Internet of Things, and many other topics.
23 https://legaltalknetwork.com/podcasts/aba-journal-asked-and-answered/24 https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/slates-amicus-dahlia-lithwick/id928790786?mt=225 https://twitter.com/dahlialithwick26 https://www.countertax.ca/bnlpodcast27 http://legaltalknetwork.com/podcasts/kennedy-mighell-report/28 https://twitter.com/denniskennedy29 https://twitter.com/TomMighell30 https://www.lawsitesblog.com/category/lawnext/31 http://www.leanlawfirmbook.com/category/podcast/32 http://legaltalknetwork.com/podcasts/legal-toolkit/33 http://www.hydratext.com/oral-argument/34 https://twitter.com/getmejoemiller35 https://twitter.com/christor36 https://resilientlawyer.libsyn.com/37 http://twit.tv/show/this-week-in-law
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Perfect: Enemy of the Good (and the Better)
Voltaire said that "Le mieux est l'ennemi du bien," or "the best is the enemy of the good." Jeff
Jarvis' contribution38 to End Malaria39 goes further and argues that the best is also the enemy of
the better, because it prevents getting things done, and stymies the "process of improvement and
the possibility of collaboration."
In terms of practical decision-making, and especially when lawyers are concerned, pursuit of the
best often leads to "READY…AIM…AIM…AIM…AIM…AIM… Wait a minute, why am I
holding a gun?"40
According to Jarvis, the beta41, the product in development that is released publicly for
evaluation and improvement, is the antidote to the best. The act of shipping product and inviting
customers to help complete it is transparent, humble, and generous. And "beta-think," and the
processes of innovation, experimentation and risk, can be applied to many areas in addition to
software development.
Once the fear of imperfection and its paralyzing effect is removed, "we can make what we do
ever better because we are never done, never satisfied, always seeking ways to improve by
working in public."
Perfectionism can also get in the way of your own well-being and happiness. For more, read
Brene Brown's The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You Are Supposed to Be
and Embrace Who You Are42. Brown's TED Talk43 and her interview44 with Gretchen
Rubin of The Happiness Project45 sum up many of the themes in the book, and she emphasizes
that the seemingly paradoxical actions of embracing vulnerability and flaws and getting over the
fear of being authentic are keys to becoming stronger.
Put another way in a recent Guardian article46 describing Action for Happiness47, acts of
generosity and expressions of gratitude can be uncomfortable initially, but taking those leaps
strengthens crucial connections and trust.
38 http://www.buzzmachine.com/2011/09/07/beta-think-and-ending-malaria/39 http://www.amazon.com/End-Malaria-Michael-Bungay-Stanier/dp/1936719282/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1316858146&sr=8-140 http://pringlepracticeblog.blogspot.com/2010/08/lawyers-and-change.html41 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Software_release_life_cycle#Beta42 http://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Imperfection-Think-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1316860386&sr=8-143 http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html44 http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-happiness-project/201107/i-dont-have-chase-extraordinary-moments-find-happiness-its-right-i45 http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-happiness-project46 http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/sep/19/pursuit-of-happiness47 http://www.actionforhappiness.org/
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Addressing the other side of the coin, Brown identifies a possible source of the never-ending
supply of blame being thrown around in the world, noting that "rather than doing the difficult
work of embracing our own vulnerabilities we expose, attack, and ridicule."
Leonard Cohen summed it up pretty well, speaking very softly from a window in the Tower of
Song, in his song Anthem48:
Ring the bells that still can ring;
Forget your perfect offering;
There is a crack, a crack in everything;
That's how the light gets in.
48 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_e39UmEnqY8
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Some Good Books for Getting Better
Jim Rohn once said that you should "work harder on yourself than you do on your job." The following is a collection of resources (in no particular order) that I have found helpful for doing some of that work.
1. This is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a Significant Occasion, about Living a Compassionate Life.49 The late David Foster Wallace delivered this commencement speech at Kenyon College in 2005. In sum, exercising the choice of what you think about is essential in navigating the day-to-day where we live our lives. And being attentive and mindful of what is right in front of you is necessary to overcome your inherent self-centered nature-- the real journey of a lifetime.
2. Toughness: Developing True Strength On and Off the Court50, by Jay Bilas51. This is an extraordinary thorough and insightful exploration what it takes to complete the missions you undertake. And toughness is not what you think it is.
3. Wherever I Wind Up: My Quest for Truth, Authenticity, and the Perfect Knuckleball52,by R.A. Dickey. Dickey has faced and overcome tremendous challenges, numerous setbacks, and professional and personal failures on his journey back to the Major Leagues. This is not a book about baseball, but about confronting your demons, figuring out what really matters, and persevering- again and again and again. If you think you know something about bravery and courage, read this.
4. The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More Of It53 by Kelly McGonigal. Doing what matters is difficult, in part because our brains are wired to to want and seek something different. McGonigal offers the most practical explanation I have read of why this is the case, as well as down-to-earth advice on how to train yourself in service of your real goals.
5. Flow- The Psychology of Optimal Experience54, by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. An exploration of how high performers get "into the zone" or "in the groove."
6. Do the Work55, by Steven Pressfield. Identify the "Resistance" holding you back.
49 http://www.amazon.com/This-Water-Delivered-Significant-Compassionate/dp/031606822550 http://www.amazon.com/Toughness-Developing-True-Strength-Court/dp/045141467551 https://twitter.com/JayBilas52 http://www.amazon.com/Wherever-Wind-Up-Authenticity-Knuckleball/dp/045229901253 http://www.amazon.com/Willpower-Instinct-Self-Control-Works-Matters/dp/158333438654 http://www.amazon.com/Flow-The-Psychology-Optimal-Experience/dp/0061339202/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=13451091855 http://www.amazon.com/Do-Work-Steven-Pressfield/dp/1936719010/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345109349&sr=1-1&keywords=do+the+work
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7. How Will You Measure Your Life?56 by Clayton Christensen, James Allworth, and Karen Dillon. This is an absolute must-read for anyone starting or planning a career. It poses some very difficult questions, but aren't those the only ones worth wrestling with?
8. The Artist's Way57, by Julia Cameron. If you think you are not an artist, and are not a "creative" person, you are so wrong.
9. The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right58, by Atul Gawande. I have previously written about Gawande and the importance of checklists here, here, and here. All organizations can improve their processes and manage their knowledge more effectively by utilizing checklists.
10. Thinking, Fast and Slow59, by Daniel Kahneman. You think your thinking process is "rational" and "objective"? Reconsider. Knowledgeable insight into how our biases affect decisionmaking.
11. The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, is the Key to High Performance and Personal Renewal60, by Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz. In order to be effective, you have to manage your energy: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.
12. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity61, by David Allen. Do it, Delegate It, or Defer It. Close open loops. Know the difference between the urgent and the important- especially if the most recent email hitting your inbox always becomes your highest priority.
13. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People62, by Stephen Covey. A very detailed roadmap of how to get control of your professional and personal life.
56 http://www.amazon.com/How-Will-Measure-Your-Life/dp/0062102419/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345110414&sr=1-1&keywords=how+will+you+measure+your+life57 http://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-Julia-Cameron/dp/1585421472/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345109709&sr=1-1&keywords=the+artists+way58 http://www.amazon.com/Checklist-Manifesto-How-Things-Right/dp/0312430000/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345109781&sr=1-1&keywords=checklist+manifesto59 http://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman/dp/0374275637/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345110199&sr=1-1&keywords=thinking+fast+and+slow60 http://www.amazon.com/Power-Full-Engagement-Managing-Performance/dp/0743226755/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345110513&sr=1-5&keywords=james+loehr61 http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1345110836&sr=1-1&keywords=Getting+things+done62 http://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People/dp/0743269519/ref=sr_1_1?s=&ie=UTF8&qid=1345110917&sr=1-1&keywords=seven+habits+of+highly+effective+people
More Heart Than Scars
Zack Paban
What Matters Most:
Crafting A Well Lived Life
Wednesday, February 13, 2019
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