Emma Emma EspelEspel

United StatesUnited States Marriage for LOVEMarriage for LOVE Groom may ask bride’s parents out Groom may ask bride’s parents out

of courtesyof courtesy Wedding plannerWedding planner Bride’s family paysBride’s family pays

CeremoniesCeremonies Bridal ShowerBridal Shower Rehearsal Rehearsal

DinnerDinner CeremonyCeremony ReceptionReception *Honeymoon*Honeymoon

The WeddingThe Wedding

Usually in a religious setting Usually in a religious setting Mainly Christian in the USMainly Christian in the US White wedding dress/veilWhite wedding dress/veil Religious leaderReligious leader

The Wedding (Cont’d)The Wedding (Cont’d) The wedding partyThe wedding party

Ushers, Bride’s maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer, Ushers, Bride’s maid, Best man, Flower girls, Ring bearer, MusicMusic

Wedding vowsWedding vows Exchange of ringsExchange of rings Kiss Kiss Wheat or riceWheat or rice

ReceptionReception

GuestbookGuestbook FoodFood Greet the Greet the

couplecouple Dancing Dancing

GuestsGuests Family and friendsFamily and friends Gifts from registries or moneyGifts from registries or money Dress up Dress up Some only come to the receptionSome only come to the reception

IndonesiaIndonesia Each clan is different!Each clan is different! Marriage symbolizes “full adult Marriage symbolizes “full adult

status” status” Before the WeddingBefore the Wedding

Parents arrange ORParents arrange OR Marriage for loveMarriage for love Supports kinshipSupports kinship Many gift exchanges occurMany gift exchanges occur

Java, IndonesiaJava, Indonesia

•Arrangement of Marriage

•The greater the social status, the greater chance of arranged marriage.•The groom’s family usually stays out of all of the organization.

•Sometimes there is a “make-up woman,” who is like a wedding planner (Pemaes)

CeremoniesCeremonies

Traditional engagementTraditional engagement Bathing ceremonyBathing ceremony Relatives all meet the night before at Relatives all meet the night before at

the bride’s home.the bride’s home. Wedding CeremonyWedding Ceremony ReceptionReception

The WeddingThe Wedding The bride and groom approach each The bride and groom approach each

otherother Throw bundles of betel leavesThrow bundles of betel leaves Groom crushes an egg, and the bride Groom crushes an egg, and the bride

washes his feetwashes his feet Wedding chairWedding chair Couple sits on the lap of the groom’s Couple sits on the lap of the groom’s

father.father. Then the couple sits in the chair.Then the couple sits in the chair.

Wedding (cont’d)Wedding (cont’d) Exchange of wedding ringsExchange of wedding rings The bride gets certain gifts from the The bride gets certain gifts from the

groom.groom. They eat and drink togetherThey eat and drink together The couple kneels and the parents The couple kneels and the parents

bless thembless them

GuestsGuests

Weddings are for everyone!Weddings are for everyone! Fancy invitations. Fancy invitations.

Asks not to bring flowers or giftsAsks not to bring flowers or gifts It is an insult not to attendIt is an insult not to attend Most people come only to the Most people come only to the

reception.reception. Guests dress nicelyGuests dress nicely

ReceptionReception

Guests arrive at the reception after Guests arrive at the reception after the wedding.the wedding.

Dancers precede the coupleDancers precede the couple Family speechesFamily speeches The guests greet the couple and eatThe guests greet the couple and eat Alcohol and dancing are considered Alcohol and dancing are considered

ruderude

Java vs. United StatesJava vs. United States Both have:Both have:

Differences across the boardDifferences across the board Bride’s family does a lot of the planningBride’s family does a lot of the planning A wedding plannerA wedding planner Parents give away the coupleParents give away the couple Wedding RingsWedding Rings

Java vs. United StatesJava vs. United States United StatesUnited States

Full adult status at 18

No chair Gifts from registry

or money Friends and family Dancing, alcohol

at reception Many shorter

speeches

•Java“full adult status”

Arranged marriage

Only money gifts

Everyone invited

Entertainment is dancers

Long speeches